How To Make Women Squirt
A Guide To
Female Ejaculation
Introduction
Every man dreams of being, and every woman aches to have
that perfect lover who will truly enjoy her body as
well as her spirit, taking her to amazing heights of ecstasy.
Men and women both are fascinated with the idea of female
ejaculation, but their thoughts on the topic can
vary widely. For many men, it is a fantasy, the Holy Grail, but
something they've primarily experienced in porn
videos. Many women simply believe it is a myth, one of those
weird things that men fantasize about, but not
something that happens to real women.
The truth is that it is very real, but also very intimate.
Actually, it is just about the most intimate things a couple
can share. Forget the hype, and ignore the advertisements
promising 200 or more techniques to make a woman
ejaculate. The reality is that yes, it is possible, but it takes
time, patience, and a willingness to truly tune into
your partner on a deep emotional and spiritual level.
So if you are ready to open your love life up to a deeply
incredible experience, these tips and instructions will
aid you in sharing one of the most wonderful experiences you
can share with your partner. With time and
experience, she may even see you as a sexual god.
For free videos describing and using the techniques in this
guide go to http://www.easysquirt.info/
Some Handy Tips Before The Main Event
Women are complicated creatures, especially sexually. The
sad truth is that even in this day and age, many
women have difficulty reaching orgasm or opening
themselves up to deeper sexual experiences, feeling that
there are just some things that “nice women” don't do. Some
women have never given themselves pleasure for
this very reason, and many have had a history of
unsatisfactory sexual experience with men who have been
more focused on their own pleasure than on hers.
Of course, there are exceptions, those that need little more
than a whisper to reach orgasmic heights, and
those that already find it easy and natural to squirt their juices
all over the bed, the floor, or even you.
But if you are reading this, the chances are good that your
partner is not one of these juicy goddesses, but
rather, a woman who needs a man willing to spend his time
and energy showing her what her beautiful body is
capable of. So let's get started with some important
information.
A woman's ejaculate is expelled from the urethra, the same
place where urine comes out from, and also
sometimes from two small duct openings between the urethra
and the vagina, called the Skene’s ducts. Studies
have found that the clear liquid is not urine at all , but rather
fluid released by the Skene's or
Paraurethral glands.
Reaching the point of ejaculating is not a quick or simple
matter. It takes time and skill, as well as a depth of
intimacy between you to help your woman let herself go. Talk
with her ahead of time. Hear her thoughts and
feelings and share your own, increasing your connection
toward a common goal. Listen to her concerns or fears
and to reassure her of your caring and desire for her. Mental
preparation is vastly important for you both.
Above all, be patient. Reaching the point of ejaculation could
take some time and practice for both of you and it
may not happen the first time you try. But even the pursuit
can be great fun, and each try will bring you closer
to your goal as you learn together. Increase your chances of
success by keeping the following tips in mind.
Tip 1: Less is More – Avoid rushing her, or overstimulating
any particular part of her body. Building up to the
ultimate orgasm for a woman is a matter of steadily and
slowly building her passion and desire in a deliberate
but subtle way. Gentle touches, caresses and licks that build in
pressure as she gets more turned on is the way
to go. Overstimulating her can backfire, numbing her
sensitive tissues and ultimately becoming an annoyance.
So be gentle and let her lead you as her passion builds.
Tip 2: Be Surprising and Romantic – All couples fall into a
routine after a while, taking the edge off the passion
between them. This is the time to change all that. Think
romantically. Bring her flowers, hold her hand, tell her
what she means to you. Spend time on the couch necking like
teenagers, stroking her back, neck, shoulders,
arms. Forget the routines and habitual lovemaking patterns
and rekindle the passion between you. Be
confident and willing to try something new. Make her laugh.
Laughter can be an amazing aphrodisiac.
Tip 3: Pretend That Your Willie Doesn't Work – Yes, I know
it's demanding. But if you want to truly please her
and bring her this special kind of relief, you have to tell that
fellow to chill out for a while. Pretend that the only
ways you have to please her are your lips, fingers, tongue,
hands, and the look in your eyes. If you focus on her
pleasure first and foremost, in the end you will both win!
Tip 4: Take Charge, But Let Her Lead The Way – Be
commanding enough that she can relax into your gentle and
loving hands, while paying close attention to her cues so that
you only do what she is ready for you to do. Listen
to the way she sighs, and moans. Notice if something you're
doing is making her grow silent or express more
pleasure. Pay attention to whether she is tensing up, or
relaxing more into what you are doing. Be perceptive
and it will pay off in amazing ways.
Tip 5: Keep Your Ego In Check – If something that you are
doing is not pleasing her, try something different. Be
daring while paying attention. Don't take it as a personal
insult if she isn't responding positively to something,
but rather, simply do something else, learning more about her
and her pleasures with an open mind. If you
honestly don't know what to try next, ask her what she's
aching for in a deep seductive whisper in her ear
before kissing and licking her neck gently and teasingly.
