WILLIAM V.S. TUBM AN UNIVERSITY EUTHENICS 1 Revised Edition 4 This Manual belongs to: Name:______________________________ Course & Section:_____________________ Student Number:______________________ Time & Day:_____________________________ Subject Facilitator______________________ Prepared by: DR. ROSEMARIE T. SANTOS Director for Institutional Research 1 MODULAR INSTRUCTION IN Euthenics 1 Man as a Person [Self-Concept and Its Dynamics with Lessons on POWER Learning Strategies and Study Skills and Habits] COLLEGE : ACCESS COLLEGE DEPARTMENT : COURSE NUMBER : 1 COURSE TITLE : Man as a Person [Self-Concept and Its Dynamics with Lessons on POWER Learning Strategies and Study Skills and Habits] CREDIT UNIT : SEMESTER : First CURRICULUM YEAR : First Year Students COURSE/CERTIFICATE/ DIPLOMA/DEGREE : General Education Curriculum 2 WILLIAM V.S. TUBM AN UNIVERSITY Tubman Town, Maryland County Post Box: 3570, Harper, Maryland County, Republic of Liberia email: info@tubmanu.edu.lr 3 FOREWORD A C K N O W L E D G M E N T The researcher and contributor of this modified and improved modules expresses their deepest gratitude to those individuals who provided input every step of development of this module. dedicated college professors and These administrators provided thoughtful, enthusiasm of doing one’s work to share their role in assisting us; providing a wealth of ideas and giving unstintingly strategies. of their Likewise; time, and for helped shaped many aspects of this manuscript. The contributor appreciative of and the researcher concerted also deeply efforts of the subject facilitators in the Euthenics Department, whom despite of the few numbers were able to overcome obstacles with grace and good cheer. We value above-and-beyond-the-call-of duty and the contributions displayed immensely. I wish to express my gratitude to our loved one’s, for the inspiration; to our colleagues, for the moral support; college deans for their steadfast help and encouragement. 4 I sincerely thank the WVS Tubman university family, the review and editing committee for the untiring support in reviewing the text and the content of this module; exceptional teachers who are dedicated to excellence who conscientiously reviewed this book. Their constructive comments and added suggestions have substantially to the quality of the text. Thank you so much ROSEMARIE T. SANTOS 5 Module Contents MODULE I (Pre-Mid Coverage) MODULE II (Midterm Coverage) MODULE III (Pre-final Coverage) Power Learning Strategies Why go to College POWER Learning: The five key steps to achieving success What is Learning Styles? Multiple Intelligences Developing Study Skills What is Previewing? Sizing up your Instructor The SQ3R Method Self-Concept and Its Dynamics The Three Dimensions of Self-concept Self-awareness and Evaluation Helps and Hindrances to Self-Concept Development Parental Behavior and Self-concept development Cultural Norms and Expectations The Experience of Achievement Re-programming Belief System and Self-talks Feedback: Getting the most out of it. MODULE IV (Final Coverage) JOHARI WINDOW 6 POWER LEARNING STRATEGIES MODULE 1 7 Why Go to College? Congratulations! You’re in college. Why? Although it seems as if it should be easy to say why you’re continuing your students it’s not simple. education, for most The reasons that people go to college vary from the practical (“ I want to get a good job”), to the lofty (“I want to learn about people and the world”), to the unreflective (“Why not?-I don’t have anything better to do “). Consider your own reasons for attending college. Surveys of first year college students show that almost three quarters say they want to get a better job and make more money. But most students also have additional goals in mind: They want to learn things that interest them and gain a general education and appreciation of ideas. 8 And, in fact, it’s not wrong to expect that a college education help people find better jobs. Consider these reasons why people pursue a college education: You’ll learn to think and communicate better. One student had said, It’s not about what you major in or which classes you take… It’s really how to think and you’ll to need communicate. to be able Wherever to you analyze end and up, solve problems, to figure out what needs to be done and how to do it.” Education improves your ability to understand the world-understand it as now what it is, and understand it as it will be. By showing you how to develop your capacity for critical and creative thinking, education will increase your abilities to think clearly and to communicate more effectively with others. You’ll be able to better deal with advances in knowledge world. and Genetic technology that engineering… are drugs changing to the reduce forgetfulness…computers that respond to our voices. Innovations such as these-and the ones that haven’t even been thought of yet-illustrate how rapidly the world is changing. No one knows what the future will hold. But education can provide you with the 9 intellectual tools that you can apply regardless of the specific situation in which you find yourself. You can’t anticipate what the future holds, but you can prepare for it through a college education. You’ll make Learning a lifelong habit. Higher education isn’t the end of your education. If you make the most of college, you will develop a thirst for more knowledge, a lifelong quest that could never be fully satisfied. Education will build upon your natural curiosity about the world, and that it will make you aware that learning is a rewarding and never-ending journey. You’ll understand the meaning of your own contributions to the world. No matter who you are, you are poised to make your own contributions to society and the world. Higher education provides you with a window to the past, present and future, and it allows you to understand the significance of your own contributions. Your college education provides you with a compass to discover who you are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going. P.O. W. E. R Learning: The Five Key Steps to Achieving Success P.O.W.E.R. Learning itself is merely an acronym-a word form from the first letters of a 10 series of steps that will help individual students take in, process and make use of the information you’ll be exposed to in college. to achieve your goals, both It will help you while college and later after you graduate. P.O.W.E.R learning serve as a you are in The steps in strategy for accomplishing what you wish to –and sometimes have to-accomplish. Prepare, Organize, Work, Evaluate and Rethink. That’s it. It’s a simple framework but an effective one. Figure 1.2 PREPARE ORGANIZE WORK EVALUATE RETHINK 11 Prepare Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu, said that travelers taking a long journey must begin with a single step. But even before even the first step, travelers need to know several things: what their destination is, how they’re going to get there, how they’ll know when they reach the destination, and what they’ll do if they have trouble along the way. In the same way, you need to know where you’re headed as you embark on the intellectual journeys involved in college. Whether it be a major, long- term task, such as colleges attendance, or a more limited activity, such as getting ready to complete a paper due in the near future, you’ll need to prepare for the journey. Setting Goals. 12 Before we seek to accomplish any task, all of us do some form of planning. The trouble is that, most of the conscious time such planning thinking. The is best done way without to plan systematically is to use goal-setting strategies. What’s the best way to set appropriate goals? Here are some guidelines: 1. Set both long-term and short -term goals. Long term goals are aims relating to major accomplishments that take sometime to achieve. Short-term goals are limited steps you would take on the road to accomplish your long-term goals. 2. Recognize that who you are determines your goals. Goals yourself. setting As starts you’ll understanding see yourself. with knowing we focus It is on self- knowledge that tells you want is and is not important to you, and this knowledge will help you keep your goals in focus and your motivation up when things get tough. 3. Make goals realistic and attainable. Someone once said, “ A goal without a plan is but a dream.” Be honest with yourself. There is nothing wrong with having big dreams. But it is important to realistically aware that all that it takes to achieve them, and big 13 danger is that, we may wrongly reason that we are inept and lack of ability and use this as an excuse for giving up. Instead, we should have realized that the problem has less to do with goal-setting abilities strategies. than with poor If goals are realistic, we can develop a plan to attain them, spurring us on to attain more. 4. Goals should involve behavior over which you have control. We all want World peace and end to poverty. Few of us have the resources or capabilities to bring either about. On the other hand, it is realistic to want to work in small ways to help others, such as by becoming a Big Brother or Big Sister. 5. Take ownership of your goals. Make sure that the goals you choose are your goals, and not the goals of your parents, teachers, brothers and sisters, or friends. Trying to accomplish goals that “belong” to others is a recipe for disaster. If you’re attending college only because others have told you to, and you have no commitment of your own, you’ll find enthusiasm-not it to hard to mention maintain the hard the work- required to succeed. 