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ROSEMARY OBADIAH.
TAKE IT SLOW OR LOOSE IT ALL.
TAKE IT SLOW OR LOOSE IT ALL.
Personal growth and development book.
August -2022
Rosemary Obadiah
Mob: +255684034066/+255699140676
Email: rosemarystephen014@gmail.com
Instagram: rosemaryobadiah1
Morogoro, Tanzania.
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WARNING.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS.
CHAPTER ONE:
MAKING RIGHT CHOICES.
 Tips to consider making right decision for
yourself.
 How to know you have made right decision.
CHAPTER TWO:
FOLLOW THE PROCESS FAITHFULLY.
 Embracing the beauty of taking small steps.
 It’s not about how fast, it’s about how correct you
are.
CHAPTER THREE:
ACQUIRE ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE FIRST.
 Avoiding making unnecessary failures in your
life.
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CHAPTER FOUR:
DON’T STOP IMPROVING YOURSELF.
 Tips to become better everyday.
CHAPTER FIVE:
HAVE MENTORS.
 The importance of learning from those who
started earlier than you.
CHAPTER SIX:
STAY CALM AND BE PATIENT.
 There is a right time for everything.
CHAPTER SEVEN:
AVOID PERFECTIONISM.
 Always be ready to learn new thing.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR.
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APPRECIATION:
Sincerely I would like to thank heavenly father to trust
me with this gift and talent, for good health and ability
he gave me to accomplish this work. I also appreciate
everyone that believed in me and my talents, my friends
and my family. I really appreciate everything that you
did to keep me moving forward always.
Would also like to appreciate my mentors Late Dr myles
Munroe, Pastor Tony Kapola and Julius Manase for
their investment in my Life. And for all of you who
thought that this book will help you out.
May God bless you all.
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DEDICATION:
This book is dedicated to my dearest brother Japhet
Obadiah Mbwilo, your teachings and your love has
given birth to a wise woman. There is nothing i can do
to pay you rather than keep doing the best i can to always
make you a proud brother.
May God bless you for your investment in my life.
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CHAPTER ONE:
MAKING RIGHT CHOICES.
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CHAPTER ONE:
MAKING RIGHT CHOICES.
Every choice comes with a consequence. Once you
make a choice, you must accept responsibility. You
cannot escape the consequences of your choices,
whether you like them or not.
-Roy.Bennett
Everyday when we wake up, we wake up facing a long
list of choices that we got to make. Our lives is simply a
result of these choices that we choose to make everyday.
Choices are foundation, the foundation for our own
future and the generation to come. Making right choices
is like cementing a strong foundation where any
building can stand on it, unlike making wrong decision
is messing up the foundation that whenever storms
comes the building might fall.
Making right choices is one among the important skills
you need in your life, because what I know is you can
never become apart from the choices you make.
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The Bible says in ;
Deutoronmy 30:19 “ 19 This day I call the heavens and
the earth as witnesses against you(A) that I have set
before you life and death, blessings and
curses.(B) Now choose life, so that you and your
children may live.
One among the first thing ever given to a man was THE
FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.I believe that God wanted to
make sure that he was blameless for any decision we
make in our lives. He shows you both ways ,the
consequences and results and then let you choose what
you want for yourself.
This is what happened in the Garden, when God finished
creating everything including man and woman, he said
to them ;
Genesis 2: 15 And the LORD God took the man, and
put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to
keep it.
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And the LORD God commanded the man, saying,
Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
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of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil,
thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest
thereof thou shalt surely die.
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Now God didn’tsay you shouldn’t eat alone, but he also
said if you eat surely you gonna die, that means God
gave them a choice to choose what he said or to follow
what they want.. If God didn’t give a man a choice I
think he should just say never to eat the fruits of that
tree.
One reason that we were given freedom to choose is
because, Humans have different behavior and desires.
What you like can not be liked the same by another
person. So God gave us that power so as we can carry
no blame to other people. That’s why he said in the bible
that you will reap what you sow, in other words what
you choose is what you will get.
Now coming back in our real lives, we always come in
a situation where we must make a choice , the choice
that matters in our own life. This is the moment when
many people loose their lives, this is a point where many
loose themselves, this is the point where many falls into
pits of destruction but also this is the point where
someone else builds a life of their dreams.
The choice you make today will decide where you will
be Ten years to come, will also decide how you will live
your life here on earth and how you will end up.
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While growing up, I remember going to youth
conferences so many times at different churches around
Tanzania. One among the favorite topic that youth loved
including me was the topic of relationship.
Now I remember one of the pastor used to iron the word
that says “A foolish woman will destroy her house with
her own hands” and insisted young men to pick/choose
wives who are God fearing and who are well minded.
Now coming to the normal sense, How do someone
destroy his/ her own life with own hands?
My answer will be is THROUGH THE CHOICES AND
DECISION WE MAKE EVERYDAY.
Every choice you make today or tomorrow, there will be
a day that you will have to eat its fruits either bad or
good.
One among the things that I grew up struggling with is
How Can i make a choice that will not harm me and
those around me? It was and it is still one of the
challenging things I face until now.
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Making right decision or a choice is not an easy thing,
especially when you have to make It and making sure it
is favorable to yourself and those around you.
I grew up in a family where the decision you make must
be accepted by the majority of the family members, and
I know most of people grew up in this kind of families.
Family chooses what to study in university, it will
choose you whom to marry, and sometimes will even
choose a career for you.
For this cause many people have ended making wrong
decisions for themselves and have lived all of their lives
blaming people who emphasized them to make those
choices.
One thing I can help you out is to know that Decision
and the choices we make are Personal stuff, because if
the consequences of the decision made can be shared
then making choice and decision wouldn’t be personal.
Assuming you are forced to marry a man/woman
because of their family status and for your parents to be
happy and friends to praise you, and found out the
person was toxic to you. Who will be the first person to
feel the consequences? It will be you surely and none of
your family or friends will be able to feel what you feel.
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Therefore, when it comes to making decision and
choices, people are allowed to advise you but never
force you to make a decision. Choosing what is right for
you or not right for you will still remain in your power
and no one else.
