1979-2015 Peace 36 years of service to the community Hope Safety Shelter News Working to End Domestic Violence in Our Community Fall 2015 Executive Director Mary Carter Lominack, M.Ed., NCC Administrative Office Manager Jenny Patterson Case Manager Amanda Taylor Child & Adolescent Advocate Lea Calvani Fiscal Manager Bev Hovencamp Fundraising & Development Coordinator Sarah Ellis Legal Advocate & Outreach Counselor Robin Jackson Outreach Advocate to the Spanish-speaking Community Patty Roseberry Receptionist Kayla Ferguson Residential Office Manager Andrea Domingue Volunteer Coordinator Robin Goldstein Shelter Managers Jenn Butt Kat Gursky Bre Lundgren Cindy Nowak Cindy Osborne Meredith Wouters Board Members Jim Bell Pam Garrison Mark Inge Carol Lee Rebecca Lewis Mark Lorenzoni Vickie Marsh Charron Montgomery Christine Peterson, M.D. Working Together to Reduce DV Homicides Three women die in this country because of domestic violence each day; a total of 76 members of our community have lost their lives to domestic violence since 1979. Both nationally and locally the majority of the victims of these tragedies had not utilized services available at their local domestic violence program. The reasons for their lack of connection to services are complex, but now a new collaboration between the Shelter for Help in Emergency and Charlottesville, Albemarle and UVa Police Departments seeks to address this critical problem. The Lethality Assessment Program (LAP) is a screening process that allows police officers responding to a domestic violence call to determine the level of risk for serious injury or death that a victim might be facing. The LAP program, developed by the Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence in conjunction with research by experts in the field of domestic violence at Johns Hopkins University, is a well-tested model being adopted by many jurisdictions around the country. The goal of the program is to prevent domestic violence homicides and serious injury by encouraging more victims to utilize the support and services of domestic violence programs. The program protocol is relatively straightforward. An officer responding to a domestic violence incident will ask just 11 simple questions that require a yes or no answer. Based on the answers, if the person is determined to be at risk the officer will call the Shelter’s 24-hour hotline. The officer will then offer the victim the opportunity to speak directly to the Shelter’s staff member over the telephone right there at the scene of the incident. This program offers a proactive approach encouraging victims to access help and support at a critical moment. Once connected to the Shelter, the person has an array of programs and services that will support and assist them to deal with their abusive situation. In the words of Wendy Lewis with the Charlottesville Police Department, “Any collaboration that has a central mission in protecting lives or identifying the vulnerable in need of service, is a partnership we want to be a part of”. Program results from around the country have been positive. Law enforcement agencies report that the program provides officers with beneficial training as well as a tool that improves their response to victims of domestic violence. Officers state that the tool enables them to better identify those at greatest risk and effectively communicate this risk to the victim. Jurisdictions implementing this program have seen greatly improved communication and collaboration between law enforcement and domestic violence programs. Maryland reports a 35% increase in numbers of victims seeking domestic violence services through this program in 2014, and a five year decline in domestic violence homicides. Benjamin Rexrode with UVa’s Police Department recently spoke about this collaboration, “The UVa Police Department is excited to be a part of the new lethality assessment process. Seeing how willing and enthusiastic all of the local agencies are to implement this system really shows how important this issue is. It’s also really great to see that we can all come to the table and work together to have a universal and effective system when trying to decrease violence in our community”. The Shelter is ready to get started and is excited about this new collaboration! Page 2 “Great event, great cause!” Written on a Design House comment card, these four words describe the idea behind Design House. Bring a fun and exciting annual event for the community that also helps women and children overcome the trauma of abuse by supporting the work of the Shelter for Help in Emergency. We are grateful to Janie and Ron Goldberg, homeowners of Design House 2015, for helping us to make that possible this