HELPING YOUR CHILD OF DIVORCE SUCCEED AT SCHOOL
Medina County Domestic Relations Court
Judge Mary R. Kovack
Divorces can impact a child’s performance at school. Both parents, both residential and
non-residential play important roles in ensuring the successes of their children, and
improving areas where they are struggling. After parents divorce, children’s abilities to
concentrate and focus on their work can decline. Because children are less able to express
their feelings the same way adults do, they are more likely to act out and have behavior
problems, or become withdrawn and depressed. Address behavior issues immediately and
consistently with the other parent.
Try to identify problems as early as possible. Teachers are likely to report these problems
only after they have happened over time, so it is important to stay in touch with the
teachers on a regular basis. Call or email the teachers at least once a month to get
updates. If your child is struggling, ask the teacher to send weekly progress notes home.
You might even create a simple checklist so the teacher can report quickly but efficiently
on behavior, effort, progress and any other areas of concern.
Studies indicate that parental involvement is a key factor in helping a child succeed in
school. Non-residential parents should request duplicate copies of grade cards and
progress reports be sent to their home. Some parents even provide the teacher with
several self-addressed stamped envelopes to encourage communication from the teacher
and school. Even when you are the non-residential parent, try to chaperone field trips or
attend after school events with your child, even if the other parent will attend. Residential
parents should encourage visitation during the school week so that the other parent can be
involved with helping with the child’s homework. Create structured and specific times
for homework, dinner and play. Talk with your child about specific goals to earn
additional television or game time.
When both parents show interest and concern, a child’s school experience can become
more enjoyable and productive. Their friendships, self–confidence and successes will
improve, and through your involvement, they will learn good study habits. Positive
reinforcement from parents will encourage the child to want to learn throughout their
lifetime.