THE HOLY BIBLE ON
HOLY MATRIMONY
INCLUDING SIX PRINCIPLES
FOR A STRONG MARRIAGE.
“Except The Lord build the house,
they labor in vain that build it.”
ARTHUR DURNAN MINISTRIES OF CANADA
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The 2nd. Most Important Decision
You’ll Ever Have to Make....
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1. The Most Important Decision Of All For You:
YOUR PERSONAL DECISION
FOR THE LORD JESUS CHRIST, John 3:16;
and your 2nd. Most Important
decision of all time is:
2. WHOM SHALL I MARRY?
WILL I MARRY IN THE WILL OF CHRIST,
OR OUTSIDE THE WILL OF MY LORD?
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AND BE VERY CAREFUL
IN YOUR “SELECTION PROCESS”...
DO YOU ASK ME WHY?
 Because once you have given
 your heart and your emotions to
 someone, you’ll be very surprised
 at how difficult it is to have the
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desire to take them back –
even if you know you should!
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WHAT I’M SAYING IS SIMPLY THIS:
True love is not “just a game we play”....
 True love is not “a social quiz” we take....
 True love is not simply “just another emotion”
we all tend to “fall into as human beings”...
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LOVE AND MARRIAGE IS OF GOD Wherein a man and a woman live no longer
for only self, but for the other person......
and most importantly, serving the Lord God
and His glorious Kingdom on earth!
AND THAT “RAISES THE STAKES” CONSIDERABLY!
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Yes, I know they say
“Love is blind” but does it also have to be
DEAF, DUMB & STUPID?
PLEASE HEAR ME...
SINCE JESUS KNEW THE INTENT OF GOD
IN GIVING THE LAW TO MOSES IN THE FIRST PLACE,
SURELY JESUS CAN BE TRUSTED TO LEAD YOU
AND TO RESOLVE ANY DISPUTES...
AND HE DOES!
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THE OLD WAG WHO ONCE SAID:
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“IF YOU WANT YOUR SPOUSE TO
LISTEN AND PAY STRICT ATTENTION
TO EVERYTHING YOU SAY,
TALK IN YOUR SLEEP !”
...HAS MISERABLY FAILED TO
START AT “GROUND ZERO” WITH
GOD & HIS HOLY BOOK ON
THE PRINCIPLES OF JOYFUL UNION!
DO YOU KNOW HOW TO SAFEGUARD YOUR MARRIAGE?
According to Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg:
WE MUST MEET OUR SPOUSE’S AGAPE-LOVE NEEDS
IN ACCORDANCE WITH 1 JOHN 4:11,12 . . .
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“Since God loved us that much, we surely
ought to love each other; No one has ever
seen God. But if we love each other, God
lives in us, and His love has been brought
to full expression through us.”
1 JOHN 4: 11,12. The Book.
THIS IS GOD’S STANDARD TO LIVE BY
IN HOLY MATRIMONY....
and at all times!
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MEETING YOUR SPOUSE’S
AGAPE-LOVE NEEDS IS PERHAPS
THE MOST VITAL RESPONSIBILITY
YOU HAVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE…
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FOR SEVERAL CLEAR-CUT REASONS –
1. Meeting your spouse’s Agape-Love needs
is a matter of keeping your marital vows!
2. It’s precisely what the Lord calls you to do!
3. Meeting his/her Agape-Love needs will
result in a wonderful Spirit-filled marriage!
4. But neglecting to meet those Love needs
could cost you your very marriage!
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HERE ARE THOSE FIVE
AGAPE-LOVE NEEDS:
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FIRST, RE THE HUSBAND –
1. Unconditional love and acceptance, regardless – Matt.19:5,6,
“I will stay with you no matter what. I’ll always love you”;
2. Sexual intimacy – Ephesians 5:28,29; Genesis 2:25,
Men are “wired” differently by God’s design; part of maleness;
3. Loving companionship, ie, your best friend! – Ephesians 5:31,
Friendship involves trust, honesty and yes, vulnerability! ;
4. Encouragement and Affirmation – Proverbs 5:18; Eccles.9:9,
We need to know we’re special. Someone “roots” for you!;
5. Spiritual intimacy, ie grow in Christ together – Joshua 24:15,
Spiritual connection for leadership & a strong faith.
