The best version of me does that unconsciously
1. Start your conversations in a fun, positive way.
2. Use over the top teasing.
3. Be playfully absurd.
4. talk slow and confidently and with deeper tonality and make a strong eye contact.
5. Have leaned back, confident, dominant body language.
6. Get comfortable with your worst-case scenario.
7. be an active curious individual that love to learn new things every day and work hard.
8. be disciplined, mysterious, ambitious, responsible.
9. provide for protect and nurture those who you love.
10.participate in the tribe and give value.
11. enjoy the results of your work.
12. meditate every day, sleep well, and say a compliment to someone.
Full guide to master social skills:
1. Improve your social intelligence by experiencing new situations and develop your
understanding of social cues and make mistakes to learn from them.
2. Practice approaching people with positive energy, don’t scare them and don’t make them
uncomfortable with touches (touching is a powerful tool if you use it right and touch him for like
2-5 seconds).
3. Smile when you approach or talk to someone (when you smile you should feel the happiness of
smiling, not just smiling with your eyes).
4. Have leaned back, confident, open, kind, honest body language.
5. Notice their body language, if they have open body language then keep talking, but if they have
closed body language 50 seconds after the start of the conversation then you should leave the
place.
6. Make strong eye contact because that shows interest and presence.
7. The 3F's for basic conversations:
1. Be Funny.
2. Be Friendly.
3. Be Fast (talk with them for 1-2 minutes then leave).
8.The 3P's for deep conversations:
1. Personal (start asking personal questions).
2. Private (being private away from other people if it's just two of you).
3. Presence (being fully conscious of the moment and free from the noise of internal
dialogue).
2 ways to improve your presence:
1. long-term meditation.
2. set the intention to be present.
9. Don’t fear rejection, it helps you to improve your social intelligence.
10. If you want to make online friends you should be as authentic as possible and don’t fear
rejection because it’s part of the game, and you can find microcommunities with the same
interest as you because it helps to get into deep conversations very fast and avoid basic
conversations.
11. If you want to approach someone in the gym, you can ask someone to watch your stuff, when
you say that you use a psychological trick (when someone does a favor for you even if it’s a very
small favor, they automatically like you more).
12. If you want to make friends in school, you should approach a lot of students and apply the 3F’s
method for basic conversations.
13. If you want to make friends in parties, you should do social lubrication or get socially lubed up
before going to a party (talk to stranger people before going to a nightclub because that help to
get into social flow state), have a great first impression and bear in mind that you don’t actually
need to get into deep conversations, just focus entirely on the basic conversations structure plus
telling funny, interesting and exciting stories.
14. If you master advanced social skills, it will change your social life, let’s start with:
1. Leadership: Be the initiator of the action, make plans and take the responsibility yourself to
bring people into it and you can ask your friends to help you develop it.
2. Charisma: We have three pillars of charisma (from “the charisma myth” book):
_Presence: It is complete concentration in what someone is saying and what you are saying to
someone with strong eye contact, and you can improve it by doing meditation.
_Warmth: it’s like you liking the other person, being kind, enthusiastic and influencer.
_Power: to have power, just become better in the environment you are currently in,
And you should have strength and dominance.
3. Storytelling: you should tell stories in a way that the listener can visualize and imagine things
and the way you speak and describe it, it’s important.
And to make better stories, think about your audience and what they relate to, and the point of
telling stories is to invoke emotions.
How to get into social flow state:
1. Level up your social skills (start thinking about the other person and take an interest in them).
2. Social reward (you see the results of your conversation with new people and you enjoy your
time, that makes happy and you get into the flow state).
How to be funny in conversation like Craig Ferguson:
1.Be playful, have fun and make the other person feel comfortable.
2. Start almost every conversation in a fun positive way with high energy enthusiastic compliments
by using special and unique words and effusive positive energy.
3. Low your filter and say any sidelong thing that pops into your head and just have fun.
4. Don’t be literal - be playful with the conversation and give answers that are more just fun for
you to say, rather than necessarily answering the questions directly. If the asker really wants to
know, they'll ask again, but often it’s more fun to give a non-answer that directs the conversation
in a fun/ridiculous direction. Be literal when you need to be/ the asker is seriously insisting, but
otherwise just play around.
