Self Esteem and Your Athletes
By Joe Richer, CAA
WIAA Coaches School
Yakima, Wa.
2011
The camaraderie of teamwork.
Listen
Listening
“Being listened to is so close to
being loved that some people
cannot tell the difference”.
David Oxford
• “Coaching is a profession
of love. You can’t coach
people unless you love
them.”
• Eddie Robinson
• Grambling University
• 400+ Wins
Coach/Role Model
“Who you are speaks
so loudly, I can’t hear
what you are saying.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
• “We are what we repeatedly
do. Excellence, then, is not an
act but a habit.”
• Aristotle
Nathaniel Branden
• “How we feel about ourselves crucially affects
virtually every aspect of our experience, from
the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to
the way we operate as parents, to how high in
life we are likely to rise.”
• “I cannot think of a single psychological
problem that is not traceable to a poor selfconcept.”
Nathaniel Braden
• Six Pillars of Self
Esteem
• “The Man in the Glass!!”
Self Esteem
• What it’s not!
– It’s not a sometime thing, it’s all the time.
– It’s not bragging (Today’s peacock, curl in the tail)
– It’s not an illusion or an hallucination
– It is not the euphoria or buoyancy that may be
temporarily induced by a drug, a compliment or a
love affair
– It is not empty praise that bears no relationship to
the athletes actual accomplishments.
Self Esteem
What it’s not: (cont)
• - It is not being good looking, wealthy, or
having many friends. Many of these people
cannot get through a single day without drugs.
• - It is not 12 hugs a day at school. Kid still has
to go home. Gets a false sense.
• - Nothing bothers you if you have high self
esteem.
• 1900 – 90% of grandchildren lived with or in
the neighborhood of grandparents
• 1940 – 70%
• Today – Less than 10%
• The “Gran Torino” granddaughter.
SELF ESTEEM
What is it?
80%
1st Grade
20%
th
5
5%
Seniors
Grade
Genevieve Karen Richer!?
Peta Lyn Eriksen
Self Concept and Self Esteem
SELF CONCEPT
SELF ESTEEM
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• Global definition
of all self
concepts
Coach
Teacher
Parent
Church member
Relationships
Athlete
Spouse
DEFINITION
• “the disposition to experience
oneself as competent to cope
with life’s challenges and being
worthy of happiness.”
• Nathaniel Branden
The thrill of
victory!
You lose.
Laughing
•Poker Chip Theory
• Relationships
• Classroom
• Athletic Venue
Holistic Model of Self Esteem
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Thought
Intuition
Imagination
Body
Emotions
The Will
Higher Self
Thoughts
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50,000 Thoughts a Day
Do you talk to yourself?
Negative thought patterns must be changed
Affirmations
Don’t
Burying “Can’t”
The Body
• Self Acceptance
• Mirror Exercise
• “Whatever my defects or imperfections, I
accept myself unreservedly and completely.”
• (Accepting does not mean liking-a fact is a
fact).
• “As a man thinketh, so is he.”
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Bible
• “Whether you think you
can or think you can’t,
you’re right.”
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Henry Ford
•Kineseology
Exercise
• Lee Iacoca story
•The Skyscraper
Fantasy
•False
•Experiences
•Appearing
•Real
E+R=O
• Lemons/Lemonade
• Martha Stewart
• Amputees
• Jesse Owens
GOAL SETTING
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Conceivable
Believable
Achievable
Controlable
Measureable
Desirable
Stated with No Alternative
Growth Facilitating
Thank You
• Joe.richer@daktronics.com