National Service Training Program 2 Module 1: Self-Awareness and Self-Management Understanding and Cultivating Self-Awareness ACTIVITY 1: 3 Activity 1: 2 Truths and a Lie Objective To share interesting facts about ourselves while challenging others to guess the false statement. Materials Needed Gameplay Your creativity and willingness to share. In 5 minutes, think of two (2) true statements and one false statement about yourself. Share it with the class. Let them hear your 'Two Truths and a Lie' statements, and let your classmates guess which one is the lie. The first student to provide the correct answer will be the next to share their statements. Guideline Be creative and keep it appropriate. 4 LEARNING OBJECTIVES A. To understand and to give awareness to one’s behavior. B. To deeply understand the self-worth. C. To explain the self-management sequence that controls one's success and failure; and D. To analyze the different levels of self-talk that give ways to change oneself. Overview 1 What is Self-Awareness? You as a Filipino 4 5 10 You as You You and your Faith 6 Your Self-Help Concepts Self-Management Sequence 3 2 Dare to Dream, Dare to Be! 8 7 9 Level of Self-Talk The Johari Window 6 Ways to Improve Self-Awareness What is SelfAwareness? Self-awareness is defined as an awareness of one’s own personality or individuality. 8 WHAT IS SELF-AWARENESS? The term “self” often refers to yourself, myself, himself/herself, oneself, and your own self. 9 TYPES OF SELF-AWARENESS Public Self-Awareness This type emerges when people are aware of how they appear to others. Public self-awareness typically emerges in situations when people are at the center of attention. This type of self-awareness often compels people to adhere to social norms. When we are aware that we are being watched and evaluated, we often try to behave in ways that are socially acceptable and desirable. 10 TYPES OF SELF-AWARENESS Private Self-Awareness This type happens when people become aware of some aspects of themselves, but only in a private way. For example, seeing your face in the mirror is a type of private self awareness. Feeling your stomach lurch when you realize you forgot to study for an important test or feeling your heart flutter when you see someone you are attracted to are also examples of private self-awareness. Dare to Dream, Dare to be! 12 DARE TO DREAM, DARE TO BE! The following are examples of great individuals who dared to dream and dare to be: 13 Beethoven was totally deaf, yet he created musical masterpieces Our team DARE TO DREAM, DARE TO BE! Milton was blind, poor, and sick, yet he wrote Paradise Lost and Paradise Regained Helen Keller struggled to overcome her handicap to become an inspiration to both the blind and the seeing Burt Reynolds washed dishes for a living before he came a well-respected actor Abraham Lincoln failed several times in his political career, before he was elected to presidency. He even became one of the greatest US Presidents You as You 15 YOU AS YOU NOSCE TE IPSUM is Latin for “Know Thyself”. Begin to know yourself since the essential formula for achievement is self-analysis. 16 YOU AS YOU • Know the difference between your biological traits and your environmental traits • Self-awareness is an awareness of one’s personality or individuality. 17 YOU AS YOU SELF • oneself/himself/herself/myself • belonging to oneself • a person in prime condition • entire person as an individual. 18 YOU AS YOU AWARENESS • having or showing realization, perception or knowledge. • Be your own best friend and believe in yourself, so that you can become the person you want to be. • You are you and you are what you think. You are unique in your own way. Only you can control your destiny Knowledge Myself Own self Realization Perception Him/Herself Oneself Commitment Figure 1. Self Awareness And Its Relation To A Person's Holistic Development You as a Filipino • Being aware of and remaining constantly on guard against the Filipino tendency towards negativism, you can eventually propel yourself into positivism. 22 YOU AS A FILIPINO • Use your “lakas at tibay ng loob” (courage and strength) to move away from the fatalistic “gulong ng palad” (wheel of fortune) and “bahala na” (come what may) attitude. 23 YOU AS A FILIPINO • Begin by getting involved with your own life. Makialam ka sa buhay mo! Cooperate, makisama ka, by first initiating a change in yourself. 