9 BASIC KAREZZA MANUAL
KAREZZA INSTRUCTION MANUAL
In this chapter you will find instructions for beginners. I will describe the best movements for
a man, how to end a sex session with full control, and how to use the pressure point. It will be
followed by self-massage for training purpose, and what we need to know about energy in
order to reach the highest mountain tops of sexual pleasure.
In sex with ejaculation, the normal sexual cycle for a man is 5 to 20 minutes. With the
practice of Karezza, lovemaking can go on much longer, for hours. Through Karezza, by
learning how to avoid ejaculation, every man can have very pleasurable and satisfactory sex
daily, at any time desired or convenient.
When during lovemaking, the desire to ejaculate in the man arises, he should stop all
movements and request his partner to do the same.
After a few seconds of rest, continuing, the man should make love to his sex partner in a
slow, considerate and caring manner for the most part, sporadically varied with moments of
more vigorous activity synchronized with the woman's cycles of intensified pro-orgasmic
excitement. Yet, the man should always maintain his self-control, avoiding his ejaculation,
and stopping all movement whenever necessary.
The basic Karezza manual below consists of:
The initial and increasing excitement phase (First Phase)
The chief prolonged phase (Second Phase)
When close to an orgasm – how to keep control
Ending the sex session (End Phase)
THE FIRST PHASE
FOREPLAY
To begin with, the man should allow total unhurried relaxation to give the woman the extra
time (at least 20 minutes) which she needs to awaken her glandular, emotional/feeling chain.
A man can be ready instantly, but a woman needs these extra few minutes. These
moments can be used by the man in touching, caressing, kissing sensitive parts of her neck,
ears, chest, breasts etc.
TEASING PENETRATION
There is a close connection between the breasts and the vagina, whereby caresses of the
breast activates the vaginal secretions - which signal the awakening readiness of the
woman for accepting the penetration of the male organ. This can be done by the man in a
slow, slightly teasing in and out fashion of an inch at a time by the male organ around the
upper, clitoral region of the vagina. (1 inch = 2.5 cm)
DEEPER IN-OUT PENETRATION
After a series of slow and gradually increasing deeper penetration, the man should wisely
aim to move in a manner more of restraint. Using partial penetrations of about 2 inches
mostly, holding back excitement as subtly as possible, he will prolong as much as possible the
ecstasy of each moment of sensation.
Unavoidably, the movements of both the man and woman will gradually increase, raising
the pitch of excitement more and more. Soon, and probably too soon, a point is reached
where the man feels himself drawn into dangerous territory, wherein he will be pulled
into a rapid current beyond his control. But it is important that the man immediately regains
control.
Up until here, this phase equals a Standard Sex session. But instead of ending the sex here,
with the first ejaculation, as usual - you will continue the sex. A new phase is started from this
point, a prolonged phase, enabling much higher sexual pleasure.
SIDEWAYS MOVEMENTS
At the first moment the man recognizes the danger of losing control, he should immediately
cease all in and out movements of his penis in her vagina and begin sideways or semi-circular
movements, in the direction of an upward semicircle going upper rightward, followed by
upper leftward, alternating, slowly if excited, and more rapidly if under control.
This way, he exerts strong pressure against the woman’s clitoris at the top, allowing her to
move closer to orgasm, while at the same time allowing himself to maintain self-control
despite the woman’s increasing movements.
At the moment that he feels himself to be totally calm and safe, he may then begin in and out
movements to increase his own excitement. Then, when he reaches a point when his
excitement begins to feel too intense, he should immediately without delay, switch back to
the sideways, upper semicircular movements; shallow in movements of only 2 inches of penis.
He has to careful here because, as the woman is getting more and more excited, she
begins to move more and more rapidly. A sudden and violent move on her part can throw
a man completely out of his self- control, if he has allowed himself to stray into territory of
his own great excitement.
The wise man seeing, the woman’s increasing excitement, will stay away from all in and
out movements and remain completely in the sideways, semi-circular mode until the
woman has completed her increased tempo movements to and through her totally
completed orgasmic climax. Then she will either stop moving to bathe in her ecstasy of peace,
or, she will move very slowly at this point.
THE WHOLE SECRET
The whole secret, I discovered after many years of experience, lies in the man
understanding this: all in and out movements in the woman’s vagina of the penis result in
speedily moving in the direction of the male orgasm, whereas the sideways or upwards semicircular movements along with only partial penetrations of the penis of about 2 inches deep, to
avoid excessive excitation, will allow him to maintain full self-control at all times, even when
a woman moves violently during her orgasm. With practice, this self mastery comes easily,
even in a matter of weeks.
The secret is this: the more rapidly a woman moves in approaching orgasm, the sooner the
man should abandon in and out moves and immediately switch to the sideways cycle of
moves.
CONTROLLING THE MOVES
If the woman in her passion moves strongly in an in and out direction toward the man, he
should then put his full weight against the woman, fully entered to the hilt in her vagina,
pinning her down if he’s on top to restrict her in and out moves. If he’s in a sideways
position or she’s on top, he should lock his arms around her buttocks so that he can stop her
in and out moves.
If unable to control her moves, he should switch positions immediately and get on top of her,
using his body weight to pin her down, forcibly restricting her moves to his sideways
moves. If absolutely impossible to control her then, if he’s excited, he should immediately
disengage from her, lie down on his back and after only a few seconds of rest he will be
calm enough to enter her again safely, and continue again as from the beginning.
In the beginning of entry of the penis into the vagina, a man may freely, energetically
and even rapidly move totally in, fully penetrating, the vagina - to the end, and
withdrawing to about 2 inches remaining inside from the entrance of the vagina with each
backward external stroke, never fully leaving the vagina.
POSITION
The position should be as comfortable as possible - either lying on the side, or the man
behind the woman with her knees drawn upward, or even being on top of her and resting
on his elbows. The main movements should be from the pelvis alone allowing the rest of the
body to be fully relaxed. This allows the man to continue his movements for long periods of
time without fatigue. Positions can be altered whenever desired.
THE SECOND PHASE (THE CHIEF PROLONGED PHASE)
CALM ECSTATIC MOVEMENTS
After the beginning phase, the second prolonged and chief phase begins, wherein the couple
spends the greatest part of their time in calm ecstatic movements. These movements for the
man may average as follows:
Moving forward to full or partial penetration for about one second.
Then, moving backward (outward) for about one second, leaving about 2 inches of the
penis remaining inside the vagina.
These moves keep repeating. As excitation increases, the moves average about 3/4 of a
second forward and 3/4 of a second backwards. After a little practice, the timing of the
moves becomes automatic requiring no attention.
The man who is beginning to learn this technique for the first time, would be wise to
practice by himself, manually putting himself through all the moves, in and out, sideways and
in a semi-circle upwards, 1 second in and 1 second out, then 3/4 of a second in and 3/4 of a
second out.
