Approaching Privacy and Selfhood through Narratives Nandita Chaudhary and Indu Kaura This paper examines the notion of privacy in the Indian cultural context by utilising narratives from three research studies done at New Delhi. Beginning with the cultural understanding of the terms privacy and self through the voices of children and their parents, the paper addresses key assumptions of the individualised self. These assumptions are then examined from a cultural perspective and juxtaposed with issues of privacy and social relationships, using examples. An attempt is made to articulate selfhood as experienced in India. Through the narratives the emerging picture of privacy can be constructed from two positions, the parents and the young adolescents. The findings display that the older generation clearly finds privacy a divisive force for which there is no place within the family. The children on the other hand, define privacy more in terms of “being on one’s own” rather than “away from other people”. The notion of privacy adjusted well with the conception of the self within the cultural context. Indian youth were found to be socialised to put others, particularly family members before them. Everyday talk is replete with references to other people, over and above references to objects. The child is constantly instructed on socially appropriate behaviour by adults and is mostly engaged in social games through language 1 that involve interpersonal play. From the different studies referred in this text it seems that the self in these situations seemed to be defined more from the position of the “other”. This is especially true for relationships within the family. Despite the socially-oriented themes during childhood, it seems that the urban educated youth are struggling for the sense of individuality at this developmental phase of their lives. How things will turn out for them as they take on adult roles, only time will tell. Another contribution of this paper is in terms of method. The studies referred are examples of qualitative approaches to the study of psychological phenomena. Regarding selfhood, an important finding of the different studies substantiates the construction of selfhood as predominantly defined and applied in terms of significant others. In this manner, the investigation of any self-related study has to incorporate the “other” in a procedural manner to allow the local sense of self to stand out and speak for itself. It is important therefore, to accept that it is not only method, but also the theory behind the method that will ensure an appropriate access to and analysis of findings in research pursuits. _____________________________________________________________ Address correspondence to the authors: Nandita Chaudhary, Ph. D. – nanditachau@hotmail.com Indu Kaura – indu_kaura@hotmail.com 2 Approaching Privacy and Selfhood through Narratives Ever since the categories of Individualism and Collectivism were introduced into academic literature, social scientists have had a useful classification to invoke while studying different communities, see Valsiner, 1994. Recent studies have assumed greater complexity of individual and social processes and plurality has become more acceptable than it has ever been before. Post-modernism has helped the reception of this plurality in all phases of human activity. For those of us who are engaged in research in developing countries, the acceptance of theory and research techniques generated from the “White community” was facilitated by the fall out of our colonial past. Indians were used to listening to “white masters”. The influence of political freedom took a long time to percolate down to the area of academics and many of us have had to deal with multiplicity and conflicting forces even within ourselves. An added dimension has been the prevalence of the English language, particularly for University education in India. On the one hand there is a struggle for indigenous research (Gergen, Gulerce, Lock & Misra, 1996) and on the other, there is the need to fall back on the security of the written word. 3 This paper is a presentation of the ways and means that we have developed to deal with some of the conflicts that are basic to the discussion of cultural psychology. Taking the specific area of privacy and selfhood as an example, we have tried to come up with illustrations of how innovative methods can be developed. In doing so, several findings have been unearthed which may otherwise have gone unnoticed. Thus, apart from the findings, there are some significant methodological implications of such work. The definition of “culture” that one ascribes to in research is an important feature in the interpretation of the findings. The position that is productive for all of us is more appropriately described as a “constructive or inclusive” rather than an “exclusive” approach to phenomena a “characterising” rather than “defining” approach (Markova, 2000; Valsiner, 1994). If we accept a position wherein culture is treated more as verb rather than a noun, maybe the task would be further simplified. See also Ratner, 2000). In Sanskrit, related terms interestingly, are all action-based. Kr is a syllable that refers to action, Kratur or Karya (Hindi) is an act, Karma is action, Samskara is the imprinting of past action on the self and Samskriti means tradition or culture. All these words have the kr sound to indicate the doing or acting element. 