July 26, 2010 “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid I read this story aloud twice because Kincaid’s one-two punch deliver of commands from a mother to her daughter is layered and poetic. Unlike the other stories we’ve read together, Kincaid’s story offers no setting or character description. But much can be inferred from the type of advice the mother gives her daughter. Ricky wondered why there are no names mentioned in the story. I asked the group what they thought. Johnett said, “There’s no names because it’s the advice in the story that matters.” When I asked if advice to a boy would be different than the advice delivered to a “girl”- everyone emphatically said “yes!” Sam summed it up, “If this was titled “Boy”, the advice would just be “Don’t get a girl pregnant.” Darrell added, “And act like a man.” One of the most memorable pieces of the story and one that elicited gasps and giggles is the repletion of the word, “slut”: “..always eat your food in such a way that it won’t turn someone else’s stomach; on Sundays try to walk like a lady and not like the slut you are so bent on becoming;” and “this is how to hem a dress when you see the hem coming down and so to prevent yourself from looking like the slut I know you are so bent on becoming;” and “…and this way they won’t recognize immediately the slut I have warned you against becoming;”. The “slut” reference bothered the girls more than the boys but as we explored this topic, we realized that our own mothers had other ways of saying essentially the same thing. Jennifer wrote a poem at the end of the session, written in the voice of the daughter speaking back to her mother. Her commanding poem incorporated phrases used in the story and demonstrated the daughter’s ability to stand up for herself. In Jennifer’s poem, the daughter was well-matched to her mother’s relentless nagging. Deborah brought up this line, “this is how to make a good medicine to throw away a child before it even becomes a child.” This opened up a discussion about abortion and birth control. Most of the girls were very negative about abortion and found the mother’s advice horrifying. We reviewed when the story was first published- 1950’s in Antigua. What were the options for birth control, if any? How does this statement relate to the mother who abandons her infant in the woods in “The Man Who Found You In The Woods”, a story we had read a week earlier. I didn’t want to get into a moral debate on the issue, but I thought it was important to put each of these stories in a historical context. Nie noticed that some of the advice seemed contradictory, particularly the advice to act ladylike in combination with advice like “this is how to spit up in the air if you feel like it, and this is how to move quick so that it doesn’t fall on you”. We talked about advice that was practical and the advice cloaked in superstition. All along, we were reminded of the useful and strange advice passed down from our own family members. The reference to “wharf-rat boys” which appears throughout the story was translated by the group as the equivalent of “hood rats”- folks who are “trouble” and will get you into trouble. The girls related to the passage about smile-differentiation: “this is how you smile to someone you don’t like too much; this is how you smile to someone you don’t like at all; this is how you smile to someone you like completely.” The group acted out some of their own smile variations and we laughed at how funny these smiles look out of context. Initially this story was quite foreign to the group- both in its substance and style. Yet as we talked about it, we discovered the universality in parental advice. Take it or leave it. This was one of my favorite sessions.