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YOUTH 2007 WORKSHOP
WHAT TEENS NEED TO SUCCEED
Chart a positive and spiritually based course in life that makes for good
decision making and strong positive relationships. This workshop teaches
a spiritual formation process built around the familiar ‘Seven Habits’.
Developing a personal faith mission statement and learning to manage
personal and relational bank accounts are part of this workshop.
Countdown: “Roller Coaster” 5 min. (Meatloafmedia.com)
The ‘7 Habits’ are important life principles.
Stephen R. Covey
Sean Covey
Review of the ‘7 Habits’ and parallel study of the Biblical principles they embody.
I will intentionally use ‘7 Habits’ language and examples.
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Be proactive.
Begin with the end in mind.
Put first things first.
Think win-win.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Synergize.
Sharpen the saw.
Video Clip: “Adjustment” (Meatloafmedia.com)
 YOUR PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT
PBA Deposits:
Keep promises to yourself
Do small acts of kindness, for self & others
Be gentle with yourself
Be honest
Renew yourself
Tap into your talents
Signs of a Poor PBA:
Cave in to peer pressure easily
Depression and inferiority
Overly concerned about what others think
Act arrogant to hide insecurities
Self-destructive:
drugs, pornography, vandalism, gangs
Easily jealous
Develop a healthy sense of self confidence / value – strengthening esteem.
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 HABIT #1 - BE PROACTIVE
BIBLE:
Jesus initiated and acted
The boy Jesus in the temple, Luke 2:41-52
The baptism of Jesus, Matthew 4:13-17
Jesus chooses four fisherman, Matthew 4:8-22
Jesus teaches in the Synagogue, Luke 4:16-22
BACKGROUND:
Act or be acted upon.
EXAMPLE(S):
“Autobiography in Five Short Chapters” by Portia Nelson
APPLICATION(S): Surfing: Getting out on the front of the wave.
 HABIT #2 – BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
BIBLE:
Jesus was intentional and was heading somewhere.
"I came that they might have life and have it more
abundantly." John 10:10
Set his face toward Jerusalem, Luke 9:51-56
Healed the man with demons, Luke 8:26-39
BACKGROUND:
Out of the rut.
EXAMPLE(S):
Change of mind, change of direction, metanoia.
APPLICATION(S): Map-quest to Youth 2007
 DEVELOP A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT
Based on principles,
video clip – Permanent Whitewater – The 8th Habit, Stephen Covey
“A personal mission statement is like a personal credo or motto that states
what your life is about.” Sean Covey (The Great Discovery)
3 Colors of Ministry, Natural Church Development, www.churchsmart.com
Your personal change compass & intense gift survey
 HABIT #3 – PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
BIBLE:
But seek ye first . . .,Matthew 6:33
Put God’s work first, Luke 12:22-31
Jesus in Gethsemane, Luke 22:39-46
BACKGROUND:
Time Quadrants
EXAMPLE(S):
“What’s Most Important” – Video Clip (Meatloafmedia.com)
APPLICATION(S): Big Rocks (first)
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HUDDLE TIME – Consider and discuss: What would happen if you put any of the first
three habits to work for you in your day to day life? . . . more than one . . . ?
(especially Habit 3 – Put first things first.)
COUNTDOWN - Extreme Sports, 3 min. (Meatloafmedia.com)
 YOUR RELATIONAL BANK ACCOUNTS
RBA deposits:
Keep promises
Do small acts of kindness
Be loyal
Listen
Say you’re sorry
Set clear expectations
Matthew 25:31-46, Final judgment, what does God think is important
Assignment: Think of one relationship that is damaged.
Commit to rebuild it one deposit at a time.
We are called to be good stewards of the gift of relationships.
 HABIT #4 – THINK WIN-WIN
Jesus washes the disciples’ feet, Luke 13:1-17
Greater love has no one . . ., John 15:13
BACKGROUND:
Avoid win-lose, lose-win, lose-lose
EXAMPLE(S):
Story – The Prodigal Son, Luke 15:11-32
APPLICATION(S): the basketball duo / avoid competing & comparing
This will be hard. Win the private victory first.
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 HABIT #5 – SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
BIBLE:
Golden Rule, Matthew 7:12
Healing the blind Bartimaeus, Mark 10:46-52
BACKGROUND:
We all have an intense need to be heard and understood.
EXAMPLE(S):
Reading – “Listen”, Youth Reaching Youth, page 18.
& from “Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul” alt.
APPLICATION(S): We have two ears and one mouth. That’s a great ratio.
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 HABIT #6 – SYNERGIZE
BIBLE:
Jesus called disciples, Mark 2:13-19
Jesus heals a leper & sent him to the priest, Matthew 8:1-4
BACKGROUND:
Working in tandem with others. Looking for the new alternative.
EXAMPLE(S):
“Goal” video clip from “The 8th Habit” by Stephen R. Covey
APPLICATION(S): “The Cracked Pot” from More Magic of Metaphor, Nick Owen
 HABIT #7 – SHARPEN THE SAW
BIBLE:
Jesus went up the mountain to pray alone, Mark 6:45-46
The Transfiguration, Mark 9:2-13
At dinner with friends, Luke 10:38-42
Restoration of Peter, John 21:15-19
BACKGROUND:
The process of continual personal renewal.
EXAMPLE(S):
Man sawing for hours
APPLICATION(S): Commit yourself to being a lifelong learner.
There is a time for everything.
THE RESOURCE LIST
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: The Ultimate Teenage Guide to Success
Sean Covey
The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens
Sean Covey
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Restoring the Character Ethic
Stephen R. Covey
The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness
Stephen R. Covey
(includes a resource DVD that is great)
Bookstores, etc. often carry a wide variety of ‘7 Habits’ materials and resources.
The 3 Colors of Ministry: A Trinitarian approach to identifying and developing your
spiritual gifts.
Christian Schwarz.
Natural Church Development Discipleship Resources. www.churchsmart.com
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The Time Quadrants
Urgent / Important
Not Urgent / Important
QUADRANT 1
QUADRANT 2
The Procrastinator
The Prioritizer
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Exam tomorrow!
Friend gets injured
Late for work
Project due today!
Care breaks down
Planning, goal setting
Essay due in a week
Exercise
Relationships
Relaxation
Urgent / Not Important
Not Urgent / Not Important
QUADRANT 3
QUADRANT 4
The YES-man
The Slacker
 Unimportant phone calls
 Interruptions
 Other people’s small
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 Peer pressure
Duane Kemerley
456 S. Broadway Street
Williamsburg OH 45176-1015
www.Kemerley.com
intuitive options
Williamsburg United Methodist Church
330 Gay Street
Williamsburg OH 45176
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Too much TV
Endless phone calls
Excessive computer games
Mall marathons
Time wasters
DKemerley@aol.com
(513) 490-6083 Cell
(513) 724-6305 Off.
(513) 724-6318 FAX
West Ohio Conference
Ohio River Valley District
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