4 The key issues raised in the paper include discussions on the origin of the self within academic discourse, the construct of privacy and the implications of the latter for the construction of selfhood within a specified temporal and spatial context. Data is also presented to demonstrate the “otherness” of the self as presented in everyday talk in families. This paper alludes to data from three studies. All three are located in New Delhi and deal with familial correlates of stress among adolescents, social axioms and language socialisation. Defining Selfhood The term “self” as a pronoun and pronominal adjective, is akin to an assertion that the reference is to the person or thing mentioned and not to another. In a sense, that which is truly and essentially she or he, in a person, versus what is accidental. The self has also been used to refer to the characteristics constituting conflicting personalities within a human being, the different selves. The self can be argued as being merely the fiction of a broad set of “misconceptions” regarding the meaning of humans. A fundamental error in the belief in a separate self is that the human individual is a conscious and autonomous being in charge of her or his own fate. This assumption is intrinsically linked with Western culture and does not withstand historical 5 validation. Arguments against traditional notions of the self have been developed within diverse schools of thought, the chief of which are: Marxism, which maintains that the self is constructed by class ideology Lacanian psychonalysis, which maintains that the self is constructed via the mirror stage of individual development, and Poststructuralism, which argues that the self is produced by language and culture. Though these views vary in focus, the idea of the self's fictive or constructed nature is shared by all. Literature has made a significant contribution to the ideological construction of individuals. Foucault's early focus (1989) on the discourse systems behind the idea of a central and independent identity, whether human, governmental, national or global -carries a similar view of the self as an unconscious site rather than a conscious entity. More recently, critics have reinterpreted the rather depressing idea of the self as a mere location in order to assert the self-constituting relation of constituents of human identity. These views strengthen the notion of self as a mere construct. This idea of the “I” as the mere product of ideological and linguistic discourses mirrors the poststructuralist claim that the subject is not, as in traditional definitions unified and autonomous, but heterogeneous and 6 dependent. The psychoanalytic theory of the “mirror stage” of self-constitution has contributed extensively to this negative view of the autonomous self (Lacan, 1991). Erving Goffman (1959) argued that due to the influence of burgeoning technology and the mass media, the postmodern individual is a master of “impression management”. Postmodern identity is basically dramaturgical, composed of a series of roles and masks sported by individuals under pressure of surveillance and the importance of image over substance. Thus meanings of the self, however honorable, are located much more significantly under the surface rather than deep within. In Hindu philosophy, life consists of the jiva and atman (empirical and essential self). The sentient self is what we know of and atman is unknowable through ordinary everyday experience. It is only while interacting with the outside world, material or personal, that evidence of atman can be gathered. Consciousness, or knowledge of the inner self (contrary to the construction in Western psychology) is believed to be attained through meditation and spirituality. The experiences of the sentient self are seen as illusionary and inconsequential for true happiness and a meaningful life. This sounds quite similar to the idea of a fictitious self with the added dimension of an inner, spiritual element of life itself. Thinking too much about the self, i.e. the empirical self, is believed to lead to ahankara or undesirable pride. 7 The domain of selfhood has generated a great deal of research in the recent past. In this section, the theoretical linkages and dynamics of the construction of the self as it pertains to the construct of privacy are examined. The self has been defined as “the essential being that distinguishes him or her from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action”. If this view of the self is adopted, there are several problems that arise for a researcher, particularly when working with a “non-western” group. The definition of selfhood therefore carries three basic assumptions, namely: exclusivity or separateness, introspection and self-reflection. These assumptions are basically the reasons for a potential mismatch. First, the assumption of an exclusive self is Euro-centric, we have had access to scholars like Roland (1988) and Hermans (1999) who address this issue in great detail. Second, introspection, the second element of the construct as it is understood in Psychology, is also western in orientation. People from Indian communities are much more likely to resort and respond to external criticism than to self-evaluation through introspection. Thirdly, self-reflection almost always implies overtones of spirituality in Eastern traditional thought as well as folk literature, a dimension that the field of psychology has been particularly challenged by in the recent past. Vipassana, observing oneself, is an ancient technique of meditation used by the Indian sages that was revived 8 by Buddha. This exercise is believed to act as a bridge between the known and the unknown. Usually, the conscious mind has no idea about the unconscious. Through Vipassana, the entire functioning of the mind becomes available and ignorance is believed to be dispelled (Sharma, 2001). Therefore, the Self as implied in a western setting will not evoke the kind of image in an Indian that it would in German or American people. This takes up the whole issue of national identity and cultural differences versus universalism that is usually avoided, mostly because the use of labels to refer to groups always carries the exclusion clause that we may be better off without. When a national level label is used, unfortunately a normative approach is adopted and ideas are invoked without much reflection. The term Indian would immediately generate specific images in the mind. Are we so naïve to assume that this image is stable enough to represent the