14 Organize The next stage involves gathering the necessary tools, buying the wood and other building materials, sorting the construction supplies, and preparing the room for the shelving project-all aspects of organizing for the tasks. Similarly, your academic success will hinge to a large degree on thoroughness of your organization for each academic task that one face. of the college biggest is mistakes plunging into that an In fact, one student academic make project in – studying for a test, writing a paper, completing an in-class assignment-without being organized. There Are Several Kinds of Organization. Organization involves physical aspects of task completion. For instance, you need to ask yourself if you have the appropriate tools, such as papers, pen and a calculator. If you’re using a computer, do you have the access to a printer? Is the printer 15 working? Do you have disks to back up your files? Do you have books and other materials you’ll need to complete the assignment? Will the campus bookstore be open if you need anything else? Will the library be open when you need it? Intellectual organization is even more critical. It is accomplished by considering and reviewing the academic skills that you’ll need to be successfully completes the task at hand. Why does creating an intellectual organization matter? The answer is that it provides a context for when you actually begin to work. Organizing in advance paves the way to better subsequent learning of new material. The better your intellectual (as well as physical) organization for a task, the more successful you’ll be. Too often students are in a hurry to meet a deadline and figure they better just dive and get it done. Organizing in advance can actually save your time, because you’re less likely to end up losing your way as you work to complete your task. 16 Work You’re ready. The preliminaries are out of the way. You’ve prepared and you’ve organized. Now it’s time to get started actually doing the work. In some ways work is the easy part, because-if you conscientiously carried out the preparation and organization stage-you should know exactly where you’re headed and what you need to do to get there. Finding the Motivation to Work. All of us have said something like this at one time or another. We use the concept of motivation-or its lack-to explain why we just don’t work hard at a task. when we do that, we’re fooling ourselves. have some psychological motivation, energy that that inner directs and But We all power fuels and our behavior and allows us to persist, even when its going rough. get out of Without any motivation, we’d never bed in the morning and accomplish anything. Evaluate 17 “Great, I’m done with the work. Now I can move on”. It’s natural to feel relief when you’ve finished the work necessary to fulfill the basic requirements of an assignment. After all, if you’ve written the five double-spaced pages required for an assignment, why shouldn’t you have a sigh of relief and just hand your paper in to the instructor? Consequently, the fourth step in the P.O.W.E.R. process is determining evaluation, how well the which work consists we have of produced matches our goals for it. Let’s consider some steps that it makes sense to follow in evaluating what you’ve accomplished: Take a moment to congratulate yourself and feel some satisfaction. studying for preparing a a test, review Whether it’s been writing sheet, a or paper, reading an assignment, you’ve done something important. Compare what you’ve accomplished with the goals you’re seeking to achieve. Think back to the goals, both short- term and long- term, that you’re seeking to accomplish. Have your an out-of-body-experience. accomplishments as if you Evaluate were a respected teacher from your past. If you’ve 18 written a paper, reread it from perspective of the teacher. completed a worksheet, the If you’ve think about what comments you’d write across the top if you were that longer teacher. you, Remember, assessing you’re something no you’ve accomplished, but a demanding (though fair) teacher evaluating someone else’s work. Asked on your evaluation, revise your work. If you’re honest with yourself. It’s unlikely that your first work will satisfy you. None of us can produce our best work initially. So go back to work and revise what you’ve done. a step back: consequence. Of But don’t think of it as Revisions your you make evaluation as bring a you closer to your final goal. This is a case where going back moves you forward. Rethink To rethink what you’ve accomplished earlier means bringing a fresh eye to reanalyzing, questioning, and challenging our underlying 19 assumptions. While considering how evaluation well what we means have done matches our initial goals, rethinking means reconsidering not just the outcome of our efforts, but the ideas and the process we’ve used to get there. For the moment, the following steps provide a general framework for using critical thinking to rethink what you’ve accomplished: Reanalyze, the reviewing task. Consider strategies work you’ve you’ve best? alternatives used. Do that the accomplished approach What they might seemed suggest work and better to any the next time? Question the outcome. Take a “big picture” look at what you have accomplished Are you pleased and satisfied? Is there something you’ve somehow missed. Identify your underlying assumptions; then challenge them. Consider the assumptions you’ve made in initially approaching the task. Are reasonable? assumptions, these If underlying you would had the used result assumptions different have been similar or different. 20 (Midterm Coverage) WHAT IS LEARNING STYLES? What is Learning Styles Developing Study Skills What is Previewing Sizing up your Instructor The SQ3R Method 21 Through the experiences we have in life, we build up a sense of our strengths and weaknesses, what we like and dislike about ourselves. In the process, the sense of who we are also affects the choices we make and the things that we do. not surprising that the accuracy So it’s of our understanding of ourselves has an important impact upon our success. In this chapter, you will be asked to consider various aspects of yourself. First you’ll look at the ways in which you learn and how you can use your personal learning style to study more effectively. WHAT IS LEARNING STLYE? Learning styles reflect our preferred manner of acquiring, These using, styles learning . and are They not thinking about abilities, represent the knowledge. but ways we types of approach these tasks. We don’t have just one learning style, but a profile of styles. Even though our ability may be 22 identical to someone else’s, our learning styles might be quite different. Learning style developmentally is impose biologically set of and personal characteristic that make certain teaching methods effective for some and infective for others. Every person has learning style- it’s as individual as a signature. Knowing students learning style, we can organize classrooms to respond to their individual needs according to quite or sound, bright or soft illumination, seating warm or cool arrangements, room mobility temperatures, or grouping preferences. We can recognize the patterns in which people concentrate best such as alone, with others, with certain types of teachers, or in a combination thereof. We become aware of the sense through which people remember style also difficult encompasses information. Learning motivation on task persistence, kind and amount of structure required, conformity Jeffrey versus Beaudry, non-conformity. and Angela “Rita Klaves,” Dunn, Survey of research on learning Style,” Education Leadership Vo. 46, no. 6 March, 1989) Every degrees of normal individual intelligence but possesses the ways varying in which 23 intelligence combine and blend are as the faces and the personalities of every individual. Dr. Howard Gardner Multiple Intelligence (IM) Linguistic Intelligence. The capacity to use words effectively, whether orally or in writing. This intelligence includes the ability to manipulate the syntax or structure of language, the phonology or sounds of languages, the semantics or meanings of languages, and the pragmatic dimension or practical uses of language. Some of this uses include rhetoric (using language to convince others to take specific course languages (using to of action), remember language to mnemonics information), reform), and (using explanation meta-language (using language to talk about oneself 24 Logico-mathematical Intelligence. The capacity to use numbers effectively and reason well. This intelligence includes sensitivity to logical patterns and relationships, statements and proposition (if-then, cause-effect), function, and other related abstractions. The kinds of processes used in the service of logical-mathematical intelligence. Spatial Intelligence: The ability to perceive the visual-spatial world accurately those and to perceptions. perform This transformations intelligence upon involves sensitivity to color, line, shape, form, space and the relationship materials visualize, elements. to that It exists includes graphically between these the capacity to represent visual or spatial ideas, and to orient oneself appropriately in a spatial matrix. 25 Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence. Expertise in using one’s whole body to express ideas and feeling and facility in using one’s hands to produce or transform things. This intelligence includes specific coordination, physical dexterity, skills strength, and such as speed as well as proprioceptive, tactile and capacities. Musical Intelligence: The capacity to perceive, discriminate, transform and express musical forms. This intelligence includes sensitivity to the rhythm, pitch or melody, and timbre or tone color of a musical piece. One can have a figural or “top-down” understanding formal or of music “bottom-up” (global, intuitive), understanding a (analytic, technical) or both. 26 Interpersonal Intelligence: The ability to perceive and make distinctions in the moods, intentions, motivation and feelings to other people. This can include sensitivity gestures; to the facial, capacity expressions, for voice discriminating and among many different kinds of interpersonal cue; and the ability to respond effectively to those cues in some pragmatic way (e.g. to influence a group of people to follow a certain line of action). Intrapersonal Intelligence: Self-knowledge and the ability to act adaptively on the basis includes (one’s of what having strengths knowledge. an and accurate This intelligence picture limitations); of oneself awareness of inner moods, intentions, motivations, temperaments, and desires, and the capacity for self-discipline, self-understanding, and self-esteem. 