A Pastoral Liturgy for the Blessing of Same-Gender Partnership originally used in St Luke’s Church, Charlton, reproduced on the Changing Attitude website with the permission of the author, Jeffrey Heskins, from his book Unheard Voices, (London: Darton, Longman and Todd Ltd, 2001), pp. 227-231. A Service of Affirmation and Blessing Music or hymn (optional). Introduction Minister: Brothers and sisters, we meet here in the presence of God to celebrate and affirm the commitment of N and N to each other. May they, through the assistance of the Holy Spirit, commit themselves today to each other; promising to live together in love, faithfulness, trust and forgiveness. While they make this solemn covenant we remember that our Saviour Jesus Christ shows us the path of courage and selfless love as we ask God’s blessing on their lives. We join in rejoicing with them and offer them support with our love and prayers. Let us hold them in our hearts as we commit their lives to the love and grace of God. Pause for a moment of silence before the minister continues. Loving and gracious God, who made us in your image and sent your son Jesus Christ to welcome us home; protect us in love and empower us for service. Through the power of the Holy Spirit may N and N become living signs of his love and may we uphold them in the promises that each will make this day, through Jesus Christ our Lord. All: Amen. Minister: Jesus told us to ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength and with all your mind’ and love your neighbour as yourself.’ For the love that we receive and give let us all thank God, saying together…. All: EITHER: Almighty God, source of all being, we thank you for your love, which creates and sustains us. We thank you for your unique and personal gifts to every one of us in our minds, our bodies and our spirits; and for the blessings of companionship and friendship. We pray that we may use your gifts so that we can ever grow into a deeper understanding of love and of your purpose for us, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. OR: Almighty God, source of all being, we thank you for your love, which creates and sustains us. We thank you for the physical and emotional expression of that love; and for the blessings of companionship and friendship. We pray that we may use your gifts so that we can ever grow into a deeper understanding of love and of your purpose for us, through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen. 1 Music or hymn (optional). Reading from Scripture This should be announced as ‘A reading from…’ and ended with ‘This is the word of the Lord’. Questions of Intent Minister: N and N, is it your intention to enter into a solemn covenant with each other in love and trust? Couple: It is. Minister: Do you offer your lives together for god’s blessing? Couple: We do. Minister: Will you be to each other a companion in joy and a comfort in times of trouble’ and will you give each other opportunity for love to deepen? Couple: We will, with God’s help. The Promises Minister (to each partner in turn): Will you, N, give yourself to N, sharing your love and your life, your wholeness and your brokenness, your success and your failure? Partner: I will. Couple: We, N and N, witness before God and this congregation that we have pledged ourselves to each other. We offer you, Lord, our souls and bodies, our thoughts and deeds, our love for each other and our wish to serve you. Take us as we are, and make us all that we should be, through Jesus Christ our Lord. All: Amen Exchange of Rings or Tokens Minister: God in Heaven, by your blessing, let these rings/tokens be to N and N symbols of unending love and faithfulness to remind them of the solemn covenant and promise made today. All: Amen Then each partner in turn presents the ring/token and says: N, I give you this ring/token as a symbol of my promise, and with all that I am and all that I have, I honour you in the name of God. Music or hymn (optional). During this time the couple may sign their wills and/or certificates marking their vows and promises to each other (optional.) Address Prayers as appropriate concluding with the Lord’s Prayer if there is to be no Eucharist These might include the following or something similar. 2 Minister: Loving God, whose son Jesus Christ welcomed strangers and called them his friends, grant to N and N such gifts of grace that they may be bearers of your friendship and their home a place of welcome for all. All: Amen Minister: Jesus, our brother, inspire N and N in their lives together, that they may come to live for one another and serve each other in true humility and kindness. Through their lives may they welcome each other in times of need and in their hearts may they celebrate together in their times of joy, for your name’s sake. All: Amen Minister: Holy Spirit of God, guard and defend N and N in their life together, protect them from evil, strengthen them in adversity until you bring them to the joy of your heavenly kingdom, through Jesus Christ our Lord. All: Amen. The Lord’s Prayer. (Not when a Eucharist follows.) Bidding to the Company Minister: Will you the chosen witnesses of N and N do all in your power to support and strengthen them in the days ahead? All: We will. Minister: God has called us to live with each other in the spirit of love, joy and peace. Let us all share a sign of God’s peace. The peace of the Lord be always with you. All: And also with you. Minister: Let us offer one another a sign of God’s peace. The company greets N and N and each other. Music or hymn (optional). (A Eucharist may follow, the form to be agreed between the presiding priest and the couple.) The Blessing Minister: N and N have now given themselves to each other by solemn promises and the making of a covenant. Let us now pray that they may be sustained by God’s love. Spirit of God, you teach us through the example of Jesus that love is the fulfilment of the Law, help N and N to persevere in love, to grow in mutual understanding, and to deepen their trust in each other; that in wisdom, patience and courage, their life together may be a source of happiness to all with whom they share it; and the blessing of God Almighty, Creator, Redeemer and Sustainer be upon you to guide and protect you and all those you love, today and always. All: Amen. 3 Dismissal Minister: Go in peace to love and serve the Lord. All: In the name of Christ. Amen. As the couple and their friends leave, music may be played. Members of the congregation at St Luke’s, Charlton drew up this pastoral liturgy. Some of the prayers in this service were adapted from Exploring Lifestyles published by the Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement. Other material was drawn from liturgies used at the time at St Luke’s. 4