Kent Keith - Las personas son a menudo insensatas
Las personas son a menudo insensatas, ilógicas
y egocéntricas;
de todos modos, perdónalas.
Si eres bondadoso, la gente puede acusarte de ser egoísta,
y de tener motivos ulteriores;
de todos modos, sé bondadoso.
Si eres exitoso, vas a ganar algunos amigos falsos
y algunos enemigos verdaderos;
de todos modos, ten éxito.
Si eres honesto y franco,
la gente te va a engañar;
de todos modos, sé honesto y franco.
Aquello que te llevó años construir,
alguien lo puede destruir en un instante;
de todos modos, constrúyelo.
Si encuentras serenidad y felicidad,
otros pueden sentir envidia y celos;
de todos modos, sé feliz.
El bien que hoy haces,
a menudo será olvidado mañana;
de todos modos, haz el bien.
Da al mundo lo mejor de lo tienes,
y quizá nunca será suficiente;
de todos modos, da al mundo lo mejor de ti.
Como ves, al final,
es un asunto entre tu y Dios;
de todos modos, nunca lo fue entre tu y ellos.
DE TODOS MODOS
Las personas son irrazonables, inconsecuentes y egoístas,
ÁMALAS DE TODOS MODOS.
Si haces el bien te acusarán de tener oscuros motivos egoístas,
HAZ EL BIEN DE TODOS MODOS.
Si tienes éxito y te ganas amigos falsos y enemigos verdaderos,
LUCHA DE TODOS MODOS.
EL BIEN QUE HAGAS HOY SERÁ OLVIDADO mañana,
HAZ EL BIEN DE TODOS MODOS.
La sinceridad y franqueza te hacen vulnerable,
SÉ SINCERO Y FRANCO DE TODOS MODOS.
Lo que has tardado años en construir puede ser destruido en una sola noche,
CONSTRUYE DE TODOS MODOS.
Alguien que necesita ayuda de verdad puede atacarte si le ayudas,
AYÚDALE DE TODOS MODOS.
Da al mundo lo mejor que tienes y te golpearán a pesar de ello,
DA AL MUNDO LO MEJOR QUE TIENES DE TODOS MODOS
(Cartel en una pared del Shishu Bhavan*. Calcuta)
[*Hogar infantil] Madre Teresa de Calcuta
http://www.paradoxicalpeople.com/paradoxicalpeople/page/2/
The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest
men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001
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February 13, 2006
The Mother Teresa Connection
The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent M. Keith when he was 19, a sophomore at
Harvard College. He wrote them as part of a book for student leaders entitled The Silent Revolution:
Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council, published by Harvard Student Agencies in 1968. The
Paradoxical Commandments subsequently spread all over the world, and have been used by millions
of people.
Mother Teresa, or one of her co-workers, put the Paradoxical Commandments up on the wall of
Mother Teresa's children's home in Calcutta. That fact was reported in a book compiled by Lucinda
Vardey, Mother Teresa: A Simple Path, which was published in 1995. As a result, some people have
attributed the Paradoxical Commandments to Mother Teresa.
As Kent explains in his book, Do It Anyway: The Handbook for Finding Personal Meaning and Deep
Happiness in a Crazy World:
"I found out about it in September 1997 at my Rotary Club meeting. We usually begin each meeting
with a prayer or a thought for the day, and a fellow Rotarian of mine got up and noted that Mother
Teresa had died, and said that, in her memory, he wanted to read a poem she had written that was
titled "Anyway." I bowed my head in contemplation, and was astonished to recognize what he read–it
was eight of the original ten Paradoxical Commandments."
"I went up after the meeting and asked him where he got the poem. He said it was in a book about
Mother Teresa, but he couldn't remember the title. So the next night I went to a bookstore and started
looking through the shelf of books about the life and works of Mother Teresa. I found it, on the last
page before the appendices in Mother Teresa: A Simple Path. The Paradoxical Commandments had
been reformatted to look like a poem, and they had been retitled "Anyway." There was no author
listed, but at the bottom of the page, it said: "From a sign on the wall of Shishu Bhavan, the children's
home in Calcutta."
