Senior High School
Personal
Development
Quarter 2 Module 3:
Building and Maintaining Relationships
Personal Development – Grade 11
Alternative Delivery Mode
Quarter 2 – Module 3: Building and Maintaining Relationships
Second Edition, 2021
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Introduction
This alternative delivery module in Personal Development for the 21 st century learners
in the new normal classroom is designed to make learning more engaging and
meaningful to Senior High School learners in the flexible and blended learning
environments.
The module is aimed at the development of practical and doable strategies to help
learners gain effective personal development. The motivation behind this effort is the
recognition that learner’s behavior and personality are influenced by heredity, internal
and external environments, as well as their personal decision in the development of
who they are and what they want to become.
Subsequently, meaningful activities are given in the form of worksheets,
assignments, reflections, and online or virtual activities which allow the learners to
work at their own pace and participate in both synchronous and asynchronous
conferences and discussions.
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Senior High School
Personal
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Quarter 2 Module 3:
Building and Maintaining Relationships
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Set A
This is a 5-point Multiple Choice Test. Read and analyze each statement below and
carefully choose the letter that best describes the statement. Write the letter of the
correct answer on the space provided before the number.
_____ 1) It refers to close connection between people, formed by emotional bonds and
interactions.
A) Emotional Relationship
C) Personal Relationship
B) Social Relationship
D) Political Relationship
_____ 2) It refers to the adolescent relationship with their parents, siblings, relatives,
grandparents, and peers.
A) Emotional Relationship
C) Personal Relationship
B) Social Relationship
D) Political Relationship
_____ 3) The following are elements of a healthy relationship in the areas of
communication, except;
A) Honest with each other
C) Listen to each other
B) Keep in touch with each other D) Trust and Care with each other
_____ 4) It is considered as the basic unit in the society;
A) Family
C) Church
B) School
D) Market
_____ 5) Which of the following statements best describes a nuclear family?
A) Traditional type of family structure. It consists of two parents and
children.
B) A single parent raising his/her children
C) A family consists of two or more adults who are related with each
other by
blood living together and working towards common goals.
D) A family with
only one man and several wives in one house.
Set B. True or False Test: Write the word True if the statement is correct and the
word False if otherwise. Answers should be written on the blank before the number.
__________ 1) Values and expectations can be learned by children directly or
indirectly from their immediate social environment.
__________ 2) Parents play the vital role in teaching children necessary values like
honesty, respect, obedience, perseverance and among others.
__________ 3) Parents give their children the opportunity to make important choices
while they still have the safety net of the family.
__________ 4) Healthy relationships are enjoyable and provide opportunities for many
positive experiences that affect self-esteem.
__________5) Interactions with siblings can influence adolescents’ relationship styles
and whether they engage in delinquent behaviors.
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Lesson
7
Personal Relationships
Week 1_7 hours
Learning Objectives:
At the end of the week, it is expected that the leaners must be able to:
1]
discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the
acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions;
2]
express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and
commitment; 3] identify ways to become responsible in a relationship
Ana, a grade 11 STEM student, loves to visit the school’s multi-media and
resource center to do some research activities with classmates and friends. She
leads in group work activities and develops fair and healthy social relationships with
her schoolmates.
She can easily get along well with her seniors and teachers as well. As a matter of
fact, she was elected class president and year level representative to the school’s
supreme student council.
Ana does not only maintain a constructive relationship with her peers but also she
is a loving daughter to her parents and a good “ate” to her younger siblings. She is
also her “lola’s” favorite as she makes it a point to drop by at grandma’s house
everytime she comes home from school to bring grandma’s favorite snacks and
shares some sweet little talks.
Ana’s splendid dispositions, friendly face and beautiful smile coupled with her
pleasant attitude make her popular not only in school but also in the
neighborhood.She is an awesome little girl who is beautiful inside out.
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Answer the following questions concisely.
1) How do you describe Ana in the selection?
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2) Describe Ana’s social relationships in school, at home, and in the
neighborhood.
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3) What are Ana’s personal characteristics that made her lovable and popular?
Explain each briefly.
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4) What do you think are the benefits of developing and maintaining healthy personal
relationships with your peers, parents, and siblings? Explain each briefly.