So, while I was struggling to know how I can make right
decision, I found out simple tips to help me making
Decisions.
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FOR
YOURSELF.
TIPS
TO CONSIDER WHEN MAKING RIGHT
DECISION FOR YOURSELF:
1.MAKE DECISION OUT OF EMOTIONS.
Most people enter in the trap of making the decision
when they are full of emotions. When they are so happy,
excited, when they are angry or sad.
I was the victim of this, I used to explode and run into
making decision when am too emotional, and find out I
have made wrong decision when it’s too late.
Emotions is like catalyst; their role is to speed up
reaction of things. If you are angry and thinking of
taking suicide, what anger will do is to increase the
desire for you to kill yourself, by causing flashback in
your mind of what made you angry.
I used to try committing suicide several times and I
know how this works.
If you really want to make right decisions, make sure
you avoid making it when you are too emotional, wait
until when you are calm enough to decide.
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Many people have lost their money and properties and
most people have lost their lives because of making
wrong decisions. making wrong decisions is not
avoidable sometimes because we learn through the
mistake we make and that of others, but we can reduce
making unnecessary wrong decisions.
You have to be aware that once you have decided there
is no going back, what will be left is receiving the
consequences of the decision made.
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2. FIND ADVICE FROM PEOPLE YOU TRUST.
Now we all have people who always want the best for
us, now when you are in the position of making a choice
that really matters in your life make sure you find that
one person and seek advice from them.
Taking their advice doesn’t mean you should do exactly
what they should say. All you have to do is listen to them
about it, their thoughts and their opinion about that
matter, thereafter you will decide what to do.
You remember when we did study about scientific
experiment and process on how you can do it. I
remember one step that we used to collect Hypothesis
and then make experiment on it and give out an answer.
Now seeking advice from people is like collecting
hypothesis to prove your matter. As for me I always seek
my brother whenever I want to decide anything because
I know his love for me in unexplained and he can never
want anything bad to happen to me. So I always consult
him and he gets time to tell me what he is thinking about
that matter.
You can find as many people as you like, you just have
to make sure they are people who can wish you good in
everything you do.
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Listen to them and their opinions and be sure you have
understood what they have said, thereafter you can
proceed with another step that follows.
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3. GATHER OUT ALL INFORMATION ABOUT
WHAT YOU WANT TO DECIDE.
Today we are living in the world which is so free and
full of social medias where people get to share their
stories and ideas. Am pretty sure if you try to google
your matter you will find many information about that
issue.
So before you do anything or decide anything, its better
to crosscheck on what others have done regarding the
matter and what are the possible consequences of that
thing.
Once you are finally done with all of these three steps,
I can say that you are free to decide whatever you want.
As its prohibited not to speak if you have not done any
research, you are also prohibited not to make any
decision without following these simple steps.
I know there are many books that have taught about
important things to consider before making any decision
and they are so many, but assuming you are supposed to
make rush decision in few hours to come am sure 390
pages books on how to make right decision won’t be that
useful as this.
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These are simple, realistic and applicable steps that you
can do faster when you want to make any decision.
Reminding you that, you will reap what you sow.
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HOW TO
KNOW
YOU OR
HAVE
MADE
THE
RIGHT DECISION.
Now that you have known how you can make right
decision so fast, most people question themselves if they
have made right decision or not and how do they know
they have made right decision.
This is the simple way I use to know if the decision I am
about to take is wrong or not.
I always make sure that I divide the decision into
YES/NO and after that I will write down the possible
consequences for both answers, then the one with more
negative consequences will be one considered as wrong
decision, and the one with more positive consequences
is the one will be considered as right decision.
Because what I know is, most of us make decision while
we know what we might get out of it, its just that most
people ignore it.
Do you think a person who rob money from the bank,
don’t know that there are cctv cameras? Do you think
they don’t know they will be searched and will have to
live all their life hiding? They all know this but they just
keep ignoring it because the excitement of getting what
they want is more powerful than the consequences they
can get.
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You have to make sure that the excitement of what you
will get do not blind you into making wrong decision.
Some people may say, isn’t excitement a good thing?
Yes, it is a good thing, but most of the times its
something that causes most of people to make wrong
decision.
Think about the life after the decision you have made,
think about the consequences of those decisions and am
sure it will help you a lot to avoid making wrong
decision.
Remember……………you will reap what you sow
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CHAPTER TWO:
FOLLOW THE PROCESS FAITHFULLY.
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CHAPTER TWO:
FOLLOW THE PROCESS FAITHFULLY.
Transformation is a process, and as life happens there
are tons of ups and downs. It's a journey of discovery
- there are moments on mountaintops and moments in
deep valleys of despair.
RickWarren
One among the important things to help you achieve the
success you dream of is travelling through the process
faithfully.
Following one step at a time until you reach where you
want to be it’s the easiest way for one to travel and for
one to get where they want to be. The road to success
does not allow cheating or lies, the world of success is
the world where it needs people to be true to themselves
and also faithful to themselves.
Not being faithful and true to yourself will cost you
going back to step one each time you try to cheat. Its like
climbing the stairs you can never jump into stair 8
without passing through the other. You have got to
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travel through the process until you reach the final
destination. Simply put, there is no short cut way.
One among the things that most youth struggle in this
generation, is the desire to obtain and have fast success,
fast money, fast fame, fast everything and they forget
that in order to have all of that there is a price to pay.
This is the generation where most young people are
engaged in illegal business for money and fame,
including drugs, prostitution, killing/robbery etc. they
do all of this so as to obtain what they want easily
without much hard work.
Its difficult sometimes to travel through all the process
and it might be the most boring thing in this earth but I
assure you that it’s the safest way one can have
everlasting success.
There was a day that I was listening to these most
successful people in this world like jack Ma, bill gates,
ben Carson, Mack Zuckerberg and others and I was
asking myself like why does this people took a long time
to be where they are?
Some would say it took 13 years, some said it took 15
years and so many years, and then I discovered that its
not like they wanted it to be that long enough, but they
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knew there was a process and discovered that the easiest
way to be there is to travel through the process.
Its boring yes, I have tried it and have seen how boring
it is. But still it’s the safe way that you can have
something that will last for decades.