year by sharing their beautiful Earlysville home with us. Recently built by Summit Custom Homes, Design House 2015 featured an oversized chef’s kitchen, pre-wired media room, five bedrooms, and a spectacular view of the Blue Ridge Mountains. An amazing group of dedicated volunteers, designers and sponsors joined together in their belief that Peace Begins at Home to transform the empty Earlysville house into a beautiful and stylish home any family would enjoy. Their efforts helped raise $73,000 that will go directly to support women and children whose lives have been devastated by domestic violence. Over 1,300 visitors toured the house which showcased the exquisite work of 17 local designers. Our fabulous Preview Party was attended by a record number of supporters; and once again featured a Silent Auction that included a Gabriel Olfiesh Necklace, a Spring Creek Gold Package, and a basketball signed by the UVa Men’s Basketball Team. This year we also provided a variety of seminars featuring local artists and experts; and had dozens of great raffle prizes for a few lucky winners! Before leaving Design House, visitors were able to stop by the café for lunch and shop in the Design House Boutique. Thank you to all who worked so hard to put on this event— volunteers, designers, sponsors, silent auction donors, vendors and contractors. This event cannot happen without your work, generosity and support. Plans are underway for Design House 2016 and we hope to see you there! To learn more about Design House, visit cvilledesignhouse.com and don’t forget to look for us on Facebook. Design House 2015 Join our Volunteer Team! We are grateful to have such a wonderful group of volunteers giving freely of their time and energy to help the women and children we serve each day! Volunteers work tirelessly to ensure our crisis hotline is staffed 24-hours a day, children are given guided play sessions while their mothers meet with case managers and attend support groups, offer translation services, provide administrative assistance for our office staff, and help to organize community activities and events such as our annual 5K race and Design House. We would not be able to provide all of the vital services and programs for the victims reaching out to us for assistance without the amazing support of our volunteers. Fall Volunteer Training Schedule October, Tuesdays & Thursdays 6:00pm—9:00pm One Saturday Session 9:00am—3:00pm If you are interested in volunteering, please call (434) 963-4676. Help Someone in Need Offer to Donate Participate by Giving Your Time Empower Yourself by Learning More Every journey begins with hope! You have the power to help someone in their journey by giving them the building blocks they need to build a strong foundation for a safer life free from abuse. Learn what you can do to offer someone hope by calling our Community Outreach Center at (434) 963-4676 or visit our website at www.shelterforhelpinemergency.org. Page 3 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month Please mark your calendars and join us this October for a series of events designed to spark discussion, raise awareness, and honor those whose lives have been affected by domestic violence. We begin Thursday, October 1st, at the Freedom of Speech Wall located on the Downtown Mall. Staff and volunteers will be available that day to answer your questions about domestic violence and provide resources. Join us and write your own message of support on the chalkboard. Our 25th Annual Candlelight Vigil will be held on Monday, October 5th, at 7pm in Jackson Park. The Charlottesville Women’s Choir will uplift us with their voices as we honor victims and survivors of domestic violence. A reading of names will take place for the 76 victims in our community who lost their lives experiencing domestic violence since 1979. If you are interested in speaking or reading a piece of poetry, please contact us at (434) 963-4676. Each Wednesday during October we will hold a Brown Bag Lunch Series from 12 noon to 1pm at our Community Outreach Center. These brief educational presentations serve to highlight specific issues faced by domestic violence victims and their children. All are free and open to the public; we encourage you to bring your lunch and take part in these informative discussions. Our annual Peace on Earth Begins at Home Art Contest is an exciting opportunity for youth to join in the discussion on what a healthy relationship looks like. The grand prize winner will have their artwork showcased on both our 5K race t-shirt and our 2016 notecards. We will wrap up the month with our 19th Annual 5K Run/W alk for Shelter on Satur day, November 7th. The run/walk begins on the Downtown Mall at 8am. Each