10 Habits of Highly Effective People With Karen Harrison K. Harrison & Associates There has been an alarming increase in the number of things I know nothing about! The greatest revolution in our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. William James We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act but a habit. Aristotle 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 1: They are proactive Choice not chance determines destiny Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity Elmer Letterman “I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” Elizabeth Kúbler-Ross, B. 1926 Reactive Language There’s nothing I can do. That’s just the way I am. He makes me so mad. They won’t allow that. I have to do that. I can’t. I must. I should. If only. Proactive Language Let’s look at our alternatives. I can choose a different approach. I control my own feelings. I can create an effective presentation. I will choose an appropriate response. I choose. I prefer. I will. 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 2: They set goals and put thought into action. Ready Fire Aim Have you ever noticed that what tires us most in life is never what we’re doing, but the thought of what we haven’t done yet? 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 3: They creatively visualize. 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 4: They often stretch their comfort zones. Comfort Zone Set Point RISK “You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore” “If I had to live my life over again, I’d dare to make more mistakes next time.” Nadine Stair “A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.” Walter Gagehot “It is easier to get forgiveness than it is to secure permission.” Jesuit principle 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 5: They have high self-concept & self-esteem. It is not what you are that holds you back – it’s what you think you are not. 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 6: They engage in positive self-talk. 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 7: They surround themselves with winners and are a positive force for others. The greatest need of every human being is the need for APPRECIATION. Adapted from William James “A pat on the back is only a few vertebrae from a kick in the pants, but miles ahead in results.” V. Wilcox Five Deposits and Five Withdrawals • • • • Kindness vs. Unkindness Keeping promises vs. Breaking promises Loyalty vs. Duplicity Apologies vs. Pride When you’re a positive force, it comes back and pays dividends. What goes around, comes around. 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 8: They have an abundance mentality. The Abundance Mentality results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives and creativity. Steven Covey 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 9: They are focused and persistent. IT IS OKAY TO FAIL; IT IS NOT OKAY TO GIVE UP! 10 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 10: They maintain a balanced lifestyle and have a sense of humour. Work vs. Play Hours Worked 20% Leisure Time 32% 1975 2000 Rules for Guaranteed Stress Generation 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Be a perfectionist – never compromise Harbour inflexible idealism. Never delegate. Be sure to please everyone Always say “YES”. Never take time for yourself. Motto: “Everyone else comes first”. Get emotionally involved in everything you do. Never make mistakes. Do not rest until you are done! Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff It’s All Small Stuff. Change is an inside job. Before I came here I was confused about this subject. Having listened to your presentation,I am still confused but at a higher level. Enrico Ferme Nobel Prize Laureate Personal Mission Statement: “I want to be the kind of person my dog already thinks I am.”