27 Naturalistic Intelligence: The ability to see connections and patterns within the plant and animal kingdom and is sensitive intelligence plants, to the includes collect natural the rocks world. ability and to catch This observe animals, its ability to listen to sounds created in the natural world, can notice relationship in nature and its capacity to categorize and classify flora and fauna. Learning Points: Learning styles affect our way of thinking, how we behave and approach learning, and the way we process information. It is a biologically developmentally impose set of personal characteristic that make the same teaching method effective for some and ineffective for others. Teacher need to recognize their own learning styles and preferences in order to become more aware of their teaching styles and how they may need to learn new strategies and techniques, and provide more choices in order to reach all students. Students need to develop an understanding that we all learn differently, that there is no right or wrong way to learn. Most people tend to develop strengths and preferences for learning and 28 processing information through different modalities or channel (hearing, seeing, touching, doing). Modality preferences and Instructional Strategies Most of us tend to have strengths and preferences for learning and processing information through different modalities or channels (hearing, seeing, toughing description of and modality doing). The preferences following (and those characteristic that signal strengths in that area) are accompanied by teaching strategies that address those areas of strengths and allow student to learn more effectively. *Auditory learners These students learn through verbal instruction lecture from others, discussion, speeches, TV, paraphrasing, or oral reading, brainstorming, oral reports, radio, self music, repetition, verbal spelling, bee, games, audio tapes, book on tape, creative dramatics, phonic, reader’s and verse. They remember through language and use of self- talks or theater (dialogue), verbalizations to poetry, help themselves get 29 through large and small-music motor movements, organization of task, and steps in problem solving they are typically very verbal and can memorize easily. They learn well and do well information is reinforced through melodies, beats and rhythms. It is helpful to give directions and questions orally and have children repeat them, let students answer questions orally, and practice spelling words orally. Phonetics approaches are to be utilized in reading/decoding. Allow and encourages the use of tape recorders for this type of learner, provide many opportunities to use listening centers, books on tape and participation in discussions. These are the students who should always be involved in small and large group discussion, partner talk and oral activities prior to independent work (e.g. silent reading, silent projects, reading, writing they are assignments). input to During hold their attention or get meaning, so it should be permitted if not loud and distracting to others. *Visual learners. These students observing and learn are by strong seeing, in watching remembering and visual detail. They often learn to read best through in 30 recognition of visual patterns in words (e.g. word families such as date, fate, grate, state, equate, or ink, pink, wink, clink, shrink, blink) structurally, and through the configuration (shape) of the salient, most important points, the use of color highlighting, framing with a heavy line/boxing in, or using any visual symbols near or around that information you want them to attend to is very helpful. For assisting these students with word recognition and spelling, draw lines around the configurations color-code or structural shape or elements words such as and then prefixes, syllables, suffixes and vowels. These students remember best through pictures and images. Information should be written for them to refer to, phrases and in graphics, writing pictures, should keywords, accompany or verbal presentations and directions. Visual learners need instruction (chart, to include cluster, many web, graphic outlines, organizers story maps, diagrams, etc.). They would benefit from writing things color down, circling, highlighting information, their text, underlining, note-taking, and practicing with flashcards. Use maps, films, visual samples, and models, puzzles, matching activities, videos clustering, demonstrating, graphics, and computers. Provide many books with pictures that 31 accompany text-even at the secondary level (e.g. reference books with pictures). Words searches, using sentence strips with information to sequence appropriately, word cards to arrange into sentences, and letter cards to arrange into word are all good techniques to use with vial learners. Tactile-Kinesthetic Learners. These learners learn by doing, touching, and direct involvement. They are hands-on physically learners with who project need and to be involved activities. These students need to use manipulative and have many objects to learning touch through and utilized their sense to help lock of touch. in These students need many opportunities to participate in learning games, laboratory performance/acting drawing, various, out experiences, experiences, arts, contraction, and crafts, use of computers and other technology. Teach concepts and antagonist in literature can be demonstrated through protagonists and antagonists in literature can be demonstrated through a wrestling. The symbols of greater than (>) and less than (<) can be demonstrated through use of a crocodile puppet or similar animal with a big mouth that opens up wide to face the larger “eats” The larger learner when they number number. can top because it only Tactile-kinesthetic out or clap out the 32 sounds and/or syllables they hear in words. This often assists them through decoding and spelling. Use of numbers lines; a variety of different writing materials; tracing with their fingers on sandpaper, carpet, and other textures/surfaces are all useful with this types of learners to help them to remember. Kinesthetic learners do best when information to be learned is tied to a motion. Even having them recorded listen lecture, with or headphones reciting to a information tapeto be remembered while walking is helpful. Analytic and Global Learners. The terms to left hemisphere dominant/right brain or right hemisphere dominant, analytic/global, and inductive/ deductive have been individuals’ hemisphere learner are used in the learning dominant, the same literature styles. describe Basically, analytic, types to of and left inductive, learner, their characteristics are summarized below and they learn step by step, parts to whole. 1. can have several project going at once 2. are not very time conscious 3. grasp large concepts, then tackle details 4. need to see the big picture 5. find it helpful to see an example of the end product 33 6. need to discuss the relevance and make a connection 7. find clustering/mind mapping very helpful In most cases the right hemisphere controls the following function; imagination, pattern sense thinking, simultaneous of color, spatial processing, musical abilities, tasks, intuition, metaphorical thinking (difference between what is said and what is meant). This is the creative and emotional side of the brain. These individuals tend to have visual tactile kinesthetic learning styles and process information in chunks. They tend to be spontaneous, impulsive, intuitive, creative and random. DEVELOPING STUDY SKILLS 1. Previewing Your Textbook 34 Learning to preview your textbook and you will be on your way to becoming a better student. By spending no more than five minutes the first day of class to determine preview what each material of new will be text, you can in the covered book, how familiar you are with the material, and how difficult the material will be for you. In addition, you will discover the book’s formats and the aids included to make your job as a student easier. You can practice the technique now. Using a separate sheet of paper and this textbook, answer the following question. Your answer will become five-minute preview of this text. 1. List the title of the text. 2. List the author(s) 3. What is the text’s most recent copyright date? 4. Read the preface or introduction. Summarized in a few sentences what the book is going to be about. 5. Read the table of contents. How many units are in the text? How many pages are in the text? List the title of the unit that sounds most interesting to you. 6. Thumb through Graphics? Maps? the book. Are there pictures? Charts? Illustrations? Questions at the end of the chapters? Pages with a lot of white space? 35 7. Evaluate the difficulty of the text; how hard do you think this text will be for you to read and understand? What Is Previewing? Now that you have actually preview a textbook, read the following article, “How to Preview Your Textbook”. Using a separate sheet of paper, start a section of notes and title this section, “study Skills-Previewing Your Textbook”. Answer the following questions: 1. What is previewing your text. 2. List the seven steps in previewing your text. 3. What is the value of previewing your text? How to Preview Your Textbook The difference between being a good student or being a poor one some-times hinges on whether you know how to study. There are some very basic study techniques that require only a short amount of time 36 to learn but that result in tremendous benefits. Previewing your text is one of these techniques. Previewing your text involves looking at a book before a class begins to determine what the text contains. This process will take no more than five minutes, but in that amount of time, you will gain much useful information. Your preview reveal what material will be covered in the book and in the class, how familiar you are with the material, and how difficult that material will be for you to read and understand. You will be able to determine the following: the format of the book; the location of the study aids, pictures, chart, and graphs used throughout; and your level of interest in the material. Equipped with this information, you are a more informed and prepared student already, and you will save yourself study time later on. The first step in previewing your text is to look at the title, author, and date of publication, or copyright date. The copyright date is important because it not only tells you how current the information is but also how popular the book has been. A book that has been printed and reprinted several times is usually a very popular one. Next, usually