Ask yourself this question, How long does it take for one
to be a doctor? Probably more than 10 years of working
hard, working late without no payment just to become
the best doctor that can ever be paid. Its all the same to
other careers or talents, people have got to travel all the
way through the process to be what they want.
It took beyonce many years to be where she is now, its
not like she is so lucky or so talented. She is a result of
hardwork, commitment and consistency.
Every youth has to know this , there is nothing cost as
much as success does. It will take your time, your
friends, your strength, your money and everything you
have. You must be willing to pay the price, you must
accept it earlier that it will cost you something.
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EMBRACING THE BEAUTY
STEPS.
OF TAKING SMALL
Why most people fail again and again in their way to
succeed?
The answer is Most people want to take many steps at
one time. Its not bad but my question is How do you
plan to do it?
There is beauty hidden in taking small steps at a time,
and in most cases is to avoid making the mistakes that
others have made.
I used to be a victim of this, i knew i got talents and i
knew i was intelligent and of course i knew i was best in
everything i was doing but it was so hard for me to reach
where i want to go. The same person wants to be a
doctor, a lawyer, a singer, a writer, a speaker, business
woman and a leader. You can imagine how confusing i
was.
Its not bad to be good at many things, but it is very bad
to be shallow in many things. The first impression
matters for real, if you mess up one thing at a time it may
cost you a lot for people to trust you again.
Because i wanted to do may things at one time , i failed
in most of things i did because i did it with no
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knowledge, no experience, not enough awareness of
what i was doing . You can surely do many things
excellently but you have got to take time to master every
little thing you want to do.
I got a chance to be close to a certain great man in our
country and i asked him what was his secret for being
where he is now and he told me one thing that “you
always have to be focused”. It doesn't matter the
disappointments, the rejections and bad impression you
may get from people always remain focused until what
you want becomes.
He even taught us about a great man in the bible jacob,
the one who did fight with an angel. The man refused to
let go of the angel until he blessed him! The bible says
he did fight, means he was injured but he was focused.
How many of us stay focused in times of trials.
Most of people try to do new things everyday believing
what other people has said. I have seen people changing
their courses just because they heard other people saying
in the future there will be no employment for those who
take that course. I have seen people starting new
business including myself, everyday starting a new
business because of the pressure given from people who
wasn't there when God gave you a dream.
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I was listening to Dr Steve Harvy one day in his show,
and he said something that changed my life forever. He
said “you are the one who saw that vision, and God gave
that vision to you. So do not worry when people dont
seem to understand it because it is you who saw it not
them”.
Changing careers is not solution for solving financial
problem and starting new business everyday wont
increase your customers infact you will loose a lot of
them because of your inconsistency.
Everything you see living in this world, went through a
certain process and never skippend any of it. Trees,
buildings, animals, insects, companies, businesses,
everything went through process. The first steps are
always the hardest one but they are always the most
important things.
Sometimes small steps may seem like something not
worth learning but the truth is you can never solve
calculus if you dont know how to add, substract,
multiply and divide. There is a way if you skip a certain
step you will bear the cost of going back and learn that
step so as you can move forward.
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Imagine yourself studying medicine and decide to just
do the final examination without passing the process of
7 years studying the human body? You will definitely
fail. And when you fail , what does it mean?? It means
that you will have to go back and start again. Start again
with shame, pain, disappointments and guilty.
You have no need to rush things, if you are reading this
and you are in your 20s,30s,40s,50s,60s you still have
time especially if you are 20-40. Take things slow, yes
its boring but slow it down. Learn and do it through the
process and you will escape the trap most people get in.
If you want to be a business man , write down all of your
plan and the kind of business that you want to do. Learn
about the business you want to do, know what it takes to
succeed in that business and stay focused until you see
it happening, never change a business because of outside
pressure you receive.
There is no overnight success, some people had to travel
in the process for 20 years to be where they wanted to
be. Nelson mandela was one of them, being in prison for
20 years and came back again focused as he was and
gave south Africa freedom. Some of them had to travel
through hundreds of rejections (jack Ma) just to be
where they are now. Its all in the process.
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If you wont fight your own golliath now, it doesn't mean
the golliath will die, he will wait for you and you will
fight him even when you are old.
Not traveling through the process will delay your own
success and achievements.
Pay the price of traveling through the process faithfully.
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IT’S NOT ABOUT HOW FAST BUT HOW CORRECT
YOU ARE.
Youths nowdays love competition, wants to show
everyone else that he owns this and he/she is doing this
or they did this and that. Its not bad
But i have discovered that most of them do it because
they want to be seen, they do it because of the pressure
of being seen useless or not good enough. Everyone is
trying to fit in a certain kind of position and they are all
trying to make sure others now who they are and what
they are capable of. Most of them do things because they
want to be recognizable to their fellow youths etc.
Many are confused and loose their focus when they see
fellow youths achieving a certain thing or bought a new
stuffs or has managed to travel to other countries or built
a house or owning a business and things like that.
I just want to help you out like i did help myself out. ITS
NOT ABOUT THEM ITS ABOUT YOU. This is the
statement I used to tell myself whenever i felt not good
enough because of seeing other youths doing it better
than me. I just said to myself , Rose its all about you not
them, all you can do is become better everyday.
When you see othe fellow youths making it more than
you and make you feel useless and not good enough. Do
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not fall into the pit of speeding up your progress so as
you can show it off to your friends. Remain in the
course, and work hard your time will also come.
There is no need to rush. Your time will also come.
Make sure you move in the right direction, move the
right move. Don't try to diverge to get fast success
because at the end of the day you will have to go back
and start the process over and over again. You will be
playing the time waster game and you will delay
yourself.
You also not in competition with anyone in this world,
the only person you are competing with is yourself.
Because the truth is, you are the main character in your
own story, you are the staring in your own movie. Fight
your battles and wars and make sure you reach at the
top.
Remind you......The steps that you skip now, you will
have to pay for it years to come
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CHAPTER THREE:
ACQUIRE ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE FIRST.
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CHAPTER THREE:
ACQUIRE ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE FIRST.
