Group 3 FAMILY Joanna DeCicco Alexei Viana Naira Suvorova Ashley Vieira Ilona Master Family Group Survey THE FAMILY On Becoming a Sociologist A. Student Ilona Master Unit 3 Chapter 10 - Family: Same-sex marriages vs. Heterosexual marriages Core Concepts/Terms/Sociologist Connection 1. Heterosexual Family - domestic group of people linked together through a common progenitor, a marriage , or adoption. Heterosexual family usually consist of a parents: a mother and a father, children and sometimes grandparents (extended family) sharing together joined household. 2. Same-sex Family - represent Endagamy’s form of the family (practice of marrying within same social group) and is a marriage between two people belonging to the same biological sex or gender identity. Such families may consist of the same sex partners or parents, children. Extended type of the family is not popular amongst gay couples. B. Material Utilized: 1. http://politicalhumor.about.com/od/gaymarriage/ig/Gay-Marriage-Cartoons/ (Cartoons) 2.http://www.washingtonpost.com/world/specialreports/countries-where-same-sexmarriage-is-legal/2012/05/10/gIQAwOziFU_gallery.html#photo=10 (A slideshow of the countries which legalized same-sex marriages) 3. http://izaura2.wikispaces.com/file/view/FamilyPolicy.pdf/345953672/FamilyPolicy.pdf 4. http://gaymarriage.procon.org/ (A pros and cons of gay marriages) 5. http://izaura2.wikispaces.com/file/view/GL_10_issues.pdf (10 main legal issues of the gay marriages) Current event article / Political cartoon / Video / Resource (texts-www.)/ Other http://theweek.com/article/briefing_blog/279/gay-in-america (Current event article. The struggling retailer JCPenney doubles down on its support of same-sex couples, despite a boycott from the conservative One Million Moms project.) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrSkmpHp_T0 (How gay families could lead to the end of humanity) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIYzlUGenuA&feature=related (scarry anti-gay marriage ad) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTzbuQq-e-U (parenthood in the same-sex families) Connections to - Irony. The contoversity of legalization of the same-sex marriages redirects public attention from life’s real actual issues such as high rate of unemployment and medical insurance problems (which affects EVERYONE despite his/her sexual preferences) to the bigotry of the hatred bedrooms’ conversation about pseudo threatening of the core of the heterosexual family institution by gay marriages. Reasons for marriage: ● Public declaration of the love ● Formation of a single household unit ● Legitimizing sexual relations and procreation ● Social and economical stability ● Raising and nurturing of children Differences of the Same-sex and Heterosexual families: ● Families with two mothers or two fathers ● Average gay couple older than average heterosexual couple ● Median gay couple usually is more educated ● Divorced rate of gay couples is slightly higher than of regular families ● Gay couples are more financially stable and successful than heterosexual couples. C. Sociological Imagination: Latvia, the country where I came from, overall has an undefined governmental approach toward gay acceptance that more or less could be put into the words “it is not allowed, but it is not forbidden”. At the same time, on the constitutional level, Latvia does not recognize gay marriages. However, what else can be expected from the country, which hosted yearly Nazi veterans’ parades with parliamentary blessing and participation? While living there, I have known quite a few people who were at that time deeply closeted and, as a result, pretended to be “normal” members of society with a standard set: a wife, 1.5 children during daytime and spent “soul searching” nights amongst similar undercover friends in the local gay bars. Since Latvian government does not recognize same-sex marriages and shows low level of tolerance toward gays and lesbians, police will usually take the approach of “looking the other way” should gay bashing accidents and episodes of hatred happen. Before coming here, I was sure that America would be more progressive and forthcoming toward GL problems, but was very disappointed that the USA so willingly and actively pushy when it comes to political “democratization” of the world was so outdated in approach and slow reacted in acceptance of the same-sex unions. Will the “wind of change” actually transform the situation here is unknown, given the fact that the government is mostly represented by politicians from the old generation, and gays’ issues seems to be the last agenda on their lists. Sadly, they see gay people not as regular citizens with different sexual orientation, but more as something abnormal, temporary trendy, and sickening that somehow may stain the perfect world of heterosexual families. Conflict: Homosexuality among humans existed for thousands of years. Over the time, homosexuals were legally persecuted, outcast and blamed for everything including the end of humanity. Being gay today is still enough reason to be jailed or even executed in such countries as Vietnam, Egypt, most of Islamic and South African countries. On April 1st, 2001, Netherlands was the first country to recognize and legalize same sex marriage followed by Belgium in 2003. In 2005, Canada and Spain announced that gay and lesbians can marry and adopt children. In 2009, Norway’s parliament passed the law allowing gay couples to marry, adopt the children and to use artificial insemination for lesbians. 