Things to consider before you marry! Zaur Balcıoğlu 210111010 [rewritten] Living together before marriage was a huge taboo a couple decades ago. But have we got over it now? In a local research made in US shows us that “Among adults ages 18 to 44, 59% have lived with an unmarried partner at some point in their lives”1. As you can see, statistics show that it is pretty normal to live with a partner without marrying to them. But both ways have its own benefits. Cohabitation is simpler and better for newer relationships and Marriage is better if you plan a kid and want to make your relationship legal. Lets compare these options in categories such as; lifestyle, responsibilities, and economy Marriage is good if your relationship is aged since getting under this kind of commitment is a big risk on new relationships since it isn’t guaranteed that you will get along with each other. Research shows that 10 percent of married couples don’t trust their partner2 and this is a problem because when you marry you take your relationship to a legal commitment. It is best for heritage and for child support if you plan to make any. But it also is more expensive and takes more effort to marry someone. And if things don’t go the way you wanted you have to divorce and it is unbelievably long and tiring process to deal with. Cohabitation is the simpler choice for fresh relationships that plan to stay together with their partner. It is easier and if things don’t go well for both of you, your partner or you can just leave the house and never come back again. Among those ages 18-24, cohabitation is now more prevalent than living with a spouse3 But it has some cons to it, such as in 3rd world countries, it is not normal to live with someone of an opposite gender without marriage. It is a dumb thing of course but it can really cause problems to you and it is a thing that you need to think on if you plan to cohabitate with your partner. Whichever option you choose, there are some things that you will experience eventually. In both of the options, your wallet will be at ease since you will be living with someone and it will take the burden of living from your bank account. There is also less responsibilities since you will be dividing them with your partner. Whatever you choose it still is a big commitment too because you need someone you can really trust to stay in the same house with them. There is a personal space problem that you will experience by the way. You won’t be able to do whatever you want at your house now since you need to be aware of your house partner now. To summarize, Marriage is process that is more expensive and takes longer time but if your relationship has a strong base, you should go for it. Cohabitation is best to test compatability with the partner you trust, but many 3rd world countries wont allow such thing. But whatever you choose you need a trustworthy partner since you will stay in the same house with them. Also with a partner in your house you can’t behave like you are single so keep that in mind. 1:https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/11/06/key-findings-on-marriage-and-cohabitation-inthe-u-s/#:~:text=1%20A%20larger%20share%20of,National%20Survey%20of%20Family%20Growth. 2:https://www.chronicle-independent.com/news/national/10-percent-of-married-couples-dont-trusttheir-partner-survey-shows/ 3:https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2018/11/cohabitation-is-up-marriage-is-down-for-youngadults.html#:~:text=Among%20those%20ages%2018%2D24,12%20percent%2010%20years%20ago.