thundering variety that the nation carries? But this is also not the main point here (see Shore, 1996 for discussion on “otherness”). Even though the label is used even in this paper, it is important to note that using it outside the country is more acceptable than within. In a recent review, Valsiner (2000) introduced an appealing insight into the formation of identity. According to him, the element of identity, which can be argued as being close to selfhood, has a strong dimension of fantasy, that 9 fantasy to which the “identified” person chooses to ascribe. He goes further to propose that in communities where roles and relationships are marked very clearly, the element of identity has much less significance. The term hyperidentity is used to refer to those persons who over-ascribe to adopted views about the self, as in the case of terrorists. This analysis appears extremely useful in trying to come to terms with the variety of manifestations both within and among cultural locations. Indeed, this was true of young adolescent girls in India (Sharma, 1996). It was found that there was a much greater confusion along with perceived choice among “modern”, urban young girls in comparison with their rural, traditional counterparts. Roland (in press) also quotes the example of a Turkish scholar who finds greater doubt and confusion among westernised Turkish students rather than among those where roles were clearly defined. Also very useful has been the proposal of the dialogical self that allows the multiplicity of representations within the self (Hermans, 1999). However, the degree of self-reflection expected of a person while employing the method proposed by the Dialogical Self poses a practical problem while considering it in different cultural settings. Perhaps the most comfortable fit has been with the conceptualisation of the various selves (Roland, 1988), the Familial, Spiritual, the Extended and the Individual, coexisting in a dynamic way, 10 allowing a person to operate in an interactive fashion depending upon the requirement of the situation. With this perspective, an additional clause would be the identification of an in-group or an affiliation with specific members. In an Indian family, it is not unusual to identify strongly with the natal family, particularly for a woman. In the study on Language socialisation referred to in this paper, many instances of subtle referencing were found by mothers to their side of the family by revisiting persons and events to the child through conversations. There may be specific exclusions of the “in-laws”, perhaps sometimes as a reaction to the demands of patriarchy. Several studies have been able to discern the “in-group”, “out-group” phenomenon in other parts of the world as well (Chaudhary, 1999). What about the younger child? While working with children below the age of four, it was found that there were very specific ways in which the mother positioned herself in conversation with the child (Chaudhary, 1999). The caregiver (mostly the mother) usually presented events to the child from her perspective, rather than from that of the adult or an objective one. This was particularly evident in the wide range of kin terms that are used in Indian families. Relationships were almost always marked by the kin term specific to the child, usually without the use of the pronoun. Use of names without a kin marker is discouraged while referring to older people. The perspective that the 11 child was getting was a “joint” or connected one. For example, a mother would typically ask a child a brief, “Open?” (Shall I open this box for you?) while she was struggling to open a box. Does the child growing up with speech patterns like this begin to see the self and the world around in a sort of connected manner. The autonomy of the self was believed by Mead to be constructed through inner speech during the ontogenetic progression from “outer” to “inner” direction (Valsiner, 2000b). If the “double input” that Mead spoke about consists of repeated perspective-taking that is connected or joint in nature as in the example above, surely there will be implications for the self-other configuration within that setting. The “immersion of a growing child in dialogue” (Valsiner, 2000b, p. 38) that consistently presents a complex interconnectedness in relationships would also result in a person orientation that may differ from other cultural settings. In the presentation of the notion of the “I” being essentially unknowable and the “me” as being constructed in response to every external person or internal drive Valsiner, 2000b) resonates with an obviously independent view in Indian classical beliefs. Among the Hindu philosophy, the self is essentially unknowable, indestructable and irreducible. It is only against the interactions 12 with internal (desires, senses) and external realities (others), that the evidence is ascertained. As Shweder, Mahapatra and Miller (1988) found among Hindus, “Society is not separated from nature. What is natural or moral has not been narrowed down to the idea of an individual, empowered and free to create relationships at will, through contract. Forms of human association are believed to be found (natural law), and not founded (conventionism) (emphasis mine). In those parts of the world, the idea that social practices are conventions plays a minimal role in the child’s understanding of the source of obligations.” (p. 374). We move to the discussion of privacy as it is defined in ordinary English language. Defining Privacy According to the dictionary, privacy is “a state in which one is not observed or disturbed by others, or freedom from public attention”. The traditional understanding of community was characterized by physical proximity, face-to-face and primary relationships, and a strong commitment to a body of meaning providing a collective sense of identity or consciousness. In the late 20th century, this sense of community was displaced, at least in the industrialized world. Spatially, the