2007 became a special year for gay community of the Sweden too. Portuguese become an eighth country recognizing same sex marriages in 2010 along with Argentina, a first country in Latin America. Surprisingly, South African Parliament has passed legislation to acknowledge same sex marriages in 2006. as well In 2010, Iceland’s Parliament unanimously passed legislation allowing gay marriages, right after Prime Minister J.Sigurdardottir married her longtime partner and became first open gay to marry in Iceland. However, in USA gay and lesbian couples are still fighting for their legal rights to be equal to the heterosexual marriages. As of May 12, 2011, gay marriages has been legalized only in eight states: Massachusetts (2004), Connecticut (2008), Iowa and Vermont (2009), New Hampshire (2010), District of Columbia (2010), New York (2011), Washington (2012) and Maryland (will be effective in 2013). There are also 31 states, which have constitutional corrections against same sex marriages. Nowadays, many lawmakers still considered gay marriages as a threat to the heterosexual world. By refusing to accept the reality of the life, which includes gays and lesbians as vocal, important and influential members of our society, politicians and lawmakers, has stripped same-sex couples from most legal benefits and Constitutional rights. 1 Function: Despite the fact that both parties are paying taxes, all federal and state medicare and social security withdrawals, they cannot combine, use, or transfer those benefits to “significant other”. Even though some states are legalize gay marriages and acknowledge same-sex families, the existence of the huge legal loophole creates unfair and increasingly complicated situation where selectively gender-blind governmental and financial institutions have no problem to apply generalized common rules to the both gay and heterosexual families but have enormous amount of restrictions toward issuing any kinds of benefits to the same-sex partners in return. Symbolic Interaction: The core values of the family is to propagate, to nurture children, to socialize, and to set moral and ethical codes for the future generation. Economic recession, financial struggles, partnership’s trust, and parental issues all put enormous pressure on families. However, it is primal and essential for every human,regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, to yearn to be part of and to create its nuclear family as a universal constant of the “safe zone”. A. Student Ashley Vieira Unit 3 Chapter 10 Family – Divorce & Legal Separation Core Concepts/Terms/Sociologist Connection 1. Divorce is the legal separation and dissolving of a marital union. A divorce is, in most countries, defined by the legal dissolution of the marriage in a court or other authority. 2. Legal Separation is the separation of a married couple through the court. If the couple feels they would like to continue their marriage, they may do so without any process because they are still married by the state. If they choose to proceed with a divorce, they would file the necessary paperwork. B. Material Utilized: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce#History http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_separation http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce#Polygyny_and_divorce http://web-japan.org/tokyo/know/marriage/mar.html Current event article / Political cartoon / Video / Resource (texts-www.)/ Other http://www.divorcestatistics.info/what-is-the-current-divorce-rate-in-america.html (Current Divorce Rates) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2V2m27BoHRY&feature=related (Terms of a Legal Separation) Connections to- higher divorce rates. Since the 1960’s and 1970’s, divorce rates of skyrocketed to 50%-60%. They have become more common. A man or woman would rather not deal with their spouse. Children and emotional loss makes it extremely difficult to divorce because of the fear of failure or being alone. C. Sociological Imagination: Divorce rates have in fact increased. I feel many of times it’s due to the lack of open communication & also because people are looking to be whom they think their spouse wants them to be. Because of these factors, I think that is why people look for someone else so they can be themselves. Someone can live a lie for only so long. I come from a divorced family. My parents are completely different people. They came from a time where at age 24 an individual was becoming too old to not be married. The pressure of societies standards brought two people together, that have nothing in common. If they had stayed married, my upbringing would have been full of arguments and differences that would have affected my character. I do feel that as a child from a divorced family, I did miss out on some important experiences needed while growing up in a loving home. However, it was not worth the unhappiness it would have brought them and I, just to experience something I could experience in different ways. It did affect