participant receives a long sleeve cotton t-shirt and an opportunity to win one of our fabulous grab bag prizes. Brown Bag Lunch Series The Shelter for Help in Emergency is pleased to announce the following presentations in recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. All are free and open to the public; we encourage you to bring your lunch and take part in these informative discussions. October 7th: Teen Dating Violence in LGBTQ Relationships October 14th: Domestic Violence and Child Abuse October 21st: When Domestic Violence and Homelessness Meet October 28th: Telling their Story: A Survivor’s Panel Join us for these one hour discussion/presentations each Wednesday of October from 12:00pm - 1:00pm. All presentations will be held at the Shelter’s Community Outreach Center 1415 Sachem Place, Suite 1, Charlottesville BYOB: Bring Your Own Bag Lunch! (Lunch will not be provided, so please feel free to bring your own.) Please call (434) 963-4676 with any questions or special needs request. Page 4 One Day of Services: Sept. 10, 2014 Adopt-a-Family Program The 9th annual Domestic Violence Counts National Survey conducted by The National Network to End Domestic Violence in September 2014 highlights one day of services provided to domestic violence victims throughout the United States as well as victims turned away due to lack of funding and resources. The holiday season is fast approaching bringing with it thoughts of family dinners, Christmas wishes, and new beginnings. For some this year, family dinners will be at the Shelter for Help in Emergency, wishes will be put on hold amidst the chaos of domestic violence, and work will begin as families strive to find their own new beginning. The Shelter wants to ensure everyone has a safe and happy holiday this year and we need your help! Victims served in one day: Victims in need of emergency shelter: Victims seeking counseling, legal advice, or children’s support groups: Hotline calls answered: Unable to receive services due to lack of space, staff, or resources: National 67,646 36,608 Virginia 1,412 847 31,038 20,845 565 558 10,871 281 The Shelter for Help in Emergency provided emergency shelter, hotline services, outreach services, and advocacy and outreach services to 14 victims/ survivors on this day. Available at DMV! Estate Planning Charitable bequests help to ensure the causes you are passionate about today will continue to have your support after you are gone. Support local prevention programs and services for domestic and sexual violence by becoming a visible voice in your community. Over 1,500 Virginia vehicles already have the “Peace Begins at Home” license plates. Show your support today and Let’s drive peace home! A planned gift to the Shelter for Help in Emergency will help women and children affected by domestic violence for many years to come. Our Adopt-a-Family program matches domestic violence survivors and their children with caring community members like you. One mother exclaimed as she picked up her gifts, “Not sure how I would have made Christmas happen for my family without your support!” Her excitement was coupled with tears of gratitude to those that had adopted her family for Christmas. Their participation in the program helped relieve the burden of holiday shopping for Mom and allowed her to fully focus on providing a safer and more stable life for herself and her children. Please consider making a gift through a charitable bequest in your will or trust. Last year, we were able to help over 50 families through the generosity of local businesses, church groups, and people like you. One of the children adopted last year, squealed with laughter as she came around the corner to see the new bicycle she had asked for. When she finally caught her breath, she explained that she had been waiting 3 years for a bicycle and couldn’t believe she finally had one. If you would like to learn more and discuss the future needs of the Shelter, please call our Executive Director at (434) 963-4676 Please consider adopting a family healing from domestic violence this holiday season and help make someone’s holiday wishes come true. To learn more about our Adopta-Family program, please call Andrea at (434) 293-6155. Page 5 In the Community: Looking Back at FY14-15... Moose’s by the Creek held a fundraiser in May to benefit the Shelter for Help in Emergency and Services to Abused Families in Culpeper. The fundraiser featured a corn hole tournament, a dunk tank and a raffle with many great prizes. The evening ended at the Paramount for a benefit concert by BETTY, a pop rock band out of New York. In June, Shelter staff attended the National Network to End Domestic Violence’s Advocacy Day in Washington DC. While there we met with members off Congress to discuss the importance of domestic violence funding and upcoming legislation that will directly affect domestic violence victims and their children. Savvy Rest visited us in August for their bi-annual Organic Pillow donation. Savvy Rest has pledged to donate a new pillow to every woman and child coming into Shelter by donating nearly 200 pillows each year. Their donation helps facilitate a restful and peaceful night of sleep for a victim beginning their journey to a life free from abuse. 