AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT REHAB
What do we want?
Connection & closeness with another person
What do we do when we get that connection?
Avoidant typical behavior:
1. Sabotage it
2. Avoid vulnerability like a plague
3. Run away at the first sign of closeness
4. Take constructive feedback as an attack
5. Shutdown during conflict
6. Leave my partner alone and unheard
7. Dismiss and invalidate their feelings as irrational
8. Numb out and suppress your feelings so far down that unsure if they exist anymore
9. Be fiercely independent
10. Cant trust anyone but yourself
11. Refuse to take accountability & Refuse to apologize for anything
a. Because that would mean I am a failure
12. Reject your partner before they reject you
13. Eventually, you ghost your partner and move on to a new one and repeat the pattern
Deep down - just afraid of losing yourself, if you let yourself love someone and fully take any
armor off, you can’t protect yourself from being hurt