"Mother Teresa, or one of her coworkers, thought that the Paradoxical Commandments were
important enough to put up on the wall at their children's home, to look at, day after day, as they
ministered to the children. That really hit me. I wanted to laugh, and cry, and shout–and I was getting
chills up and down my spine. Perhaps it hit me hard because I had a lot of respect for Mother Teresa,
and perhaps because I knew something about children's homes. Whatever the reason, it had a huge
impact on me. That was when I decided to speak and write about the Paradoxical Commandments
again, thirty years after I first wrote them."
February 14, 2006
Meet the Author of the Paradoxical Commandments
Dr. Kent M. Keith is a dynamic speaker and writer whose mission is to help people find personal
meaning in a crazy world. He has been featured on the front page of The New York Times and in
People magazine, The Washington Post, The San Francisco Chronicle, and Family Circle. He was
interviewed by Katie Couric on the NBC Today Show and by Dr. Schuller on The Hour of Power. He
has appeared on dozens of TV shows and more than 80 radio
programs in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Australia.
Dr. Keith has given over 800 presentations, conference papers, and
seminars. His presentations and seminars are focused on leadership
and finding personal meaning at home and at work.
Dr. Keith is known nationally and internationally as the author of the
Paradoxical Commandments, which he wrote and published in 1968 in
a booklet for student leaders. His book, Anyway: The Paradoxical
Commandments was published by G. P. Putnam's Sons in April 2002,
and became a national bestseller. His narration of Anyway: The
Paradoxical Commandments won a national "Audie" award from the
Audio Publishers Association as the best audiobook of 2003 in the
personal development/ motivational category. His second book, Do It Anyway: The Handbook for
Finding Personal Meaning and Deep Happiness in a Crazy World, was published by Inner Ocean
Publishing in November 2003. His newest book is Jesus Did It Anyway: The Paradoxical
Commandments for Christians, published by G. P. Putnam's Sons in October 2005. Dr. Keith is also
the author of the Universal Moral Code, a set of fundamental moral principles that can be found
throughout the world.
Dr. Keith has been an attorney, a state government official, a high tech park developer, president of a
private university, graduate school lecturer, community organizer, and YMCA executive. He earned a
B.A. in Government from Harvard University, an M.A. in Philosophy and Politics from Oxford
University, a Certificate in Japanese from Waseda University in Tokyo, a J.D. from the University of
Hawaii, and an Ed. D. from the University of Southern California. He is a Rhodes Scholar.
Dr. Keith and his wife Elizabeth have three children. They live in Honolulu.
More information about Dr. Keith and his work can be found at www.KentMKeith.com and
www.UniversalMoralCode.com.
The Origin of The Paradoxical Commandments
The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent Keith in 1968, when he was 19, a sophomore
at Harvard College. They were part of The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student
Council, his first booklet for high school student leaders. Here is how it all came about.
As a senior at Roosevelt High School in Honolulu, Kent was heavily involved in student government.
He was student body president and also president of the Honolulu High School Association. He was
excited about the challenges of leadership and good leadership techniques.
Because Hawaii did not have a student council leadership workshop to train student council leaders,
Kent founded the Hawaii Student Leadership Institute, which held its first session in the summer of
1966. This was the first leadership workshop for high school student leaders that was founded and
run entirely by high school students.
Kent went on to attend Harvard. During his four years as an undergraduate there, he gave more than
150 speeches at high schools, student leadership workshops, and state student council conventions
in eight states. These were the turbulent sixties, when student activists were seizing buildings,
throwing rocks at police, and shouting down opponents. Kent provided an alternative voice. In his
public speaking, Kent encouraged students to care about others, and to work through the system to
achieve change. One thing he learned was students didn't know how to work through the system to
bring about change. Some of them also tended to give up quickly when they faced difficulties or
failures. They needed deeper, longer-lasting reasons to keep trying.
