PER DEV LESSON 2: KNOWING ONESELF “Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power. ” - -LAO TZU TABLE OF CONTENTS 01 OVERVIEW OF PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 02 UNDERSTANDING MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE 03 HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? 04 SELF-IDENTITY TABLE OF CONTENTS 05 SELF-ESTEEM 06 IDEAL SELF 07 SELF-KNOWLEDGE 08 SELF-AWARENESS 01 OVERVIEW OF PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SELF-DISCOVERY Is an essential task and it is considered a keystone to PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. WHAT IS PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT? ➢ According to Papalia & Feldman, 2012, it is a combination of Physical, Cognitive and Psychosocial development. ➢ It is human development influenced by Heredity, Environment and Maturation. WHAT IS PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT? PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT is a process in which persons reflect upon themselves, understand who they are, accept what they discover about themselves, and learn (or unlearn) new sets of values, attitudes, behavior and thinking skills to reach their fullest potential as human beings. Why is knowing yourself so important? TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS SELF Cognitive and affective representation of one’s self 02 UNDERSTANDING MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE UNDERSTANDING THE MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE ★ Adolescence comes from the word “adolescere” which means “grow”. ★ It is a crucial period in the development of an individual because it marks the transition stage that bridge childhood to adulthood. ★ According to G. Stanley Hall (1844-1924), this is the period of storm and stress of human life. ★ This period is characterized by teenager’s conflict with parents, mood disruptions, and engagements in risky behavior. UNDERSTANDING THE MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE ★ This is the time of one’s life that is full of excitement and challenges. ★ Feist & Rosenberg, 2012 stated that this is between the ages of 11 or 12 and lasting about 18 years of age. ★ Late adolescence is lasts until the age of 21 with the following classifications: ■ Early Adolescence (10 to 13 yrs. old) ■ Middle Adolescence (14 to 16 yrs. old) ■ Late Adolescence (17 to 20 yrs. old) UNDERSTANDING THE MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE ★ For an adolescent, the world is expanding, exciting and demanding of energy. ★ A major hallmark of this period is the quest for identity and individuality through assertion of independence, exercise of personal decisions in relation to what one wants to be in the future and establishing meaningful relationships with others. CHANGES AND TRANSITIONS PHYSICAL CHANGES AND BODY IMAGE PHYSIOLOGICAL PHYSICAL PSYCHOLOGICAL Most of the physiological changes have taken place at early adolescence (12-14 yrs. old) One of the reasons is the secretion of hormones by the endocrine glands. During middle adolescence, major growth spurt sets in, resulting in individual’s distinct physical characteristics. Together with that awkward feeling of recognizing the changes happening with your body, you become more concerned with your body image. Hormones: a chemical substance that passes through the bloodstream They cause the awkward stage of puberty. Generally, these involves the secondary characteristics such as weight and height gain, improvement of physique, growth of body hair, etc. You start asking questions on “how do I look?, do I look good? Did I gain weight?”, etc. 03 HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? The sum total of who a person is SELF A person’s central inner force HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF IN 5 FOOL-PROOF STEPS? 1.Get to know your personality 3. Get to know your body 4. Get to know your dreams 2. Get to know your core values 5. Get to know your likes and dislikes HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? 1.Get to know your personality Understanding your own personality is the first key. Who you are in your private moments as well as in your public ones. Who are you behind your name? What are your characteristic traits? Who are you among friends? What about strangers? HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? 2. Get to know your core values Your core values are the morale codes and the principles you hold near and dear to your heart. 3. Get to know your body How well do you know your body, your breathing, your abilities, your limits of balance and flexibility? HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? 