What is a Habit?
 Habits are patterns of
behaviour composed
of 3 overlapping
components:
-Knowledge
-Desire
-Skill
Knowledge
Skills
Desire
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers
Habit
Habit
Habit
Habit
Habit
1:
2:
3:
4:
5:
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Put Important things First
Think Win-Win
Seek First to Understand, then to Be
Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
The 7 Habits of Highly Defective Teenagers
Habit
Habit
Habit
Habit
Habit
Habit
Habit
1:
2:
3:
4:
5:
6:
7:
React
Begin with no End in Mind
Put Important things Last
Think Win-Lose
Seek First to Talk, then Pretend to Listen
Don’t Cooperate
Wear yourself Out
Paradigm
The way you see something, your point of view,
frame of reference, or belief.
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A paradigm shift is a way of looking at
something differently.
We all assume that the way we see things is
the way they really are or should be.
Ex: People used to think the Earth was flat.
Magellan proved the Earth is round.
Two battleships assigned to the training
squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy
weather for several days.
I was serving on the lead battleship and was on
watch on the bridge as night fell. Shortly after
dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge
reported, “light, bearing on the starboard bow.”
“Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain said.
Lookout replied, “Steady captain,” which meant
we were on a collision course.
The captain called to the signalman, “Signal
that ship: We are on a collision course, I
advise you to change course 20 degrees.”
Back came the reply, “It is advisable for you to
change course 20 degrees.”
The captain said, “I’m a captain, change course
20 degrees.”
“I am a seaman second class” came the reply.
“You had better change course 20 degrees.”
By that time, the captain was furious. He spat
out, “I’m a battleship. Change course 20
degrees.”
Back came the reply, “I’m a lighthouse.”
We changed course.
a) Focus on the positive
b) Act, don’t React
c) Think before you speak
d) You can’t control others, you can only
control yourself
e) Push the pause button
f) Focus on solutions and options, not problems
and barriers
“It’s not my fault”
 “If only”
 “It wasn’t me”
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Note: Proactive people take responsibilities
for their successes and failures.
Reactive choices
vs
Proactive choices
a) Tell someone off.
Forgive the person.
b) Spread rumors about
a person.
Ignore and give the
person a 2nd chance.
c) Start a fight.
Calmly share how
you feel.
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Control your own destiny or someone else will.
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Things which matter most must never be at
the mercy of things which matter least.
ex: Exams, family crisis are more important or
urgent than peer pressure, shopping, texting.
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Have an everyone can win attitude.
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Communication solves problems.
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Listen to people sincerely.
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Before you can walk in another’s shoes, you
must first walk in your own.
Listening styles
Poor
Positive
a) Pretend listening
Listen with your eyes
and heart
b) Self-centered listening
(judging, advising)
Stand in the other
person’s shoes
a) Open-mindedness.
b) Teamwork.
c) New ways to do things.
d) Work together to achieve more.
e) Celebrate differences. (A fruit salad is delicious
precisely because each fruit maintains its own
flavour).
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Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement
in:
a) your heart
b) your body
c) your brain
d) your soul