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3
Describe your relationship with the people around you. Write description on the
designated boxes.
Parents
Grandparents & other
Adult Family Members
Siblings
Peers
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What is a Personal Relationship?
The concept of personal relationship is broad and varies from one person to
another. Others may find it unique but others may think of a degree of
connectivity particularly on the emotional aspect.
Personal Relationships, in this context, refer to a close connection between
adolescents, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. The said bonds grow
from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Personal relationships are not permanent. They develop and continually
change over time. It derives some benefits from them where we need skills,
information, inspiration, practice and social support.
Reference:https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.educ/what-do-we-meanpersonalrelationships
Creating Healthy Relationship
Healthy relationships are enjoyable, respectful and provide opportunities for many
positive experiences that affect self-esteem. Teenagers can develop healthy
relationships with anyone, including family, friends, and special someone. It takes
time, energy, and care to develop positive and healthy relationships. Relationships
made during the teenage years can become very special and may form an
important part of life.
All healthy relationships between two partners are characterized by
communication, respect, sharing, and trust. They are based on the belief that both
partners are equal and that decision making is shared equally.
Source: MyLaurier Student Portal. “Healthy Relationships. “Student Health and
Development. 2007. www.mylaurier.ca/development/info/relationships.html
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Answer the questions below concisely.
1) What is your understanding about Personal Relationships? How does it develop?
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2) What are some important characteristics of a healthy relationship from the
selection?
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3) How does healthy relationship created?
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6
Write a personal plan on how you improve your personal relationship with your
parents, grandparents, other adult family members, siblings, and your peers.
My Personal Plan
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Lesson
8
Social Relationship in Middle and Late Adolescence
Week 2_7 hours
Learning Outcomes:
At the end of the week, it is expected that the learners must be able to:
1) distinguish the various roles of different individuals in society and how they can
influence people through their leadership or followership;
2) compare one’s perception of himself/herself and how others see him/her; and,
3) conduct a mini survey on Filipino relationships (family, school, and community)
Mrs. Dela Cruz, a PerDev teacher, explains that each adult has to develop
quality social relationships with peers, family, school, and community. Said
relationship focuses around closeness, shared experiences, communication,
respect, humor, and affection.
The teacher added that to manifest closeness one has to show care, loyalty,
trust to people, shared feelings, support during trying times, shared goals,
beliefs, and recognition as well as respect for individual differences.
Further, it was emphasized by Mrs. Dela Cruz that in shared experiences, an
individual shares common interests, talks about experiences and shows respect
to other individual’s interests. One also has to be honest and listens to what the
other person says.
Subsequently, the teacher further explains that a person necessitates to use
respectful language and act on ways that do not demean others, understands
friends or partner’s wishes and feelings, and should be ready to compromise or
meet the other half-way when conflict or argument will arise. Additionally, one
has to enjoy the company or presence of each other by sharing pleasantries. As
a footnote, the teacher said: “Show to your partner or friend the needed affection
(love, care and respect)”
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1)
Describe your social relationship with your Parents, Grandparents, and the
significant others in your family.
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Tremendous physical, psychological, emotional, and social changes occur
dramatically in adolescent stage. With adolescence comes puberty,
expanded cognitive abilities, and a new sense of self and personal identity,
increase expectations at work and in school. Relationships with parents and
peers also change. Adolescents gain social skills as they mature.
Quality relationship gives beneficial outcomes such as psychological health,
improved academic performance and success in adult relationships. The
absence of quality relationships is associated with negative outcomes such
as delinquency and psychological issues.
Answer the following questions succinctly.
1) What are the different changes that will dramatically occur during adolescence?
Briefly explain each.
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Write a reflection about Social relationships of middle and late adolescence.
Lesson
9
Family Structures and Legacies
Week 3_6 hours
Learning Outcomes:
At the end of the week, it is expected that the learners must be able to:
1]
appraise one’s family structure and the type of care he/she gives and receives
which may help in understanding himself/herself better;
2]
make a genogram and trace certain physical, personality, or behavioral
attributes through generations;
3]
prepare a plan on how to make the family members firmer and gentler with each
other
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Instruction: Cut out pictures of your family members and the significant others. Place
them inside the box “tagged” as the significant people in my life. Write their names and
state how important they are to you.