post-modern individual shied away from 13 collective affiliation and communal responsibility, considering these to be a hindrance to personal development, and a threat to privacy. Modernity has been called the “culture of separation” (Bellah, Madsen, Sullivan, Swindu, & Tipton, S. M., 1985). The evolution of society from the communal to the associative has been studied extensively. For the individual, this has meant a restructuring of social space and interpersonal relationships from homogenous to heterogeneous societies. The idea of collectivism introduced by Hofstede (1984) implies the orientation of people towards the communal and therefore more ancient way of understanding relationships. However, a closer look at interpersonal dynamics requires a more complex theoretical paradigm. “We have very little privacy in our home”, is an item aimed at assessing individual independence within a family through the Family Environment Scale (Moos & Moos, 1994). For her study on adolescents’ perceptions and experiences of stress and family environment, Kaura (2000) presented the items of this scale to her respondents. Instead of just using it as a questionnaire, she chose to explore the understanding of the items by interviewing the respondents. The responses came as no surprise, but caused a methodological difficulty. It seemed that one could not assume a uniform understanding of the terms in spite of the fact that the respondents were multilingual, speaking Hindi and English (sometimes along with another 14 language as well). The young respondents tended to say with a grimace, “Yes, we have no privacy within our home” and parents, also giving the same answer, responded with enthusiasm, “Of course we have no privacy in the home”. The responses reflected very different orientations, even if these were developmental. The trouble was that both the children and the adults who responded in this way had marked the item “True”, the children with an added “there is something wrong” and the adults with an “all is well”. This investigation unearthed a fascinating collection of narratives around the issue. It was found on further investigation that the respondents defined privacy primarily as “withholding information”, more like secrecy and the unwillingness to open oneself to the other. Only a few persons said that privacy was just “wanting to be on your own”. Adolescents said privacy for them was keeping their matters to themselves and for adults, it implied hiding things from each other. Whereas the young person tended to give a “selfrelated” response, the adults looked at it as “other-related”. A significant point here is that the study was introduced as concerning the adolescent. Consequently, the responses of the adults may have been focussed towards the children and reactions may have been different if their own privacy was discussed. Another difference emerged in the content of the “private” domain. Whereas adolescents mentioned thoughts and actions only, the adults included 15 possessions, bank accounts and such-like things as well. Some of the other impressions are that men seem to have a greater right to private space and for women the expectation seems to be to be physically and emotionally available for others all the time. Among couples, there was some evidence of the same situation to be seen as fairly private by the men and intrusive by the women, perhaps because of the greater care taken for privacy of the couple when the man is home! To illustrate the points raised, let us consider some narratives in detail. The narratives presented are mostly translated from Hindi, though some words of English were also used as is common in Delhi homes. The term Privacy was always invoked in the English language as it had been introduced. Dynamics of Privacy and Selfhood 1. Neeru, the mother of a young girl, remarked that “We believe that too much privacy is not good because due to this, we are unable to develop closeness with others. Not able to share views freely, unable to share problems and feelings with others. If there is privacy, everyone will go into their own rooms and close their doors, stay busy with themselves. In our (indicating the opinion of the ‘family’) opinion, privacy is not very conducive for a ‘good and happy’ family life. By privacy we mean someone is doing 16 some work, they do not tell others about it, do not share it with others. Either about children or about adults or about the kitchen, anything, any matter at all. I believe it is very important to share.” Neeru’s husband said “Privacy means ‘separation’. No one to disturb you. Doing whatever you want to in your own room. I believe that privacy is not good because if we do everything our own way, then we may even go wrong. If something goes wrong then it will affect the whole family (joint). If I absolutely do not ask anybody, do not attend to anybody, neglect others………. For instance, if I do something without asking my father, I go by my own wishes for everything, then he (my father) will feel that it is not good….. meaning, am I doing the right thing or not…… If I do not consult him, he will feel bad. A little bit of privacy, if I can say….. then it is with my wife… I think sitting with her, discussing with her… some privacy we have. But if we want complete privacy, then I don’t think it is possible in a joint family because you have to consider others’ opinions and decisions also. If you want a lot of privacy, then one should live separately (In a nuclear family). Even in a nuclear family, it should not come to pass that children are neglected and mother-father are completely on their 17 own, do not even ‘see’ (supervise) the children. This much of privacy is not desirable. Parents should remain involved with children, ………. what the children are busy with ……. This should also be taken care of… .” 