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11句话教你如何安慰伤心的人
11 words teach you how to comfort the sad person
You know that mildly panicked feeling you get when you found out your friend’s
mother just died and you really don’t know what to say?
Breathe. It will be okay.
1. Not so good – “God will never give you more than you can handle.”
Better – “This must be so hard for you.”
2. Not so good – “I’m sure it’s all for the best.”
Better – “It’s hard to understand why these things happen.”
3. Not so good – Saying nothing at all.
Better – “I’m not sure what to say but I want you to know I’m here for you.”
4. Not so good – “He’s in a better place” or “Just be happy he isn’t in pain
anymore.”
Better – “You must miss him terribly.”
5. Not so good – “I know exactly how you feel.”
Better – “I can’t begin to understand how you feel”
6. Not so good – “You’ll feel better soon.”
Better – “I’ll be here for as long as you need me.”
7. Not so good – “You should _________.”
Better – “Do what you need to do to grieve – I’ll support you however I can”
8. Not so good – “She wouldn’t have wanted you to be sad.”
Better – “I can see that you are really sad and miss her so much.”
9. Not so good – “Just stay busy and you’ll be okay.”
Better – “When I was grieving, staying busy was helpful for me, but that may or
may not be what works best for you.”
10. Not so good – “It’s time for you to get yourself together.”
Better – “It looks like this is a rough day for you. How about if I bring some dinner
over at 6:00?”
11. Not so good – “Let me know if I can help.”
Better – “I think it’s garbage day. Is it okay if I take your garbage out for you?”
Stick with the “better” things to say to your grieving friend and you’ll not only feel
good yourself, but you’ll help her heal as well.
你有没有过这样惊慌的经历：你好友突然遭受了不幸的事，她正沉浸在撕
心裂肺的痛苦之中，你却不知道如何去安慰她？
深呼吸，你能行的。
1.不要说：“上帝不会让你承受更多苦难。”不如说：“我知道你肯定非
常难受。”
2.不要说：“我想这一切可能是最好的结果。”不如说：“真不知道为什
么会发生这样的事情。”
3.不要：什么都不说。不如说：“我不知道该说些什么，你只要知道我一
直都在你身边。”
4.不要说：“他去了更好的地方” 或 “开心点，他不再痛苦了。”不如说
：“你肯定十分想念他。”
5.不要说：“我完全知道你的感受。”不如说：“我没法真正体会你现在
的感受。”
6.不要说：“你马上就会好的。”不如说：“只要你需要我，我就会一直
在这里。”
7.不要说：“你应该......”不如说：“用你自己的方式去哀悼，我会尽我所
能支持你。”
8.不要说：“她也不愿意看到你这么伤心。”不如说：“我知道你很难过
，也十分想念她。”
9.不要说：“让自己忙起来，你马上就好起来了。”不如说：“当我难过
的时候，让自己忙起来是个好办法，但是我不知道对你是否适用。”
10.不要说：“是时候让自己振作起来了。”不如说：“我知道你今天过得
很痛苦，我晚上6点给你带点晚饭过来吧？”
11.不要说：“如果需要我帮忙就说。”不如说：“今天是扔垃圾的日子，
我帮你把垃圾倒了吧。”
记住那些应该说的话，去安慰你悲痛中的朋友，不仅你自己会感觉更好，
你也会帮助她走出伤痛。
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Resources and strategy for quickly to learn a foreign language
The Basic Strategy Of Rapid Language Learning
Learning a language can seem daunting, so I’m going to provide an overview of the general
strategy, before we get into the specifics.
快速学外语资源及攻略
快速语言学习的基本策略
学习一门语言似乎让人畏惧，所以我们先来看看基本策略，然后
再详细说明。
1. Get the right resources for learning: A grammar book, memorization software, and
films/books.
2. Get a private tutor. You want one for at least a month. I recommend four hours/day.
3. Attempt to speak and think only in the new language. Every time you can’t remember a
word, put that word into your memorization software. Practice your vocabulary daily.
4. Find friends, language partners, and other speakers of the language. Once you can have
basic conversations with your private tutor, you need to find other partners. If you haven’t
already, think about moving to the country where the language is spoken. Consider a group
class. Practice continuously.
1.找到学习的正确资源：一本语法书，一个记忆软件，若干电影或
书籍
2.请一位私人教师。你至少需要私人教师陪练一个月时间，我建议
每天四小时。
3.试着只用这门新的语言说话和思考。每当你想不起一个单词的时
候，把那个词输入你的记忆软件。每天进行词汇练习。
4.寻找朋友、语言学习搭档或者其他说这门语言的人。一旦你可以
和私人教师进行基本会话，你就需要寻找其他的搭档。如果你还没有
准备好，考虑一下搬去说那门语言的国家。也可以参加集体授课班级
。要不停地练习。
That’s the basic strategy. Again, this strategy is intensive, because learning a language in
three months is a difficult task. If you’d prefer to learn the language more slowly or you
don’t have the ability to move to a new country and practice 4-8 hours a day, then you can
modify the plan. It is extremely important that you practice every day, however—20
minutes a day is much better than once or twice a week.