Knowledge has to be improved, challenged and
increased constantly, or it vanishes.
Peter Drucker.
According to Oxford dictionary , the word knowledge
means “facts, information, and skills acquired through
experience or education; the theoretical or practical
understanding of a subject.”
Through education , experiences in life and practicality
of the information we receive is what produces
knowledge. Knowledge is also dynamic, changes as
time changes, thats why it is very important to improve
it, increase it and challenge it everyday. The knowledge
useful today may not be useful ten years to come, this is
why any person who desires to be better and always
competent must increase and improve their knowledge.
To achieve anything in life, acquiring of enough
knowledge is something that can never be avoided and
if it will be avoided then there will be consequences to
bear in the future.
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I always tell myself that if I really want to avoid making
unnecessary failures , i should make sure i have acquired
enough knowledge of that thing. Well most people love
rushing, especially youths.
Risk comes from not knowing what you are doing.
Warren Buffet.
What you dont know might harm you or kill you.
There is famous bible verse about knowledge that i
believe everyone knows...
Hosea4:6 “6 ¶ My people are destroyed for lack of
knowledge: because thou hast brejected cknowledge,
I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to
me: seeing thou hast forgotten the dlaw of thy God, I
will also forget thy children.”
If you ignore knowledge, there is a day you will have to
pay for your ignorance. You will bear the consequences
of your ignorance and lack of knowledge.
Sometimes people have loss not because they deserved
having loss, but because they avoided a part of acquiring
knowledge. Its like a person investing or trading his
money in Forex or in stocks without having enough
knowledge. The loss gained will be the result of
knowledge ignored.
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We need knowledge inorder to survive, our world now
is a world of information, technology and innovation.
Knowledge is needed to cope up with these changing
situations.
As young people in this generation, it's obvious that we
are so lucky that we can learn anything at anytime as
there are smartphones and full of internet everywhere.
We can download books, listen to podcats, youtube
videos and there are also learning apps that helps us to
acquire as much information as we can.
So i think we have to be more knowledgeable than
previous generations because the world of knowledge
and information is free to us compared to years back.
There is famous fable that says “An empty mind is a
devil workshop” i simply say it , any person who has no
knowledge in his/ her mind this person has nothing good
to give or to produce. If there is nothing in your mind
then you can do nothing and whatever you make is also
nothing”.
Knowledge is power and knowledge is wealth. In his
rich dad , poor dad Robert kiyosaki wrote about
Japanese most treasured things which gave them power
over decades.
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1. Sword- which symbolizes the power of Weapons.
2.Jewel -which symbolizes power of Money.
3.Mirror-which symbolizes power of Self knowledge.
Every great man you see today has never ignored the
important of acquiring knowledge; even the most richest
people in the world, are the most readers and knowledge
seekrs more than anyone. I remember one of his
interviews Bill gates was asked what was one thing he
would want to have as super power , and he said he just
want to have the ability to read book faster.
Knowledge is the major key to determine our success.
Knowledge is also the foundation for the success we
might have in the future. In the book of Think Big by Dr
Ben Carson, one of the pillars that he defined to be the
foundation for success was KNOWLEDGE COUNTS.
He then explained the importance of why a person
should have knowledge. He said material things can be
taken away from you at any time but knowledge can not
be taken awaya from you no matter what because it's
stored in your brain.
Every person that has dreams and has visions, should
consider this part so close.
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You have dreams of investing your money ,make sure
you acquire enough knowledge of where you want to do
your investments and where to invest and why you
should invest in there. You want to be a doctor do the
same, go to university and acquire enough knowledge
that can make you valuable doctor and not just doctor.
The same applies to those who want to do business,
opening company, becoming lawyers and engineers and
every career in this world.
I remember one of my friend asking me one question
“rose how comes you know a lot of thing?” We were
actually have friendship talk and it seems like i knew a
lot of stuffs that my friend was so astonished. So i told
him it's because i learn them somewhere, it was long
conversation but I discovered that most youths want to
learn but most of them are lazy and some of them don't
know where they can get the knowledge and some think
they are still young and have enough time,so they
choose to ignore knowledge for that time.
I get confused sometimes when someone tells me he/she
doesn't know about something. I always ask them how??
You have smartphone, you have internet connection and
still you can't learn anything? Then how do you use your
phone for?
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Owning a phone was so difficult in the past, our parents
had to write letters to communicate, they had to watch
the sun to know what time it was and they had to go to
colleges to learn any skills they want; but now we can
do all that so easily we have youtubes, whatsapp, emails,
google and many others that acquiring of the knowledge
comes so easy.
All of the things i know about 90% of things i know i
have learned them from internet. I never learned
computer courses but there is nothing i do not know in
computer, i have learned typing , Microsoft excel, and
all other things in internet. I never stayed in class to learn
how to bake a cake, biscuits and decorations , all i did
was going into youtube learn and practice. I never
learned graphic designs but i can design posters , logos
and cards , and all these I learned from youtube and
other sources.
Now you can imagine amount of information you been
keep missing from internet.
When i say that you have to acquire knowledge i dont
mean you must read books, of course i know most
people are lazy in reading books but there are many
sources of knowledge and information. All you have to
do is choose the best way for you, that can help you
acquire knowledge you want.
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Ofcourse not everyone can sit in a day just reading
books, but you can listen to podcasts, you can have
online classes, some can just listen to audios and
youtube videos , anyother way just make sure you
acquire knowledge.
One hour everyday is enough for you to put in
something in your mind. You can never become better
by just sitting, the more you accumulate your mind with
useful information the more useful and needed you are.
I used to tell some of my friends that education is not
enough, but if you keep adding value to that education
it will be more valuable. The truth is many are educated
but few are knowledgeable.
To keep remaining in your high position keep adding
value to yourself and we add value by keep learning and
acquiring new knowledge everyday and improving the
old information.
Start by reading one page, start by listening to one
minute youtube video and soon yo will start seeing
yourself becoming better day after day.