2. According to Ramesh, the father of a child in the study, “Privacy means hiding things from each other …… not telling what you are doing… where you are going. In our family, we know all about each other. I feel privacy is not good for the family. Suppose I am going out of town and I don’t tell my wife till the last minute, how will she feel? How will she plan who will stay with her when I am not at home, her mother or my mother…?” It seems that there was a linkage in the minds of the respondents wherein privacy was believed to exclude sharing, a highly valued trait among family members. Perhaps also that these people were not anti-privacy per se, but pro-sharing. 3. The mother of a 13 year-old girl living in a nuclear family mentioned that “Privacy for husband and wife is okay but within limits. For children, it is not good. Privacy means hiding things from each other. If we have too much privacy in the family, it increases curiosity among children, but when we share, they take 18 things naturally. In one of my friend’s house, children are not (even) allowed to enter parents’ bedroom, that I think, is not good.” 4. The paternal uncle of a subject, a young girl, said “Privacy……? See, now we all, three brothers…. It is a ‘complete’ joint family. In case there is anything I want to keep private, like related to money or any thing I bring home…. I tell my wife this object, or this gold, you keep separately, don’t disclose it to anyone. That if anyone else sees, either my brother’s wife, or anyone else…. They will feel bad that we did not disclose this thing. Many families have broken as a result of privacy, such crises were created that were difficult to manage. In my view privacy is not at all okay. It means hiding things from each other. In my opinion it is absolutely wrong. Ours is a Hindu undivided family….. Why privacy? It is very difficult to explain privacy. There is privacy of a husband and a wife….., then they have children, there are some top secrets that a couple can not disclose to their children… there are some secrets that I can not tell my parents… or my wife can not tell her parents things related to our family. These are the situations in which privacy is fine, otherwise, there should be no such thing as privacy!!” 19 The dynamics among the different sub-systems within the family (rather than between individuals) becomes significant here and distinct levels or layers were evident in conversations with members from different kinds of families, joint, nuclear and extended. There seemed to be a clear divide in the adults’ responses related to the boundaries of privacy and its relationship to selfhood. According to them, privacy within the family (usually defined as the nuclear unit, though not always, since children may be excluded), whether it was in terms of sharing information or wanting to be on one’s own, was not desirable. Children were discouraged from being on their own too much, having conversations over the phone with unknown persons out of hearing range, or visiting places the parents would not know of. Our hunch is that it is particularly true for girls, but also holds true for boys. The rationale for this was declared as “They are not yet aware of right and wrong and can easily be misled, so if we do not know, how can we guide them”. With reference to adults, privacy within the family is seen as breeding suspicion and mistrust, a process that hinders togetherness. Suchi, a 15 year-old girl in the study feels that “At this age we feel like sitting alone. But if (we) do, then scolding is done…. Why are (you) alone? 20 Within a joint family, the dynamics becomes more complex. Since there are differences in the degree of closeness among nuclear units, the extent of exclusion or inclusion depended very much on the emotional climate. Privacy in terms of exclusion and withholding was valued among nuclear units when relationships were not so cordial. When the joint family was declared as being close, privacy was perceived to be a threat to family unity. “Hiding things from each other was perceived as being threatening”. Across all family types, privacy within the nuclear family unit was perceived as undesirable, except in business-related information in some families. Further, there were a handful of parents who did support the provision of privacy for children from a very young age. It was also found that who was told secrets also depended on the content of the information. Family matters remained strongly within the family and talking to others, even in counselling sessions, was seen as betrayal. One girl said that she shared matters with her mother, but not everything. If there was something that would hurt her mother, she would hold it back and not tell her, then she may speak with her cousin or a friend. Who will be told?, “It depends on what I am upset about”, said another subject. During the course of the study, it emerged that privacy was treated as a sort of privilege and not a right. It is sanctioned on the basis of power and 21 authority. The husband-wife dyad is one sub-system that is granted this privilege, particularly among the urban upper class. However, in a majority of homes, closed doors are seen as an insult. For many couples, particularly those living with other members, either their own children or extended family, finding opportunity for intimacy is usually an adventure that calls for innovation and manipulation. This is particularly true for families that live in smaller homes with fewer rooms. With regard to children, the adults are unanimous. Secrets and secret relationships are a threat. It was not so clear what was threatened, family loyalty, family cohesion, or just the power of the adult. Maybe a bit of all three. It seems to me that this has begun to sound like sharing for a young child, “what is yours is mine and what is mine is also mine”. Privacy is a privilege that children certainly are not believed to have a legitimate right over. As far as information to children is concerned, adults are fairly selective in believing what the child “should know”. “Children should only know what is right for their age” was a common belief. There were a few voices from parents who did not fall into this pattern, those few who believed that children also need space to call their own. It is my hunch that even in these homes, what is sanctioned may be a far cry from the independence that is so sacred to the young person in western society. 