这就是基本策略。这些策略执行起来非常有强度，因为在三个月
内学会一门语言并非易事。如果你想要慢点学或者你没法搬去另一个
国家，或者你不能保证每天学习4-8小时，你也可以调整计划。最重要
的是你要每天练习，每天20分钟总比一周才练一两次要好。
学习一门语言需要的资源
The Resources You Need To Learn A Language
A good grammar book. This is essential if you want to learn a language.
A phrase book. This is similar to a dictionary, but for phrases. You can start memorizing
full sentences and phrases, and you’ll naturally learn the individual words.
An online dictionary. For most romance langauges, I recommend http://wordreference.com.
Google Translate can be useful, but it easily becomes a crutch. Use it sparingly.
A memorization app. You have to memorize vocabulary. I always put new words in my app,
and practice them every night.
一本好的语法书。如果你想要学习一门语言，这是必备的。
一本短语手册。这和字典类似，但是内容是关于短语的。你可以
从记忆完整的句子和短语开始，之后自然会学会单独的词语。
一本在线字典。对于大部分由拉丁语演变而成的语言，我推荐
wordreference网站。谷歌翻译可以很有用，但也容易产生依赖性，要
适度使用。
一款记忆应用程序。你必须要记单词。我总是把新单词输入记忆
程序，然后每晚练习。
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13 words of classic life English counsel
1.One is always on a strange road, watching strange scenery and listeningto strange music. Then
one day, you will find that the things you tryhard to forget are already gone.
2.Happiness is not about being immortal nor having food or rights inone's hand. It’s about having
each tiny wish come true, or havingsomething to eat when you are hungry or having someone's
love when youneed love.
3.Love is a lamp, while friendship is the shadow. When the lamp is off,you will find the shadow
everywhere. Friend is who can give youstrength at last.
4.I love you not for who you are, but for who I am before you.
5.Love makes man grow up or sink down.
6.If you can hold something up and put it down, it is calledweight-lifting; if you can hold
something up but can never put it down,it's called burden-bearing. Pitifully, most of people are
bearing heavyburdens when they are in love.
7.We all live in the past. We take a minute to know someone, one hour tolike someone, and one
day to love someone, but the whole life to forgetsomeone.
8.One may fall in love with many people during the lifetime. When youfinally get your own
happiness, you will understand the previoussadness is kind of treasure, which makes you better to
hold and cherishthe people you love.
9.When you are young, you may want several love experiences. But as timegoes on, you will
realize that if you really love someone, the wholelife will not be enough. You need time to know, to
forgive and to love.All this needs a very big mind.
10.When tomorrow turns in today, yesterday, and someday that no moreimportant in your
memory, we suddenly realize that we r pushed forwardby time. This is not a train in still in which
you may feel forwardwhen another train goes by. It is the truth that we've all grown up.And we
become different.
11.If you leave me, please don't comfort me because each sewing has to meet stinging pain.
12.Don’t forget the things you once you owned. Treasure the things youcan’t get. Don't give up
the things that belong to you and keep thoselost things in memory.
13.I love and am used to keeping a distance with those changed things.Only in this way can I
know what will not be abandoned by time. Forexample, when you love someone, changes are all
around. Then I stepbackward and watching it silently, then I see the true feelings.
经典生活英语谏言13句
1.一个人总要走陌生的路，看陌生的风景，听陌生的歌，然后在
某个不经意的瞬间，你会发现，原本是费尽心机想要忘记的事情
真的就那么忘记了。
2.幸福，不是长生不老，不是大鱼大肉，不是权倾朝野。幸福是
每一个微小的生活愿望达成。当你想吃的时候有得吃，想被爱的
时候有人来爱你。
3.爱情是灯，友情是影子，当灯灭了，你会发现你的周围都是影
子。朋友，是在最后可以给你力量的人。
4.我爱你不是因为你是谁，而是我在你面前可以是谁。
5.爱情，要么让人成熟，要么让人堕落。
6.举得起放得下的叫举重，举得起放不下的叫负重。可惜，大多
数人的爱情，都是负重的。
7．我们每个人都生活在各自的过去中，人们会用一分钟的时间
去认识一个人，用一小时的时间去喜欢一个人，再用一天的时间
去爱上一个人，到最后呢，却要用一辈子的时间去忘记一个人。
8．一个人一生可以爱上很多的人，等你获得真正属于你的幸福
之后，你就会明白一起的伤痛其实是一种财富，它让你学会更好
地去把握和珍惜你爱的人。
9．年轻的时候会想要谈很多次恋爱，但是随着年龄的增长，终
于领悟到爱一个人，就算用一辈子的时间，还是会嫌不够。慢慢
地去了解这个人，体谅这个人，直到爱上为止，是需要有非常宽
大的胸襟才行。
10．当明天变成了今天成为了昨天，最后成为记忆里不再重要的
某一天，我们突然发现自己在不知不觉中已被时间推着向前走，
这不是静止火车里，与相邻列车交错时，仿佛自己在前进的错觉
，而是我们真实的在成长，在这件事里成了另一个自己。
11．离开我就别安慰我，要知道每一次缝补也会遭遇穿刺的痛。
12．曾经拥有的，不要忘记。不能得到的，更要珍惜。属于自己
的，不要放弃。已经失去的，留作回忆。
13．我喜欢并习惯了对变化的东西保持着距离，这样才会知道什
么是最不会被时间抛弃的准则。比如爱一个人，充满变数，我于
是后退一步，静静的看着，直到看见真诚的感情。
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