SLOW SAFE SPEED
He should then practice remaining for at least 20 minutes in the prolonged phase of
continuous movement as slowly as possible. This can be gauged as follows:
Here we are using the hardness of the penis in determining how fast our inner and outward
moves should be. The tendency of the penis is to become harder when the moves go faster.
As the moves become slower, the penis tends to become softer.
A slow, safe, long-term maintenance speed is approximately 1 second in and 1 second out, or
less, repeated. This may be done for a few minutes at the beginning, while counting. Once the
feel of the timing is obtained, counting should be discontinued. The movements here may
fluctuate.
When sex is prolonged, if the penis begins to soften, the man increases the speed of his
movements and the penis becomes firmer. If he finds himself becoming too excited, by
slowing sufficiently he regains his calmness and self-control. He periodically adjusts his
movements accordingly within the range of safety and self-control, synchronized with his
enjoyment at all times.
STEADY RHYTHM
During the prolonged phase where steady maintenance rhythm becomes established, the
penis remains in a half-hard state which works perfectly well in satisfying the woman as
well as the man. If the man increases the speed of his rhythm as he enters the more
exciting phase, the penis will become harder.
Since he is moving more rapidly toward orgasm and ejaculation, in this exciting phase, it
becomes increasingly more difficult to keep control. A man may dally in this area for a short
while, but must remain very alert, since 2 to 3 strong moves may throw him out of control,
throw him into the beginning of orgasm and ejaculation.
GETTING CLOSER TO ORGASM
With ejaculation, the normal sexual cycle is 5 to 20 minutes, for a man. With the practice of
Karezza, lovemaking can go on for hours. Every man, by learning how to avoid ejaculation, can
have very pleasurable and satisfactory sex daily, at any time desired or convenient.
When during lovemaking, the desire to ejaculate in the man arises, he should stop all
movements and request his partner to do the same. After a few seconds of rest, continuing
the sex, the man should make love to his sex partner in a slow, considerate and caring
manner for the most part. These slow movements will be sporadically varied with moments
of more vigorous activity, synchronized with the woman’s cycles of intensified pro-orgasmic
excitement. Yet, the man should always maintain his self- control, avoiding his ejaculation,
and stopping all movement whenever necessary.
WHEN VERY CLOSE TO ORGASM – HOW TO KEEP CONTROL
I have on a few occasions strayed to the point wherein one additional move would have
made it impossible for me to avoid ejaculation (peak orgasm), but I was able to stop the
process by using the following Yoga technique:
I would immediately withdraw from the woman, as fast as possible, lie on my back, take a
deep breath, and quickly contract my rectal muscle as hard as I could, suck in my guts
(abdominal muscles), and pull everything in and upward as hard as possible, then
concentrating all my attention in the head between the eyebrows.
All this time I would be holding my breath and maximizing my muscle contractions. Within 5
or 6 seconds I’d feel the body reversing and withdrawing all sensation from the sex organs
and stopping the ejaculation. This contraction of the muscles and the holding of the inhaled
breath should be held for as long as comfortably possible, then followed by exhalation. This
entire sequence should be repeated 3 times and total success will follow.
After successfully avoiding an ejaculation, my movements would become very slow for a
while. After this, I would go back to a faster rhythm again, varying my speed as before, as
part of the “chief prolonged phase”.
PRESSURE POINT
On the rare occasions when it was too late to stop the orgasm, I quickly withdrew from the
woman, laid on my back, put my right hand on the pressure point (to be explained later)
and allowed the full completion of the orgasm and assisting it with my free (left) hand
while avoiding the loss of any semen.
Semen is stopped by applying pressure at the pressure point. After all orgasmic contractions
had ceased completely, I removed my hand from the pressure point.
Thereafter I stopped all sex, since there was a possibility that some drops of seminal fluid
may leak outward after orgasm has occurred. If there is no orgasm, there is no danger of
semen leaking out and causing pregnancy in the woman, no matter how prolonged the sex
is. This was proven by two doctors who resided at the Oneidan Colony in New York for many
years. If the orgasm begins and you stopped it by immediate contractions, if you feel the
leakage of a few drops of fluid from the penis, to be safe you should stop all sex here.
If you want to continue, then wash with soap and water, and put on a condom to safely avoid
pregnancy.
SUCCESSFUL SELF-CONTROL
The man, who is trying to avoid his own orgasm and ejaculation, should try to remain in the
second calmer phase at all times and avoid getting into the over-excitation territory. The
woman should be permitted to have all the orgasms she desires.
By practice, he quickly and easily learns how to become a master of this technique. During
sex, he should learn to concentrate ALL of his attention on feeling the pleasurable
sensations of sex to the point of being so immersed, merged and identified with his feelings,
that any other thought of the outside world ceases to exist for him - only feelings alone.
ECSTASY AND BLISS
This becomes a state of meditation, a state of deep concentration, wherein he gradually
becomes filled with joy, ecstasy and finally bliss. This brings us to what is called “the
valley orgasm”, as opposed to “the peak orgasm”.
“The peak orgasm” is the explosive orgasm which is accompanied with ejaculation of seminal
fluid in the male, lasts a few seconds and is finished. The “valley orgasm” is non-violent - a
calm long-continued ecstasy and feeling of bliss which lasts all during the sex, rising higher and
higher as the sex is prolonged.
Much of the feeling persists for days after the sex is ended, permeating through all external
activities that are engaged in afterward. The person feels happy and contented for no
reason that he can think of other than, that the feelings are a carry-over from his earlier
sexual experience.
FINDING THE PRESSURE POINT TO STOP EJACULATIONS
You should practice locating the spot long before the sex so that you can locate it very
quickly. When orgasm is unavoidable and cannot be stopped, you have about one and a
half seconds to immediately withdraw from the woman (to avoid pregnancy risk when not
using a condom). With a little practice, all this can be done in a second.
Quickly withdraw from the woman and lie down on your back, pull knees up and spread
legs apart, press your right hand over the front part of your pubic region and put your middle
finger of the right hand on the opening of your rectum opening. Move about 1/2 inch
forward to the front of the rectal opening and press inward to the body.
You will feel the bottom of the pubic bone. It has a U-shaped valley. Using full pressure,
with the 3 middle fingers of your right hand, press here. This will push the bottom shaft of
the penis and tissues (containing the urethra or urinary canal) against the U-curve (like a
valley) in the pubic bone.
While you are applying pressure with the 3 middle fingers of your right (or left) hand, your free
hand can be massaging the penis so that you can experience the full pleasure of the orgasm
while the right hand pressure is keeping the seminal fluid from being expelled and lost from the
body.
Just before the orgasm and ejaculation begins, rush to the pressure spot with the 2nd, 3rd,
and 4th fingers and begin the pressing, stopping, the semen contents from entering the
urethra canal. Hold the pressure until a few seconds after the orgasmic contractions (about
4 or so) are completely ended. Then release the fingers and pressure. No fluids should be
coming out. Some will probably leak into the urethra urinary canal afterward, and will be
carried out by the urine.
