PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY THEOLOGY II | THY 2 UNIT I: LESSON 1 | BASIC REALITIES AND FUNDAMENTAL DIMENSION OF MARRIAGE 1. Marriage • • Commonly referred to as “Settling Down” (paglalagay sa tahimik) Both secular and sacred Institution/reality -imbued with both HUMAN and DIVINE element Family Code of the Philippines Marriage is… • • • • • A special contract A permanent union between a man and a woman Entered into in accordance with the law. For the establishment of conjugal and family life It is the foundation of family life and an inviolable social institution whose nature, consequences and incidents are governed by law and not subject to stipulation, except that marriage settlements may fix the property relations during the marriage within the limits provided by this Code. 1983 Code of Canon Law Marriage is… • • • • A covenant Between a man and a woman Establish between themselves a partnership of their whole life, and which by its very nature is ordered to the well-being of the spouses and to the procreation and upbringing of children. Basic realities and fundamental dimensions of marriage CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS 2. Marriage is a divine reality. • God himself is the author of marriage (CCC no. 1603) • God created man out of love and also calls him to love. • Therefore, a man and a woman’s mutual love, mirrors the love of God for man. Marriage is a human reality. A. Officium naturae or Duty of nature • The task of procreation for the propagation of species B. Marriage as a state and as an event • The task of procreation for the propagation of species • Marriage as an event is a lifelong process… • “Natural Human Institution” C. Marriage is personal • Involves a DEEPLY personal affair between two persons in love. • The need to feel loved • The need to be needed • The need to be special D. Marriage is social • A “social institution” that exists interdependently with community/state • Heightens the sense of responsibility • As a social institution… needs the support of the community and the civil society • Education • Economics • Property • Medical attention • Public decency • Safety E. Marriage as a complex reality • A sacred, public, social, legal and religious affair… • not only related to white gowns, rings, flowers, sponsors and receptions but also and mainly to love, children, a home, fidelity, heroism and …faith. • A valid marriage contract cannot exist between baptized persons P a g e 1 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 • without its being by the fact a SACRAMENT (can. 1055) Only in FAITH can one fully understand and live the meaning of Christian marriage as a vocation, with mutual fidelity, responsible parenthood and human maturity as its indispensable ingredients. COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY which is sometimes essential in finding opportunities in life. Life Event • • • • • Any demarcated change in demographic, educational, employment, health or other individual circumstance locatable to a particular point in time. Rite of Passage Strong family influence Feast Common Values Function of Rituals • • • Limit situations Symbolic Social purpose ➢ Since the Creator of all things has established the conjugal partnership as the beginning and basis of human society, the family is the first and vital cell of society. ➢ The man and the woman are given the responsibility to take care of their children, because the future of the Church and the society depends on them. And whatever the parents inculcate in their children can be crucial in their psychological, emotional and moral development. ➢ The family is the pillar of the society. It is the foundation of all social institutions and interactions. Social progress also depends largely on how strong the families are because good values such as kindness, generosity, honesty and the like are first practiced and witnessed in the family. Having people practice these virtues will definitely yield good results especially in building a tolerant, fair, and just society. ➢ It is for this reason that marriage is social in essence, truly a social institution. It is a major unit in which socialization first happens and a fertile ground for individuals to be acquainted with fundamental relational skills. Family provides its members with social identity, CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS P a g e 2 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY THEOLOGY II | THY 2 UNIT I: LESSON 2 | POSITIVE CONTRIBUTIONS OF MARRIAGE & FUNCTIONS OF THE FAMILY Three important public purposes served by Marriage 1. 2. 3. Societies seek to ORGANIZE THE BEARING AND REARING OF CHILDREN through marriage as an institution. Ensures that children have the love and support of their father and mother. Marriage PROVIDES DIRECTION, ORDER, AND STABILITY TO ADULT SEXUAL UNIONS and to their economic, social, and biological consequences. Marriage CIVILIZES MEN AND WOMEN, furnishing them with a SENSE OF PURPOSE, NORMS, AND SOCIAL STATUS that orient their lives away from vice and toward virtue. Intrinsic goods of marriage • • • • Natural mutual self-giving - Fidelity, acceptance: permanence/exclusivity Elevates, orders, constrains natural desires - Fidelity and care Perfects sexual nature - Procreative and unitive meaning of sexual drive (Unique biological unity) Natural defense against commodification and trivialization of human relationships (till death....) ➢ The Church teaches that marriage "helps to overcome self-absorption, egoism, pursuit of one's own pleasure, and to open oneself to the other, to mutual aid and to self-giving“ ( Catechism of the Catholic Church #1609). Functions of the Family 1. Regulation of sexuality • Sexual intercourse or the conjugal act in theological term is realized in a truly human way only if it is an essential part of the love by which man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death. • “Husbands and wives, while equal in their dignity as persons, are complementary in their sexuality. It is this complementarity that enables them to “give” themselves to one another and to “receive” one another CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS • • • and to carry out responsibilities as spouses and parents.” - St. John Paul II First, they have to freely choose to “give” themselves to one another and to ‘receive” one another. Second, is to freely choose to engage in the conjugal act. Third, is to freely choose to cooperate with God and be open to procreation, welcoming life with open arms, raise the child and educate him/her in the love and service of God and neighbor. 2. Responsible procreation • According to Familiaris Consortio (No. 14) While procreation is not the only purpose of marriage, it is one of the benefits that can result from marriage. • In begetting life, husband and wife fulfill one of the highest dimensions of the Christian calling, which is to become God‘s co-worker and co-creator. • Marriage is a life-long covenantal relationship between a man and a woman, characterized by human love, and open to procreation (Can. 1055; Eph. 5:1- 3). • Family is the core where Christian faith must grow and blossom and where parents exercise their proper responsibility in caring for both the spiritual and physical needs of their children. • Gaudium et Spes & Humanae Vitae a. First, while God commanded man and woman to beget children and fill the earth (Gen. 1:28), God has also made parents responsible for the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of their children (1 Timothy 3:5). b. Second, parents are better able to meet this responsibility when the P a g e 3 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 • • • • • COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY number of children in a family is reasonable and manageable. c. Third, parents should not reproduce carelessly— having many children yet failing to give those children the care they deserve. A. The properties and purposes of Christian marriage. B. The importance of responsible parenthood. C. The Church‘s guidance on family planning. D. The linkages between population growth, family planning, and development. E. Above all, Abstinence, Faithfulness, Love, Commitment, and Trust. 3. Socialization • According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, the family is the original cell of social life. It is the natural society in which husband and wife are called to give themselves in love and in the gift of life. • The family is the community in which, from childhood, one can learn moral values, begin to honor God, and make good use of freedom. Family life is an initiation into life in society. (CCC 2207) 4. Economic cooperation • Families are important for goods and services. Most productions are geared toward families, especially for their basic needs – food, clothing and shelter. • According to Pope Francis in ―”The Joy of the Gospel” (220) responsible citizenship is a virtue, and that participation in political life is a moral obligation CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS P a g e 4 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY THEOLOGY II | THY 2 UNIT I: LESSON 3 | RELATIONAL, PROCREATIONAL & SOCIAL GOODS OF MARRIAGE Extrinsic goods of Marriage 1. 2. 3. Relational goods Procreational goods Social/Institutional goods Benefits of a Healthy Marriage Researchers have found many benefits for men who are in healthy marriages, compared to unhealthy marriages, including the following statistics: • • • • • • • • • • • • Extrinsic goods of Marriage (Utilitarian goods) I. Relational Good A. Personal union, intended for the whole of life, of husband and wife. ( good of spouse ) • Mutual dependence and Obligation : STRENGTHENED by PERMANENCE • Biological, Psychological, Emotional, Social and Sexual complementarity of the male and female sexes. ( shared maturity) B. Ordinarily, both men and women who marry are better off as a result. • An opposition to a self-centered society popular culture : “ME,” `If it feels good, do it!' DO WHAT PLEASES THEM AT THE MOMENT WITHOUT A THOUGHT TO THE BROADER LONG-TERM CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS • Marriahe has significant benefits for the well-being of adult men and woman who enter into it. 1. emotional: security, shared responsibility, protection, stability, support 2. psychological: discipline, commitment, long- term outlook, fidelity, lowers testosterone levels ( moral too ) 3. social: paternity, support 4. economic: financially, responsible expense (savings) 5. physical: health is shared responsibility, women less victimized. 