22 Emotional Display among Youth In this study Jain (2001) utilised the format of the Social Axioms Survey based on a cross-cultural study (Leung, 2000). During the survey, the social axioms survey items that were presented in the format of a five-point scale were to be rated by the respondent. Using the items with an Indian population was indeed a difficult task. There are many terms that require translation and choosing the appropriate words was a monumental task. The survey was presented with the translated items alongside the English one, a technique that the multilingual respondents said was very useful for them. Extending the study to include questions related to emotional display (Jain, 2001), the young respondents were asked whether expressing emotions was a good thing and if so, why. In the analysis, we looked at how many of the responses referred to needs of the “self” and how many to those of “others”. Not surprisingly, the predominant theme for either display or control was related mostly to “other people”. The responses were mostly balanced around many themes such as: Others can help solve a problem Positive feelings can be multiplied by sharing If you really care for someone, showing the emotion will help the relationship 23 If the emotion is negative, do not show it since it may upset the other person. If one displays happiness upon success, it may lead to envy from others and result in negative vibrations (evil eye). These may even cause potential harm. You should be aware of the person who is watching you. Be sensitive to what is expected of you from others. Maintain interpersonal harmony. Thus it seemed that even reasons for keeping things to oneself were other-related. Fewer reactions related to the outcome as it implicates the individual. Certainly this would be an expected finding. To take the clause a little further, it was clear the “other” did not mean the man on the street. The respondents mentioned unambiguously that it was the “significant other” and not just anyone who would play an important role in determining action. Certainly the argument of “collectivism” would fail to fulfil the requirement in explaining these phenomena. For instance, one person added that the situation in which another person can not be helpful is the instance of an egotistical person. Thus, this is not an unconditional clause. Further, it is not that the cultural pattern is of devaluing oneself it is perhaps that others are valued more. 24 Some Lessons For Theory The Czech novelist Milan Kundera (1986) was moved enough to write a glossary of 63 terms after being repeatedly dismayed by the translations of his works. “The writer who determines to supervise the translations of his books finds himself chasing after hordes of words like a shepherd after a flock of wild sheep – a sorry figure to himself, a laughable one to others” (p. 121). While using labels to refer to events, it is essential to reflect upon the local meaning for the term. If the population is English speaking or bilingual, it may be assumed that words carry the same meaning for them. Indeed this is not true, as in the case of privacy discussed earlier. The term “pride” was part of the investigated emotions regarding display. The respondents were able to identify 5 ways of describing the word in Hindi: Garv (pride), gaurav (pride), ghamand (pride), ahankar (pride) and abhimaan (pride). These terms have different connotations and a uniform interpretation would be unwise. Garv and gaurav imply positive values of honour and esteem, whereas ghamand, ahankaar and abhimaan all three carry a somewhat negative connotation of showing off, egoism and larger than necessary sense of self. Pride was mostly 25 understood as a negative term. Even if it was seen as a positive emotion for being good at something, showing it was deemed unnecessary. For Method In some cases, the modifications in method have been based on a priori beliefs in a more interactive method and in other cases, the investigations have actually been prompted by responses on items. As we can see from the example of the Social Axioms Survey, surface level questions do not reach far enough to make investigations meaningful for the researcher. Some crosscultural studies are now being conducted with enthusiasm to accomplish surveys. The motivation seems to be to gather comparable data about otherwise silent populations. I seriously believe that this kind of research does not contribute very much to the understanding of the cultural dynamics. At best, they provide a kind of generalised picture. Cultural comparisons have to carry background about the people, the history and social setting in which people are living. In addition, the usage of terms (Shweder’s example of shame is a case in point) in the different locations must be investigated prior to or as part of the study. It is only then that the “polyphony of cultures” can find true representation. In conclusion, therefore, it is important to adopt a position of an insider while studying a psychological phenomenon. As demonstrated in the paper, 26 when the issue of privacy was addressed to the subjects, there was a need to pitch the questions at a deeper level rather than assuming a surface level acceptance of the construct in order to fully understand the meaning making processes of the respondents. Unless the “local” usage of researched terms is investigated using simple everyday language through discursive interactions, it is difficult to assume validity of method. As the methods have demonstrated, the issue of privacy could not have been appropriately related to the discourse on selfhood unless these alterations in method were applied. 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