Figure 2: PRESSURE POINT DIAGRAM, with X marking the spot above the anus,
indicating the point of pressure.
It is a good idea to avoid drinking much water or liquids before the sex so that you don’t have
to urinate during sex and afterward for at least a couple of hours. This will allow the lymph
vessels enough time to reabsorb as much as possible of the seminal fluid. It will be circulated
and used throughout the body to nourish it with great benefit. Judging by a slight loss of
energy which follows the orgasm, I estimate that perhaps 25 to 40% of the semen may be
washed out with the urine and the rest reabsorbed by the body.
I recommend that all sex be discontinued after the orgasm for the rest of the day, since sperm
cells may leak out afterward. If there is no orgasm, no sperm will leave the glands. This
pressure method allows you to keep most of your hormones from being lost. I used this only
when I went too far and was unable to stop the orgasm, which I would have preferred. This
occurred rarely, only once or twice a year, and I used it only then.
I always tried to avoid any orgasms or ejaculations at all times for total conservation of energy
and semen. This pressure method allows you to maximize your enjoyment of an accidental
orgasm, or even a chosen one, and at the same time, avoid loss of your precious hormones making the most of both situations.
THE END PHASE - WHAT TO DO AFTER SEX ENDS (THE SUBLIMATION TECHNIQUE
AND COMFORT TECHNIQUE)
At last the moment finally arrives when the sex has been concluded, usually after the
woman is completely satisfied and her body is fully content, relaxed and in a state of blissful
tranquility. The man, if he has stayed in the calm area sexually (the lower valley) for the
most part and avoided the super-exciting area (the higher valley), is at this moment not tired,
but relaxed and feeling great.
We are assuming that during the entire session he has controlled himself fully, avoided
orgasm and ejaculation. But if he has pushed his sexual excitement many times almost to
the point of orgasm, when the sex stops he may feel keyed up, with strong sexual drive
remaining. Now the man is ready to end the sex-session. What shall he do at this point?
There are several choices without ejaculation:
DOING NOTHING
He can do nothing and rest briefly, then get up and do what he normally does.
THE SUBLIMATION TECHNIQUE
If he feels any frustration or hyper-sensitivity in his sexual region, he can lie down on his
back after the sex, take a deep breath and do the following - contract his rectal muscle as
hard as he can, quickly adding the muscles of the penis, perineum and abdominal muscles
around the navel, contracting all the muscles as much as possible inward and upward. Close
your eyes during this and put your attention in the head between the eyebrows area.
Hold the breath and contractions as long as possible.
Repeat all this a total of 3 to 9 times and then relax for a few minutes, This will pull the
energy out of the sexual area and bring it into the brain area, charging it and make you feel
good. The contraction of muscles will bring great benefit and health to all these areas and
the sexual energies will be diverted to the brain awakening new areas which will inspire you
in new directions.
THE COMFORT TECHNIQUE
This third choice was the favorite of the Oneidan Colony in Oneida, N.Y., directed by Rev.
John Humphrey Noyes in the 1800’s. All the men in the colony practiced “Male
Continence”, the complete avoidance of orgasm and ejaculation in sex. Rev. Noyes
recommended to all men that after sex, they go to a bathroom and lean over a sink and pour
cold water over their penis and testicles for a minute or two. This removed any sensitivity
frustration and congestion in the sexual region, helping the retained semen to be
reabsorbed by the body and lymph . This made a man feel perfectly normal and great
afterward, just as if he had no sex at all, but with all the benefits retained.
This is an excellent practice that can be used by anyone who practices seminal retention, and
it was highly recommended by Rev. Noyes for all men. I have used it many times myself and
found it to be the quickest and most infallible way to feel good and free from all tension after
sex.
RAZOR’S EDGE
In my early stage of practice, I frequently went to the extreme point where, if I made 1 or 2
moves, orgasm would occur due to pushing myself toward the razor’s edge of ultimate sexual
excitation. At this critical moment, to avoid ejaculation, I hastily withdrew from the woman
and immediately went into the 3 repetitions of contractions, rapidly pulling myself back into
control.
Often when I went that close to orgasm and stopped without ejaculation, and if the sex
ended there, I would occasionally experience sensitivity in my sexual region and testicles,
commonly called “lover’s nuts” or “blueballs”. If I did nothing it would always gradually
diminish and disappear within 3 hours. If I used the cold water treatment, it would disappear
immediately and completely.
After years of Karezza, I gradually learned to stay in the calmer waters more and more, which
proved to be more satisfying ultimately, with much less of a tendency to feel any discomfort or
congestion afterward.
AFTER THE SUBLIMATION TECHNIQUE – MEDITATION EXERCISE
After 3 to 9 repetitions of cyclic contractions, an excellent meditation exercise may be
performed for 20 minutes or longer after sex. This meditation may lead to most rewarding
results.
While completely relaxed, start to watch your breathing, without any control over your
normal breathing. Imagine that you are breathing into and out of the heart. Feel the breath
coming into the heart by itself naturally with no control on your part whatsoever, then feel it
going out by itself. You are simply observing the breathing process happening by itself in a
state of perfect relaxation, with no action on your part and no goal in mind. Just let
everything happen by itself, just as if you were looking at a beautiful scene in nature, fully
relaxed and enjoying it.
Be totally relaxed, with no strain or effort whatsoever. The only thing to remember is this just let your attention remain on the breath as fully as possible without using any will-power
or effort. If your mind wanders, just gently and lovingly bring it back.
Using this meditation I would arrive at an ecstatic state and remain there for two hours, after
which I gradually returned to my usual ordinary state. I have used many other meditation
techniques, but this is one of the most blissful I have ever come across. (Read more about
this technique in the chapter “An Amazing Meditation Technique”.)
If I am practicing meditation, and bringing all the energy up the spine, then the energy in the
sex glands doesn't stay there - it transforms, it moves upward.
I always liked meditation. I was inspired by the meditation, but in Karezza sex, my
thoughts were more related to the woman than to the spiritual world, because I was putting
in more time with the woman.
But if I would spend more time doing meditation after sex, my thoughts would gravitate
towards a spiritual level, and I wouldn't be thinking about an earth level. Wherever your
attention is - that's where you will go.
When I go into meditation, my thoughts move from an earthly level to a God level. During
meditation in connection with Karezza sex, the love I feel for a woman is transposed to love
for God in an eternal way, a spiritual way. My thoughts are being translated from human
beings on an earthly level to a highly inspirational level.
The benefits of sublimation after Karezza sex will not end with the final meditation.
Afterwards, strong feelings of bliss, power and self-confidence, will continue for a long time.
Many areas of life, at home and at work, will benefit from this.
Both men and women who wish to redirect their powerful sexual energies upward after sex,
toward the heart, throat and brain centers for the purpose of building physical, creative
mental, psychic and spiritual energy in a highly concentrated form, can then transform this
most powerful energy into the highest creative directions desired. The pleasure, joy and bliss
of sex thus conserved will be sustained for days and weeks afterward.
