Personality Development It’s All About You! Factors That Made You What You Are Now 1. Where are you from? - city or small town 2. What happen to you in the past? - the way you respond to your family member - how do your friends and classmates look at you? Personality: Definition and its Components Personality – the sum total of the qualities and characteristics of a person as shown in his manner of walking, talking, dressing and her attitudes, interests and ways of reacting to other people. Components of Personality 1. Physical – this includes the mode of dressing, manner of walking, posture, body build, health, complexion, and facial expression. 2. Intellectual – how a person talks and what she talks about is what matters in the intellectual component of personality. He must develop his intellect or brain. 3. Social – good manner and to get along well with others. 4. Emotional – a person’s likes or dislikes. Whether she is outgoing or shy, whether she is calm or nervous, and whether she loses her temper easily. 5. Value System – this includes a person’s attitudes, values, beliefs and philosophy in life. It is referred to as CHARACTER. How Personality is Revealed 1. Crisis Situation reveal the real personality. 2. Boy-meets-girl situation first impression is usually based on appearance. 3. Social Situation Personality Differences 1. Our Heredity 2. The Environment 3. Our Experiences How do you feel about yourself? Do you have healthy, positive level of self-esteem? 1- rarely 2- sometimes 3- often 4- frequently a. I don’t like going to work (to school). b. I am easily bored. c. I cannot communicate easily with others. d. I don’t perform my job (or class work) up to par. e. I get into conflicts with others. f. I think my friends consider me a failure. g. I am late or fail to show up for appointments too often. h. I am not conscientious about my grooming and appearance. i. I have unattractive physical characteristics. j. I don’t concentrate on anything for very long. k. I work hard but accomplish little. l. I am forgetful. m. I give up when I can’t get something right the first time. n. I lack energy and enthusiasm 5- usually Scoring 14-20 you are doing well. Congratulations! 21-30 you are okay if you continue to build your self-esteem. 31-40 you need to do some serious selfesteem building. 41+ you appear to have very low selfesteem. Ask someone you trust and who cares about you to help you as you work to improve your self-esteem. Attitude! “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude.” - William James The Iceberg How much do you see of an iceberg? The Iceberg Only 10% of any iceberg is visible, the remaining 90% is below sea level. The Iceberg Attitude ØAttitude is a hypothetical construction that represents an individual’s degree of like or dislike for an item. ØAttitude are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, things, or event this is often referred to as the attitude object. Components of Attitudes: Tripartite View Components of Attitudes: Cognitive - opinion or beliefs about attitude object (pos & neg) Affective - emotions and feelings the object triggers (pos and neg) Behavioral - reaction toward the object (pos and neg) Attitude Object: Employee Cognitions My pay is low. My supervisor is unfair Affects I am angry over how little I’m paid I dislike my supervisor Behaviors I am going to look for another job that pays better I am looking for another job Functions of Attitudes 1. Value-expressive function - enable us to express who we are and what we believe in 2. Ego-defensive function - enable us to protect internally-held conflicts unto others, means protecting self-esteem (homophobia) 3. Knowledge function - enable us to know the world 4. Utilitarian/Instrumental function - enable us to gain rewards and avoid punishment Do Attitude cause Behavior? Answer: Not very well Attitude have a stronger affect on behavior if they are: - important - specific - accessible - social pressure reinforces the attitude - you have experience with the attitude Attitude and Behavior Success! Knowledge Process Skills Attitude The Choice is YOURS! With a bad Attitude you can never have a positive day! With a positive attitude you can never have a bad day! “Things are the way you think they are, because you think they are that way.” Self Image What would your perception be if you saw the individuals described below? Self Image ØSelf-image is how you view yourself, your characteristics and abilities. ØIt is the value you place on yourself and how worthy you feel. ØSelf-image is influenced by your self-esteem and your body image. Factors that Affects One’s Self-Image q Peers q Friends q Mentors q Parents q Teachers q Media q Television q Movies q Magazines q Successes q Failures Women in the Media § Women are used much more than men § Media teaches women to measure themselves in terms of physical appearance § Standards of beauty are unattainanable for most women § Media uses young females who are on strict diets or starving to portray the image of beauty § Young women see models in the media and feel the need to look like them to be attractive. Research Research Research SELF-IMAGE The way we see ourselves SELF-ESTEEM The way we feel about ourselves SELF-CONFIDENCE Belief about our ability to do something The Basic Wardrobe Clothing - is for protection, comfort, modesty, and enhancement of your beauty. - it is a statement of individuality, status, creativity. Guideline to avoid expensive or embarrassing mistakes while developing your personal style. Appropriateness above all - A sense of propriety, dictated by the occasion and the company. “Fashion is serious. What you wear reveals a significant message about you and your world”. Forming that impression and making decision concerning the following factors 1. Economic level -Is he rich or poor? Is he working or unemployed? 