read the discusses preface the scope or introduction. of the book It and explains why the author or authors wrote it. 37 Third, find the table of contents and read the chapter or subheadings units titles, included main within. headings, Turn these and into questions so that you can read with a purpose to find the answers. Next, flip through the book, looking at any charts, pictures, captions, and graphs, These items provide additional information about the subject and also affect your interest in reading the text. Fifth, evaluate the difficulty of the material. How much do you already know about the subject? How much does it interest you? Is the print large or small? How much white space does a typical page have? Are there many pictures, charts, graphs, and illustrations? level of These difficulty factors of the all text determined and the the amount material you will have to read. Next, know your purpose for reading the text. Are you required to read it for class? Will the teacher test you on its contents? Or is it just a supplement to the teacher’s notes? Knowing your purpose is crucial in determining how and at what rate you should read the text. Last, go to the back of the book to see what aids are included. Does the text include a glossary of words and their meaning to help you with vocabulary? Is there an index listing names, event, 38 terms, and the pages on which these items can be found? Better yet, does the appendix have solutions to problems you may have been asked to solve? Obviously, all these materials will help you as you read the text, if you know they are there. If you don’t spend time previewing your text, however, you may not discover them. Tips on Concentration Think about your usual study environment. Are you sprawled on your bed with the stereo blaring, books and papers scattered around you. Are you trying not to spill your soda as you retrieve that elusive perhaps, pencil? flat on Or is your your study stomach on environment, the floor, in front of the TV, with the dog licking your ear and your brothers playing video games nearby? If this sounds at concentration- all or familiar, the lack you of it- many one of find your biggest hindrances to effective studying. “But,” you ask, ”how can I concentrate better?” The following tips have been gathered from students who have learned to do so. 39 Studying in Psychologically, the this same place establishes a every day. pattern that you brain will respond to automatically when you settle down in that spot day after day. When your study place is your bed, the desire to study is in conflict with the desire to sleep, a conflict that often causes problems for many students. In spite of what you may think, studying in a quiet place surrounded is by more music beneficial or than other being noise. From experience, you know you can learn to block certain sounds from your consciousness, such as the exasperated tone of a parent’s voice calling or the rumble of passing traffic. But having a quiet area is critical, because comprehension rates zoom downward in direct relationship to the amount of sound in your environment. Some expert asserts that noises can actually comprehension half! Since your primary occupation at this time is that of student, make your “office” a study center. Gather together all the equipment you need to do your work. Face a black wall if possible; don’t let distractions creep to break your concentration. After all, this is where you do your work. Good lighting and ventilation are primary that will eliminate glare and uneven lighting. Open the 40 window crack, even in chilly weather, to fend off stuffiness and the yawns that quickly follow. Find a working surface that is large enough for your needs, and clear it of any clutter. Be sure to provide room for the supplies you need-perhaps just a shoebox on the floor beside your working area. Note, too, that your eyes will see more easily and become less tired if you prop your book up at a thirty-degree angle, rather than leave it flat on the desktop. You can hold your book at another text as a support, or build a book rest. You will concentrate better if you have only time before you study at a time; too many tasks may overwhelm you. Always complete one task before beginning another. Avoid the urge to get something to eat, to call a friend. Instead, use these wellknown stalling techniques as rewards for your self when you have completed a task. With a definite plan of attack, you will finish all your assignments sooner. Learning to concentrate is hard work, but the payoff is better grades. Good students have mastered this skill. You can too! 2. Tracking Your Time To help you point what you really do with your time, on separate sheet of paper make a chart like the one that follows and complete it according to 41 your schedule for one typical day in your school week. Start continue with to time you identify generally how you wake spend up, your and time throughout the day, right up until when you usually go to bed. Include hours spent dressing, eating, traveling to and from school, attending classes, visiting, working, studying, watching TV, talking on the phone, sleeping, and so on. Make sure your log represents a twenty-four-hour period. Time Now answer Activity on your Time paper Activity the following summary question: 1. How much time do you use to eat and dress? 2. How much time do you spend traveling to and from school? 3. How many hours do you attend classes? 4. How much time do you spend exercising? 5. How much time do you spend watching TV, visiting, or just relaxing? 42 6. How many hours do you work at a part-time job? 7. How many hours do you sleep? 2.a Tips for Controlling Your Time Controlling your time is somewhat like learning to budget your money. At first, the money always runs out before the month ends, but with practice and planning, your money-management skills increase. The same is true for budgeting your time. Improving your time-management skills involves just a few simple steps. If you want to be in control of your time, need a plan. Your survival depends on having one. Figure out your priorities; think about the things you must accomplish and decide approximately how much time you need to do them. Write these tasks down; they provide a guide, or budget, for spending your hours and minutes. Consider your prime time and downtime. Are you most alert in the early, mid, or late morning; early, mid, or late afternoon; or early, mid, or late evening? You should plan your study time accordingly, because you will accomplish far more if you study when concentration abilities are sharp. Plan for breaks to rest your mind and eyes. Some research suggests taking breaks of 43 approximately ten minutes every hour and/or scheduling these breaks between tasks if possible. Professor Claude Olney of Arizona State University developed a program called Where There’s a Will there’s an A. He suggests studying in “short bursts”. To demonstrate this technique in his video, he slowly reads off a series of unrelated numbers to students and then ask them to recall the first numbers, some subsequent numbers, and the last number. Everyone can remember the first and last numbers, numbers. but Studying, very he few says, recall is the the middle same: You remember well what you go over at the beginning of your study session and also what you cover at the end, but you lose a lot in the middle. The answer, he says, is to shorten those study session so that you have lots of firsts and lasts. Using Olney’s “short bursts” techniques, substitute several short periods of time for the “ten minutes every hour” mentioned earlier. You will find, he says in the video, this usually results in spending less time studying with better results. Ten, fifteen, twenty, or even twenty, or even thirty minutes study sessions can even be carried out when you found yourself on the bus or waiting in line. He calls this “studying smarter not harder. 44 Whichever method you use, either hourly breaks or short bursts, you still need exact time frame. It will male you feel very organized and self- disciplined. If, on the other hand, you dislike rigid time limits, plan your sequence without specific time allotments. Either approach can be successful, but remember that a time budget, like a budget of dollars and cents, must be somewhat flexible. It is sometimes hard to judge how long a task will take. If you can’t meet the time requirement that you have allowed, revise your schedule, Because unexpected things come up, try to have some time in reserve, if possible. If your out-of-school life is always in a state of chaos, devote a few minutes daily to planning your tasks. By having some plan, whether it be closely structured or more closely organized, you will know the satisfaction that comes from gaining more control of your time. Answer the following questions in your notes: 1. In order to plan your time, what do you need write down? 2. What do you consider to be your prime time? Why do you think this is your prime time? 3. What do you consider to be your downtime? Why should you avoid studying then? 45 4. Which technique would work best for you: for longer periods of time with short breaks in between or studying for bursts with longer breaks in between? Why would this technique be better for you? 5. Think about your schedule. Will more loosely arranged one be better? Why? Budgeting Your Time Having completed Activities 2.6 and 2.7, can you see any areas where you might be able to adjust your present in order to use your time more efficiently? Kist them on a separate of paper. Then create another chart like the one in Activity 2.6 for a schedule in which you will plan head. For the next week you are to create a new budget for your time. Keep in mind the best ways to use your time; your goal is to be more efficient. At the end of one week, evaluate your new schedule. Did you succeed in using your time to your advantage? If you found you were prepared and less rushed, you will probably be eager to make your trial schedule changes permanent. 