5. Use over the top teasing by exaggerate your reaction and you can use two easy teases:
5.1. Asking a rhetorical question that assumes something absurd.
5.2. callout the person for saying something cliche (use the cliche callout for cliches that people
won’t be insecure about).
6. Be playful and relaxed - enjoy yourself and laugh.
7. Be playfully absurd.
8. Make your jokes kind/flattering/complimentary.
9. Purposely misinterpret what the other person is saying and roll with it for a while. Play the fool.
10. Don't rush your jokes, keep pushing and pushing and pushing your jokes, that’s makes you
attractive.
11. Use the Rolodex method: make jokes that relate to what was previously discussed / manages
to present with what’s being said while having a seemingly sort of a rolodex in the back of his
head of beats and topics that they have touched on.
12. Playfully Self-deprecate. Make a joke of the compliment (playfully disarm compliments
directed at you without making people think you hate yourself).
13. Be Enthusiastic with your compliments. Try to be excited for the conversation even if you're
tired/don't like the person. Putting a bit of enthusiasm in has a higher probability of making the
conversation more fun for both of you, even if you aren’t the best of friends.
14. Create a safe environment for people to be flirty and sexual, and you can do this with several
ways:
14.1. Go there first on your own with a joke that is not about them.
14.2. Playfully misinterpret something so that she the one who took the conversation sexual.
14.3. Create flirtatious vibes with innuendo, like saying something that’s technically innocent but
could have a double meaning.
15. Leaned back body language.
16. Flirt with the world and with anyone you find attractive.
17. Don’t be too stressed about making "different" jokes each time, just enjoy the conversation by
playing with language and what was previously said.
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How to be the Funniest Person in the room like Robin Williams:
Robin Williams uses humor technique called playing a character and it can make even things that
are unfunny seem hilarious.
There are some tips to improve it:
1. The specificity of the character plus the commitment (commit to voice, commit to
gesticulations and to the facial expressions of the character) makes people laugh.
2. Robin Williams is absurd and he’s playing the character with absurdness.
Easy jokes that make people like you instantly from Ryan Reynolds:
1. Exaggerate so much it’s impossible to take you seriously, and you can use it in 2 situations:
1.1. Answering potentially boring questions during small talk.
1.2. Use the top exaggerations during your stories, by exaggerating you can make complaining
fun to listen to, and maybe some people may get fatigued from your negative sarcasm so you can
avoid this by ending your stories in a positive way and don’t forget specificity.
2. Use the “mind’s eye” method, to make people laugh, conjure up an absurd image in the
person’s mind.
3. Use the “fake-out” method, it’s good to use it in stories but it’s especially easy if you’re saying
something that people expect will be sentimental then you say something unpredictable and
unsentimental, and to ensure you get a laugh is to slow down or give a slight pause before the
punch line.
4. Ryan is funny because of his tone, energy and his body language but it’s hard to do that
consciously, so you should focus on self-amusement and having good time, you should also build
the habit of being positive with your humor.
Ways to increase your testosterone:
1. Expose yourself to females that intimidate you and you are physically attracted with.
2. Compete for dominance.
3. Take responsibility.
Surprisingly your brain knows your situation and starts giving you the tools you will need.
How to become popular and the tribe leader:
Stage 1: Recluse
It’s the stage when you are addicted to the internet and social media and don’t spend more time
outdoors. This is because you spend all your time on the internet and video games and all your
desires (status, achievement, brotherhood) are simulated on the internet. And to move from
stage 1 to stage 2 is to go on a walk (for 15-20 minutes a day) and then you can do progressive
overload (you can say Hi or Good morning to people then you can increase the level and ask them
for or about something).
Stage 2: Social skills + Practice
The most important thing you need in this stage is a burning desire to learn about selfimprovement and social skills and practice it (you can read books about self-improvement like
“How to win friends and influence people” and you can practice cold approaches).
Stage 3: Value
You should give value to the other people and focus on them and what they want.
Stage 4: Scale
Moving the value from the real life and giving it on the internet by creating content in YouTube or
in some podcasts and you can produce at least 2 pieces of content per week, and it should be full
of value.
Stage 5: Tribe leader
After you pass all the stages successfully, now you have a tribe, fans that you change their lives,
and they will literally pay your bills because they trust you and like you. And when you are in this
stage you will feel more responsible and confident, and it will increase your testosterone level.