Youths of today have hopes in their talents, they think
only talents can make them go further , but the sad thing
is there are more than one million youths who have the
same dream as yours all over the world. What will
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differentiate you from them is your uniqueness and the
way you improve yourself everyday. The more you
learn , the more different you become. Yes you want to
be a singer and you might have the greatest voice than
anyone, but what are you doing to make sure you
become better everyday? Your efforts to learn and
exercise is what will differentiate you from them and
that's t what will determine your success.
There is nothing valuable in this world as investing in
your mind. Its the investment that you can never have
loss all of your life. If you want to be good in something
make sure you are the best in it, and we become the best
by acquiring knowledge.
Remember an empty mind is a devils workshop.......
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CHAPTER FOUR:
NEVER STOP IMPROVING YOURSELF.
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CHAPTER FOUR:
NEVER STOP IMPROVING YOURSELF.
There is only one corner of the Universe you can be
certain of improving and that's your own self.
Adolf Huxley.
Time changes, Technology changes, season changes
and almost everything in this world changes , so its must
for you to change. Either in good side or bad sides, all
of them are changes , its you to choose what you want.
One among the setbacks in most people's lives are their
last success/ achievement, most people remain in
stagnant position after receiving it. There is nothing as
bad as being satisfied human being, just satisfied with
what you are doing , satisfied with the life you are living,
satisfied with amount of money you are receiving,
satisfied with your scores and satisfied with everything
that surrounds you.
According to my research people stop moving forward
when they feel like what they have is enough, and they
keep hiding themselves in their comfort zones. I
remember my forst book to be published was in 2020
may, and I remember after doing this I received a lot of
praises because in my clan inwas the only one who did
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that, but also in my 303 accounting class i was the only
one who wrote a book. So i received a lot of praised ,
and of course i did a great job; but i wish i never wrote
one because this one single book created a huge comfort
zone in my life, whenever i wanted to write another one
i felt like i have done enough at my age regarding the
praises i got from it. I remained in that hole for two years
just trying to get out and then i get stuck again and again.
It really disturbed me a lot i wanted to do more , but i
was stuck in the midst of praises and perfections that i
received from others.
I stoped improving, i started being worse young girl, i
felt empty inside, because i knew i can write books a lot
as i can since its my talent and gift but I didn't do it
because i felt like i have nothing else to write, i felt i
have done something so big at my age and lost almost
hundreds of people who kept hoping i would write other
books, and for two years of course they choosed to
follow those who were consistent with thier dreams.
There is nothing dangerous in this generation and in this
life if one fails to improve oneself in whatever field they
are in. The reason why most people perform under the
level is because they have stopped improving.
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They have got talents and visions but they never want to
improve.
The word Improvements means “To go further” or “To
do more”. Sometimes success comes when you
constantly busy improving yourself and sharpening your
talents and gifts and your abilities to do more than
yesterday. Its the competition you have with yourself
and not anyone else. Most people think that
improvement is when you work hard to be better than
someone else who has the same talent as you or being
better so as to be seen. It doesn't work that way.
One of my lifetime mentor Late Dr Myles Munroe,
taught me about Improvement and being better. He said
that “success is not measured by how far you have gone
compared to another one because in reality there will
always be people who wil be doing less than you. So if
you keep on comparing your success by someone else
success , you have not known yet the meaning of
success.” He then explained that success is measured by
what you have done compared to what you could have
done. His mother illustrated this to him when he was
studying, he became the first in class by scoring 65% but
his mother was disappointed because she knew he could
do more than that.
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The fact that you are the first doesn't mean you are good
in something or the best in it. You have got to keep
improving yourself everyday, never choose to remain
the same everyday.
The more you remain the same, the more you keep
loosing opportunities in your life and the more you keep
losing opportunities the more you shut your doors of
success in life.
Never be satisfied with your current situation and your
achievements, you can do more than that. If you
managed to have successful business dont be satisfied
with profits you gained, start thinking about opening
your own company. You are a great baker never be
satisfied with your instagram customers, go in other
region and open your branch, yes it is all possible if you
stop relaxing and satisfied with your now. Go out there
and dominate the world, it was created for you to
dominate.
The talents and gifts you have are nothing if you dont
work to improve them, as good you think you are , there
is always someone ahead of you. As you keep
improving, the more the world knows about you and
what you are doing, and the more you attract
opportunities to you.
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I want to help you out, i want to help you giving you
only one way that you can use to improve yourself.
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TIPS TO IMPROVE YOURSELF.
1. Always learn new things.
The greatest investment of all times is the investment in
your mind. The more you feed it with information and
knowledge the more you become good in something.
They say practise makes it perfect, yes it is true. We
become the best when we constantly try out new things,
learn new things, study new things and learning new
things. I remember one of my friends told me one thing
that it always run in my mind. She told me that “
Rosemary, we are still young and we are not tightened
with any responsibilities and we are not even married,
then she said for that reason for us we have enough time
to do anything in best way.” This was hard truth,
imagine yourself being pregnant and married at the
same time, there are things you will never be doing it as
good as you were supposed to do.
Jack ma in one of his speech said from age 40 a person
has to be doing all things he/ she is good at. Its no longer
a time of trying new things , its too late and life span is
so low. Now take a look of yourself, is you are in your
20s make sure you learn a lot of things, if you want to
invest in your future this is the time you can learn about
investment and master it very well for the future. You
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want to be politicians , this is your time to learn .
Improve yourself to be better.
“if you cant walk run, if you can't run fly and if you
can't fly crawl, whatever it takes but do not stop
moving”. And never stop improving.
If today you learn about Microsoft excel, take other days
to practice it and be best in it. If you learn about
trigonometry today go and find more related questions
and solve it as many as you can. That's how you will
become better day after day.
Let me tell you something maybe no one esle has ever
told you. “ Do you know why most of the employees
and companies wants to hire people who are
experienced in specific field at least for a certain period
of time? It's because they want to hire people who have
learned a lot and people who knows what they are doing.
You can't be going asking for accountant job and you
can not manage your own money, you can do budgeting.
How can the company trust you that easily? But you can
avoid all that by having time to learn.