46 Sizing Up Your Instructor “That instructor doesn’t like me”. “I can’t do anything right in his class”. “I never know what to expect in her class”. Do you recall making remarks? If so, maybe you never ask yourself what your instructor expects. Instructors are as different from one another as you are from your friends. Some are very relaxed in their approach structure. Some while are others very rely explicit on in lots what of they expect from students and what kinds of tests they give. Others may not be so direct. If you want to learn as much as you can and have the possible grades, it’s your job as a student to understand the expectations of each of your instructors. This process doesn't ’take long, and it's not difficult either. Use your powers of observation, and if you still aren’t sure, ask your instructor. To Begin, in the first days of class, spend a few minutes thinking about your instructor taking; his or her method of grading and testing; and, finally, the appropriate techniques you can use to study for that instructor’s class. You will be amazed at the results! Not only will you know how to tailor your studying to each class and its 47 structure’s expectations, you will also learn better grades and waste less time. Next, select the instructor or class that you find most difficult. Remember that the purpose of this exercise is to guide you through an evaluation of your instructor’s expectations about you as a student. Once you determine what those expectations are, you can adjust your efforts accordingly and thereby minimize your study time and improve your grade. Instructor’s Expectations of My Behavior and Participation: 1. At the beginning of the hour----2. During the hour-------3. At the end of the hour---4. In general--Instructor’s Expectations in the Areas of: 1. Note taking--2. Study techniques--3. Test--4. Grades--3.The SQ3R Method An skills important is finding part a of improving dependable study your study technique. Some of you may have already discovered a method that gives you good results, but others may have 48 no system at all…and have grades that show it. If you haven’t had the opportunity to develop a study technique yet, the SQ3R method may be for you. SQ3R As students, most of you know it is not enough simply to read an assignment. The act of reading does not ensure that you will remember what you have read. Perhaps you daydream while you read, or maybe you are surrounded by background noise, commotion, or interruptions. In any case, you can’t recall a thing about what you have just read. Does this scenario sound familiar? You need to be an active participant as you read and technique study. that You can involves do you so by in practicing the a learning process------SQ3R. Many of you already use part of the SQ3R technique if you preview material. You carry it even further if, as you read, you try to find answer to techniques are important step in SQ3R, but there is more to it. See figure 2.1. S=Survey. The S in SQ3R stands for survey, which means previewing, a concept. They are as follow: 49 S Q 3 R U U READ R E V S E T RECITE Y I O N REVIEW 1. Look at the title. 2. Read the first paragraph or introduction. 3. Read the first sentence of each of the other paragraphs. 4. Read the last paragraph or conclusion. The survey step in SQ3R helps you in four ways: 1. You get glimpse of the contents of the material without having to read every word. 2. You get a feel for your familiarity with the material. 3. You can estimate the amount of time you should set aside for covering the material. 4. You may actually double your comprehension when you do read the entire selection. 50 Surveying the material accomplishes these steps in a matter of minutes! Q=Question. In order to become actively involved in the actual reading process, you need to read with a purpose. That questions. is, Look you to need the to read following to answer sources for questions you can answer as you read: 1. questions listed at the end of the chapter; 2. questions provided by your instructor; 3. headings you turn into questions; and 4. questions on worksheet, quizzes, or tests. Knowing the questions before you actually read the selection helps you read with the purpose. You will be comprehension an and involved retention reader, of the and material will be greatly improved. Better yet, after you finish reading the selection, you will find you know the answer to the questions you had as you were reading. R=Read. Read the material as an active reader with the goal of answering questions you go along. You’ll feel good when your reading reveals answer. R=Recite. The next step is to recite the answer to your questions. Recite aloud to another person or quietly to yourself what you have read. Studies show that students tend to forget as much as 80 percent of what they have learned from reading 51 within two weeks after studying. But when students recite immediately after reading, they forget only 20 percent during the same time period. Recite what you have read and then write it down, if necessary. This proves actively involved in the reading process. You know you have read because you can recite the answers to questions. R=Review. After few hours, or even a couple of days, review the answer to your questions. This step will keep the material fresh in your mind and retain it and recall it accurately for longer periods of time. In addition, using the SQ3R method will save you from test anxiety and late night or to all night crash study session. SQ3R helps you learn and certain the materials so that can approach a test with confidence. 52 (Pre-Final Coverage) SELF-CONCEPT AND ITS DYNAMICS 53 SELFCONCEPTWHO I AM? Of course you know who you are. first and last name. You know your You know where and when you were born, and you have no trouble identifying your ethnic background. What makes you unique and special thoughts, your beliefs, and your dreams. are your You have a unique past history, and this set of experiences together with your genetic make up- the combination of genes you inherited from your parents-is unlike anyone else’s SELF CONCEPT AND ITS DYNAMIC * What is Self-Concept? Self-Concept- refers to the consciousness and unconsciousness of perceptions or feeling about us with regards to our worth as a person. . 54 * When can you say that a person has low, poor or negative Self-Concept? A person is said to have a low, poor or negative self-concept when he sees little or no worth and feels unhappy about him/her self. *How can you know that a person has a high, good, positive self-concept? A person is said to have, good or positive selfconcept when he sees himself to have worth and feels good about him/her self. *Self-Concept life? Do is you essential know to where this every individual’s our self-concept originated? WHERE DID THESE PERCEPTIONS AND FEELINGS OF ONE'’ WORTH COME FROM? *When does self-concept start? 1. Largely it begins during our early development; how we were told about who we are and what worth we have as individuals. 2. In the ourselves process, and we we acquire begin to picture qualify of our 55 experiences according to this view that we have of our self. 3. We become SUBJECTIVE to our experiencing of reality *.Can you cite one example of Self-Confidence? For negative example, If way, experiences my I have view will myself be more in a of a reinforcement of this view until I arrive at a set of negative thoughts and feeling about myself. This pattern of thoughts and feeling makes up our selfconcept. THE THREE DIMENSIONS OF SELF-CONCEPT There are basically three Dimensions of self- concept, these are the following; SELF-IMAGE What is Self-Image? It refers to all our perceptions and feelings about ourselves with regard to our physical and social appearance including our genetic inheritance, such as sex and race; 56 our physical built, weight attributes and such others. as height, Our social appearance includes our name, roles, status and titles. SELF-CONFIDENCE *What is Self-confidence? It refers to perceptions and feelings about our worth with regards to our capabilities. This involves our ability to do things, to achieve and to develop more competencies. SELF-ESTEEM What does self-Esteem mean? Refers to our perceptions and feelings about our worth with regards to our lovability. This refers to our basic ability to love and be loved. WHAT STEPS SHOULD YOU TAKE TOWARDS A HEALTHY SELFCONCEPT? You must begin by assessing your present selfconcept level. Is your self-concept basically positive or negative? Then explore which area in the different dimensions you are weak. 57 How will you know if you have a healthy selfconcept in these three dimensions? In the area of SELF-IMAGE, a person who feels he suffers from some form of physical or social handicap develops a low self-image. How? What criteria can you cite to support it? For instance, just by saying the following to your self; ~ I have too many pimples. ~ I feel ugly. ~ I’m too stout. ~ I’m too thin. ~ I’m cross-eyed. ~ I’m just a janitor. These serve as hindrances for one to feel good about his appearance. develops hang-ups behavior as extreme and security redness, As some a result forms blankets. putting too a woman of neurotic For example, many make-up; insistence on being addressed with titles such as “doctor” or “attorney”, “sir” / “madam”, and even collecting Mercedes Benzes. 