Universal Human Value Dorji Thinlay Chief Investigation Officer Anti-corruption commission Thimphu Bhutan ACC Delegation, Maldives & Timor-Leste, 10 - 15 July, 2011 5th www.acc.org.bt Nation’s Conscience Lead by Example If you Care, You will Dare Exercise on Team Work X O X O X O X O X Brain teaser Conscious invoker Objective - Score Maximum points. Each straight line scores 5 points. You get 30 seconds, (you need only 15 seconds) Team Work: Competitive Points = 5 X O X O X O X O X Team Work: Competitive Points = 5 O X X X O O X O O Team Work: Self endeavour X O X X O X X O X Points = 15 Team Work Excellence X X X X X X X X X Points = 15 + 15 = 30 Team Work: Supportive Excellence O O O O O O O O O Points = 15 + 15 = 30 Scores, how many scored: 1. Zero = We talk about Team Work. 2. Five = 3. Ten = Do we pause for a minute, analyze and think how one could contribute? 4. Fifteen = 5. Thirty = 6. Any other = What is this so called ’Human Value’? Human Conduct or Behaviour based on one’s Natural Acceptance verified on one’s Own Right What is this Natural Acceptance? Natural Acceptance is :- Innate Self - Inner self - Natural Self (coming from heart) - Un-corrupt Self Desire We want to be happy State of Being Are we happy? We want to be prosperous Are we prosperous? We want the continuity of happiness and prosperity Is there continuity of our happiness and prosperity? What is the Ultimate Goal (desire) as a Human Being? Happiness is being in Harmony Disharmony or Contradiction means (brings) = Unhappiness Prosperity is Feeling of having more than required Physical Facilities. Then the feeling of not having more than required Physical Facility = Deprivation. Ingredient for Happiness Prosperity Living in Harmony with: 1. Self 2. Other Self 3. Family 4. Society 5. Nature 6. Universe Right Feeling of having more than required Physical Facilities. Correct assessment of need for Physical Facilities. Right Understanding Understanding Ingredient for Happiness Prosperity Living in Harmony with: Feeling of having more than required Physical Facilities. 1. Self 2. Other Self 3. Family 4. Society 5. Nature For continuous Continuous 6. Universe happiness Right & prosperity Understanding Society Family More important Process of Self dialogue within SELF Other self Self Self Nature Universe Self Who is the biggest stranger to you? Yourself Therefore,…. Self Dialogue within SELF How much do How Much??? we understand self? Self Right Understanding is deficient Conclusion drawn based on: 1. Pre-conditioning 2. Assumption Priority: Right Understanding of Relationship & Physical Facility 1 2 Feelings - Trust - Respect -… RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self RELATIONSHIP with human beings 3 PHYSICAL FACILITY with rest of nature MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY Priority: Physical Facility ? RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self ? RELATIONSHIP with human beings 1 PHYSICAL FACILITY with rest of nature UNHAPPINESS (Mutual) DEPRIVATION (Mutual) Conflict, fight, war Exploitation, corruption 9 Feelings in relationship: 1- Trust FOUNDATION VALUE 2- Respect 3- Affection 4- Care 5- Guidance 6- Reverence 7- Glory 8- Gratitude 9- Love COMPLETE VALUE Trust = = to be assured to have the clarity that the other wants to make me happy & prosperous When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the other Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & prosperity Evaluating Trust – Between 2 Individuals Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance Verify on the basis of your competence 1b. I am able to make myself 1a. I want to make myself √ always happy ? happy 2a. I want to make the other 2b. I am able to make the other √ happy always happy ? 3a. The other wants to make √ 3b. The other is able to make herself/himself happy herself/himself always happy? 4a. The other wants to make 4b. The other is able to make me ? me happy always happy ?? Intention – Natural Acceptance Competence What is Naturally Acceptable to Me What I am (∑ D, T, E) About the Other About Myself The other broke a glass The glass broke by accident The other makes mistakes intentionally I make mistakes by accident The other intended to break the glass – The other is a bad person Even if I make the same mistake 100 times, I never doubt my intention – I always feel I am a good person I evaluate my self on my intention (2a) ... I conclude “I am good” I evaluate the other on his competence (4b) ... I conclude “the other is bad” I conclude about the intention of the other on the basis of his competence ... I doubt his intention Irritation, anger, condemning the other are indications of doubt on intention Doubt on intention is a major reason for problems in relationships When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the other Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & prosperity Check within yourself How many persons do you have trust on intention (natural acceptance) – unconditional, continuous? If you