This is the key: just LET GO..... Go with the flow. Go with whatever is happening. Note
whatever is happening. Then you get out of the ego and into the bliss of the universe. Then
you can learn to have bliss wherever you go no matter what you do. Then you enjoy
everything. (Also see the chapter “An Amazing Meditation Technique”.)
COMFORT TECHNIQUE - HOW TO USE COLD WATER
For men, after sex, it is best to use cold water on the sex organs to cool down. Since men
work themselves up to such a state of sexual heat and extreme pleasure, and at the same
time avoid ejaculation - it can take hours to cool down after sex, if they don't use cold
water. The cold water technique was the main technique the Oneidans used.
If you don't cool down there is a chance you can become obsessive about sex, at least for
a limited time afterwards. It happened to me, for quite a long time; I got to the point with
Karezza that all I could think about was sex - all day long. How did I finally get out of that? I
learned to use cold water after sex. Otherwise I was over-sensitive in that area for hours.
But once I used the cold water it calmed me down.
The other option to use after sex is meditation and sublimation. This is more difficult. In the
beginning I did not practice the sublimation technique often, which equals "bringing the
energy up to the third eye", a yoga and spiritual technique. If I had done that I would have
been okay. Instead I just left the energy down there in my sex-organs and the corresponding
chakra. So the energy stayed there, and made me think about sex for hours afterwards.
But finally, after such mistakes when I didn't use cold water, I always used the sublimation
technique. Usually I did 3 to 9 repetitions, and occasionally a long meditation after that, which
knocked most of it out.
When I practiced Karezza the first years, I gave up all the orgasms completely, while I had
a lot of sex. It was my fault that I became obsessive, because I didn't finish correctly. But
after a couple of years I had learnt the above two techniques for cooling down.
Cold washing takes a minute, and is easy. Either you take a cold rinse, or you have to put in a
lot of time on meditation. The cold water is using physiology, using contraction of the cold. To
do it without the cold waters, when you use meditation and sublimation, you have to use
willpower. It is more difficult and takes longer time. But with cold rinsing you don't need
willpower. The water does it. If men use cold water, there is no problem calming down after
hot sex.
Here are some ways to use cold water. A couple of minutes is enough to cool down.
using running cold water, splash the sex organs over a sink.
fill cold water in a sink or bowl, then use a cup to pour water over the area
use a cold shower, directed towards the area
dip a washcloth or towel in cold water and cover the area with it.
wash the area with a cold wet washcloth.
put ice cubes in a towel and cool the area with it
take a dip in a lake, in a river or in the sea etc.
The early American Indians did all their bathing in the cold water of streams. They never
had hot or warm water. Cold water strengthens the sex organs and glands, and strengthens
fertility. A man’s testicles are on the outside of his body, because his semen is most fertile
when kept relatively cold.
10 KAREZZA TECHNIQUE CONTINUED
LEARNING SELF-DISCIPLINE
How long in time does it take before a man gains full self-control, without making any
mistakes anymore? For myself, it took about a year to perfect my Karezza (actually EnergyKarezza), to perfect my self discipline, while making love to a woman.
I had accidental rare peak orgasms, e.g. when the woman moved at the wrong time while I
was trying to control myself. Maybe twice a year I might have accidental orgasms. But then
after a while those disappeared. After a couple of years I became so good at self control,
that even if the woman was wild, I could control her. I learned how to protect myself.
MEN ARE WILLING TO BECOME EXPERTS
When I have had patients in nutrition, I would always teach them about saving energy,
since this is the requirement for quick healing from disease. Sometimes I would throw an
allusion to sex, about building up energy while having sex, about saving energy while having
sex. Some of them were young guys, and they might start by talking about sex. When I saw
they were interested in sex, I asked if they wanted to learn about Karezza, which they
usually did.
Sex is such an interesting subject, and it seems there is no man who wouldn't want to
spend hours to learn mastering it. He might not want to spend hours learning to master the
piano, or some other skill. But almost every man would be willing to spend weeks or months
to become good in sex, probably because sex is tied up with the ego and extreme pleasure.
I rarely asked my Karezza students any questions about their progress, because men, when it
comes to sex, in my experience, don't like to talk too much about it. But, when it came to
Karezza, men themselves would often ask me questions. They were fascinated, they loved it.
For example one man called me about 6 months later, after learning Karezza. He said his sex
was great. He wouldn't stop talking, he talked for 1/2 hour. I gave him 2 extra hours of
instruction. I discussed different aspects, different women, how they behave, how to
protect yourself against certain moves so you don't lose control, how to get control, and
how to master yourself. We talked about women who move too much, how you should
pin them down and all the necessary information. Once men have the basics, the rest can be
figured out.
One time I talked to a priest, and he became my friend. He told me he had problems with sex.
I said, "I can teach you to become brilliant in sex, and you'll never have problems anymore."
He couldn't peel the money off fast enough to get me started, and I taught him about
Karezza. When it comes to sex, people are fascinated.
TRAINING SELF-CONTROL WITH SELF- MASSAGE
For beginners to Karezza, to learn self-control quicker, it is possible to first train without a
partner. When a man starts out, a good way to learn self-control is to practice self-massage
(masturbation, self-stimulation). Then he can tell how close to the orgasm he is getting, and
when to stop. It is a good way to learn how to be safe.
When men start with Karezza, I recommend that they first practice on their own, otherwise
they are going to make mistakes in the beginning. They have to learn the feel of it. It is just
like when you learn how to play the piano, you have to practice. The idea is similar to
dry-swimming, before going in the water, when learning to swim.
But there is a difference. Even if men have to think about control all the time, at least in
the beginning, sex is so interesting, that they are willing to learn it. Learning to play an
instrument can be very boring. Sex is exciting. Consequently men are going to be willing to
train.
To begin practicing self-control via self-massage is a good way to do it. Start like this: do selfmassage for 1/2 hour. Hold back eventual orgasms during this time, don't lose control and
don't ejaculate. When you have self-control lasting 30 minutes, next time do 45 minutes.
And then try it for 1 hour. If it helps, get yourself some magazines with some nude girls, to
turn you on, to inspire you. This will keep you going.
Next, or simultaneously, incorporate into the training the following:
learn the pressure point
learn the cold water technique
learn the horizontal, side-to-side and semi-circle movements
do the training on empty stomach
avoid hot peppers and irritating spices, a week in advance, or longer, since they make control
more difficult
The purpose of the self-massage is to learn how to do Karezza. If you are a single man, you
are not going to wait for months until you get turned on, you turn yourself on, otherwise,
how are you going to learn it?
