Marriage and Family Life Sub topics • • • • • • • • Changes in family life. Key words. Christianity and sex/relationships. Islam and family sex/relationships. Christianity and Islam - divorce. Christianity and Islam- Family Life. Christianity and Islam on Homosexuality. Christianity and Islam Christianity and Islam on contraception. Most young people would not have sex until they were married. Most people would be married in a church. Most households would be a nuclear family. Homosexuality was against the law. Most people would be married by the age of 25. People would have just one or two sexual partners in a lifetime. Most people have sex before they get married. Average age for marrying has increased (31.8 for men and 29.7 for women). Only 34% of marriages took place in a church. More children More single-parent Homosexuality + reconstituted families as more couples divorce. made legal in 1967 and Civil Partnerships 2004. raised by cohabiting families (11% of all families) Why have attitudes changed? Contraception made it safer to have sex without becoming pregnant. Less people following church teaching on sex and living together Media shows cohabiting couples & sex outside marriage as normal More extended families as working mums use grandparents to look after children Celebrity couples make divorce, cohabitation + homosexuality appear more acceptable now Divorce is more acceptable, cheaper and women have equal rights and pay to men so don’t have to stay married. Divorce & single parent families more acceptable now Homosexuality made legal and homophobia illegal Key words • Remember these are worth 20% of your exam. What type of family is this? • Nuclear family? • Extended family? • Single parent family? • Same sex family? • Re-constituted family? What type of family is this? • Nuclear family? • Extended family? • Single parent family? • Same sex family? • Re-constituted family? What type of family is this? • Nuclear family? • Extended family? • Single parent family? • Same sex family? • Re-constituted family? What type of family is this? • Nuclear family? • Extended family? • Single parent family? • Same sex family? • Re-constituted family? Christianity and attitudes to sex and relationships. Here you go…I got you some SEX!!! Sex is a GIFT from God God made two of each species with the intention that they would reproduce, populate the land, and humans would act as stewards to care for all creations. Sex is for procreation. The purpose of sex is to reproduce and start a family, it was not designed for enjoyment.. Sex belongs in marriage – Christians believe you should NOT have sex until you are married because sex is for procreation. Islam and attitudes to sex and relationships. • Adultery is strongly condemned in Islam and is forbidden in The Qur’an • Shari’ah law says that adultery is punishable by death. • It breaks the marriage contract. • It is likely to harm family relations which Muslims believe are very important. • Muslims are advised to avoid circumstances that could potentially result in pre-marital sex. • Unmarried couples are warned about spending time alone in isolated places where they would be more likely to act on their feelings. • Pre-marital sex is considered a major sin. “...adultery is a shameful deed and an opening road to other evils.” Surah 17:32 “ Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty...” Surah 24:30 Maybe one could added to the modesty column?!? Divorce- Christianity and Islam The facts about divorce – True or False? • 1. Anyone can have a divorce if they ask for it • FALSE. You have to prove that your marriage has “broken down” and only a judge can grant the divorce. Reasons for Failure? Why might someone want a divorce? Why??? In your opinion, which of the following should be grounds for divorce? Place them in the diamond 9 and explain why you chose the most and least important reasons. ABUSE MENTAL ILLNESS INNABILITY TO HAVE CHILDREN PHYSICAL DISABILITY FALL OUT OF LOVE PARTNER COMMITTED A CRIME UNREASONABLE BEHAVIOUR DESERTION ADULTERY “ A man who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against his wife. In the same way, a woman who divorces her husband and marries another man, commits adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12) “…Any man who divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, commits adultery if he marries some other woman.” (Matt 19:9) “…A man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one”…”No human being then must separate what God has joined together. (Mark 10:7-9) Why has the stigma against divorce has gone? Divorce is relatively quick and inexpensive Divorce doesn’t have the negative stigma it used to People are less willing to put up with bad treatment from their partners People are less religious and do not feel so bound to their marriage vows Islam – How a divorce is done • A man has to tell his wife that he wants a divorce three times over three months • The couple can divorce and re-marry after the three month period is up • The husband has to carry on looking after his wife until she marries again, even after they are divorced Islam – What a divorce is allowed for • You can get a divorce if the husband won’t give any money to the wife • You can get a divorce if the husband is away for a long time or is put in prison Islam – What does the Qur’an say? • The Qur’an says that divorce is not a good thing • The Qur’an says that you can’t throw your wife out of your house, even if you want a divorce! Christianity, Islam and Family life Example One At baptism we promise to bring our children up in a loving Christian family Example Two At Sunday School we learn about how to get on with each other and follow Christian teachings on the family Example Three At a church school children are educated in a Christian environment Example Four We can all worship as a family at this family service and at Christmas or Easter Mother As a mother, my job is to teach my children about what is haram and what is halal Halal means allowed And Haram means not allowed Father As a father, it is my responsibility to take my sons to the Mosque Imam It is my job as an Imam to offer advice on matters of marriage and family life The Madrasah • One of the responsibilities a parent has is to send their children to the Madrasah. • This is a Islamic ‘School’ • Children go to the Madrasah on an evening after completely their state school day. They will learn how to read the Qu’ran as well as the meanings in the Qu’ran. They will also be able to have extra classes such as English and maths. Christianity and Homosexuality • Homosexuality is a grave sin and according to Shariah Law punishable by death in Islam. • It is never excepted. New New Testament - Men committed indecent Testament acts with other men and received the due penalty for their perversion. Jude 1:7- Depicts Cities that are burnt to the ground because it’s Christian inhabitants are thought to be involved in greed and homosexual acts. Therefore God uses them as a deterrent by destroying all that live there, Roman Catholic/ Pope view They advise that if you have these feelings to remain celibate (avoid sexual relationships) Roman Catholics think homosexual sex is a sin because the Bible says it is wrong. The Church of England is divided over the issue of homosexuality. Some say it is it is unnatural, abnormal and a sin. Church of England Others accept homosexuality because these relationships can be stable, loving, long-term relationships and Jesus taught the LOVE mattered the most. Islam and Christianity on Contraception. Protestants Think contraception is Acceptable because... 1. Sex allows a married couple to show love 2. 3. It controls family size It keeps the couple safe Both partners must Agree to using contraception Roman Catholics Purpose of sex is Artificial contraception is To REPRODUCE Wrong! sex is a gift from God, given in order that because... they reproduce and populate the earth They allow The Rhythm Method because... It is NATURAL Most Muslims... Think contraception is 1. Acceptable if: The woman’s health is at risk. 2. If a possible child may have a disability 3. If they cannot afford a child Muhammad... Did not forbid the use of contraception Some Muslims... Think contraception is Wrong! because... Allah has a plan for everyone so it is wrong to interfere to prevent the birth of a child They think that contraceptive techniques lead And…. to a rise in promiscuity (sleeping around freely) • Christians should never use contraception? D Part 6 Marks • Choose one religion other than Christianity and explain why some of its followers accept divorce and others do not. C Part 8 marks • Explain why most Christians are against sex outside of marriage. C Part 8 Marks. • All religious people should allow divorce. D Part 6 Marks • Explain why some Christians accept homosexuality and others don’t. C Part 8 Marks. • A religious family is a happy family. D Part Question. 6 marks. • Choose one religion other than Christianity and explain why most of its followers do not accept sex outside of marriage. C Part 78 Marks. • Contraception should be accepted by all religious people. D Part 6 Marks.