2. Educational level - Is he a high school or college graduate? May be he is an attorney or doctor? 3. Social position - Does he live in one of the villages? Does he belong to the upper socio-economic level or the lower level? 4. Level of sophistication - Is he the party-hopping type, or probably he is the “provinciano” type. 5. Family background - Are they known by their family names or not. 6. Successfulness - is he successful? Does he have a car, a house and lot? Is he important in his company? 7. Moral character - does he look honest? Assembling A Basic Wardrobe 1. Clean up your closet - start with a pile of “if only” items. - next discard items you have not worn in a year or so. - next step is to arrange everything that is left. - donate the ones you have removed. Steps on how your closet should be: a. Hang together everything that goes together. b. Arrange blouses from the lightest shades to darkest. The same goes for skirts, pants, and finally dresses. c. Keep evening wear separate. 2. Know your figure - look yourself over in front of a full-length mirror. 3. Shop wisely … and well - you should also take your budget into consideration. Accessories Rules for Accessories 1. Moderation is the key. Never over decorate your body. 2. Your Accessories should be appropriate to the occasion, your age, and to the company in which they are worn. 3. Be certain that you do not rattle when you move because of an arm loaded with too many bracelets. 4. Day and night call different accessories. So do city and country occasions. 5. Avoid pretension, especially the wearing of expensive jewelry in groups where others do not have or do not wear it. Law of Proportion The laws of Proportion - those fashion rules that camouflage the poor lines of your figure and accentuate the good. 1. An unbroken line appears longer. Horizontal lines make you appear shorter and add breadth to your figure. 2. Height gives the illusion of slenderness 3. Light colors add weight 4. Dramatize your good points. Select clothing to “show off” your assets. The Accessories 1. Belt – wide belts are not for short persons 2. Shoes – Avoid spiky heels, wooden clogs, ankle straps for the office. The most Appropriate style is the closed pumps style. 3. Hosiery – stockings are a must for the ladyexecutive. If you have larger legs, use a darker shade than if you had thin legs. 4. Bags – It should match the color of your shoes, more or less. It should not hit below the waist in the hip area Determine Your Face Shape ü Oval - Those of you with oval faces will have a forehead that is just slightly wider than your chin – think of the shape of an egg if you placed it upside down. Your jaw line will be a bit rounded and your face will be longer than it is wide. ü Square - If you have a square face, the sides of your face will be straight and your face will be nearly as wide as it is long. Your jaw line is defined, with only a minimal curve. üRound - People sometimes associate round faces with “chubby cheeks”, but that isn’t always the case. If you have a round face, your cheekbones are just the widest part of your face and your jaw will be curved. Think of a square face, but with softer angles. üHeart - A person with a heart-shaped face will have a long and pointed jaw line, with the chin being the smallest point of their face. Imagine a triangle flipped upside down on one point. ü Oblong - Oblong faces, or “rectangular” as it is sometimes called, are similar to oval and square-shaped faces. The only difference is, the face is longer and less wide. Your forehead, cheeks and jaw line should all be pretty much the same width. ü Diamond: If you have a diamond-shaped face, your chin will be narrow and pointed and your high cheekbones will be your most prominent feature (lucky ladies!). The difference between diamond-shaped faces and heart-shaped faces is the hairline – those with diamond-shaped faces will have a narrower hairline. How to Apply Makeup According to Your Face Shape 1 • Put on lip makeup. Round Face: Put on a ruby red lipstick or shiny dark pink lip gloss. This will make your face appear more bold, and not too rounded. • Heart-shaped face/Oval: Since heart-shaped and ovalshaped faces have high cheek bones and a narrowed chin, add a soft color like rose on the upper lip, and a bold shade like cherry on the bottom lip. This will focus more boldness to the bottom part of the face, evening out the top part and bottom part of the face. • Square Face: If you have a square face, the jaw will appear larger than the forehead. Avoid dark shades and use light colors like a soft orange shade, or a pale pink, but not light as in neon, like hot pink, this will add more focus to the lower part of the face. 2 • Apply Lip liner. Round Face: Put a small amount of liner to the sides of the lips, giving your face a less rounded look, but more straight around the edges. • Heart-shaped face/Oval: Apply a little more lip liner on the bottom than the top, evening out your face. • Square Face: Softly apply a wide but light border of liner on the edge of your lips, making it look like a shadow. This will make the edges of your face appear softer, and not as square. 