6. moral: avoidance of risky behaviors, more civilized, industry, CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS Longer lives Physically healthier Wealthier Increase in the stability of employment Higher wages Emotionally healthier Decrease risk of drug and alcohol abuse Have better relationships with their children More satisfying sexual relationship Less likely to commit violent crimes Less likely to contract STD's Less likely to attempt or commit suicide ➢ Vatican Council II affirms that the intimate partnership of married life and love is not only ordered towards the goods of offspring and society, but also for the good of the spouses. (Gaudium et Spes #48) ➢ John Paul II speaks of the capacity for marriage to cure the negative effects of sin with the help of God's grace in the sacraments, and through prayer and forgiveness in the family. (Letter to Families #14) II. Procreational Good • • • Satisfies children’s need to know their biological origins : FATHER and MOTHER - A framework of love for nurturance, education and development - Seedbed of sociability and vistue Protects and nurtures mental , psychological,sexual, moral, emotional and social health of children Sexuality differences are crucial in Parenting - FEMALE HORMONE : Peptide Oxytocin - MALE HORMONE : Testosterone ➢ The Church recognizes the goodness of unity and difference in existence. Just as the persons of the Trinity are different, yet have all that the other has, so also do men and women in marriage become fully one, but with different resources and ways of relating. P a g e 5 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY (John Paul II, Letter to Families #8 & Mulieris Dignitatem #10) without committed mothers and fathers. A functioning marriage culture serves to protect political liberty and foster limited government intrusion. Religion plays a vital role in creating and sustaining marriage as a social institution. (limits state intrusion) ➢ Speaking about the equal dignity of men and women, the U.S. Bishops address gender difference. They talk about particular physical and psychological gender traits that result in varying skills and perspectives. As noted above, men and women mutually benefit from marriage, but they receive these benefits in different ways. (USCCB, Follow the Way of Love, 1993, p.19) III. Social or institutional good A. Marriage is a wealth-creating institution, increasing human and social capital. 1. network of relationships: a key ingredient of the “social capital” (generosity, self-sacrifice, trust, selfdiscipline) - crucial in every domain of social life. 2. economy and state depend upon families to produce the next generation of productive workers and taxpayers. 3. ordered and regulated sexual relationships benefits human society. B. Marriage sustains civil society and promotes the common good. 1. renewal of human capital: national economy needs human capital at replacement level. 2. young stable patterns of work and selfreliance, directed by parents, provides basis for developing useful skills/gaining a profession. 3. Marriage/ family assist in caring for the sick and elderly and provide unremunerated care for their loved ones, paying taxes, and produce children forming future generations of tax-paying workers. 4. Marital breakdown reduces the collective welfare of our children, strains our justice system, weakens civil society: Public expenditures on criminal justice, police, courts, and prisons. Crime is driven in part by the breakdown of marriage. 5. When marriage weakens, the equality gap widens, as children suffer from the disadvantages of growing up in homes CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS 6. 7. Marriage benefits on children (statistics) • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • More likely to attend college More likely to succeed academically Physically healthier Emotionally healthier Less likely to succumb to drugs or alcohol abuse Less likely to commit delinquent behaviors Less likely to be a victim of physical or sexual abuse Be open and honest with the couples you help Seek wisdom and understanding from God Have a better relationship with their mothers and fathers Decreases their chances of divorcing when they get married Less likely to become pregnant as a teenager, or impregnate someone Less likely to be sexually active as teenagers Less likely to contract STD's Less likely to be raised in poverty P a g e 6 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY THEOLOGY II | THY 2 LESSON 3 | POSITIVE CONTRIBUTIONS OF FAMILY TO SOCIETY & FAMILY AS A DOMESTIC CHURCH Positive contribution of family to society • • • The family, as the bedrock of society, must be a model of the loving relationship between children and their parents. This role of being the paragon good relationship must edify the society at large. Marital fidelity is indispensable in cultivating respect. It is a commitment of one‘s whole life to the spouse. According to Familiaris Consortio: (FC 45) ―Both the state and society must defend the family and respect its identity and its autonomy as a way of fulfilling the requirements of Family as a Domestic Church • • • • The family is a place of encounter with Christ within the community especially when members are actively participating in the mission of Christ entrusted to the Church. It is called the domestic church because it lives out the familial and communal nature of the church as the family of God. Families are expected to be effective bearers of the Gospel in their community. They should be witnesses as domestic churches. The Christian family participates in the threefold mission of Jesus Christ, the prophetic, priestly and kingly mission. CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS P a g e 7 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY THEOLOGY II | THY 2 UNIT II: LESSON 1 | BIBLICAL UNDERSTANDING OF MARRIAGE IN THE OLD TESTAMENT Myth of Baal taken. That is why man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife and the two of them become one body. –Gen. 2:18; 20-25 • The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra • • celebrate not condemn sex and religion are one Graeco Roman World • • Hermes – god of fertility orgy – sacred ritual • Inordinate craving for carnal pleasure