"I saw a lot of idealistic young people go out into the world to do what they thought was right, and
good, and true, only to come back a short time later, discouraged, or embittered, because they got
negative feedback, or nobody appreciated them, or they failed to get the results they had hoped for."
recalls Keith. "I told them that if they were going to change the world, they had to really love people,
and if they did, that love would sustain them. I also told them that they couldn't be in it for fame or
glory. I said that if they did what was right and good and true, they would find meaning and
satisfaction, and that meaning and satisfaction would be enough. If they had the meaning, they didn't
need the glory."
In his sophomore year at Harvard, Kent began writing a booklet for
high school student leaders that addressed both the how and the why
of leading change. The booklet was titled The Silent Revolution:
Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council, and it was published by
Harvard Student Agencies in 1968. The Paradoxical Commandments
were part of Chapter Two, entitled "Brotherly What?"
"I laid down the Paradoxical Commandments as a challenge," Keith
said. "The challenge is to always do what is right and good and true,
even if others don't appreciate it. You have to keep striving, no matter
what, because if you don't, many of the things that need to be done in
our world will never get done."
He revised the booklet and a new edition, The Silent Revolution in the
Seventies, was published by the National Association of Secondary Kent M. Keith (spring 1969)
School Principals (NASSP) in 1972. Somewhere around 30,000
copies of the two editions were sold in the late sixties and early seventies. Kent also wrote two other
booklets for student councils. The Silent Majority: The Problem of Apathy and the Student Council
was published by the NASSP in 1971, and Now You're in the Middle: A Handbook for the Student
Council Adviser was published by NASSP in 1972.
Immediately after publication of The Silent Revolution, the Paradoxical Commandments were used
by student leaders in speeches and student newspaper articles. Over the past 30 years, they have
spread throughout the country and around the world.
Brotherly What?
The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent Keith as part of the second chapter of his
booklet, The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council, published by Harvard
Student Agencies in 1968. The booklet was written for high school student leaders. Here is the full
text of the chapter:
CHAPTER TWO: Brotherly What?
This book makes a pretty big assumption. It assumes that you care. I mean, really. Not just because
it's fashionable to appear concerned for those who are "less fortunate." Not because you know that
pretending to care is going to earn you the title of Mr. Nice. Not because the redhead in the next row
loves charitable people. Not because it's a good way to get attention in the public spotlight. No.
Something deep, something sincere and real. Being interested in what others think, how they feel,
what's important to them, what they need. Being sensitive to the people around you; and when they
need something, wanting to help. You might call it brotherly love, a concern for all, peopleconsciousness.
A lot of sentimental hocus-pocus? Maybe. Personally, I am convinced that unless you really care for
the people you are going to lead, you'll never do anything meaningful - except by accident. Peopleconsciousness is a definite prerequisite for good leadership. If you aren't sensitive to the needs of the
people you lead, how will you ever be able to answer those needs? Caring is a practical necessity. If
you are going to do right by people, you have to be concerned with their welfare.
I would like to enter a plea, here. People-centered student councils need people-conscious leaders. If
you find that you are quite indifferent about what the student council does and whether or not it helps
or hurts people, please get out. Resign. Your leadership is apt to do more harm than good: it will exist
in a vacuum, or be irrelevant, or even be antagonistic to the needs of your peers. If you don't care,
you're not going to help anyone. So unless you have a deep feeling for the welfare of the people you
are supposed to lead, please, stop leading.
It is not easy to be people-conscious all the time; it is not easy to keep student council affairs from
being self-centered instead of people-centered. After all, our own interests are naturally in the fore,
and it is a real effort to keep them subordinated. For example: how willing are you to support a project
that you feel has great value but is considered ridiculous by the student council? So often, sensitive
members of the council do not speak up because they are afraid of "making fools of themselves" by
standing alone on an issue. Which do you place first, your own popularity and prestige, or the
meaningfulness attached to helping people? People-consciousness is not easy to come by, and often
hard to put into effect. You have to really care, to make it work.
The idea of really caring for others has an important effect on the other side of the coin: the leader
himself. In The Silent Revolution, caring is necessary not only because you must care in order to do
relevant and meaningful things; it is also necessary to make your leadership durable. A deep concern
for others is one of the few motivations, I'm convinced, that is powerful enough to compensate for the
sacrifice - as well as provide the inspiration - for strong and purposeful leadership. Without it, you
may be very unhappy and short-lived as a leader.