me growing up because a child cannot understand why a family must be separated, but as an adult I have come to understand it was the best decision for them as well as me. I do feel that people today are selfish. Nothing is as it used to be. People don’t want to have to work at a relationship. They expect the fairy tales they watched as growing up. Relationships take work no matter how common a couple may be. Conflict: Divorce in the early Roman times had no process. It was considered solely under the basis of infidelity to the “good spouse”. This would mean they were to sleep in separate beds and never cohabitate again, even though they were still legally bound. After the reformation, courts became aware that there needed to be a policy and legal break in the marriage. This did not sit well with the people. In turn they came to agree that a divorce would not be valid under hints of complicity but only if a party violated a vow. In 1603-1868, Japan didn’t not allow women to file for divorce. Men could file with a written letter stating they would like a divorce. Today anyone could request a divorce. The four different methods in Japan for divorce are mutual, through mediation, divorce in family court because mediation failed to reach an agreement, or in district court. Many countries are still against divorce and have no legal process for it. The most common reasons for divorce are Adultery, Domestic Violence, Midlife crisis, Addictions and Workaholism. In many cultures religion and beliefs become part of reason for divorce as well. Function: There are cases where divorce is a better decision then to stay together. Many of divorces with infidelity cause emotional damage to someone’s self image. There is a lot of resentment that builds towards one another when a spouse has gone through a lot of emotional, mental and physical breakdowns and abuse. It is healthier for the individual and everyone involved that the marriage be terminated. Symbolic Interaction: Society is constantly changing. With this change there is a lot of pressure to continue having the “white picket fence life”. However, people are not willing to compromise their lives and are not willing to fix what is broken. Divorce is the solution for individuals to move forward with their lives in a more positive fashion. A. Student Naira Suvorova Unit 3 Chapter 10- Family: Cohabitation versus Marriage Core Concepts/Terms/Sociologist Connection 1. Cohabitation is living together in a sexual relationship without marriage. According to U. S. Census Bureau, the number of unmarried couples living together doubled in the 1990s from 2.9 million to 6.2 million in 2006. Two thirds of married couples lived together for an average of 2 years before marriage. One out of every nine cohabiting couples are homosexual. 2. Serial cohabitation refers to living with one partner for a time and then with another. 3. Premarital cohabitation occurs when the couple is testing the relationship before making a commitment to marriage. - They may be divorced and reluctant to marry. -They may feel that a legal ceremony is irrelevant. 4. Marriage is the union of two people that is typically recognized by the law or cultural norms. It is the most common foundation for the family formulation in the world. B. Material Utilized: Current event article / Political cartoon / Video / Resource (texts-www.)/ Other 1. Ballantine, Jeanne H, and Keith A Roberts. “Our Social World: Introduction to Sociology.” 3ed. Los Angeles: Sage Publications, 2011. 2. http://thethinkspot.com/sociology/chapters/14 3.Singlehood, cohabitation, and Other Nonmarital Options www.donnavandergrift.com/Ch09_Benokraitis.ppt[PPT] 4. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PItNy3xooPI&feature=related Should people live together before marriage? Dr. John Curtis explores the pros and cons of cohabitation before marriage. 5.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGBZfmtcQQM&feature=related Cohabitation is not the same as marriage when it comes to outcomes. Compared to married couples, cohabiting couples tend to report poorer relationship quality and worse psychological and financial well-being. Cohabiting relationships and even subsequent marriage tend to be less enduring. 6. http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/24/living/baby-boomer-divorce/index.html 7.. www.harpers.org (political cartoon) Connections to- Irony This cartoon points to the paradox of the common modern belief of our society that cohabitation before marriage should ensure the stability of marriage and lower divorce rate. In reality, cohabitation does not guarantee that marriage will be successful and long lasting. Many cohabitors may drift into marriage rather than making a conscious commitment. In addition, according to cohabitation experience effect, cohabitors may view relationships as temporary and ready to break up. C. Sociological Imagination: I was born in Armenia where cohabitation was a taboo. Even when my parents moved to Russia, this tradition remained solid to our family. Sex before marriage was socially unacceptable for Armenian girl, and it still remains unchanged. Premarital sex is seen as an offence against the family and a weakening of social bonds. However, it seemed that premarital cohabitation is okay in