4. Get to know your dreams Your dreams and hopes create the pathway into your future. They help you build the life you can be proud of living. Your dreams matter. Your dreams are important. Your dreams are worth going after. Don’t believe anything less. HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? 5. Get to know your likes and dislikes What do you like is just as important as, what do you dislike Simple, innocent question but knowing this about yourself gives you a lot of confidence into who you are. A lot of people go through life liking what’s popular and disliking what’s not “cool”. Avoid doing that. Take the time to define your likes and dislikes, and don’t put it up for a vote among family and friends. You decide. 04 SELF-IDENTITY SELF-IDENTITY The distinctive characteristics of the individual SELF-IDENTITY Related to one’s overall self-evaluation (self-esteem) and sense of individuality ERIK ERIKSON’S SELF-IDENTITY Adolescence gives new and challenging experiences that may pose some challenges as you balance things. As an adolescent you are transitioning from being a child to becoming an adult which poses a lot of changes. Successfully navigating through life experiences leads you to a clear understanding of your identity and individuality. Knowing clearly who you are allows you to make better choices in life, engage with others and establish healthy relationships. IDENTITY VS. ROLE CONFUSION ❏ It is clear who you are ❏ You know what you want ❏ You know the strength to build your competence ❏ You know the weaknesses that you need to overcome ❏ You have identified the interests that will help you make career plans ❏ ❏ ❏ ❏ ❏ Uncertain of yourself There is restriction or lack of exploration and identification of one’s characteristics, value and direction Minimal exposure or opportunities to socialize and establish peer relations Too much conformity with peers (failing to recognize what you want) Hard to make own decisions If you are able to balance and navigate well in this phase, you achieve a clear sense of self-identity. Failure to achieve a clear sense of identity leads to “identity crisis” SELF-CONCEPT A person’s subjective description of who a person thinks he or she is, filtered by one’s own perceptions Areas of Improvement that will help you towards self-development Self-esteem Self-knowledge Ideal self Self-awareness 05 SELF-ESTEEM SELF-ESTEEM - iT IS EVALUATIVE - IT DEPENDS ON WHAT WE PERCEIVE TO BE WORTHWHILE AND OR VALUABLE - INCLUDES THE VALUE OR IMPORTANCE WE PLACE ON OUR PERCEIVED CHARACTERISTICS (E.G. GRADES, ABILITIES, ETC.) 06 IDEAL SELF IDEAL SELF - Refers to how we want to be - Idealized image that we have developed over time - Based on what we have learned and experienced 07 SELF-KNOWLEDGE SELF-KNOWLEDGE ❏ ATTITUDES: Learned predispositions To respond favorably or unfavorably Toward something (likes vs. dislikes) ❏ Beliefs: the ways which we structure reality (true vs. false) ❏ VALUES: enduring concepts of what is right & wrong (good vs. bad) 08 SELF-AWARENESS SELF-AWARENESS ❏ SUBJECTIVE SELF-AWARENESS: ability to differentiate the self from the social and physical environment ❏ OBJECTIVE SELF-AWARENESS: ability to be the object of one’s own thoughts and attention - to be aware of one’s state of mind and that one is thinking SELF-AWARENESS ❏ SYMBOLIC SELF-AWARENESS: A uniquely human ability to think about oneself and use language (symbols) to represent oneself to others FREEDOM AND INDEPENDENCE At this stage, you will have the strong desire for freedom and independence, which sometimes results in conflicts with your parents and authorities. Having known, more or less, who you are, what you like to do, your preferences may lead you to want to do things your way. Independence is one of the hallmarks of maturity when carried out positively and with great sense of responsibility. You may think you are free and able to do what you want to do. You may feel a great sense of power with your capabilities. But as the saying goes: “with great power comes great responsibility”. Here are a few things to keep in mind to help you to stay on track. HOW TO BE INDEPENDENT: ·Be responsible Learn to manage time and money Develop planning skills · Know your limitations · Remain respectful of adults and authorities · Believe in yourself. CAREER INTERESTS AND INCLINATIONS The middle and late adolescence period is a preparation for adult roles, which requires that you seriously begin considering what you plan to do in the future. Career exploration is one prominent task that an adolescent should engage in. What do “I” want to become? Knowing what your interests are and the type of things you like or enjoy doing will give you an idea of what kind of career or vocation you want to get into or may fit you.