The biggest problem we have is most youths want to
work for money, so they will finish their degree and
wants to be hired immediately and get paid like 10 years
worker. Once you graduate do not wait home for job
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announcements, Opportunities follows those who are
ready and prepared fo it. While waiting go and volunteer
working for free, learn new skills for free. Add value to
your Cv , your experience is what will give you chance
in doors of employment. Work harder more than
employed candidates, prove yourself and your abilities,
who knows you might get a chance in that company?
If you want to make it in life, make sure you become the
center of self improvement. Refuse to be the same as
yesterday, make sure you add value everyday in your
life, career, dreams and visions. Make it visible, be
faithful to it and you will see how your life will turn
around .
Remember...The more you keep on improving
yourself,the more you attract new opportunities to
you.
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CHAPTER FIVE:
HAVE MENTORS.
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CHAPTER FIVE:
HAVE MENTORS.
I look at where i am today and realize that most of
my success i owed to the mentor that was in my life.
Kendrick Lamar.
Every person who has dreams and visions must have
someone to learn from, in other words he must have a
person to follow. The person to show the exact way that
you are supposed to pass, what to do and what not to do
when you are working for your dreams.
Mentor is a person who prepares you or help you to
reach your destiny. One quality of a mentor is he/ she
must be ahead of you , they must not be in the same level
as you. They must have passed the level of trying and
making mistakes so as whatever advice or opinion you
receive from them should have the credibility of
producing positive results in your life.
Personally i have my metors and i have classified them
according to their proffessional , i have mentors in
business
matters,
i
have
mentors
in
relationships/marriage issues, i have mentor in financial
issues, i also have mentor in spiritual growth and
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personal growth. I belive every person is good in their
own ways, so this is how i have classified my mentors.
Now most youths think and desire to be close to these
people( mentors) , but the problem is they are not too
much available , and if they become available to you
then you must show an extreme sacrifice and
commitment you have for your dreams. They are people
whose their timetable is always full, they got to attend
seminars , sometimes conferences and most times they
travel from one place to another. The fact that you can't
be close to them shouldn't make you create the excuse
of not having one.
These people have books, they have recorded seminars
and audio tapes, these people also have social media
accounts that they keep on sharing their ideas and
knowledge to the world. Once you can not reach them
physically, their books will help you out.
Most young people dont have mentors, they dont have
people to learn from , they dont have the ones to tell
them don't do this and this. Its very important to have
mentors even if you think its not. They already passed
the stage where you are in, they made mistakes , they
learned a lot, they fell down , so these people will guide
you through the right path you should take regarding of
your career.
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You want to be a politician, you must learn from
someone who is more than you and who is better than
you. You want to be good public speaker, go and find
someone who is the best in that career and learn from
them. The same to any other careers , learn from those
who are ahead of you.
They will help you and inspire you to be the best in your
field also.
Legends don't live forever , they must create other
legends who will live after them to continue doing the
good work. That's is the major task of a mentor, they
must create other best writers,authors, speakers,
politicians , businessmen etc so as they can continue
with the work.
Before Moses died , He had to prepare Joshua to take
the position, so you also must be prepared for that
position you are looking forward to get; and mentors
will help you through that.
For me mentors have a lot of roles but i have only
classified them into 5, that is;
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1. Challenge you.
“Surround yourself with good people;positive and
people who are going to challenge you to make
better.
Ali krieger.
In your life you must have people who will tell you the
truth and who will challenge you to become better
everyday. As you need people to praise you everyday,
you also need people who can challenge you enough to
inspire you to take another step forward.
I remember my brother used to be number one person
who always criticized me in everything i was doing. He
was not doing it because he hates me no but because he
wanted me to do more than what i thought i was doing.
Of course i am the last born in our family, and my
parents always praise me whenever i do it good, but for
my brother was little different. Either good or bad he
always criticize me, that gave me anger in my heart to
do more so as i can prove him wrong.
He challenged me to be the better person, as i am
speaking now one of my mentors has done a great work
to put me back in line. Even writing this book is because
he pushed me into it so hard. After seeing that i have
nothing to do always online, he said he wants to give me
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a work to do, and i said okay. Then he gave me a work
of writing his books, in wmy whole life i never thought
i could write 80 book pages in a day but through hik
challenging me i did it. I worked the whole day and
night, until when my eyes were opened.
I thought if i can write his books then i can write mine
too. He was my rescue , he helped me get out of my
comfort zones.
If you dont have mentor , you are in a great risk of
remaining the same place you are today for a long
period of time. These mentors will challenge you to be
better and inspire you to work hard beyond your
imagination. Use them for your advantage, learn from
them.
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2. Direct you.
“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen and a
push in the right direction.”
John C Crosby
A person who is ahead of you, knows the way more than
you do. He knows the easy way to reach where you want
to go. I always see mentors as Second gods, these people
made sacrifices for us, they have cleared the path for us
to pass through.
Its the same as parents, they made mistakes that they
wish we wouldn't do the same; that's why they keep on
teaching and talking to us every single day. I know all
of us knows how this works, when we used to go to
boarding school, they will lecture the whole night just
telling us to go and study hard , to avoid bad groups,
never to offend our teachers. They tell us because most
of them knows the consequences of doing that.
So these mentors will direct you exactly where you want
to go, thats why i have explained it earlier on how i have
classified my mentors. I have classified them according
to their professional. I have my goals financially and i
have someone I follow who is different from the one I
follow in relationship issues. This is also what you
should do as young person.
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Find someone whom you can listen with all your heart,
someone whom you do understand, the person who can
direct you what to do and what not to do in your life.
Then do exactly what they are telling you untill you see
changs in your life.
If they say they became the best in mathematics by
solving 50 questions per day, try to do the same way.
Solve it even more untill you see it working it for you,
if it doesn't repeat it again, you might have not done it
perfectly. If they tell you their secret to succeed was
being just consistent with what they are doing, you go
and be consistent until you see it working out for you.
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3.Encourage/ Motivates you.
“Don't listen to what anybody says except the people
who encourage you. If it's what you want to do and
it's within yourself, then keep going and try to it for
the rest of your life.”
Jake Gyllenhaal.
The challenges you face towards your dreams were the
same challenges that people ahead of you passed. If you
see yourself struggling with time management, trust me
there is one person who struggled with the same issue
and managed to overcome it. If you see yourself not
having capital to start your business, there is a person
now that owns a company that he also didn't have
capital. All you have to do is learn how they did get out
of it.