812 hotline calls wer e answered by experienced staff and trained volunteers 173 victims wer e given emergency shelter 4,419 nights of safe shelter were provided An average of 29.55 hours of services including counseling, case management, and legal advocacy were provided to adult victims during their stay 52% of clients staying with us in the emergency shelter were children; 85% were under the age of 12 168 outreach victims who did not require emergency shelter received an average of 10.28 hours of counseling and legal advocacy 19 new volunteers wer e trained and all volunteers gave over 3,228 hours of support Why I Support the Shelter… Our organization got involved with the Shelter around the time the new residential facility was under construction. Although I had little to do with the initial project, the more I learned of the Shelter’s mission the more I was drawn to help. Although I desperately wanted to help, I knew there was no way I could answer a hotline or volunteer at the residential facility, I just did not feel I had the emotional strength to work directly with clients. I so respect those who can, I just could not. Domestic violence is a plague on our community. A plague because it transcends social status, is not limited by race or ethnicity and is not limited by age or income. The shame and stigma associated with domestic violence prevents so many from seeking help, and often prevents friends and family from reporting violence. I realized community awareness and education is how I might support the Shelter. Imagine my excitement when in early 2009 I was invited to join a small group of dedicated volunteers committed to getting the first Design House off the ground. Here was a way I could help, more than just writing a check, I could actually get involved where I was comfortable. In May 2010 we opened our first Design House in Ednam Forest, the event was a success! Now in our sixth year of Design House, the event has become our signature fundraiser. We need your help, there are many ways you can support the Shelter - Write a check or donate supplies if you can and if you can’t try helping out in other ways: there are many volunteer opportunities; at the residential facility, in the office or at an event like Design House or the annual 5K run in November. Just do something; everyone deserves to have “Peace at Home”. Jill Whitley, Hunter Smith Family Foundation Peace Hope Safety Non-profit Org. Postage Paid Charlottesville, VA Permit No. 305 SHELTER FOR HELP IN EMERGENCY P.O. Box 1013 Charlottesville, VA 22902 Admin. Office: (434) 963-4676 V/TTY Hotline: (434) 293-8509 V/TTY Email: info@shelterforhelpinemergency.org Website: www.shelterforhelpinemergency.org Philosophy Statement The Shelter for Help in Emergency is committed to providing a safe, supportive, confidential and respectful environment in which survivors of domestic violence are empowered with the knowledge of personal and community resources as well as the skills needed to make informed decisions for themselves and their families. C URRENT NEEDS L IST Household: Non-Perishable Food Items** Paper Towels** Toilet Paper** Plastic Wrap Aluminum Foil Air Freshener Plastic Baggies—all sizes Trash Bags — all sizes** Tissues Laundry Pods—high efficiency** Dryer Sheets Green cleaning supplies Dish Soap** Dishwasher liquid/pods** Brooms/Mops Bedding and Bath: White Sheet Sets—full size Mattress Pads—full & twin size Comforters—full size Wash Cloths Towels Personal Hygiene: Feminine Hygiene Products Toothbrushes Deodorant** Women’s Razors Women’s Shaving Cream Hair Brushes/Combs Hand Soap** Hand Sanitizer** Hair Dryers** Lotion Ethnic Hair Products** Miscellaneous: Grocery Store Gift Cards** Bus Passes (all day passes)** Telephone Calling Cards ** Alarm Clocks** Umbrellas** Flash Lights Batteries Journals **Urgent Need Clothing (all sizes): All bottles/products should be full sized and unopened. Due to lack of storage space we are unable to accept donations of clothing, toys or books. Children’s: For all other donations or directions on where to drop donations off, please call (434) 963-4676. Pajamas** Lounge Wear** Women’s Underwear** Baby Wipes Baby Monitors** Tear-Free Shampoo