1. Draw a line down the middle of a journal page. On the left side of the line, copy the
ten Victim statements into the words of a creator.
2. On the right side of the line, translate the Victim statements into the words of a
Creator.
Victim Language
1. If they’d do something about the
parking on campus, I wouldn't be
so late so often.
Creator Language
1. I need to wake up earlier, so that I
can get good parking on campus,
and therefore be on time to my
classes.
2. I’m failing my online class
because the site is impossible to
navigate.
2. Because the site of my online class is
difficult to navigate, I will set aside some
time to watch some Youtube tutorials
about how to navigate my online class.
Also, I can ask some students who have
already taken the class for any advice or
tips that helped them.
3. I’m too shy to ask questions even
when I’m confused.
3. Although I’m shy, I will still ask
questions when I’m confused whether it is
a fellow classmate or the professor
themself.
4. She’s a lousy instructor. That’s
why I failed the test.
4. I failed the test because I was not fully
prepared, so next time I will take better
notes and will join a study group.
5. I hate group projects because
people are lazy and I always end
up doing most of the work.
5. Group projects are not my favorite, but
if I motivate my teammates and offer my
assistance to others we can all contribute
equally.
6. I wish I could write better but I
can’t.
6. Because I want to write better, I will
look up exercise and activities I can do to
improve my overall skills in writing.
7. My friends got me so angry that I
can’t even study for the exam.
7. Although my friends have gotten me
angry I will take some time to calm down,
and I will still study for the exam.
8. I’ll try to do my best this semester.
8. I will do my best this semester and I
will achieve all my goals.
9. The financial form is too
complicated to fill out.
9. The financial form was complicated to
fill out, so I will read over the directions
carefully and if that does not help, then I
will ask someone for help.
10. I work nights so I didn't have time
to do the assignments.
10. I will create my work schedule while
taking into account days that assignments
are due. That way on my nights off, I can
work on lessons that were assigned.
3. Write what you have learned or relearned about how you use your language: Is it
your habit to speak as a Victim or as a Creator? So you find yourself more inclined
to blame yourself, blame others, or seek solutions?
While reading about and practicing the use of Creator language, I realized it is not
as hard as I thought it would be. I was surprised how fast I could come up with solutions
to certain issues while adapting the Creator Mindset. I personally think it takes more time
and effort to use a Victim Mindset. It takes up alot of brain power to come up with a list
of excuses and people to blame for your shortcomings. When I was younger I used to
have a Victim Mindset, and I found that I would blame myself for a lot of my problems. I
would constantly entertain negative self talk. I would tell myself that I was stupid,
irresponsible, forgetful, lazy, and more. But, because I was stuck in a Victim Mindset
nothing ever changed. As I've grown older, I have realized that I need to cast down those
thoughts as soon as they come. Now and then I do succumb to a Victim Mindset, but
through this last lesson I know that I don’t have to. I think this is why it is so important to
surround yourself with like minded people. If everyone around you is busy being a
victim, it’s going to be hard for you to rise up and be a Creator , because everyone will be
trying to pull you down. While doing this Creator/ Victim Mindset Activity, I personally
felt so refreshed. The more I changed the sentences from the Victim Mindset to the
Creator Mindset, the easier it became and the happier I felt. Since this activity was such a
success, I have decided I want to implement it into my daily life. Everytime I feel like
complaining, blaming myself, or blaming others, I am going to sit down and make a
similar chart. Then, I am going to write down all my complaints and worries and change
them into the thoughts and solutions of a Creator.