A single man has to build up experience. And once he builds up experience, and sees he is
succeeding, and his sex drive is getting stronger, he will get self-confident sexually. He can
approach women when he knows how to control himself. Otherwise, if he practices with a
woman from the beginning, he's likely to mess it up. He is going to lose self-control and
have an orgasm. Once he has learned the control, he can be with women safely.
Self-massage or masturbation is just to get men started. It starts with control, learning good
self-control, learning where the dangerous moves are. In other words men have to get the
feel for where they, are all the time. When they get to a dangerous point, they must start
watching themselves, slowing down or stopping, if necessary. To get experience, they've
got to practice it.
As soon as you know the Karezza basics, stop the self-massage and begin having sex with
women.
I would not recommend self-massage after this initial learning period. First of all, the (manwoman) electrical exchange wouldn't be there, so my excitement and bliss wouldn't be very
strong. Also, if I am the only one enjoying it, isn't that being selfish? When for the same time
involved, two people could be enjoying it immensely?
You get more benefits if you are two (of opposite sex) doing it. Because there is electricity
involved, opposite polarities. But when a person is practicing by him or herself, there is no
polarity. He is on his own. Therefore the bliss cannot rise very high, compared to when a man
and a woman are having sex together. In self-massage or masturbation, there is only limited
pleasure.
KAREZZA SEX WITH A PARTNER
In the next phase - if you have a wife, start practicing with her. While you are learning, you
are earning. Which means, while a man is learning, he is building up credit of love from his
woman.
When you start with women, have the same training schedule as before. Train self-control for
1/2 hour, then 45 minutes, then 1 hour. Start slowly.
Should a man tell a woman what he is trying to do? Yes, he could tell her about what he is
learning, but perhaps first he should try it and see how it is working. And when it is working,
and she is happy, then he can tell her what he is doing. He may say e.g., "my aim is to learn
to control, not to have the orgasm, so you don't have to worry about getting pregnant,"
which is important for a woman. And "I want to be able to make you happy, and I want to
be able to be happy with you. I want you to love me" and similar wordings. It is likely she will
be thrilled to hear this, and that she has a lot to look forward to.
If he shows her that he is trying to please her, then she will try to help him. And if she helps
him, he will get better and better at it. Not to get overexcited is the key for a man, who is
using Karezza. In other words, when he gets close to losing control, he must say "stop!". If I
was with a woman who became a perpetual motion machine, I said, "when I say STOP you must freeze - because I am trying to maintain control, and if you don't work with me, I
am going to lose control, and then I am going to be no good for you. And we are both going to
suffer."
Sometimes I had to say "stop" with women who went wild. Some women may move like a
snake, or they start moving like a bag of lobsters, they move every muscle. Some women are
so frustrated, that they become like belly dancers in bed during Karezza. When a man is
trying to learn controlling his ejaculations, the first thing he must to, is make certain that his
woman doesn't set him off. He has got to tell her what to do, to work with him and not
against him.
Women will work with you if you can show them that it is in their interest. Every woman
is looking for ways to make her relationships always better and better. This is what I told my
wife before our marriage, "I'll tell you one thing, I am going to try to give you such happiness.
And you are going to learn things about lovemaking that will benefit you for the rest of your
life, no matter what happens between us. Even if we break up or you decide that you don't
like me, you'll be very successful in love. So let's work together." When a woman thinks
about those words, wouldn't she be thrilled? There is a real chance she will have great success
with any man in the world, with what she will learn with me. Why wouldn't she try to make it
work?
Let's say a woman does not work with a man, in the sense that when he gets close to an
orgasm, she encourages him to have an orgasm. But if he has an orgasm, she is not going to
have any sex for a while.
Wouldn't a woman reason: why should I push him into an orgasm, because I lose, if I push
him into it, and then the sex stops. And if the sex is good for the woman, why would a woman
want that?
GOOD CONTROL
How long time does it take to learn minimal control, learn to withhold at least a few orgasms?
In a week or two you could have enough control to give your woman Karezza sex for about
one hour, and give her a good orgasm. I talked to one man, his girl was leaving him, I
gave him one lesson and he practiced it. Two weeks later he came to me and said, the girl
fell in love with him. A lot of other guys learnt it quickly as well, because they wanted to
become good, and not to lose their girls. So, risking losing your wife or woman, that is a
powerful motivator.
The first years of practicing Karezza, there were times when I did have an accidental orgasm,
but I always had a couple of seconds warning. Lets say a man moves once too much, and
the orgasm starts. You feel the glands contract, and you have 2 seconds. So in those 2
seconds I disengaged, and I applied pressure to the pressure-point, to keep the fluid in.
Remember, even if you lose control, you can cut your losses of semen to 40% or less by
applying pressure immediately. (More about the pressure point in the chapter “Basic Karezza
Manual”.)
When a man can have sex three times a week, or more, and have one orgasm at the end of
a month, he is on his way to mastery. If he can do that, then he'll see that every time he has
sex, the woman is going to have a great time, and he is going to have a great time. And
of course the woman will be so happy that she will do things for him, and make his life very
nice.
If a young man, 20 to 25, who is hot blooded, wants to concentrate on peak orgasms, you tell
him, “okay, have all the orgasms you want, but do not have your orgasm (ejaculation) until
the woman is finished. At the end of her orgasm, you can have your orgasm, and then
you both are happy.” But sooner or later, if he is smart, he will go for a stricter Karezza, with
fewer and fewer peak orgasms. At least if he wants to have a good life, a healthier life, a
better life – if he wants to satisfy his woman all the time, get higher pleasure and more
exciting sex, and never get tired.
NO EXPERIENCE
A man without experience might think, how do I know when I have satisfied the woman?
There is no need to worry about it. He is worrying because he has no experience. But nature
takes care of everything. Every woman wants to be satisfied. But women have to have an
active man to help them to do the job. A man can't lay there like a lox and not do
anything, then nothing is going to happen. A man has got to be natural, he has to function
normally, move his body naturally.
Of course, if he wants to be intellectual, let him move to the right, then to the left, make all
kinds of patterns. Patterns that he perhaps read about in books. He can make a figure 8, he
can make a V or an X, or an O, reversed, play games. But he really doesn't have to do that.
If a man wants to be mechanical, perfect; if he wants to be natural, perfect. Some guys are
very mechanical, they've got to do things like that. But I never found it necessary. Maybe I did
it at the beginning, but later I found it was not necessary.
The only man who is tense is the man who has no experience. But once a man gets the
experience, he has self confidence and he knows that he is going to have a great time. And
if the man has a great time, and he is doing it right, then the woman is going to have a
great time, guaranteed. There is no intellect involved. You just follow what you feel, that's all.
Just like an animal. Being like an animal in sex, that's the real sex. I don't mean to move
like a fast motor. What you do naturally will be right.
When I had sex I used my intuition. I became very intuitional, and didn't calculate my
moves. I just let everything happen; the way I felt I let it. Whatever I felt, that's the way I
moved.
WHAT ABOUT FOREPLAY?