European and North American countries in these days because of relaxation of norms of sexual behaviors, such as increased acceptance of “premarital sex.” It was considered that cohabitation would bring more stability to marriage, increase emotional closeness, and reduce amount of conflict. Cohabitors believe that the quality or duration of their marriage improves if they live together before getting married but it does not. In the USA, the difference between unsatisfied couples who cohabit before engagement ( 43%) and those who cohabit after marriage (40.5%) is really small. From my personal experience, there is little relationship between cohabitation and marital satisfaction. We cannot get to know another person when we feel no right to constrain a partner’s habit, for example, for excessive smoking and drinking, or spending habits. Also, less commitment in relationship between cohabitors is another factor of future marital dissatisfaction. Yet people prefer to cohabit to be in more meaningful relationships but with freedom to leave the union, to reduce loneliness, or to get sexual gratification or financial benefits. All my relatives started to live together after getting married and their marriages were pretty stable. Due to their belief that divorce is not an option, they work out their problems and find a solution. They also devoted to one another and to their children. Conflict: Today, many young couples are cohabiting without the intention of getting married and having children later. On the other hand, there is a trend when older people choose to live together without marriage due to the dire economy. They see cohabitation as a way to avoid raised income taxes brackets which apply to married couples with high double income, and a possibility to survive in today’s economic crisis by combining two independent income. Besides financial issues that brings them together, old people cohabit and seek for the life partner because of the unhappy relationships in their marriage which may even last more than 30 years. They look for self-fulfillment and individual happiness, so they get divorced and cohabit without marital ties. Our society sees no problem in the young adults’ cohabitation, but strongly disapproves when it comes to older people. Because the percentage of marriages declines, some sociological analysts believe that cohabitation is a threat to the stability of society and families in particular, thus, the solution is to promote marriage as an attractive alternative. Function: Many cohabitors do not feel responsibilities to take care of disabled, infirm, or sick members of their partner's family; therefore, this function of family is lost. Moreover, they see cohabitation as part of mate selection process or just dating, implying less commitment in relationships. Having a freedom to leave a union, young adults engage in serial cohabitation, disrupting sexual regulation produced by society. Society regulates our sexual behaviors through marriage. Marriage is supposed to keep people out of ongoing disruption or conflict, taking married people “off limits.” Symbolic Interaction: Interaction with others is based on people’s shared meaning of symbols. A wedding ring symbolizes a foundation of a family where couples are permanently committed to each other and have certain responsibilities and obligations. Although cohabitors do not wear wedding rings, it does not necessarily means a lack of commitment. If individuals cohabit as a path to marriage, relationships can be fulfilling, stable, and lifelong. However, majority of adults seek for social legitimacy, social or religious acceptance, and a home they can get through marriage. A. Student Alexei Viana Unit 3 Chapter 10 - Family - Extended Families Core Concepts/Terms/Sociologist Connection 1. Extended Families: refers to the family members who extend beyond the immediate or nuclear family of parents and their children. The term may be used synonymously with consanguineal family. An extended family may live together as a single household. Often there could be many generations living under the same roof, depending on the circumstances. Alternatively, in societies dominated by the conjugal or nuclear family, it is used to refer to kindred in addition to those immediate family members, and who live in different households. Generally, the extended family is contrasted with the nuclear family. Regardless of whether they live together in a single household or separately, the three- or four-generation extended family, including grandparents in addition to parents and children, provides a rich network for human relationships and great support for the raising of children and continuation of the lineage. 2. Extended family concepts Membership: Father and mother; sons and wives; daughters until married; grandsons and wives; granddaughters until married; great grandsons and wives; great granddaughters until married. Head of the Family: Father with support of mother. in the absence of the father, the most capable elder son with guidance of his mother and support of spouse. In the absence of the elder brother, a competent younger brother takes over. Distribution of duties: The head of the family assigns members according to their abilities and availability. The mother is responsible for nurturance, clothing, household activities, gift giving and acceptance of gifts. She consults her daughters-in-law and wives of younger brothers and educates them for proper decision-making in her absence. ● Extended middle-class Midwestern U.S. family of Danish/German extraction B. Material Utilized: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family#Kinship_terminology www.varnasrama.org/.../Extended%20Family%20Systems%20& Current event article / Political cartoon / Video / Resource (texts-www.)