Essentially, the price tag on the Silent Revolution is that you must give up a lot of ego-satisfaction. As
you will see later, you must reconcile yourself to being less noisy, less dramatic, less heroic- and
more of a behind-the-scenes mover of events. In the Silent Revolution you must give of your time and
effort because you care and want to give, not because you are expecting glory and prominence in
return. It is very conceivable, of course, that if you really do something for your student body, they will
respect you for it and be glad they elected you. You can be selfless and popular, but popularity must
not be your goal. Do things because you believe in them, and the simple satisfaction of having
achieved them will be enough. (Applause is great, but it's only the frosting, and we've got to bake
cakes.) If you're in it for other people, then helping them will give you satisfaction that having your
name in lights could never compete with!
Lack of praise or recognition is often a result of using the Silent Revolution. It is comparatively easy
to bear; it is a simple kind of self-denial which allows the achievement of greater meaning and
satisfaction. Other situations are less easy. Being attacked and mistreated by the people you are
trying to help, for example, is a possibility much harder to stomach than a mere lack of recognition. It
hurts in particular when you really care for the people who are attacking you: if you didn't care, you
could shrug it off with indifference. And yet, a deep concern for people makes it possible to
understand that attack with compassion, and to keep helping. This kind of paradoxical situation can
occur often. Indeed, we might list some "Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership:"
1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with
the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the
best you have anyway.
You'll find that there is no such thing as going through a Silent Revolution just for fun. It's seldom fun.
It's tiring, ridiculously nerve-wracking, demoralizing, and seemingly impossible. You've got to be
deeply committed to people - all of them, not just the ones who are nice to you - in order to go
through with it. If you're in it for other people, you may not always succeed, but you can be happy in
the knowledge that you are doing things which are as meaningful as possible - for both you and the
people you're helping. You're working at full potential, so there can be no regrets. You're doing the
most you can, as best you can.
One thing can't be overemphasized here: this approach does not require saints, nor does it make
martyrs. It requires conscientious leaders, and provides a meaningful leadership style; it requires
sensitive leaders, and provides an effective outlet for that sensitivity. Why a saint? Silent Revolutions
simply need people who are very human. And why a martyr? Silent Resolutions demand a lot, but
they give a lot in return.
Personally, I'm convinced that if you are helping people for your sake and not theirs, you'll never be
satisfied: either the "return" in personal glorification won't come, or if it does, it won't for long appease
a constantly growing ego. If you're out for glory you'll never have enough, and you'll never be happy.
On the other hand, if you really care and want to help, then a lack of recognition is no great tragedy.
To the contrary, it can be a very satisfying approach - you do things because they are valid in
themselves, not because they are calculated to bring so many votes and so much glory. If meaning
and significance have anything to do with happiness - and I think they do! - then the Silent
Revolutionary is one of the happiest leaders around. Who's a martyr?
Silent Revolutions can give deep-feeling leaders a deeply satisfying leadership experience. You can
buy glory and recognition: you can't buy meaning. Satisfaction has to come from inside. Newspaper
headlines can't give it to you. The price of leading a Silent Revolution is high, but well worth paying.
To pay it back with interest, try some real brotherly love. It can be the happiest thing that ever
happens to you.
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The Universal Moral Code
The Universal Moral Code is a list of fundamental moral principles that can be found throughout the
world. It was created by Dr. Kent M. Keith in 2003 while writing a book on morality and ethics. The
code incorporates basic, universal ideas about how we should live and how we should treat each
other. Living these principles can provide each of us with the meaning that comes from living our
values and doing what's right.
The code is divided into two complementary sets of statements. The first set consists of negative
statements about not doing harm, while the second set consists of positive statements about doing
good.
DO NO HARM.
Do not do to others what you would not like them to do to you.
Do not lie.
Do not steal.
Do not cheat.
Do not falsely accuse others.
Do not commit adultery.
Do not commit incest.
Do not physically or verbally abuse others.