Most young people give up on their dreams not because
they much cared about people who criticized them or
discouraged them; but they had no one to tell them what
to do when that happens. I used to be one among those
who gave up on their dreams hundred times, i forst
wanted to be a spy and my mom said i would die earlier
so i gave up, i then wanted to be a doctor and my step
dad told me that i have many things (talents) he doesn't
think if i can manage all of it by myself and again i gave
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up again. There are a lot of things i gave up before not
because I couldn't do it , but i had no one to tell me not
to.
I also used to suffer from massive anger that led me to
commit suicide most of times, my dad prayed for me
alot, i went every prayer crusade to cast the spirit of
anger out but I didn't work out. Untill when I decided to
have a mentor in my life and listen to him on how i can
overcome my anger. Yes, it did work out; i am the
calmest woman you would ever meet in your life, i
always smile even when i am angry. For 23 years of my
life struggling with anger , in just one month it was all
put under control.
The mentors will give you words which will be like the
catalyst to speed up your journey to success. They will
encourage you and motivate you in your times of trials ,
they will show you why you shouldn't give up through
their experiences. Listen to them.
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4. Inspire you.
“There have to be reasons that you get up in the
morning and you want to live. Why do you want to
live? What's the point? What inspires you? What do
you love about the future? If the future does not
include being out there among the stars and being a
multi-planet species, I find that incredibly
depressing.”
Elon Musk
What made you follow someone? Or what made you
appreciate your mentors? It is because most of the times
we wish we could do better or just like them.
I heard most of young people say i want to be the best
basketball player just like Jordan, another will say i want
to be young politician just like Jokate Mwegelo. Why?
Because what they do inspires you to do it. They show
you that everything is possible only if you decide to do
it with all of your heart. I have a lot of people that
inspires me everyday and i think if it wasnt for them then
maybe I wouldn't be putting much efforts as i am doing
it now.
Their success and achievements is what inspires most of
us to be like them or more than them. Most of us do it
because we know someone else did so i can it too. It is
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most difficult thing to be the first in the war line. The
swords and all other weapons will attack you first. The
advantage of having a mentor is you will be walking
through his steps, you will avoid making a lot of
mistakes in your journey.
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5. Training and supporting you.
“Be strong, be fearless, be beautiful. And believe that
anything is possible when you have the right people
there to support you.”
Misty Copeland.
The greatest profit we get from our mentors is training
and support us. These people sometimes conduct
seminars and conferences where they get to teach
thousands of people. It is because, it's hard to teach one
by one about the same thing regarding the fact that they
have many followers. In these seminars they always
train people and get to share their experiences in life and
careers. Some also teaches how to become the best in
certain areas, some of them are cost free and some of
them people pay to receive it. They also write books and
do online teachings, for me all of this put under training
category.
They also play many roles in supporting our dreams and
visions, it must not be amount of money or a certain
capital ; but sometimes their advice may be a support,
they may also introduce you to an opportunity that might
be useful for you.
The problem most youths have is they think the only
thing mentor can provide is MONEY; and for that
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reason, many youths have lost greatest opportunities to
be close to these mentors. Some of the mentors are so
rich, from morning to evening they receive emails and
messages from people who only want their money.
If you get the opportunity to be close to one of the
greatest person in this world, or your mentor; this is my
advice to you, never ask them for money , if they ask
you HOW CAN I SUPPORT YOU? Never go direct and
say support me with money because you are not going
to have it. Let them give it to you themselves, be eager
to learn than having their money and you will achieve
and acquire more than you ever thought.
Always have mentors in your life, you can never be
good enough if you have no where you are learning
from. These mentors will show you the way out , and
your journey will be much easier.
Remember...They were ahead of you, so they know
more about it than you do.
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CHAPTER SIX:
STAY CALM AND BE PATIENT.
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CHAPTER SIX:
STAY CALM AND BE PATIENT.
One problem most youths of today have is they always
want things to go on smoothly and fast more than how
they are supposed to go.
They want fast success, fast money, fast deals, fast fame
and fast everything. They dont have the ability to wait,
and if they do wait they don't want it to take long time.
They want it to arrive in the time they always want.
All greatest and rich men you see today has invested
their time and they were so patient enough to wait for it
to happen no matter how long it takes. Some of them
had to wait for 15 years just to see it happening, some of
them took more than 20 years to get to their dreams,
some had to be slaves first before being presidents.
In the book of Habakkuk in the bible, God told his
servant only three things that he was supposed to do in
order to have what he wants.
Firstly he said WRITE DOWN YOUR VISION.
Secondly he said
SUPPOSED TO DO.
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Thirdly he said WAIT FOR IT, WHEN ITS TIME
COMES IT WILL HAPPEN.
In those three things, most people can do the two steps
so perfectly and with honesty but when it comes in the
time of waiting for it's appointed time , most people give
up on their dreams.
I was listening to the Origin of Alibaba from its founder
Jack Ma , and he said in the first three years alibaba
made nothing from every service they were providing.
Remember they had to borrow money from banks to
start the business and yet for over three years the
business wont produce even single income. Now as high
as the cost of incomes are nowdays, is there anyone who
can consistently work for their dreams day and night
without having any return? Think about starting a
business, you have to pay for rent, pay your employees
if you have some, have enough capital to run the
business untill when it starts to bring results, advertising
cost and every cost you know; can you pay the price of
working hard that way without receiving any profits?
Well most of people give up on it, some start to think
maybe they choosed wrong careers, or bad business idea
or they start to think maybe they are not good enough.
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Success comes with a cost and one among the cost
everyone should know is Having the ability to wait until
it happens. While waiting you must keep on doing what
you are supposed to do consistently, if you have opened
a business, then you have to keep on learning, being
creative and innovative, and doing advertisements as
hard as you can to let people know what you are doing.
There will be a time that all your efforts will give you
fruits.
You just have to be patient, you got a vision and you do
what you are supposed to do, JUST REMAIN
PATIENT. There is a always a time for everything.