Does a man need to worry about foreplay with Karezza? The initial time of meeting and
getting to know a person, you'll enjoy their company and perhaps being able to touch them.
Later, eventually you will get into petting and kissing, and then into sex, hopefully, because
without sex, the relationship dies. The first time you have Karezza sex with a new woman,
standard foreplay with kissing, petting and foreplay is a good idea.
Foreplay is just to let the woman get warmed up, basically. The man is not too interested in
foreplay. He doesn't need foreplay himself. A woman needs more time than a man to warm
up, at least 20 minutes, giving a woman a chance to feel relaxed. Otherwise women may get
nervous or a little confused.
In Karezza, the foreplay, or rather the hugging, kissing and caressing comes back, over and
over, in cycles. Karezza is not foreplay-free. Karezza is sex with continuous foreplay. The whole
Karezza is functioning as foreplay for a woman. The caressing and lovemaking never ends. The
man never stops, as long as he doesn't ejaculate. In Karezza, women get wonderfully spoiled.
For a woman, every time she has an orgasm, she just needs a brief interval to awaken to
another one.
The second time with the same woman is different. If the woman got a heavy dose of Karezza
the first time, her excitement may be enough to last for a few weeks. She will need less
foreplay the second time. She may not need any warm-up at all, still being hot. The second
time I saw a woman, after Karezza, I usually didn't ask any questions, but got undressed
immediately. Women didn't ask questions; they didn't stop me.
Should a woman stop you from doing that? If she knows that she can have all the orgasms
she wants, she is not going to throw you out. The only thing she may wonder about is how
she will afford to pay for it (joke).
BEST MOVEMENTS
There are many books which say that a woman's clitoris always has to be stimulated. In my
mind, these guys are dunnos, they know nothing. What are they talking about? They are
talking about other books and traditions, but not about real sex. Not about the real feeling
sex, the pure beingness. I am talking about meditative kind of bliss. They don't go into that.
What do they know about that?
What they talk about is the bullvana, what is good for the bulls. Getting a rough-course sex,
that is what they understand. But the subtle beautiful floating sex, they don't know anything
about. For them that is like an strange dream; they have no concept of what it is.
I never concentrated on the G-spot, which is about 2 inches (4 cm) inside the upper part
of the vaginal canal. In fact I tested it out and I found that a lot of women are not
sensitive there. It is possible they exaggerate when they say that it is a woman's most
important spot. There are some nerves that are sensitive there. The G-spot is near the clitoris,
so it is probably a nerve extending from the clitoris that they are touching.
Don't ever worry about the G-spot. If you do a semi-circle with the penis, the upper semicircle, you will be rubbing against the G-spot area. It is automatic, it will corner the G-spot. Or
if a man just puts pressure at an angle, while moving, he touches the G-spot. If he comes in at
an angle and he keeps hitting it. Or he can use manual pressure, because it is easier to control
the hands than the penis.
So, first I taught my students how to control themselves. If they were premature ejaculators I
told them to give up salt, hot peppers, spices, etc. Especially not to eat before sex, because
then they easily lose control. Too much blood goes to the stomach after eating, and there
is not enough blood going to the sex organs.
Then I also asked them to move slowly, and move in semi-circles and sideways. Then the
man will have control, and the woman will get pleasure. If a man is a premature ejaculator
he can't control anything; he is finished before he starts. How can he get a woman's G-spot
area activated? It takes time, he can't do it in a second.
But if he moves in semi-circles, then he won't have any orgasms, he has better control, and
time to activate the woman. He can move fast if he does the semi-circle. Or he can do the up
and down at an angle. But if he goes all the way in and out, there is tremendous friction, too
much friction, and he could lose control.
EVERY WOMAN WILL FOLLOW
Women all basically have the same requirements to be happy. They need to awaken their
inner forces. And they all need that. And if you can do that, then the woman is going to be
happy.
Your woman is nothing special. The only thing is you might have to deal with her barriers.
You might have to penetrate her intellectual barriers, to get through to her confidence,
enough to get you started having Karezza sex with her.
First you have to get her in bed. Once you get her in bed, then you take over, and then
eventually she follows. And when she follows, everything happens naturally. Women follow
right away usually. Unless they are perverted, e.g. from using a vibrator. If you come across a
thing like that kind of perversion, you can't relate to it.
Frigid women presented no problem in Karezza. I was always successful with women, who
were supposed to be frigid. I didn't try to be successful, I just functioned naturally. They
began to have orgasms, because my sex was prolonged. It was long enough to wake them up,
even the sleepiest ones.
I had no problems ever, even with so-called frigid women. And I always enjoyed it. And the
women enjoyed it too, because whatever I did satisfied all the women. I never had any
problem, since the sex was prolonged. Where does the average woman get 4 hours of sex? 3
hours of sex? Even if they got 2 hours they would be thrilled. With one hour, they'd be more
than happy.
POSITIONS IN SEX
There are many positions to choose from and those will vary according to personal preference.
In Karezza, postures were considered of secondary importance, the main consideration
being most relaxing and comfortable for prolonged sex. If love sessions are prolonged for one
hour or more, many varied positions may be used for short periods, but the most favored
are those which are relaxing and able to be maintained for long periods without stressful
exertion.
The favorite position preferred by men of the Oneidan Community was a side position. In this,
a woman would be lying on her right side, her legs bent as if in a sitting position at a right
angle to her body, and the man would be in the same position behind her. Her left leg
would be over his left leg and the man's legs between her legs. This would allow him to get
as close to her as possible.
A very restful position is for a man to be lying on his back and the woman on top of him,
facing him. Here a woman can move freely to please herself in every way. If the man
feels he is moving too quickly toward ejaculation, he should signal the woman to slow down
or stop, so that he may regain his self control.
Many variations of postures are possible, and experimenting will quickly reveal those that are
most comfortable and preferable for both.
Male Continence was well liked by the women at Oneida N.Y. since it not only freed them
from the fear of undesired pregnancies, but pleasantly lengthened the act of coition which
might continue for an hour or more. During this time, it was customary for the man, who
ordinarily entered his partner from behind - she would be lying on her side with one leg drawn
up - to engage in prolonged manual play. According to Hulda Noyes who became a
physician, the men prided themselves on giving the women their orgasm.
BEST POSITIONS FOR ENDURANCE
When it comes to positions to use in Karezza, you can do anything you want. Especially in the
first phase, where you can use the same positions as in Standard Sex. But when you get
into the second phase you don't want to use too much energy, especially if you plan on
having sex for several hours. You usually only get into those positions, in this phase,
which are easy and energy-saving.
If the man gets on top of the woman he is using his arm muscles, his abdominal muscles, his
back muscles - that is more strenuous. Then again, if a man uses some of the other sex
positions, like when he gets on his knees, it is tiring, because he has to keep his balance. But
when he is lying down, it is easy, and less energy is used.
The Oneidans found that the side position was the easiest one. I also found that one to be
one of the easiest and very simple. You can do it for hours, and you don't get tired.