/ Other Kardashians Family http://deens-japan.com/diary.cgi?field=10 The image above is a popular Manga(cartoon) in Japan that says Sazae-san. This Manga of Sazae-san started in 1946, and expresses an ideal family. Sazae-san is still telecasted on the television now. The members of an extended family sometimes are too large that they don’t even know who the other relatives are and often this causes problems. Connections to- real fact in Japan (cartoon #1) The average number of people per family in Japan was 2.58 in 2005, according to a public survey, but it used to be about 5 back in 1955. After the Second World War, many people moved to metropolitan areas, leaving the farms where they needed to live with their extended family who helped out with the farm work. Thus, nuclear families which consist of one couple and their children started becoming more common. Meanwhile, the number of senior citizens over 75 years old who live alone is estimated to triple in the next 10 years. The family in Japan is a few people now. Moreover, there are a lot of couples who don't want the child. Therefore, the population of Japan decreased in recent years. And, the work force is insufficient, and this becomes a big problem of the society. C. Sociological Imagination: I was born in Colombia in an extended family. What i remember is that my family was composed by my dad, mom, a brother (older than me), stepsister (from mom side), a sister, and my grandmother (dad’s mom)- in other words, it was an extended family. My parents taught me that a family is a highly important institution to Colombians engraved by the traditional Roman Catholic church teachings. Members of the extended family are close and children rarely ever move far away from their parents. There is a deep sense of familial responsibility that stretches through many generations. Traditionally, men were usually the head of the household, in charge of earning most of the family's income while women were responsible for cooking, housework and raising children. However, as in most cultures around the world, the dawn of the 20th century brought forth a great empowerment for women who were given a right to vote during the 1950s rule of dictator Gustavo Rojas Pinilla. The Constitution of 1991 gave a wider opportunity for women and today the majority of families (regardless of economic class) have two working parents due to the need of an income to sustain a family. At a child's baptism, the parents of the child will choose godparents, padrinos. A child's padrinos will play an important role in his life, giving advice, and when needed, financial support. Conflict: Family harmony provides a sense of belonging and a feeling of security unlike many other types of relationships. When conflict arises, it threatens that security. Whether the disharmony initiates from within the family unit or from external sources, individual family members and the family as a whole can experience a range of negative emotions and consequences. Unresolved conflict may irreparably damage a marriage and the entire family. One major source of family conflict is within the area of finances--specifically, the lack of enough money to pay bills, maintain the mortgage or rent, buy sufficient food and other necessities and have any remaining money for recreation. Similarly, disagreements may spring from determining what bills to pay, how much to pay for certain items or how to invest money. A job or career, the main source of a family's finances, may contribute to conflict within a family. If a parent's job keeps him away from home most of the time, the spouse at home with the children often feels neglected or overwhelmed. If both parents work, the children may suffer from lack of parental bonding and involvement. Conversely, if the parent becomes unemployed, this causes its own form of stress and conflict, as finances dwindle and uncertainty sets in about the future. Another cause of family conflict is the inevitable rivalry that occurs between siblings. Children typically seek their parents' attention and approval, even if this requires tattling on, or sometimes causing harm to, a sibling. Whether a child expresses jealousy of her sibling, competes with him or teases him non-stop, it is destined to cause conflict. Each child deserves an equal amount of parental love and acceptance, yet sometimes a parent may favor one child over another. This merely intensifies the conflict. Jokes and movies abound regarding conflict with in-laws (especially mothers-inlaw); however, when you actually become involved in disagreements with your in-laws or extended family, it is no laughing matter. While it is preferable to respect your elders-parents and grandparents on both sides equally--this can prove to be challenging. If