Significant People in my life
Try this. Answer honestly as possible.
1] How important is your family to you?
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2] As long as you can remember, how did your parents care for you? Cite examples
or instances.
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Define the roles of each family member.
Family members
Roles in the Family
FATHER
MOTHER
BROTHER/S
SISTER/S
YOU
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Family Structures
Everybody knows how important a family is. My classmate, who was born
out of wedlock, has asked me how it feels having a complete family. I almost
cannot utter a simple word because I knew how and what he felt at that time
when he asked me such question. Nevertheless, I answered him candidly but
assured him that not all nuclear family lives the way he thinks. I was reminded
of the lecture of my teacher in Understanding Culture subject that there are
three (3) types of family in terms of membership. These are; the nuclear
family, single parent family and the extended family. By definition, Nuclear
Family is the traditional type of family structure. This consists of two parents,
never been separated, and children. The nuclear family was long held in
esteem by society as being the ideal in which to raise children.
The Single-Parent Family, at one hand, consists of one parent raising one or
more children on his/her own. Often, a single parent family is a mother with
her children, although there are single fathers as well. Single parent families
are generally close. They find ways to work together.
On the other hand, Extended Family structure consists of two or more adults
who are related, either by blood or marriage, living in the same home. This
family includes many relatives living together and working toward common
goals, such as raising the children and keeping up with the household duties.
Let’s try how much you can remember.
1) How nuclear family type differs from a single-parent family?
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I always remember what my teacher in Values Education said in her class
one afternoon. She said that when we are born, we do not have yet the set
of values expected from us because we learn them from our parents or
adults who raise us. Yes, she was right because we learn these from our
elders. We learn by examples and by watching or observing them at home.
Yes, the family plays a greater role in shaping a child into a responsible
and productive adult. The family is a child’s first role model. They do not
only set examples but they give every child an opportunity to make
important choices and decisions. Parents are the child’s first teachers and
whatever the child learns at home will forever be carried on and handed
down to the generations to come.
What did you learn from the selection?
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Explain how you developed personal relationships with the persons around you based
on the diagram below.
Significant others
in the family
Parents
Peers and
classmates
Siblings
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Use the space below for your discussion.
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My master plan in enhancing personal and social relationships with the family
members and significant others.
Family members &
significant others
Unacceptable behaviors
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How will I make them
acceptable?
Answer the 10-item True or False Test. Write the word True if you find the
statement correct and the word False if otherwise. Answers should be written on the
space before the number.
__________1) Showing trustworthiness in one way of developing rapport and healthy
relationships.
__________2) If a person is dishonest, I should also be dishonest to him.
__________3) Attentive listening develops respect and healthy relationships.
__________4) Establishing mutually acceptable boundaries based on personal values
is important in any relationship.
__________5) Interacting with peers and friends will not help teenagers learn to make
decisions and good judgment.
__________6) Parent-child relationship is associated with the development of social
skills such as conflict and intimacy.
__________7) Adolescents can develop more healthy relationships with their
boyfriend or girlfriend than in their peers and other adult members in the family.
__________8) Non-parental adults who are family members cannot be role models to
children.
__________ 9) Grandparents may serve as a source of support, good influence to
adolescents and provide information about family history and culture.
__________ 10) Positive peer relationships also appear to discourage aggression,
emotional distress, and anti-social behaviors.
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Answer Key
6) True
7) False
8) False
9) True
10) True
1) True
2) False
3) True
4) True
5) False
Set B
1) True
2) True
3) True
4) True
5) True
Set 1
1) C
2) B
3) D
4) A
5) A
Post-assessment Test
Pre-assessment Test
References
1) MyLaurier Student Portal. “Healthy Relationships. “Student Health and Development
2)
3)
4)
5)
2007. www.mylaurier.ca/devlopment/info/Relationships.htm
Palo Alto Medical Foundation. “ABCs of a Healthy Relationship. “Teen Health Info. Jan.
2008. www.pamf.org/teen/abc/.
http://family.lovetoknow.com/about-family-values/types-family-structures
http://drlwilson.com/ARTICLES/FAMILY.htm
https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.educ/what-do-we-mean-personal-relationships
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