Listen closely when she tells you.
Tip 6: Don't Be Afraid of Her Taste and Smell – Okay, so
vagina doesn't spell like roses or taste like chocolate, but
then, neither does sperm. A clean and healthy vagina has a
fresh tangy scent and taste that is quite pleasant in
it's own way. If you have hangups about using your mouth
and tongue on her most intimate place, you are
beaten before you ever leave the starting gate. Most women
are at least somewhat self conscious of their own
bodies, and if you truly want her to relax into the pleasure you
are giving her, she needs to know that you are
truly enjoying what you are doing. Tell her she tastes so good,
that nothing turns you on more, that the more
you lick her, the hungrier you get for her. Let her know that
her pleasure is your pleasure and she will be putty
in your hands.
Tip 7: Silence is Not Golden – When your lover is quiet, it
can be disconcerting. Is she enjoying herself? Or is she
bored, or even worse, asleep? The same goes for you. This
doesn't mean overdoing it so that your moans sound
like you're pretending to be in a bad porn movie, but let her
know of your pleasure by the way you gently moan
and sigh and whisper sweet sentiments. Occasionally ask her
if this feels good, or if she has any requests, but
don't bombard her with questions. In lovemaking, the best
conversation is spoken without words, by truly
tuning into your partner and the responses of her body.
Tip 8: Patience is a Virtue – Think about the most delicious
dessert you can imagine. Would you devour it
quickly in 5 gulps, or savor it slowly with pleasure? Savoring
her, taking your time to enjoy every single moment
of what you're doing will free her up to do the same. A very
strong key component to female ejaculation is deep
relaxation. Take your time and lead her gently into a state of
deep and profound bliss. You'll be glad you did.
Tip 9: Whisper Sweet Nothings – Every woman wants to
know that they are special, loved, cherished and
desired. Every woman has some insecurity with her body.
Assure her by your words and your actions that you
find her irresistible, beautiful, and desirable. Relish her.
Compliment her sincerely. Look at her as if she is the
greatest gift in your life, a treasure in your eyes. Make her
melt by the way you gaze into her eyes. She's with
you, opening herself to you, and she is worth it.
Tip 10: Finally – Remember the woman inside the body.
Intimacy is not simply for the time of love making but
for the afterglow as well. No matter what the outcome of your
lovemaking, remember to hold her, touch her
and spend time cuddling close. This will increase the intimacy
and trust between you and lead to greater
lovemaking success the next time around. Sex, especially
after an intense climax, can leave a woman feeling
very open and vulnerable. Reassuring her that you weren't
just in it for the fun, but are in it for her – for the
long haul, is vital. So don't just roll over and start snoring
after the deed is done or you'll simply undo all the
progress you made.
Getting Down To Business
Step1
Sex Her Up with Words – Have you ever noticed the
difference between porn made for men and porn made for
women? Men are visual creatures, primarily turned on by
what they see. Women, on the other hand, are
turned on by mental stimulation. This is what keeps the
writers of lusty romance novels up to their armpits in
mink. So, if you really want to get your woman going, you
need to start with her mind.
If you already know how to sex her up mentally, you're ahead
of the game. Start by making her melt
emotionally. Gaze at her with desire. Feed her a delicious
tidbit of food and follow it up with a gentle kiss. Put
on some romantic music and slow dance with her, standing
and holding her as you sway to the music. Run your
fingertips gently up her back. Breathe against her neck,
beneath her ear, before whispering how much you
desire her. Follow that with a deep, sensuous kiss.
As things heat up, tell her, “tonight is all about your pleasure.
I want to spoil you and take you to places you've
never been before.” Make her your partner in a mutual goal
by telling her, “I really want to make you cum to
the point that you can't help but squirt your pleasure all over
me.” If she responds, listen to what she says. Is
she into it or expressing doubt and concern? Listen and talk
and make sure the goal is mutually pleasing. If she
has reservations, treat them gently with respect.
Female ejaculation requires deep trust and a willingness to let
go. It is not something to be forced. Even if she gives in and
goes along with it unwillingly, she will never relax
enough to get there. So be persuasive without being pushy.
Other important preparations: Make sure your fingernails are
short and smooth so you don't painfully nick one
of her tender parts at a crucial moment. Clipping them a
couple of days in advance is a good idea as it gives
them time to smooth out after clipping while still remaining
short.
Encourage her to urinate before the action really gets going.
Not only does this help to avoid interruptions
(might not be a bad idea for you to “go” too) but the feeling
of ejaculation is similar to, although also quite
different from, the feeling of needing to pee. If her bladder is
empty, she will be able to relax more fully into the
sensations you are creating within her.