Do not murder.
Do not destroy the natural environment upon which all life depends.
DO GOOD.
Do to others what you would like them to do to you.
Be honest and fair.
Be generous.
Be faithful to your family and friends.
Take care of your children when they are young.
Take care of your parents when they are old.
Take care of those who cannot take care of themselves.
Be kind to strangers.
Respect all life.
Protect the natural environment upon which all life depends.
© Copyright Kent M. Keith 2003, 2005
February 20, 2006
What was on Mother Teresa’s Wall?
I published and copyrighted “The Paradoxical Commandments” as part of a booklet for student
leaders in 1968. Unknown to me, the commandments subsequently spread around the world. The
discovery that changed my life was the discovery that Mother Teresa had put the Paradoxical
Commandments on the wall of her children’s home in Calcutta. I learned that in 1997.
But what exactly was on Mother Teresa’s wall? I am certain that was not the “Final Analysis” version
of the commandments that has been circulating on websites under her name. That is important to
me, because the “Final Analysis” version can be read in a way that is inconsistent with Christian
teachings and the message of the Paradoxical Commandments themselves.
According to Lucinda Vardey, in Mother Teresa: A Simple Path (New York: Ballantine Books, 1995),
page 185, there was “a sign on the wall of Shishu Bhavan, the children’s home in Calcutta.” This is
what the sign said:
ANYWAY
People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered,
LOVE THEM ANYWAY
If you do good, people will accuse you of
selfish, ulterior motives,
DO GOOD ANYWAY
If you are successful,
you win false friends and true enemies,
SUCCEED ANYWAY
The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow,
DO GOOD ANYWAY
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable,
BE HONEST AND FRANK ANYWAY
What you spent years building may be
destroyed overnight,
BUILD ANYWAY
People really need help
but may attack you if you help them,
HELP PEOPLE ANYWAY
Give the world the best you have
And you’ll get kicked in the teeth,
GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU’VE GOT ANYWAY.
This version includes eight of the original ten Paradoxical Commandments. The two that are missing
are the sixth (Think big anyway) and the seventh (Fight for a few underdogs anyway). The wording of
the other eight commandments is very close to what I wrote back in 1968.
In 1999, Rev. Robert Schuller published “Anyway” in his book, Turning Hurts into Halos (Nashville:
Thomas Nelson Publishers). He recalled that he was part of the 15-member presidential delegation
that represented the United States at Mother Teresa’s funeral. When they visited Mother Teresa’s
orphanage, one of the sisters said: “Dr. Schuller, look what Mother Teresa had enlarged, framed, and
hung in the front lobby here.” This is what Dr. Schuller was shown:
ANYWAY
People are unreasonable, illogical, self-centered
...love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives
...do good anyway.
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies
...be successful anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow
...do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable
...be honest and frank anyway.
People love underdogs but follow only top dogs
...follow some underdog anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight
...build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you try to help
...help people anyway.
If you give the world the best you have, you may get kicked in the teeth
...but give the world the best you have
...ANYWAY.
This version has nine of the original ten Paradoxical Commandments. Only the sixth commandment
is missing (Think big anyway). Again, the wording is close to what I wrote back in 1968.
A version of the commandments that has been circulating on the web under Mother Teresa’s name is
a version I call “The Final Analysis” because of its last two lines. Here is one example of that version:
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true friends; succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world your best anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
The last two lines about “the final analysis” trouble me, because they can be read in a way that is
inconsistent with Christian teachings and the message of the Paradoxical Commandments
themselves. The “final analysis” phrase seems to justify giving up on, or ignoring, or discounting other
people. That is what Jesus told us we should not do.
Jesus said that there are two great commandments—to love God, and to love our neighbor as
ourselves. So in the final analysis, it is between you and God, but it is also between you and “them.”
And when it comes to them, Jesus made it clear that we have to love people and help people
anyway. We can’t give up on them or ignore them or write them off. That is the point of the
Paradoxical Commandments as well—we find meaning when we love and help people, no matter
who they may be, or how difficult they may be. We find meaning by loving and helping them anyway.