have unconditional, continuous trust on intention (natural acceptance) of the other and if the other is lacking competence, what will you do: a) b) c) d) Try to improve his competence If Trust on Intention Get irritated Get angry If Doubt on Intention Have a feeling of opposition This is fundamental. Trust on intention is the foundation of relationship Respect Respect = Right Evaluation Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is Otherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect Disrespect Respect: Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I) 1. Purpose 2. Our purpose is similar (on the basis of Natural Acceptance) Program 3. I want to live with continuous happiness & prosperity The other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperity My program is to understand and to live in harmony at all levels The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all levels Our program is similar Potential Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in me. I am endowed with Natural Acceptance Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in the other. The other is also endowed with Natural Acceptance Our potential is similar make him understand I am committed to facilitate feel related Do Doubt not his doubt Competency Intention The Other is Similar to Me Feeling: understanding in the other Differentiation Differentiation Body Age Gender Physical Facility Race Physical Strength Wealth Post Beliefs Isms Sects Info Differentiation = Disrespect Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition… Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facility or Beliefs (preconditioning) turns out to be differentiation and therefore disrespect Self Confidence, Ego & Depression Over Evaluation Under / Otherwise Right Evaluation Evaluation Self Confidence Ego Depression I am self referential The other is my reference The other is my referenc Definite Conduct Indefinite Conduct Indefinite Conduct Check within Yourself! The unhappiness in your family is More due to lack of physical facility or More due to lack of fulfillment in relationship? How much time and effort are you investing: For physical facility For fulfillment in relationship The unhappiness is more due to lack of fulfillment in relationship Most of the time and effort is spent for physical facility Therefore we can observe two categories of human beings 1. 2. Lacking physical facility, unhappy deprived Having physical facility, unhappy deprived Affection The feeling of being related to the other (acceptance of the other as one’s relative) One naturally feels related to the other when one has the feelings of Trust and Respect in oneself for the other Absence of Affection = Opposition, Jealousy Care Guidance Feeling of responsibility toward the body of my relative Feeling of responsibility toward the self(I) of my relative The responsibility & commitment for nurturing and protecting the Body of my relative The responsibility & commitment for ensuring Right Understanding and Right Feeling in the self(I) of my relative Care & Guidance naturally follow Affection Reverence The feeling of acceptance for Excellence Excellence Understanding Harmony & Living in Harmony at all 4 levels 1. In the Self, as an Individual 2. In Family 3. In Society 4. In Nature/Existence The other is like me – I Trust, respect, care and guide….. Excellence and competition are not similar. In excellence, one helps to bring the other to his level In competition, he hinders the other from reaching to his level Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you want to be related to: None X The feeling of being related to none – in opposition to all One The feeling of being related to one √ Affection The feeling of being related to many Many √ Everyone Love √ The feeling of being related to all Affection – The feeling of being related to the other (acceptance of the other as one’s relative) Love – The feeling of being related to all (Complete Value) Program for Continuous Happiness To understand the Harmony at all levels of our Being 1. 2. 3. 4. Harmony in the Human Being Harmony in the Family Harmony in the Society Harmony in Nature/Existence Scope of Understanding To live in Harmony at all levels of our Being 1. 2. 3. 4. As an Individual In Family In Society In Nature/Existence Scope of Living Right Understanding 1 RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self Understanding Harmony: -Harmony in the at Individual Living in Harmony all 4 levels: -Harmony in Family -Individual Living in Harmony at 2 RELATIONSH 3 PHYSICAL all 4 levels: -Harmony in Society -Family MUTUAL HAPPINESS FACILITY - Individual IP with -Harmony in -Society - Family human with rest of MUTUAL PROSPERITY - Society Nature/Existence -Nature/Existence beings nature - Nature/Existence Living with Human Consciousness MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY Let’sIt Living with Human Consciousness onlyLet’s takes Let’s live Right live Prosperously Happily Understanding