3 • Put on blush. Round Face: Put on a good amount of blush, preferably a fairly dark shade, again, this will give your face a more bold look. Just be sure not to apply too much blush, or you'll look like you got a bad sunburn, and this won't look good. • Heart-shaped Face/Oval: Avoid too much blush, you don't want to much makeup on the area where your cheeks are, remember, heart-shaped faces already high cheekbones. Just apply a light amount of a soft pink blush on your face. If you already have rosy cheeks, you probably don't need blush. • Square Face: Put on a fair amount of blush in circular motions with a medium-sized brush. If you have fair skin, avoid putting on a bright shade of pink, you want your skin tone to look even. 4 • Now, it's time for eye makeup. Start with eye shadow. Round Face: Put on a dark purple shade of eye shadow. • Heart-Shaped Face/Oval: Apply soft colors of eye shadow, like pale pink, mint green, or sky blue. • Square Face: Put on unique colors like scarlet, periwinkle, and lavender. Remember, a square face is unique and different, so unique colors of eye shadow will bring out your facial features, especially your eyes. 5 • Now, simply put on black mascara, or whichever shade you feel comfortable with. Whatever face shape you have, a nice amount of mascara will bring out your eyes, making your eyelashes appear longer and bolder. If you have a heart shaped face don't put to much eyeliner on because this will make the shadows under your eyes more noticeable Changing Your Hairstyle for Men 1 • Determine your facial shape. It's generally understood that not every hairstyle will look good on everyone. This largely has to do with facial shape and features. A useful way to find your facial shape is to stand in front of a mirror and mark the outline of your face (not including your hair or ears) using a bar of soap or makeup pencil. You should be able to see a definitive shape. 2 Choose a style that complements your facial shape. Once you have determined your face shape, try to find a hairstyle that suits the shape. This may require patience, as you may find that you need to grow your hair longer in order to style it appropriately. Here are suggestions for styles based on your face shape: • Oval face: Choose almost any hairstyle, but bangs or fringe will make your face appear rounder. • Square face: Choose a softer style around your hairline. Short, tight hairstyles will play up your sharp features. Avoid parting your hair in the center. • Oblong face: Choose a balanced style. Short sides and a long top will make your face look even longer. Keeping some hair styled onto your face can help balance your facial length. • Round face: Avoid sharp bangs or lots of hair swept onto the face. • Diamond-shaped face: You may want to choose longer hairstyles. Avoid sharp haircuts near the ears and straight hair. • Heart-shaped face: Choose longer hair. Facial hair, such as a beard, mustache, or goatee, will also help balance the lower part of your face. • Triangular face: Choose a style that adds width and volume at the top.Keeping your hair wavy or curly is a good way to add the volume. 3 • Figure out your hair type. Is your hair wavy, straight, textured, or curly? Is it fine, medium, or thick? Certain hairstyles will work better with your hair's natural tendencies and can make styling easier. 4 • Pick a hairstyle that matches your hair type. While some of these styles work with any hair texture, most work best with a specific hair type. Evaluate what your hair naturally tends to do and find a hairstyle that complements those tendencies. If you have straight hair of any consistency, consider choosing the Prohibition High-and-Tight, let it grow out (as long as it isn't fine), flow and comb it, or crop it. – The Prohibition High-and-Tight features very short sides while fading hair shorter into your nape and sideburns. The top should be a little longer, about an inch and a half. To style, use a gel to keep the top combed into place. Don't choose this look if you have wavy or curly hair. – To let your hair grow out for a messy look, simply let your hair grow past your shoulders. Styling is simple, just towel dry your hair and apply a little texture cream. – The flow and comb starts with a square cut, but is longer on the sides and the top. Apply a mousse to your wet hair, then comb the hair back. Avoid this if you have curly hair. – Cropped hair is essentially cut short evenly across the sides and the top. You don't really need styling products with this low-maintenance cut. • If you have curly or wavy hair, consider choosing a pompadour, let it grow out, or crop it. The pompadour is simply a classic haircut. The blended cut should be done to a ratio of 2 to 1, top to sides. This basically means that you should leave the sides shorter than the top, but not drastically shorter. Style with a pomade and comb the top into place. Avoid this look if you have very fine, straight, or thin hair. • To let your hair grow out for a messy look, simply let your hair grow past your shoulders. Styling is simple, just towel dry your hair and apply a little texture cream. For more of a bedhead look, ask your stylist to add texture and style with a hair gel. • Cropped hair is essentially cut short evenly across the sides and the top. You don't really need styling products with this low-maintenance cut. • If you have a receding hairline, just keep your hair short. If you're feeling adventurous, you could shave everything off 5 • Try a variety of styles. There is no hard and fast rule about hairstyle. While these suggestions may help, you should ultimately find a style that makes you feel comfortable and like yourself. Don’t be afraid to try out different styles every month or so until you find one that you really like. 6 • Choose a sideburn length. The average length of classic sideburns is the middle point of your ear, but this can be adjusted according to your facial features and head shape. Whatever length you choose, the sideburns should match your hairstyle. So, if you have short hair, the sideburns should be kept short and well trimmed. Sideburns can be longer and thicker with a longer, looser hairstyle. Longer sideburns can actually make your face look narrower, while sideburns that are shorter than mid-ear length can have the opposite effect. Typically, shorter sideburns work well with longer faces, while longer sideburns can elongate shorter faces.