24 YOU AS A FILIPINO • Begin without expecting instant miracles. You have got only one real friend and one worst enemy and that is your self. • Believe in your abilities and work unyieldingly to reach your objective. You and Your Faith 26 • YOU AND YOUR FAITH Filipino worship is directed towards God as father-figure who takes care of all- “Bahala na ang Diyos” signifying that divine providence is responsible for our destinies. Thus, whenever a problems confront us, we tend to turn against God and blame Him for all the misfortunes. very fil xD Your SelfHelp Concept 28 Your Self-Help Concept (Morell, 1999) You may or may not be aware of the self-help or self-improvement teachings, but if you want to be more successful, you should take note of the following; Believe in yourself. Keep your priorities straight. Take responsibility for yourself. Create your own future. Focus on what you want. Learn to visualize the outcome of your goals. Never let anyone control your destiny for you. Be creative. Think big. Control stress. Be aggressive and assertive. Think positively. Chart your own course. Set specific goals and review them often. Spend some time each day improving your mind. Review your results and adjust as necessary. Be tolerant. Do everything with love. Don’t hate. Have courage. Recognize that most of what we believe about life is an illusion. Be honest. Work hard. Believe money is good and it will come to you and so on, and so fourth. Level of Self-Talk 30 Level Of Self-talk (Helmstetter & Shad, 2000) Self-talk is a way to override our past negative programming by erasing or replacing it with conscious, positive, new directions. It is a practical way to live our lives by active intent rather than by passive acceptance. Self-talk gives each of us a way to change what we would like to change, even if we have not been able to do so in the past. 31 5 LEVELS OF SELF-TALK Level 1 Level 2 Level 3 Level 4 Level 5 “I can’t…” level “I need to… / I should…” level “I never… / I no longer…” level “I am…” level “It is…” level 32 Level 1 Self-talk: I – The Level of Negative Acceptance (“I can’t…) This is the lowest, least beneficial, and most harmful level of self-talk. It is a self-talk by which you say something bad or negative about yourself, and you totally accept it. It is characterized by words, “I can’t”. It is our way of telling ourselves to hesitate, question our capabilities, and accept less than we knoe we could have done, had we only given ourselves a chance. 33 Level 2 Self-talk: II – The Level of Recognition and Need to Change (“I need to…I should…”) This level is highly attractive and tempting. On the surface, it looks as though it should work for us. But instead, it works against us. At this level, we are telling ourselves and others that we need to change. It is characterized by words such as “I need to…” or “I should…” 34 Level 3 Self-talk: III – The Level of Decision to Change (“I never…I no longer…”) This level is the first level of self-talk that works for us instead of against us. At this level, we recognize the need to change, but also, we make the decision to do something about it— and we state the decision in the present tense— as though the change has already taken place. 35 Level 4 Self-talk: IV – The Level of the Better You (“I am…”) This is the most effective kind of self-talk we can ever use. This has been used the least, but is needed the most. It is as this level that we are painting completed new picture of ourselves, the way we really wanted to be, handing it to our subconscious, and saying, “This is the me I want you to create!” It is the positive self-talk. It replaces helpless “cannot” with “yes, I can!” 36 Level 5 Self-talk: V – The Level of Universal Affirmation (“It is…”) It is the self-talk of “Oneness” with God. This level speaks of a unity in spirit, a divine and timeless cosmic affinity which transcends all worldly things and gives meaning to our being. This is the self-talk for seekers, still living among mankind, but anxious to find a greater reward. It is characterized by words like this: “I am one of the universe and it is one with me. I am fit within it, and exist as a shining spark in a firmament of divine goodness.” The SelfManagement Sequence 38 The Self-Management Sequence Life is not a matter of luck or fortune. If we leave our lives up to chance, chances are, we will fail. Success in self-management is always the result of something else, something that leads up to it. Most of what seems to happen to you, happens because of you—something you created, directed, influenced, or allowed to happen. 39 The Self-Management Sequence The Five steps that control our success or failure Behavior Feelings Attitude Beliefs Programming The Johari Window 41 The Johari Window Known to others Not known to others Known to Self Not Known to Self Open Area Blind Area Hidden Area Unknown Area 6 Ways to Improve SelfAwareness 43 6 Ways to Improve Self-Awareness Ask for Feedback Monitor your Self-Talk Recognise your Strengths & Weaknesses Practice Saying “No” Self-Reflect Question your Decisions References: Del Rosario, Ed. D. (2012). Resurreccion et. al. National Service Training Program 1. Bulacan: St. Andrew Publishing House. Lee, Sergio J. (2007). National Service Training Program: 2nd Edition. Quezon City: C & E Publishing, Inc.