How to be Sexcessful:
A Dialogue About Consent
Developed at University of San Francisco
What we’ll cover
• What is Sexual Consent?
• Getting and Giving Consent
• Recognizing and Responding to Sexual Assault
Ground Rules
• Please participate
• Respect the presenter
• No texting
• No talking
• No facebook
• Respect your peers
• Listen intently
• Applaud their courage
• Keep their stories private
Things to Think About
Please take a few minutes to write quick
answers (1-2 sentences each) to the
questions on the handout.
What is Consent?
What is Consent
How would you define consent?
Provide an example to illustrate a case of clear consent?
Sexual consent is a freely given
agreement to engage in sexual activity.
Barriers to Consent
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Unconscious
Frightened
Intimidated
Substantially impaired because of a psychological health
condition
Impaired because of voluntary intoxication
Impaired because of the deceptive administering of any
drug, intoxicant or controlled substance
Absence of ‘yes’ not the absence of ‘no’
Getting and Giving Consent
If you can’t talk about sex, you
shouldn’t be having any.
Sexcessful Communication
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Think about your own wishes and limitations (before not
after you get involved).
Think about appropriate and sensitive sexual advances.
Interpret sexual advance responses. (Consider Verbal Cues
v. Non-verbal Cues.)
Respond accordingly and with respect--everyone deserves
this.
Asking for Consent
What are some ways you could ask for
consent?
Setting Limits Sets You Free
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No sets limits
No defines who we are
No is integrity
No is a clear choice
No is finding YOUR voice
Saying No
What are some phrases you could use to
tell someone “no”?
Everyone is (NOT) Having Sex
No sexual partners in the past 12 months.
30%
One sexual partner
45%
Identifying and Responding to
Sexual Assault
Reflection Question
How common are rape and sexual assault?
1 in 5 women will experience attempted or
completed sexual assault while in college.
What is Sexual Assault
Sexual assault is any sexual contact
without consent.
For survivors
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Go to a safe place
Know it is not your fault
Seek medical attention
Get a forensic exam
Preserve evidence
• Do not: bathe, change your clothes, brush
your teeth, comb your hair, clean the
crime scene.
For survivors
• Everyone reacts differently
• It’s okay to feel a variety of emotions.
• Don’t question or worry about how you
handled the situation
• You do not need to hide the assault
• Remember it’s not your fault
Activity