58 A person with positive self-image recognizes some of his physical and social limitation but does not allow these to deter him from feeling good about his acknowledge and appearance. accepts He his learns how limitations to and therefore, feels at home with himself. Perhaps the key element to the ability to transcend physical and social limitations is his ability to see beyond “external and stress on inner beauty”. Remember the famous quotation from the Little Prince by Antoine de Saint Exupery: “It is with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye “. His motto is-“I feel happy just being me”. WHAT ABOUT THE SELF-CONFIDENCE DIMENSION? People who believe they are able and capable are those said to have self-confidence. Self-confidence paves the way to productivity because the person believes in his potentials. He allows these 59 potentials to develop by trying. He is not afraid of making mistakes. He does not fall into traps of “being perfect”. The development of his abilities is measured within his own standards and improvements. In contrast a person who lacks self-confidence always says, “I can’t”. “Don’t count on me “. “I will not foul it up”, “I’ll never make perfect”. Because he doesn’t believe in himself, his potentials seldom flourish and grow. Common roots that affect a person’s confidence level are: perfection too as much standards stress on comparing achievements, oneself with others, fear of making mistakes, or grade. These factors make the person less courageous to try out potentials and abilities. WHAT ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM? A person with high self-esteem believes he is lovable. He does not reject and put himself down when other seem to reject him. He does not subject his ability to conditions, such as believing he is lovable only if he is good and looking or if he can achieve. He believes in his lovable nature being a 60 creature of a loving GOD. If he let the others happen to love him, he celebrates it. But he does not let the love of others can be a factor in determining his lovability. He simply believes in his love-ability. I am a loving creature and therefore I can love. A person with a high selfesteem can love freely and spontaneously. A person with a low self-esteem does not love himself. He may doubt the love of others or may feel he has to work extra hard to earn people’s love. himself. Usually upbringing that He is this he is the is first the very to result reject of conditional, the I am lovable if only I can get good grades, If I am hardworking, etc. A person with low self-esteem finds it harder to love others. IT IS POSSIBLE FOR ONE TO SUFFER FROM ALL THE THREE DIMENSIONS? YES, it is possible. It may point at one dimension, which directly affects the person. One usually suffers from one dimension and the other two are affected as a result. For instance, a person may feel incapable and unlovable largely due to a physical handicap, which belongs 61 to the dimension of self-image. Or a person who feels unlovable may attribute this to his looks and abilities. I am not lovable because I am ugly. I am not lovable because I am not able But in actuality the roots is in his feelings of unlovability, not on his looks or abilities. SELF-AWARENESS AND EVALUATION Introduction William James, a Harvard psychologist, firmly stated that man uses only about one-tenth of his greatest potential in life. 1. That is one of the most frightening facts we will ever face. 2. Think of all the accomplishments, dreams, victories and gifts that have never been realized throughout the lifetime of man on earth. 3. Think of the 90% of you that now lie totally ignored and untapped. 4. Think of all you could give yourself and your family if you use only five percent more of yourself than you are now using. 62 The major purpose of this is to show you how you can use more of your potentials by the process of self-evaluation, which comes from selfknowledge. Many people think that we use only about 10% of our potential because some persons or force limit us. 1. However; The part of our lives that we fail to touch does not have to 2. remain so. We can begin to use more of our given potential if we are willing to learn and use a few simple truths. WHY WE ARE THE WAY WE ARE? A. During waking hour, our actions and statements reflect what we really feel about ourselves. And yet, most of us have never really examined what we feel, why we feel that way, and how we want to feel about ourselves. 1. Is that so important? YES, if you are not satisfied with things in your life and feel the desire to improve. 63 2. This self-examination is vital if you want to change your life, your actions, your accomplishments and your future. B. As children, we heard the multitude of things about us. elder saying a Some of these things told us that we were good, productive, attractive and loved. Some told us that we were bad, lazy, and unable to do certain things. 1. Because were so the people much who older said and these held things so much authority over us, we accepted the thoughts without question --- good or bad. 2. As we grow, we incorporated these things we felt about ourselves into a mental picture of ourselves called self-image. 3. We took at the good and the bad and the inbetween and accepted them as truth. few of us never stopped logically objectively examined those beliefs. Very or We just accepted them. C. As maturing individuals, we took these mental pictures and shapes, whether we knew it or not, our whole lives revolved around what we thought about ourselves. 1. If we thought about ourselves as incompetent, we became incompetent. 64 2. If we thought about ourselves as beautiful and productive people, we become just that way. 3. This happened because our subconscious mind accepted the “truth” which the conscious mind fed it and acted exactly that way. If the subconscious mind was told that we were stupid, we subconscious acted mind stupid, obeys because the instructions from the latter. D. Many of us believe that we are “stuck” with these mental pictures of ourselves just because we have developed from infancy until now with this belief. 1. This is one of the factors that lead us to limit ourselves. 2. We never have to be “stuck” with any way of thinking. 3. As human power to beings, we change our will always thoughts and have the actions according to our beliefs. 4. We can always change and upgrade our selfimage. 65 Helps and Hindrances to Self-Concept Development In this section of the course, we shall invite you to explore the different factors, which influence the development of your significant area we self-concept. will look into is One PARENTAL BEHAVIOR and its positive or negative impact on the development of your self-concept. Another area we will consider is the influence of CULTURAL NORMS AND EXPECTATIONS ON SELF-CONCEPT DEVELOPMENT. As you explore these two areas, it is hoped that you will begin to identify and understand the roots of your self-concept and liberate yourself from unhealthy influences of the past. A. PARENTAL BEHAVIOR AND SELF-CONCEPT DEVELOPMENT A friend of mine once an shared experience she had when she was teaching in the United States. It was a meeting she had with the mothers conference. in one of a parent-teacher Her student was a young boy who Out was very withdrawn. of concern she approached initiate some conversion. the mother openly berated his mother to To my friend’s horror, her son for thirty 66 minutes. my What was wrong about him/her. friend decided to interrupt her Finally, and said: “Okey, now that you’ve told me about what was wrong with your son, why don’t you tell me something you like about him.” The mother was taken aback with this statement, “You mean all the while I wasn’t saying anything positive about my conscious of it. son?.” She was not even No wonder the son turned out to be withdrawn. This incident struck me and once more reaffirms the significant role a parent plays on his or her child’s development. Parental behavior Whether manifested conscious in the or way not. parents relate and rear their children, do influence the person’s self-concept. We shall now lead you to a journey back to your childhood and review the impact your parents or significant persons like lolo, lola, relatives have on your important feelings to of note worth here as that a person. sometimes It’s what is significant is not so much what really happened then, but how you feel on what had happened now at this point in time. This is what we refer to as the “impact of the event”. Another important note, it is not the aim of this activity to bring out the anger and 67 bitterness, parents. which We are you have not, had however, towards your discounting the possibility that this might happen especially since the process invites influences on you. you to assess your parents When you begin to look back at their faults, weaknesses and limitations, a human tendency is to blame them especially when negative consequences have occurred. In this case, we would advise you not to deny these negative feelings. Instead, confront them. But learn to judge your parents not in terms of intentions, instead, judge them in terms of “behavior” – what they have done and not done – have hindered you from growing. Several times we tend to judge a person’s intention; we believe that they are out to hurt us purposely. discover later that this is not so, people want to really hurt others. manifested simply as results negative of behaviors their own We, however, seldom do What they have oftentimes, psychological are ills. With parents, it is not so much that they want to hurt their children. More often, they hurt their children because of other factors. own deep unresolved resentments Such as their with parents, which are coming through. their own Perhaps they have a strong feeling of inadequacy in fulfilling their role as a parent. Only when we see our 68 parents as human beings too, and that they have sincere intentions, can we begin the process of healing the past wounds. because they weaknesses. is well. are We begin to forgive them victims of their own human Of course, this is not to say that all We become responsible to build from what has been set as what we have envisioned. B. CULTURAL NORMS AND EXPECTATION AND SELF-CONCEPT DEVELOPMENT Our culture has laid down for us some standards from which we feel accepted or rejected. area of sex roles, breadwinner household. working, while men women For example, in the are expected are to to be maintain the the Even if both the husband and wife are the women are still consciously or unconsciously responsible for the management of the house. This expectation determines how society regards us which influences our sense of personal worth. A man, therefore who ends up staying at home taking care of children while his wife works would be ostracized by his neighbors. Eventually, he could lose a sense of respect for himself. 69 What are Cultural Norms? Cultural norms and expectations define our self to others. Therefore, we live up to them just as we experience rejection. norms and expectations become unhealthy for the individuals. to review these norms But sometimes these and consciously or unconsciously development of our unrealistic and This is why we need expectations they self-concept. because influence This the section leads you to reflect on culture’s influence and to emerge your capacity to redefine yourself against standards that may not be healthy and realistic. Thus, Cultural Norms are expectations of our society towards us. So, what is expected of you as a member of a society? Go back through your growing up experience and get in touch with what you have been receiving as standards for men and women in the areas of; a. Body image b. Sex roles c. Achievements d. Success 70 As A Man How can you answer the following questions? What have you been told about your body image? What body image would be considered more acceptable for men? What sex roles have been considered achievement standards for you as a man? What qualities do you have to be successful? As a Woman How will you react if the following questions will be asked to you: What body image has always been dictated to you as being more acceptable? What sex roles have been assigned to you as woman? 