1. PROBLEM: our group isn’t going to be successful preparing for our project if we keep fighting, or
if all members aren’t contributing equally
2. PERSPECTIVES: I completely understand the other member’s frustrations, but there might be a
valid reason why Sue couldn’t contribute
3. RESPONSIBILITY: As sue’s classmate I want to make sure everything is alright with her, and also
help her find some strategies to better tackle all the work she has to do
4. DECISION: I would ask my other 2 groupmates to stop confronting Sue, pointing out that the
more time we spend arguing, the less time we have to work. After the meeting is over, I would
go up to sue and offer to talk w/ her about why she couldn’t do her work. Is something going on
in her life that we don’t know about?
5. JUSTIFICATION: Letting Sue explain her situation fully will help us understand how we can best
support her efforts
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Respect for autonomy
Altruism – best interest of others > self
Honor and integrity – fair, truthful, straightforward
Respect privacy of others
Build and maintain trust
Remain nonjudgmental – don’t make hasty decisions and gather all facts before making a
decision
Who is directly involved? You, coach, team; Who is indirectly involved? College, college bball
community, coach’s family
ERRORS – open and honest approach
o People will appreciate your candor; hiding details = dishonest, wrong, disrespectful
o If you don’t disclose, loss of trust will occur
RESOURCE ALLOCATION: avoid using biased criteria to judge “ie: wasted”
o Thoughtful discussion so team can voice frustration and think through a plan that will be
best for everyone
o Unjust to waive criteria on basis of social position (Ie: VIP)
▪ If someone powerful has to wait or see how things are for “common folk” they
may be able to enact change that’s better for everyone down the line
FUTILITY: make goals clear, find some common ground, draw on other resources if necessary
(friends, family, clergy, social workers, therapists, etc)
o Used inaccurately to describe situations that appear undesirable
CROSS CULTURAL ISSUES/BELIEFS: important to respect the beliefs and values of those around
you – failure to do so can undermine the other person’s ability to trust you
At this point, I need to remain objective, non judgmental, and not jump to any conclusions based on my
primary observations. I do not want to assume that ___ is being irresponsible and unprofessional by
____. It could turn out that ____. But it could also turn out that __ and for that reason I want to speak
with the person in a private setting to gather more information as I’m concerned about ___. I won’t
confront the person in an accusatory or rude manner.
Confronting superior – Pick your battles – don’t corre