In the first phase you can fool around, playing games, getting worked up. In the beginning
you can do anything you want, it doesn't matter. You could even hang from a trapeze and have
sex.
How long does it take to get worked up? It depends on how you do it. If you start out easy, nice
and slow, in half an hour you could work it up to a good charge. Then in an hour you could
double that energy. And then if you go on, you can increase it more and more.
For someone with long experience to get into the mood strongly and quickly, it could be
done in 20 minutes to 1/2 hour. This could be done when you are good at Karezza, when you
are less likely to lose control.
The man who is new to Karezza is lacking control, though, and is not alert to the dangers of
his moves. He has to be extra careful, and may have to move slow and easy, because if he
makes one move too many he is finished, if he begins to have an ejaculation. Also, the new
strong feelings of pleasure, that are growing stronger all the time, can make it hard to keep
the control, in the beginning. Just continue training, sooner or later you will get the hang of it.
CONTINUE UNTIL THE WOMAN'S ORGASM
How long is the longest the man should wait for a woman's orgasm?
The man is not looking for anything. He has no expectations. He is just wanting to have a good
time. He is not going to try to make his woman squeal like a stuck pig, or to scream and
holler in joy. He doesn't care. If she wants, just let her holler. If she moans, just let her
moan. If she doesn't make a sound, let her be quiet. He doesn't care. What difference does
it make? He's enjoying whatever happens.
Sometimes, if I start making a sound, the woman may start, following it. I make a sound, like
a suggestion. I may say "mmmmaaarrrrrmmmm" or use a groaning. That turns some women
on, and they'll start groaning. And then, if you relax, they relax. They follow you. Then if
you start making more noise, they make more noise, and eventually they'll excite
themselves to an orgasm. You don't need to do anything extra. The mind is a tremendous
thing. There is no limit to the mind.
I have never had a woman that had trouble getting orgasms. Every woman I have been
with have gotten multiple orgasms – even women who thought they were frigid - but only
when I practiced Karezza.
How long in time did it take for women to get an orgasm? I never even cared one way or the
other. They all had orgasms. I didn't push it. If she was getting excited, she might say
"ohhhh" or "love me, love me" or start hollering or something like that. Then I helped her.
Then I moved faster to get her off. And when she had had her orgasm, I came back to
my normal relaxation. I only speeded up my movements to help her finish the orgasm.
But of course, if I was helping her out, and at the same time was beginning to go out of
control, then I stopped. Going out of control was not going to help her. Instead I withdrew, to
protect myself.
SEX STAYS EXCITING
With Karezza, sex is very exciting in the beginning because of the novelty. But even after a
man and a woman get to know each other well, they still have a strong excitement. First of
all, the woman is enjoying the best sex she has ever had. Secondly, as long as the man does
not have the orgasm, as is the case in Karezza, he has the drive. And the longer he holds
out, the stronger the drive is.
There is no satiation, in other words. A man will never say, oh, I am totally satisfied, it is
finished. I will have to rest. As long as there is no orgasm, any time the woman wants to
start again, he is ready. He never gets tired, he always enjoys it. And the longer he waits
between orgasms, and the longer the sex session, the more exciting it is.
I remember sessions going as long as six hours, where I felt like if I had an orgasm I would
explode like a bomb. But I never did, I always controlled it. I had to practice, but finally I
got so good at control, that I could tell when I was one move away from an orgasm.
Sometimes I used to push that point. I got very daring, because of my control.
Possibly, if you go too close to the orgasm, too much excitation could cause a little loss of
energy. This is what Bhagwan Rajneesh has said. But there is no loss of hormones; instead it is
more like a nervous excitement loss.
HOW LONG CAN SEX SESSIONS BE PROLONGED?
With the completion of the woman's final orgasm, the moment has arrived when the
session has finally come to an end. During the sex, which may have lasted anywhere from
1/2 hour to 1 or more hours, both the man and woman have gradually awakened their
bodies beginning with the sex organs and centers, gradually extending throughout the rest of
the body until all the cells are finally involved and tingling.
The woman's orgasms may be one, two or more, varying with each woman. They may
increase in number as time goes by. She has continued on through her final orgasm after
which the man stops and rests with the woman. He feels fully charged with energy; and if
he were a rich man living in an Eastern country having a harem of many wives, he could
easily continue on with wife number two, etc. until all have been satisfied.
How long can a fairly healthy man go on? I had a 4 year relationship with a woman who I'd
see 3 times a week after a day's work wherein we averaged 4 hours per session, from 7 to
11 P.M., before we had to quit to go to sleep so we could go to work the next day. I was close
to 60 years of age at that time.
At another time, I had an ongoing relationship with a woman that lasted 15 years, who
was an actress. This woman was amazing! She had the capacity to have 10 or more orgasms
in a session without getting tired, which lasted 6 hours and occasionally 8 hours, after
which we had to retire. She lived on a lacto-ovo-vegetarian diet and was slender.
A patient of mine, an English professor, 59 years old, who loved to spend his vacations in
Caribbean islands, made some experiments while there. He told me that the longest he was
able to last in one experiment was 12 hours with 6 different women, stopping only briefly
to urinate occasionally. He swore to me that this was true, and knowing him, I believe it.
When I first met him a year before, his average sessions lasted 10 to 15 minutes and at times
he experienced phases of impotence, inability to obtain erection. His 12 hour experiment was
made possible by Energy-Karezza, which I had taught him.
Prolonged sexual intercourse becomes not only possible, but common to almost all men
after they learn and become fairly proficient in the technique of Male Continence,
Karezza, Tantra Yoga, Tao or Coitus Reservatus.
With some physiological knowledge and the nutritional secrets I discovered, sex can be
prolonged even further, in the form of Energy- Karezza and Energy-Tantra. With these
energy conservation techniques you can have sex for as long as you can stay awake without
falling asleep. This is easy to do because our interest in sex never wanes, becomes boring or
decreases, but instead only increases with the continuation and prolongation of sex.
BEFORE SEX
Before sex, your preliminaries might be slow or fast, conservative or exciting, the options
are never-ending.
Sometimes I wanted to have some special fun. I remember a woman I used to date. On
arrival, when she opens the door, I might immediately grab her and start kissing her, before
she has a chance to breathe. From that moment on she goes willingly, wherever the action
moves. I may not have sex with her at that point, but sometimes I do. Sometimes, by the
time I am kissing a woman, she is putting her hands all over me. When she sees I am ready,
she may feel she is ready. The kissing may be her cue: okay, let's go. She doesn't worry about
any foreplay, because she knows the foreplay is never going to end in Karezza. She will have
all the foreplay she wants.
Sometimes, there were times when I had desires to see my wife in different positions. So
I would get undressed, and say, sit down on that chair, and go into certain poses. While
she is posing, which I find very exciting and stimulating, I may be moving in on her already
by the time she gets to the 4th or 5th pose. And when she sees that I am turned on, then
she gets turned on. The more turned on I get, the more turned on she gets. Actually, my
behavior becomes her preparation. My reactions become her preliminaries. I noticed that a
woman will respond according to how her man acts.
