Score Sheet for RELATE Premarital Questionnaire Part 3 – Couple Traits
To make scoring easier, print out this form. Circle whether you score “Asset, Liability, or
Neutral” as you go then list Assets and Liabilities in separate columns on the back of this sheet.
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Sum items 1 – 3 for Importance of Marriage Similarity Score =
(Asset if 14 or above, Liability if 10 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 4 – 6 for Gender-Based Roles Similarity Score =
(Asset if 9 or above, Liability if 5 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 7 - 9 for Working Wife Similarity Score =
(Asset if 12 or above, Liability if 8 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 10 - 12 for Material Wealth Similarity Score =
(Asset if 10 or above, Liability if 6 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 13 – 15 for Autonomy Similarity Score =
(Asset if 14 or above, Liability if 10 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 16 – 18 for Marital Sex Similarity Score =
(Asset if 11 or above, Liability if 7 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Desired Frequency of Sex (Asset or Liability Judged Subjectively Based on Similarity)
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Sum items 21 – 23 for Family Planning Similarity Score =
(Asset if 11 or above, Liability if 7 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Desired Number of Children (Asset or Liability Judged Subjectively Based on Similarity)
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Sum items 26 –28 for Couple Boundaries Similarity Score =
(Asset if 11 or above, Liability if 8 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 29 –31 for Religiosity Similarity Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, Liability if 9 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 32 – 37 for Background Similarity Score =
(Asset if 8 or above, Liability if 4 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 38 and 39 for Length of Acquaintanceship (Liability if 11 or less, otherwise Neutral)
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Experience Living Together (Asset or Liability Judged Subjectively)
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= Cohabit With Mutual Intent to Marry (Asset if Yes, Liability if No)
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= Premarital Pregnancy (Liability if Yes, otherwise Neutral)
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= Children From Previous Relationship (Liability if Yes, otherwise Neutral)
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Score Sheet for RELATE Premarital Questionnaire Part 3 – Couple Traits
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Sum items 46 - 48 for Empathetic Communication Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, Liability if 10 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 49 - 51 for Clear Sending Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, Liability if 10 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 52 - 54 for Partner’s Empathetic Communication Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, Liability if 9 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 55 - 57 for Partner’s Clear Sending Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, Liability if 9 or below, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 58 - 60 for Exit Response Score =
(Liability if 7 or above, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 61 - 63 for Voice Response Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 64 - 66 for Loyalty Response Score =
(Asset if 13 or above, otherwise Neutral)
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Sum items 67 - 69 for Neglect Response Score =
(Liability if 9 or above, otherwise Neutral)
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