Step2
Think of Foreplay as Part of the Main Event – Too often
lovers think of foreplay as a means to an end.
Particularly men, although women can do this too. Foreplay is
vastly important to a satisfying sexual
experience. Continue in the process that you started in step
one, kissing her deeply, stroking her back,
shoulders, cupping her neck in your hand as you pull her
closer for those deep kisses. Touch the rest of her
body before reaching for her breasts. She has many sensitive
places. Make her ache with desire before
satisfying her craving. Pay attention and let her responses lead
you. As her excitement increases, undress her
while you stroke and caress and kiss. Lay her down and kiss
her more deeply before slowly licking and kissing
your way down her body, neck, shoulders, arms, fingertips,
breasts, belly. Then move to her legs and begin
working your way up. Pay special attention to her inner thighs
and the backs of her knees as these are
particularly sensitive areas.
If you feel tension in her body, trail gentle kisses and licks
over her in that area. Occasionally reconnect with her
through deep, passionate kisses. If you notice her breathing is
fast, lean close to her ear and while kissing her
neck, breathe deeply in and out, which will encourage her to
do the same. You can also try verbally encouraging
her to relax in a soft, sexy whisper, but don't overdo it or it
will have the opposite effect. The best
communication in this regard is non-verbal. Take your time,
letting the level of her desire be stronger than the
level of her satisfaction. Keep her primed, ready, and aching
for the next step.
Step3
Making her Flower Bloom – Keep kissing and licking her
inner thighs with your body between them, so that her
legs relax in a naturally parted position. The line between
thigh and pussy on either side is particularly sensitive
so be sure to lick her there as a tease of what is coming next.
However, before you go further, make sure that
she is very relaxed, breathing deeply, and aching with desire
before ever touching her pussy directly.
Once you know she's ready for the next step, lick her with
your tongue flat right up the center of her pussy on
the outer tissues. You will probably be rewarded for this by a
small gasp or moan because at this point, she's
truly primed and aching for more. Lick her along the outer
tissues a few more times, then with the tip of your
pointed tongue near her vagina, gently part her lips with your
tongue and lick upward in the direction of her
clitoris. Lick her up and down in this manner a few times,
carrying some of her own juices to her clit with your
tongue. Then focus attention to her clit, licking it in light
circles and X-shaped motions. Keep it teasing,
however, always backing off a little if she seems like she's
getting ready to cum. Satisfaction is not the goal at
this point, but rather, elevating her desire to the next level.
Step4
Let Your Fingers Do The Walking – As you gently and
teasingly lick her clitoris, slide your index finger of your
dominant hand slowly into her wet vagina. Don't go in too far,
just beyond the tip. With your finger, make
circles around the inside of the entrance. The tissues here are
quite sensitive and that, combined with your
tender teasing of her clit, will arouse her even further. You
may notice her moving her hips at this point in an
attempt to get your finger deeper inside of her.
However, tease her more until you feel her vaginal muscles
relax, making sure that her breathing is deep and steady. Then
it's time to go even deeper.
It's a good idea to have a good lube handy. An oil or silicone
based lube is recommended, but nothing too thick.
Watery, but not water based is best. Aqua Lube and Swiss
Navy are both excellent.
Withdraw your finger and squeeze some lube on your index
and middle fingers before inserting them into her relaxed
vagina.
Keep the lube handy as it is possible you will want a more,
but don't overdo applying it. Most lubes are flavored, and
unless you love the taste, you are better off not getting it on
the areas where you are using your tongue.
Slide your fingers in until you find her cervix, which feels
like a hard donut about the size of a walnut. Slide your
fingers past it until you reach soft tissue on the other side and
caress that spot with your fingertips as you
continue to tease her clit softly with your tongue. This is the
fornix of the vagina and like the tissues
surrounding the opening, is highly responsive to stimulation.
You should find your finger motions rewarded
with more hip movement from your partner, and should also
feel her vagina relax even more around your
fingers.
Step 5
Locate and Focus on the G-Spot – Move your fingers along
the belly side wall of her vagina until you feel a
hardened and slightly rougher spot. This is the G-Spot. It is
slightly past the entrance of the vagina, about halfway up the front of the vaginal wall. At this point, it might be
helpful for your own comfort to slide your ring
finger inside of her as well. If you need more lube to do this
comfortably, use it.
Sometimes it is a bit tricky to comfortably reach and maintain
good pressure on the g-spot with the fingers. In
this case, don't be afraid or personally insulted if you find that
a g-spot oriented toy works better and more
comfortably than your fingers. The goal is pleasing your
woman and bringing her to desired heights of passion
and pleasure.