71 What achievement standards were set for you as a woman? What makes woman successful? HOW CAN YOU ENHANCE YOUR SELF-CONCEPT POSITIVELY? In this chapter, we shall give you concrete suggestions on how you can enhance and improve your self-concept. Although there are numerous ways of achieving this, we would like to focus on the four areas, which may serve as significant starting points. Working on conscientiously each would of bring these out four a areas greater appreciation and celebration of one’s self. 1. THE EXPERIENCE OF ACHIEVEMENT 72 One of the most important experiences that can facilitate the realization of our worth as a person is the experience of achievement. We all need to be reassured of the power within us which makes us able to achieve our respective endeavor. Looking at concrete results and abilities that we have. Oftentimes, the barriers we have in achieving a task is our doubt that we have powers and abilities. have these It is not so much that we do not powers and abilities to achieve. Rather, it is more of our inability to acknowledge and own them. therefore, experience ourselves, in what we have and what we possess. To following only self-concept suggestions if in would we achievement, in your possible of believe enhance is The this be area, the carefully considered: 73 A. Readily acknowledge an achievement you experienced. It doesn’t have to be a major achievement. As long as you feel proud about something you have done, recognize and celebrate it. For example, you have been able to finish a term paper despite of so much pressure achievement. B. in the family that would be an terms of Claim it as such. Consider your achievement not in external indicators but more of a personal standard of achievement. You don’t need a medal or a prize to tell you that you have achieved something. itself is a reward. Your achievement If you have done something which you are proud of and which you feel good about, then consider it as an achievement. If for instance, in the past, you have been getting C’s and this month you are getting B’s, you could say that it is an achievement. It doesn’t have to be 74 an A. Your standards of achievement depend on yourself and what you are able to do within limits. C. Avoid a very unrealistic and perfectionist standard of achievement for yourself. Do not set a goal that is unreal and impossible to achieve. yourself. It will only make you feel bad about For example, during the first try you will be able to do it perfectly. D. Avoid becoming over-critical with yourself. Remember you are a human being and as such, you are liable to make mistakes. you have limitations. When Also, as human being, you both meet your limitations and the mistakes you have done, be kind to yourself. At the same time, remember that it is not true that just because you made mistakes or you have limitations, you cannot achieve anything. If, for instance, you are poor in Mathematics and you recognize it as your limitation, your criticism to your self will further block you from learning. 75 Whereas, if you recognize it as your limitation and know it will take you a little more time than usual to learn, you can still learn. E. With every identify achievement personal experienced, strength – qualities or abilities. When you possess something that contributes to your achievement, it is worth honoring. There is always a tendency that you might have to attribute the achievement to external factors, such as luck or a friend’s help. them and acknowledge them. examination with flying Identify So, if you pass an colors, look back and pinpoint the qualities and abilities you have which contributed to the high grades. For instance, you might say it was due to your perseverance and selfdiscipline. Or you could say it was your ability to comprehend the subject matters. F. With every achievement find the possibility of having a chance to publicly share this achievement. 76 Although our society tends to teach us to be quiet about facilitates our achievement, the process psychologically, of “owning” it these achievement if we find persons whom we will share them with, of course, this presupposes that the person whom you will share your joys with will not misinterpret your actions and judge you as proud. Rather, he achievement. or she will be happy too with your So when you get high grades, the joy would be more completed when you arrive home and share it with your parents. Then the joy is doubled. F. Celebrate your achievement by giving your self a reward or prize for jobs well done. If you especially feel proud of what you’ve done, don’t hesitate to give yourself a treat, or finally, buying yourself something you have wanted for a long time. can afford it, spoil your self. you’ve got it, you deserve it. If you After all, when After a hard days work, despite all your problems, you are able to 77 finish a task, what’s an ice cream cone for a treat! 2. RE-PROGRAMMING BELIEF SYSTEM AND SELF-TALKS One thing we need to keep away from is the “garbage” we feed our mind. Without our being aware of it, we hold some beliefs which are both unhealthy and unrealistic. These beliefs influence our way of perceiving reality and causes consequent reaction. Therefore, if I keep an irrational belief such as “I am born a loser”, I will perceive an experience of failure as a confirmation of that belief and consequently, feel self-pity and depression. We need to guard ourselves “programming” of our beliefs. things we could suffer with such One of the greatest from our unhealthy irrational belief is viewing our self negatively and feels unworthy. We experience “putting down” 78 our self, blaming, getting angry, hating and ending up our self. Usually, we see these beliefs at work in our “Self-talks”. about in an These are things we tell our self event. The event itself directly cause an emotional reaction. does not Getting in touch with our self-talks would, therefore, help us identify some underlying belief system. Working on this belief system, in turn, facilitates a more rational and healthier view of self, of others and of life. Let us begin re-programming our belief system and self-talk common which by unhealthy could looking and directly over some irrational or of belief indirectly especially our self-concept. the most systems, affect us, As you look over the list, which we borrowed from John Powell’s book “Fully human, Fully alive”, check the ones you feel rooted in your own belief system. Here are some of the COMMON UNHEALTHY AND IRRATIONAL BELIEFS: 1. I must be loved and approved by everyone, in my community, especially by those who are most important to me. 79 2. I must be perfectly competent, adequate and successful in achieving my goal before I can I have no control over my own happiness. My think of self as worthwhile. 3. happiness is completely in the control of external circumstances. 4. The past experiences and events of my life have determined The influence my present of life the and past behavior. cannot be eradicated. 5. Nobody can really love me. 6. I don’t deserve to be happy. 7. I have to be the center of attention or don’t enjoy myself. 8. What will the neighbors say? We have to look good. 9. This is the way I am and always will be. 10. It’s no use of trying. 3. FEEDBACK: GETTING THE MOST OUT OF IT. Another area that can facilitate the enhancement of our selfconcept is our ability to receive feedback, especially positive information coming from feedback. other people We need about us, especially our strength, so that we can validate and confirm what we know of ourselves already and 80 include other data that we are not aware of. In doing so, other people serve as “mirror” to us and we and discover, reaffirm more of our beauty uniqueness as person. Many of receiving us, both however, positive find and difficulty negative in feedbacks. For some, this is due to the fact that persons get hurt when confronting with their weaknesses, when they themselves are not assured of their strengths. This is why in Self-concept development the focus must be in the realization of one’s unique strengths. Some of us thought we would struggle inside when people offer very positive don’t know how to receive them. feedbacks. We Maybe it is our very culture that has toughened us. We are told that once we acknowledge out positive qualities, it is not “proud” socially and acceptable. our religious We are considered background further reinforces it by accusing us of the sin of pride. In this content, we reject the positive things that people say to us. This is why we must learn how to get the most out of feedback especially positive feedbacks. Unless we own and appreciate our strengths, we can never improve. We will reject positive feedbacks, which will help us build our self. We will also 81 reject negative feedbacks, which can help us improve ourselves. Here are some guidelines in helping you get the most out of positive feedbacks: 1. Treat feedback as feedback. Feedbacks are not truths; they are information coming from other persons actions, regarding which have our behavior affected others and in a positive way (This is called the positive feedback) or feedback). in a negative way (negative As information, we can either accept or reject it. But we must respect it since it is another person’s opinion. 