relatives routinely interfere in your family's decisions and lifestyle, conflict frequently results. Function: Extended families are like microcosms of an entire world. They are the first training grounds, where people learn interpersonal skills. People in extended families learn lessons of patience, tolerance, cooperation and adjustment. They also learn what it means to take collective responsibility. One for all and all for one. Symbolic Interaction: Every parent raises their child/children in different ways. Everyone has a different way of handling being a single parent and trying to substiane a family as well. A. Student Joanna DeCicco Unit Family Chapter 10 - Single Parent Families Core Concepts/Terms/Sociologist Connection 1. Single Parent - A parent who has most of the day to day responsibilities in the raising of the child or children, which would categorize them as the dominant caregiver who is not living with a spouse or partner, or those who are not married. 2. Dominate Caregiver - The parent in which the children have residency with the majority of the time; if the parents are separated or divorced children live with their custodial parent and have visitation with their noncustodial parent. 3. Single parenting can be caused by separation, divorce, or a death of a parent. B. Material Utilized: Current event article / Political cartoon / Video / Resource (texts-www.)/ Other http://singlemomsnet.com/parenting/permalink.php?article=Adjusting+To+Being+A+Single+Pare nt.txt http://www.sagepub.com/newman2studyfamilies/essays/single_parent.htm http://singleparents.about.com/od/legalissues/p/portrait.htm Connections toThis cartoon shows a single parent who has no time for themselves because all of their time goes to the children. Single parents in society today have their share of daily struggles and long-term disadvantages because their main focus is having the best for their child. C. Sociological Imagination: In 2009, there were approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States. Those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children. That is around 26% of children under the age of 21 in the United States. 84% of single parents are mothers and 16% are fathers. Many families are considered single parents because of divorce or separation but 1.7% are single parents because they are widowed. I have never had a first hand experience with having a single parent family but my friend’s mom is a single parent. She became a single parent because her husband passed away. From seeing his family, I have noticed that there is a lot of fighting that goes on caused by the stress of the mother and the short term anger of her children. The mother is also stressed with finances because now, as a single mother, she does not have the income of the father. Even though she gets money from the state, it is not as much as the father use to make himself, so she still has to work harder to support her family. Conflict: Many single-parent households are female-headed, their economic burden is much greater than that of a single-father family. This issue results from the fact that single women typically do not earn the same income as a single man. There is a consequent economic struggle not experienced in the single-father household. Single mothers often must work overtime shifts to compensate for the low salaries, thus taking time away from their children and other domestic chores. This results in a child that is home alone, without adult supervision, or placed in a daycare service for up to 8-10 hours per day. Government subsidized daycare is not yet a realized dream, and many single mothers pay large fees for this service. ● ● ● ● ● ● ● Visitation and custody problems Problems fighting over child between parents The effects of continuing conflict between the parents Less opportunity for parents and children to spend time together Effects of the breakup on children's school performance and peer relations Disruptions of extended family relationships Problems caused by the parents' dating and entering new relationships Function: Life in a single parent household is very common but can be quite stressful for the adult and the children. Members may unrealistically expect that the family can function like a two-parent family, and may feel that something is wrong when it can not. The single parent may feel overwhelmed by the responsibility of juggling caring for the children, maintaining a job, and keeping up with the bills and household chores. And typically, the family's finances and resources are drastically reduced following the parents' breakup. To function as a family, single parenting building families involves fostering relationships and establishing bonds, trust, honesty, disciplines, roles and responsibilities of each family member. A single parent has to function as a two parent home but only with one parent but the same responsibilities. Symbolic Interaction: There is not really a physical symbol like a wedding ring for a single parent. There is no way to know if someone is a single parent unless you know the family personally. The only symbols recognized are the legal papers that show why there is single parent in a family or the legal papers stating the custody agreement for the child between parents.