Getting By or Getting Better
“The Power of Personal Choice”
Presented by
Wayne Hulley
Getting the Results
We Deserve
See
Results
Achieved
Get
Personal
Perceptions
Tell Ourselves
A New Story
Do
Actions Taken
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Getting By or Getting Better
Getting By
Head
Compliance
Getting
Better
Head&
Heart
Commitment
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Getting Better Is A Choice
Choice, not chance, determines human destiny
Stimulus
Stimulus
Response
Choice
Response
The quality of your choices
determines your level of
RESPONSE -ABILITY
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Getting Better By Choice
Present
Situation
Response
Future
Situation
Circle of
Influence
Circle of Concern
Adapted – Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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Getting Better = Change
Is It Worth
Doing?
Change Your
Mind
Change Your
Results
Monitor and Feedback
Can I Do It?
Change Your
Behavior
Deliberate Practice
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Is It Worth Doing?
Personal Motivation – The Fire Within
To Live
To Learn
Adapted – Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
To Love
To Leave A
Legacy
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Getting Better - Can I Do It?
Focus on the
Important
Be Nice
Getting
Better
Be a Leader
Take Time
Manage
Emotions
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The Power Of Nice
1. Nice is luckier in love. Low-key, congenial people have
one-half the divorce rate – University of Toronto
2. Nice makes more money. People who are cheerful,
helpful and possess a service mindset get promoted 71%
more. Primal Leadership
3. Nice is healthier. Americans who volunteer and
provide support to others have a 60% lower premature
death rate. University of Michigan
4. Nice spends less time in court. Doctors who spent an
average of 3 minutes longer with a patient never got
sued. Malcolm Gadwell - Blink
The Power of Nice – Thaler and Koval – Doubleday - 2006
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Find Time For the Important
Others
You
Important
Not
Important
Urgent
Not Urgent
Q1
Q2
Management
Leadership
Q3
Q4
Deception
Waste
Adapted – Stephen Covey – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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Take Time
We take time on things that matter to
us.
When we take time with people to
listen, support and encourage we are
telling them we care.
Children spell love, TIME.
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Emotional Intelligence Model
What I See
What I Do
Personal
Competence
Self
Awareness
Self
Management
Social
Competence
Social
Awareness
Relationship
Management
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Getting Better By
Being a Leader
Leaders are influencers.
Influencers find strategies to
that lead to change in
themselves, others and
situations.
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Influence and Leadership
Character
Who you are
Influence
Positive
Change
Competence
What you know
and can do
Leadership
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Choosing Not To Lead
“Getting By”
Action
Choices
Negative
Situation
•Complain
•Bad Mouth
•Subvert
Result
Negative
Situation
Continues
•Join Others
•Transfer
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Choosing To Lead
“Getting Better”
Action
Choices
Negative
Situation
•Work In Your
Circle of
Influence
•Offer
Alternatives
•Implement
Incremental
Actions
Result
Opportunity
For Positive
Change
Your Ability To Influence
Who You Are
What You Can Do
Principle Based
Position/Title Based
•Integrity
•Awards
•Work Ethic
•Fame
•Treatment of Others
•Ranking
•Motives
•Wealth
•Level of Initiative
•Rare Accomplishments
•Contribution
•Compared With Others
•Discipline
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Getting Better –
Be Honest With Yourself
The B Theory
Motivation
High
Low
Bumble
Honey
Bees
Bees
Drones
S.O.B.’S
Skills
High
AND THEN SOME…these three little words are the
secret to success. Successful people always do
what is expected…and then some.
“They are thoughtful of others, they are considerate and kind…and
then some.
They meet their responsibilities fairly and squarely…and then some.
They are good friends and helpful neighbors…and then some.
They can be counted on in an emergency…and then some.
I am thankful for people like this, for they make the world a better
place.
Their spirit of service is summed up in these three little words…
And then some.” Carl Holmes
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Eight Questions A Day
1. Do I want to be right or kind?
2. Will it matter a year from now? How about 100 years from now?
3. If I had an extra hour a day what would I do with it?
How could I create an extra hour a day?
4. Is life an emergency?
5. When someone throws me the ball do I have to catch it?
6. When I die who will care?
7. Do I wrap my life around another’s weakness?
8. Do I live each day as if it were my last?
It may be!
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The Most Critical Question When
Getting Better Matters
What is it you do everyday that
makes others’ lives better?
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The Dash
D.O.B.
D.O.D.
“The Difference We Make in Our Lifetime”
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