2. Listen to feedback immediately react first knowing Learn to to where listen given. a it or behaviors affected the other? affected? feedback is first. behavior Do do How without coming What I was not from. particular have which the other What made the person affected in a particular way? a. Check how the feedback was given. Sometimes, it is given in generalities, such as “you are very good”, or “you are a very insincere person.” Find out what 82 the person means. What have I done to make you say that I am good or that I am insincere? judgment It’s very hard to live with of “good” and “insincere” because we are not entirely good nor are we always insincere. We must have done something to make the person react in such a way as to label us as such. Go back to your behavior. b. Feedback pinpoint does not intentions and but should only not behavior. Going back to the examples earlier, you might discover that you are considered good because you lend the person money, not because you are doing good, but because you are afraid that the person you would get angry or reject you if you don’t. Therefore, only you would know your intention. c. Feedback is in contact of the person’s need and expectation. meet the other person’s other When I need and expectation with my behavior, they will affect the other positively. If I don’t meet their expectation, then It affect them negatively. meet a person’s For example, I don’t expectation for total 83 honesty; he could call me “dishonest”. I just could not meet his needs. d. Know that feedback refers to behavior and it affects other’s expectations. I must listen to feedback as it is. I need not be too defensive nor apologetic immediately. I 1. Analyze the feedback. Find out if you agree or disagree with the feedback. If you agree with the feedback, accept and acknowledge it. If necessary, explain your behavior so that the person would interpret the behavior not within the context of your intentions. 2. Appreciate the feedback accordingly. If others appreciate you and you agree to their assessment, then you own it as your strength or positive their quality. assessment, feedback. That’s If you treat how it the disagree as other with just a person experienced about me. If I want to explain so he or she will understand as better, I can explain. 3. MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP AND SUPPORT SYSTEM 84 There is no substitute for what love can do to a person. No one expresses it better than Roy Creft in his poem. “I LOVE YOU” I love you Not only for what you are But for what I am When I am with you. I love you Not only have made of yourself But for what You are making of me. For the part of me That you bring out. I love you For putting your hand Into my heaped-up heart And the foolish, weak things That you can’t help dimly seeing there And for drawing Out into the light 85 All the beautiful belongings That no one else had looked Guide far enough to find I love you Because you are Helping me to make Of the lumber of my life Not a tavern But a temple Out of the works Of my everyday Not a reproach But a song. I love you Because you have done it By being yourself Perhaps that is what Being a friend means After all. 86 When we have someone who fits into the description that Roy Creft gave, we wouldn’t have many problems person. We with all recognizing need our friends. worth Real as a friends. Persons who draw out from us our best self. Do you have persons in your life whom you consider as real friends? Begin to identify these persons in your life who have served as real friends to you. their significant role in your life. Reflect on What have you become more of as result? Over and above human friends, one more additional relationship and Support System must be explored in the experience of being in touch with an affirming God. Our human relationship must model after the way our GOD. Our relationship with others relate with us – unconditional in loving, accepting, forgiving, understanding and caring. It is a total giving of self, which brings about our discovery and realization of our own unique self in what is characterized in God’s love to us. 87 To experience this loving further in our life, we must spend more time to communicate to GOD. is a two-way process. Not just in It speaking endlessly, but allowing Him also to speak to us. As we listen to HIM through HIS words. Make sure that in your lifetime, you do not miss out on these two important areas of your life; the experience of real friends and the encounter with an validated affirming by these God. Our meaningful worth is further relationships and support system. 88 (Final Coverage) JOHARI WIDOW (SELF-DISCOVERY) 89 JOHARI WIDOW (SELF-DISCOVERY) 1. The FREE area in known both to you and to others-the area of mutual sharing and you but not others but interaction. 2. The HIDDEN area in known to shared with others. 3. The BLIND area is known to unknown to you. 4. The DARK area is that part of your self which is unknown to others and also unknown to you- The talents and abilities which you do not know you have and others have never seen and also the wounds and hurts buried deep in your memory. 5. FEEDBACK is one way by which others open up your blind spot, letting you know in a responsible, supportive way what they see in you, which you do not see in yourself. 6. DISCLOSURE is the means by which you share more of your HIDDEN self with others. This would depend upon your desire to do so. 90 Others have no right to force you to disclose the hidden of yourself. 7. REVELATION is when the DARK area of yourself is opened. It comes spontaneously and cannot be planned like the way in which a slip of the tongue reveals something you and others do not know. KNOW YOUR SELF The danger of not knowing one self has already been discussed. Self-knowledge means understanding one’s values, goals and those things, which gives meaning to one’s life. Knowing oneself involves three qualities: knowing what one cannot do, and knowing what one ought to do. It should be noted that self-knowledge does not come by merely pondering on events of the day. Insights from one who has acquired most fully through the observation of the in action, particularly in relations with others, are important. It is then that the self is called forth actually to be what he can become. The Johari Window could better illustrate this. 91 BE YOURSELF; God reserved some of his harvest words to hypocrites. Everyone likes a phony, one who wears a mask or even several masks, and one who is not sincere. “Sincere” comes from the Latin “sine sera” meaning “without wax”. Actors during those times used waxen masks during plays and dreams. Thus, an arrogant, tough, poised air may be a mask to conceal an insecure personality, an empty shell with no substance of its own. Like an actor who plays a character totally different from him, a person who is not himself strives to fit a selfimage which is not himself and suffers the consequences of this false existence. The mass media often present us with the beguiling image of the perfect man and woman. We should rather recognize the fictional and unrealistic charter of such ideal roles shown and instead on inherent striving to better imperfections ourselves with but genuine always self- acceptance. The self-accepting person not need fear what he discovers about herself. He can be open to 92 his inner experiences without being overcome by them. BE YOUR BEST SELF To become the self which is expressed in many popular songs. Such as “I want to be free”, “I want to be me”, “I did it my way”. We hear a great deal today about the search for identity and the sense of alienation while many are having the difficulty knowing who really they are, others are questioning the meaning of their lives. In both cases, we can see the frustration of the natural tendencies in human beings to become their best selves. This tendency is concretized in the following way; a) The desire to fulfill one’s personal capacities and develop one’s potentials. b) The need to do what one is best suited. c) The yearning discovering to the grow truth, and expand creating though beauty, producing order and promoting justice. A person whose tendency towards fulfilling his blocked (refer to better “C”) may become a 93 neurotic. It might be of some assistance to consider description of the neurotic and someone who is in the way to become his best self. A) The neurotic anything, person frequently which avoids involves confronts the or pain; escapes the requirements mature of his world and attempts to respond to it. B) The neurotic habitually expresses his difficulties, but since repression is in the end ineffective difficulties and even continue to harmful, trouble these him. The mature person can effectively sublimate his difficulties and channel them towards creative ends. C) The neurotic personality is characterized splits. There is a by many continual conflict between his goals and values. An efficient perception of reality integration, and unity of personality characterize the normal person. D) Self-description is another prominent trait of the neurotic. The normal person has insight in his motivation and behavior. E) The neurotic is characterized by fixations in his personality growth. His motives maybe childish and his behavior regressive. The 94 mature person thinks, feels and acts in accordance with his age. F) The neurotic suffers from uncontrolled impulsiveness. He behaves in unnatural ways. G) The normal person has a high frustration tolerance. He can postpone gratification and tolerates ambiguity to a high degree. H) The and neurotic’s tied to involvement the immediate is quit narrow situation. 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ROSEMARIE TEREZ-SANTOS Dr. Rosemarie T. Santos is the Coordinator of the Euthenics Department of Universidad De Zamboanga. She graduated her BSEMajor in Values Education at Western Mindanao State University, Zamboanga City. She finished her Masters Degree in School Administration and Supervision and Doctoral degree in Educational Management at Universidad de Zamboanga. She had been a Facilitator and Project Documentor of the Public Service Ethics, Excellence and Accountability Program (PSEEAP) under the UZCommunity Extension Services which is a link project of the USAID under the Transparent Accountable Governance (TAG) Project implemented by The Asia Foundation (TAF). Her long years of experience and dedication of teaching Euthenics subjects and diligence in doing researcher inspired her to prepare this module. Presently, she is also teaching in the Graduate School handling 98 MAEd. Subjects major in Supervision and Administration and an advisee of thesis and dissertation writing. 99