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THEN THE 5 AGAPE-LOVE NEEDS
FOR YOUR PRECIOUS WIFE :
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SECOND, FOR THE WIFE –
1. Unconditional love and acceptance – Eph. 5:25,28,
This love provides climate of safety & security, regardless!;
2. Emotional Intimacy & Communication – “intimacy” in Latin is
“innermost”. Men spell intimacy as only s-e-x-u-a-l intimacy,
but women think emotional connection & communication;
IE, first, the inner thots, feelings, spirit, and the true self.
3. Spiritual Intimacy – Eph. 4:15; 1 Pet. 2:2,3; 3: 7,8,
From the woman’s perspective, this involves joint-growth in
Jesus, and communication (and leadership) re spiritual
matters in the home and in life.
4 & 5 NEXT SLIDE . . . .
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AGAPE-LOVE NEEDS 4 & 5
FOR YOUR PRECIOUS WIFE:
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4. Encouragement & Affirmation - ! Pet. 3:7, “giving honor unto”,
Your wife has a larger-than-life need for you to declare that
she’s the most important person in your life (after God)....
A simple word or act of encouragement can be a real
turning-point in the vicissitudes of life.
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5. Companionship – Ephesians 5:29b, - “nourish & cherish....
even as the Lord the Church.”
And S.of S. 2:10-13,
“Rise up, my love, and come away...”
An intense friendship with your wife will strengthen the
marriage bond & help to support other marital areas.
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AND THOSE 6 PRINCIPLES
FOR A STRONG MARRIAGE:
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1. Decide To Love - LOVE IS A COMMITMENT!
1 JOHN 4: 7,8; and EPHESIANS 5 :25.
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2. Put Your Spouse First –
NOT SELF!
EPHESIANS 5: 28; and 1 CORINTHIANS 7: 33,34.
3. Submit To One Another – EPH. 5: 21.
 4. Treat The Other With Respect EPH 4:29
 5. Try To Understand Him/Her ROM. 12:10.
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GIVE YOUR SPOUSE YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.
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6. Give Your Marriage A Full 100% COL. 3:23 – “DO IT HEARTILY, AS UNTO THE LORD”.
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Christian
Holy Matrimony
is of GOD.
With God, JOY.
Without God,
Disaster.
Marriage
cannot succeed
without the LORD.
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Here’s A Prayer for
Every Marriage Today 
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“DEAR LORD JESUS, HELP US TO REMEMBER
WHEN WE FIRST MET AND THE STRONG LOVE
THAT GREW BETWEEN US. HELP US TO WORK
THAT LOVE INTO PRACTICAL THINGS SO THAT
NOTHING CAN DIVIDE US. WE ASK FOR WORDS
BOTH KIND AND LOVING, AND FOR HEARTS
ALWAYS READY TO ASK FORGIVENESS AS
WELL AS TO FORGIVE. DEAR LORD, WE PUT
OUR MARRIAGE INTO YOUR HANDS, AMEN.”
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And Now My Sermon Outline:
THE MIRACLE OF MARRIAGE
Or, The Holy Bible On Holy Matrimony.
 1. Marriage is a DIVINE INSTITUTION
MATTHEW 19: 6.
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2. Marriage is a DIVINE ACT
GENESIS 2: 22,23.
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3. Marriage is a DIVINE SAFEGUARD
NUMBERS 36: 6; 2 CORINTHIANS 6: 14.
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4. Marriage is a DIVINE PROHIBITION
MATTHEW 19: 6; ROMAN 7: 2,3; 1 CORINTHIANS 7: 10,11
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5. Marriage is a DIVINE PLAN
EPHESIANS 5: 25; 1 TIMOTHY 5: 8; 1 PETER 3: 7.