The bible says in the book of Acclessiates that, there is
time for everything to happen. The time to be born and
the time to die, the time to laugh and the time to cry, and
the time for everything. Means there is also the time for
your prosperity, there is time for your success and there
is time for your achievements. Your impatience won't
speed it up but it will always delay it. Because you will
be inconsistent person who jump from one business to
another, jump from one relationship to another. You
have no time to wait for it to be in stable position.
Assuming you open a restaurant or any business, and
you have done everything you were supposed to do, let
say you invested $5000 into that business. And for six
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months you have received only $100 profits from your
business, will you continue or give up? Most people will
give up and leave that business and go opening another
business where they invest another $3000 again they
will leave it if they see it has no profits. If they do that
ten times they will be losing more than $50000, which
maybe could be used in the first business. Therefore
doing this consistently causes people to loose money
and of course their time.
Choose to remain in your course no matter what, what i
know is if it something that you really wanted and
nobody pushed you or forced you into it; you will
remain patient all through the way until it happens. You
will fall down but you will get up because that's the only
thing that you want, you will have losses but you will
get up again and learn how to manage losses because
thats the only thing you want.
There is an interesting story i want to tell you....
I remember during 2020 when i was first year university
student and my young sister was in form six. We had
immediate holiday due to Corona, it was unexpected so
i never had a lot of money that time, I remember i used
almost all of my money, and as for my young sis , she
came direct from boarding so she had nothing also
except her left pocket money. My biggest weakness is
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staying without money, even if i dont have plans to use
that money, the fact that i have money in my purse or
bank gives me joy. Now i was running out of money,
and I can't stay without money, i even get sick
sometimes. I tried to convice my young sister to do
business, we sat down and tried to look for business
ideas that we can do during that time of Corona.
We came to conclusion that we have to sell cooking
ingredients because we believe that most people were
afraid of Corona, so only few did go to the markets. At
first our idea was to do it while hiring someone. So our
job was just going to the market, buy things(
tomatoes,carrots, onions) wash them and pack them.
Then we wiuld give it to that person and just wait for
our cash.
In the first day , I remember on 9am he called us saying
that the business is so hard and the sun is too hot, i told
him to keep working but inside my heart i was bleeding.
He called again 11am he said only one preson bought it,
i nearly cried because i had hopes to make money and
we did invest our last pennies in this business. What
hurts the most was our neighbors, who tried to warn us
at once and of course they laughed at us. I was so broken
more after three days all of the ingredients we bought
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were rotten because of hot sun and being in the package
for a long time.
I remember crying, my young sister was also confused
and comforting me at the same time who seemed to be
more confused than she is. Now i started thinking about
doing another business, my young sister said we should
think first so I listened. After sometime she called me
and say, Rose i think we shouldn't change the business
and i said why??We lost a lot of cash in it. Then she
hand me her smartphone slowly, and showed a certain
youtube video of a young woman who was doing the
same business as us. She told me instead of trying
another business we can try new way of doing this
business. It was great idea, and so we decided to do it
this time by ourselves. We did go to the markets, prepare
things, and because we believed we were beautiful we
bathed and wore beautiful clothes and went to sell it
ourselves.
It was just the journey of thirty minutes before all of the
ingredients we bought being sold out. Now people were
so excited about what we were doing. We made a lot of
money and we started going out to have fun with my
young sister using our own earned money and when it
was time to go back to school we had enough money for
ourselves.
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We didn't change the business but we changed the way
we operated and we gained the profits we never thought
we could.
Let this lesson sink into your mind, sometimes it might
take you too long to reach where you want to be but do
not quit. I know sometimes living under the pressure of
disapproval, criticism, depression and not being
believed is so difficult but wait for it. Do not change the
business or the idea because you want it so fast.
The truth is , out here you will have only few that will
support or believe in you. Always you will have critics
in your life, and sometimes from the people you love the
most; but you must keep going. Your time will come.
Remember......
If you really want it, WAIT FOR IT.
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CHAPTER SEVEN:
AVOID PERFECTIONISM.
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CHAPTER SEVEN:
AVOID PERFECTIONISM.
“ There is
nothing perfect, no one can be perfect, and
perfectionism is something you shouldn't chase.
Shawn Crahan.
There is nothing good out from being perfectionist.
Someone once told me, if you want to loose it more in
life start being perfect in everything you do.
People who are always perfect, believe they know
everything and for that reason they stop learning new
things, they stop improving themselves.
They know that they know, but in reality they dont. As
i said it earlier, technology changes, new things are
invented everyday, new knowledge emerged every
single day, how comes you know all of these things.
Even billionaires read books yet they have billion of
dollars in their bank accounts. They never settle for less.
What losers do is trying to show everyone that they
know and they can do it, but a real learner takes time to
learn new things everyday. The perfectionist never
learn, and they can't receive advise from people because
they think they know too much.
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In his book of Before you Quit your Job, Robert
Kiyosaki said that in order to be useful your cup must
always be empty. If you want to use any cup, will you
take the one which is already full? No, but you will take
the one that i always empty to use it. Empty your mind,
its not even important to try proving people how good
you are. Be ready to learn anytime from anyone, dont be
full of ego in your life. Yes you might know a lot of
things compared to other people but you can always
learn new things.
You will loose a lot of good opportunities if you keep
on acting that way.
Some people confusing, CONFIDENCE VS
PERFECTIONIST. You can be full of confidence but
yet ready to learn new things everyday.
Remember......
Your ability to always mean new things is what will
always open new doors of opportunities for you.
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CONCLUSION:
Success has its cost, once you play it wrong it may cost
you for the rest of your life. I hope this book was a lesson
to you that there's nothing that comes easy in life. If you
want success as long as you are young, calm down your
fears and do things slow.
Learn while doing it, there is no need to rush. You will
get that car, you will open that company, you will have
that marriage. Just keep it calm, you have your choice,
whether to have it or loose it all.
Thank you.
Rosemary Obadiah Mbwilo.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR.
Rosemary Obadiah is a passionate author , speaker and
content writer , helping young people theough ideas
sharing, teaching and encouraging them to become the
best version of themselves and to become part of those
who make the world a better place to live.
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