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“The Bucket List” ]
Building an
“affair-proof”
marriage
A presentation by
Rolan & Weng Monje
Roy & Gina Soriano
Outline
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Four scriptures
Two principles
Three practical directions
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Main passages
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1Co 7:1-3 Now for the matters you
wrote about: It is good for a man
not to marry. But since there is so
much immorality, each man should
have his own wife, and each woman
her own husband.
The husband should fulfill his
marital duty to his wife, and
likewise the wife to her husband.
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Main passages
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Heb 13:4 Give honor to marriage,
and remain faithful to one another
in marriage. God will surely judge
people who are immoral and those
who commit adultery.
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Principles
1 “Exclusive ownership”
• 2 “Divine order”
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Principles
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1 “Exclusive ownership”
You belong exclusively to each
other and no one else
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WHAT IS AN AFFAIR?
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Principles
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2 “Divine order”
Your love and loyalty are
expected in the order:
God, spouse, children/family,
others
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How do affairs start?
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Seldom planned or foreseen
Mutual needs not met
Unguarded talks/texts/chats
Little or no accountability
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Top 3 attitudes that lead to affairs
1 Anger
• 2 Pride
• 3 Dishonesty
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The effects of adultery
 The marriage will never be the same
 The kids go through incredible pain
 In-laws are gravely affected
 Friends are distraught and/or divided
 The couple’s testimony is weakened
 The church suffers in its witness
 Christianity is dealt a shameful blow
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Col 4:5 NIV Be wise in the way you act toward
outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.
Eph 5:15 NLT So be careful how you live, not as
fools but as those who are wise. Make the most of
every opportunity for doing good in these evil days.
Don’t act thoughtlessly, but try to understand what
the Lord wants you to do.
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Practicals: Loving
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Pray for your spouse
Express their love language/s
Wag magtipid ng “I ♥ U”
Avoid comparisons
Lift up privately & publicly
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Practicals: Guarding
 Wear
your ring
 Better to be boring than a ‘player
 Talk about your spouse
 Keep tokens/pictures
 Let him/her know where you are
 No ‘private matters’
 Dress modestly
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Pasig men’s survey (2008)
Practicals: Creating
Weekly dates
 Double dates
 Physical time
 Special time away
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Building up to ‘ideal love’
(motivation for staying together)
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Walang ibang mapupuntahan
Nothing better
“Nakakahiya”
“Kawawa kasi mga bata”
Maybe it will get better
We like each other
We truly love each other
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Principles
1 “Exclusive ownership”
• 2 “Divine order”
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Practicals
☺ Loving
☺ Guarding
☺ Creating
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Let us BUILD affair-proof marriages that
will glorify God and inspire romance in the
Pasig ministry!
Building an
“affair-proof”
marriage
A presentation by
Rolan & Weng Monje
Roy & Gina Soriano