On the other hand, I never say, "can I kiss you, why don't you go change into your
pajamas", or things like that. I don't do that. I just move ahead in a certain direction as if I
expect it to happen. I do expect it. And if I expect it, women are not going to try to stop
me. Probably because they think, well, that is the way it should be.
If you believe something, wouldn't the person you talk to be more apt to believe you? So if I
act like I am expecting to have a ball, what is a woman to expect? I am convincing, because
I really believe it, and I don't question it.
This can happen any time, even the first time I meet them. If it is the first time, my
preliminaries might be a little more conservative. But after the first time sometimes the
preliminaries are very short, for me. I am more into action, according to natural feelings.
But for her everything is preliminaries. In other words, it is not slow preliminaries, it is fast
preliminaries.
So what's the difference? If you prolong a modest preliminary, like a kiss or a touch, or a
squeeze, and compare that to another preliminary, where you got your hands all over her,
and she has her hands all over you which is going to be more exciting? Wouldn't it be the
one that moves faster?
If a man is slow, then the woman acts slow. But if a man moves as fast as lightning, it is
different. Perhaps he removes his clothes, so a woman sees him stark naked. Then she may
think, "what am I doing with my clothes on, he must think I am a puritan". If women see a
man standing there, fully nude, this becomes a suggestion to them.
I never think: would she like this, is this what she wants? Or I wonder how she is going to feel
if I do this?", or "should I do this, what would she think? I don't do that. That's what I did when
I was 15, 16 years old. I was psychologizing. But then I realized that it's a fools game, and can
be easily recognized as strategy.
If you watch animals, the male goes right up to the female and starts right away. I
sometimes did the same thing, and found it worked. Then women won't have time to
admire my daring, because while they think about it, I'll be there, all-over them. In other
words, I did not say, "oh, I have to get the woman in the right mind", or things like that.
Sometimes I turned myself and the woman on by playing coy. I know it works. It can be fun to
slow it down, to prolong it, just to see what is going to happen. In other words, to play a cool
cat, which I do it for the simple reason that I want to tease them a little bit. I don't want to
rush it, because if I rush it, I may miss out on something. Instead I'd like to slow it down. I turn
myself on a little bit, not too much.
And in that way, by doing that, sometimes the woman senses my aura, and she feels that
something is going to happen. She knows it is inevitable, but is wondering why I am not
rushing it. Maybe she feels that I am a little slow, just to give her a chance to prepare for
anticipation. I used to do this with women I had already known for a while, but on
occasion also the first time, just for curiosity.
SYNCHRONIZING MOVEMENTS
After I learned about Karezza, in the beginning I had to practice. All I knew was to start the
sex, try to control the orgasms, and eventually then it came, the knowledge about how to
control myself. When the woman was moving, I was moving, and I had to practice
synchronizing. Sometimes I was 2 moves away from getting out of control. I practiced going
slower, or moving sideways, I tried any way to control myself.
But if a woman was moving like a machine, it could be difficult. That happened to me one
time with a beautiful woman, who lived around here, in Brighton Beach. We became friends,
but when we had sex, she started moving like a machine. I said, “what are you doing?” She
said, “I can't have an orgasm unless I do this.” I asked why. She told me that she had used a
vibrator for years. How fast does a vibrator move? She used to put it on her clitoris, and that
vibrator moved a hundred times faster than a man would.
Consequently when she had sex, she had to move very fast, otherwise she couldn't enjoy it.
But I didn't want to have sex, where I couldn't control the movements. I didn't enjoy the
sex, because as soon as I entered her, she started moving like a vibrator. I said, “hold it,
hold it!” She said, “I can't, I can't have an orgasm if I stop.” So I let her have her orgasm with
her vibrator movements, and then I quit.
I didn't want to have anything to do with her anymore, even though she was beautiful. She
would spoil everything I wanted. She would ruin the sex for me. In other words, she was
perverted by a vibrator.
SYNCHRONIZING ORGASMS
Can men and women peak at the same time? They could always synchronize the valley
orgasm, because the valley orgasm can last for hours.
The peak orgasm is hard to synchronize, because you have to time it. Mutual peak orgasm
used to be considered the ultimate at one time. But today, nobody talks about it. And that's
why the foreplay comes in, because a woman takes longer than a man, so the man wants to
synchronize, if possible.
But why should he be concerned with that? When he practices Karezza, whenever the
woman is ready he'll know it. And if he wants to have a peak orgasm with her, it is easy to
synchronize. But if he is practicing Karezza, he is not wearing a condom, so why would he want
an orgasm? Then he would have to deal with the possibility of pregnancy, and raising
children. And if he withdraws to ejaculate, this solution is not as good as what I recommend:
using the pressure point.
Possibly, a young guy might want to have Karezza for a couple of hours, and then have a
peak orgasm. Since he is young he can easier regenerate the hormones lost. He could
stop and put on a condom, a couple of minutes before. Or, if he wants to have it outside
of her embrace, he doesn't have to wear a condom. Or, outside, he can do the pressure
point, and thereby conserve his fluid to a large extent. The pressure point solution is way
ahead of the old thing, the plain peak orgasm.
AGE AND KAREZZA
How early in life can men start learning self-discipline in sex? One possibility is to begin
with young men, age 16 to 25, teaching them self- control. Explain the valley orgasm, and
how they can have better sex with it, than if they have peak orgasms. Let them practice it,
test it, let them make mistakes, wearing condoms for birth control, if they want. Young
men are going to make mistakes at the beginning. When they get better, they'll limit
themselves to one orgasm a week. (The valley orgasm concept is described in the chapter “The
Valley Orgasm”.)
Between the ages of 25 and 40 men could go even more into Energy- Karezza and
psychology of sex. You teach them the higher and lower valley concept, giving them
more incentives to practice valley orgasms. First allow orgasms every 2 weeks, and then
once a month for the first year. After the first year, only once in 2 months, and thereafter
gradually increased self-discipline. I believe, when men get to one orgasm per 3 months
they are not going to want peak orgasms anymore, because then they are feeling great and
beginning to get inspirational spiritual experiences.
I agree with what they say in Tantra and Tao, that every man who reaches the age of 40
should try to give up peak orgasms forever, and not allow any peak orgasm, unless they want
children. They should only use valley orgasms, and if they make mistakes, use the pressure
point. From age 40, men start to lose their hormones. They are not manufacturing so much
hormones anymore and cannot afford to lose even a drop. So 40 is the cutoff age.
Also, 40 is a good age for men to get started on a spiritual path.
Depending on health, men can continue using Energy-Karezza at the age of 100 and above.
Men, who have minimal energy, can use a slower Energy-Karezza with minimal movements, a
lower-valley version.