Once you find the g-spot, focus your attention on
manipulating it in various ways. Tap it, run circles over it,
flick
it like a switch, and more. Tune in see what she seems to
respond to best. Lightly tease her clitoris with your
tongue, but keep the primary focus on her g-spot until she
begins to climax. You will know this is happening
when you feel her vaginal muscles move against your fingers.
If using a toy, you can still feel the movements of
the muscles on the outside of her pussy. As her climax begins,
decrease your attention to her clit to the lightest
and slowest of movements so that most of the stimulation is
happening to her g-spot.
Once her orgasm is under way, continue manipulating the gspot with more intensity. If you do this correctly,
you will soon find her having another climax. Continue this
action, at this point with very little direct stimulation
to her clit. It will be profoundly sensitive at this point and the
least touch is plenty. It is very important to not
overdo clitoral stimulation as the clit is very similar to the
penis, in that if it is stimulating to the point of
orgasm, that is generally the end of any chance for multiple
orgasm. So don't overdo. Keep the focus on her gspot and this will encourage a wave of multiple orgasms.
Once you get her to the state of multiples waves of orgasms,
you can begin escalating pressure on her Skene’s
glands by continuing with deep thrusting action against her gspot with your fingers or the toy, and laying the
palm of your other hand against her mound, massaging with
gentle pressure. You can try to stop clitoral
stimulation with your tongue at this point, as the hand on her
mons pubis should be sufficient clitoral
stimulation as well, but if you find that this lessens the steady
increase of orgasmic pleasure, return your
tongue to lightly stimulating her clit.
If you are able to subside with oral stimulation at this point, it
will allow you to use the power of your arm to
intensify the pressure against her g-spot. The combination of
g-spot manipulation and the pressure of your
other hand on her mound will intensify the feelings, the
waves of orgasmic pleasure moving through her, and
build the intensity toward a true release, which, of course, is
your aim.
The deeper her desire and the more she climaxes, the less you
need to worry about being gentle. Now is the time to really
stimulate the g-spot with all your strength. Unless she tells
you it's too much, it isn't. Don't worry.
At some point she may comment that she feels a pressure
building, or is beginning to feel like she needs to pee.
Remind her that she went to the bathroom already and to
relax and go with the feeling. Tell her how much you
want to feel her gush all over you. With her desire this strong,
encourage her with your words as you keep up a
steady assault on her g-spot and mound.
If she is able to relax enough to let herself go, at some point at
the height of another climax, you will feel the
gush as her Skene's glands release, drenching your hand in
her juices. Keep up the pressure though, as usually
one gush is followed by another, and another. She might get
quite loud at this point, if she wasn't already,
crying out the pleasure and the release.
Her ejaculation may be a light amount of fluid or an actual
gushing spray. Both are normal and the amount of
fluid released could be anywhere from a teaspoon to a cup.
Make sure to have some towels handy.
Once she reaches the ultimate releasing orgasmic gush, her
vagina will become extremely sensitive. But this
doesn't mean it's time to quit. It's simply time to lighten up the
pressure on her. At this point you should still be
able to offer her one more lovely surprise.
Step6
The Icing on the Cake - Maintain light pressure on her g-spot
and resume gentle oral pressure on her clit. This
time the primary focus should be on her clit, but still light, as
all of her tissues are quite sensitive now. As long
as you don't overdo it on intensity, you should be able to get
one last intense orgasm from her, leaving her
completely drained and spent and supremely satisfied.
Step7
The Afterglow – A climax of this intensity can leave a woman
feeling very open and vulnerable. She may even
be rather embarrassed about the “mess she made.” It is very
important at this time that you hold her close as
you lovingly wipe her dry with a towel, telling her how
beautiful she was and how much pleasure it gave you to
see her release in this way.
If, on the other hand, she wasn't able to let herself go to that
point, it is still important to hold her and reassure
her after she climaxes and to teasingly tell her that you'll help
her feel even better next time around. Either way,
this is just about the most important step of all as it increases
the intimacy and trust between you, making it
that much more likely that you will have success with your
next attempt. Don't even underestimate the power
of tenderness to strengthen the bonds between you.
Again you can find free videos where these techniques are
demonstrated on women at http://www.easysquirt.info/
Final Disclaimer and Word of Warning
No, this is not a legal disclaimer, but something more
important than that. Pleasuring a woman to this level is a
profoundly intimate act and not something to be undertaken
casually. Orgasm to this degree opens the heart
and spirit much more than normal sexual activity and
therefore, should be reserved for long-term relationships.
Otherwise, you may find yourself in a very complicated
situation.
And for women interested in exploring this on their own, the
main criteria is to get yourself a good toy made
especially for stimulating the g-spot, and pleasuring yourself
with your fingers in much the same way. The more
in tune a woman is with her own body, the more she is able to
help her partner give her pleasure. So enjoy
yourself on your quest to learn a bit more about what your
body can do.
Above all, enjoy yourself!