The aloneness‘ of man necessitated the creation of the woman… This creation of man and woman provides the source of equality for both, forming an indivisible union with each other. • When God removed a rib from Adam, He did more than just create another human being, He created a woman with the same structure of genes, blood type, DNA and physical characteristics. He created kinfolk. God‘s existence is eternal kinship. • God‘s image and likeness would be an earthly kinship; man‘s kinship would be dependent on that kinship... Man was created family. Trinity and Family are divinely the same. God is a family (Father, Son and Holy Spirit). Man is a family (father, mother, child) • This recognition of kinship and gift of self between man and woman is encapsulated by the exclamation of man upon meeting woman: ―This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh! With the declaration that they are forever bound, man forms a covenant with woman which results in ―man leaving his father and mother to be with the woman and they become one flesh. • Marriage is rooted in the Creation by Yahweh, the union of man and woman was protected by the laws that governed the early Israelite society and is intertwined with its history. Marriage and family, in ancient Jewish practice, have been one of Lust Biblical Perspective of Marriage: Marriage in Creation • The gift of marriage, both as social institution and as a sacrament, traces its origins in the Book of Genesis ―as willed by God in the very act of creation. This enacts God‘s plan of including marriage in the very center of the ― Creation, Fall and Redemption of man. • The Lord God said: It is not good for man to be alone. I will make him a suitable partner… The man gave names to all the cattle, all the birds of the air, and all the wild animals; but none proved to be the suitable partner for man. So the Lord God cast a deep sleep on the man and while was asleep, He took out one of man‘s ribs and closed up its place with flesh. • The Lord God then built up into a woman the rib He had taken from the man. When He brought her to the man, the man said: This one, at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one shall be called woman for out her man this one has been CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS It is worth noting that of all the things in creation where God has declared good, the being alone of man was the sole exemption from the regard of God. This ―solitude of man implies two meanings: first, is man‘s very nature [male and female] while the second is derived from the male-female relationship. P a g e 8 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY the defining institutions of Judaism for almost a thousand years • • Since the Israelites give high regard to kinship, the choosing of a wife by either the parents or the groom himself usually is influenced by relationships with family and the welfare of the tribe.. 2. 3. • • • The Church reaffirms this kinship of man and woman and teaches that though inherently different, they were made so by God and it is in this difference that they complement each other. • This complementarity, this kinship, is solidified in the “matrimonial covenant” that the man and woman establish between themselves wherein the covenant made and upheld by them encompasses the entirety of their relationship as husband and wife which also includes their agreement in adhering to the natural order of marriage. In choosing an ideal woman, the book of Proverbs presents an image of an ideal woman.. The stages of the Jewish marriage in the Old Testament consisted of: 1. father supersedes those of the mother in regards to the welfare of the family, the father and mother are still mentioned together and given the same manner of respect by the children a contract or betrothal stage - in which the terms of responsibility and payment were determined; the stage consists of the wedding dowry or engagement gift which was usually offered by the bride‘s father. the consummation stage - also known as the chuppah stage - wherein the bride and groom would consummate their union in the chuppah, or bridal chamber; and lastly, the seven blessings and the marriage supper - which includes seven days of feasting as a celebration of the marriage while the seven blessings were recited over the couple With regard to the authority between the husband and wife relationship, many would think that since the Israelite society followed a patriarchal framework, it would follow that the husband is the master or owner of the family and of his wife‘s person as well. This belief, framed under the title of the husband: ―ba‟al” focuses more on the procreative responsibilities of the wife in the marriage. In ancient Jewish marriage, once the wife becomes a mother, the role of motherhood becomes a patent of nobility for the woman where she acquires a place in the family as well as a share in the authority of the husband over the children. And even though the authority of the CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS Marriage in the Old Testament mirrors the marriage of Israel with Yahweh. • This marriage between Yahweh and Israel presents God as the compassionate and patient husband who loves his wife even in times of great conflict and aggravation. He maintains His steadfastness in His covenant with His people despite their many flaws and abuses • With the unfaithfulness of Israel in contrast to the steadfast love of Yahweh, the prophet Jeremiah recognizes this adultery of Israel and calls for a journey of penitence, reconciliation and renewal of the broken bond between them and God. • Jeremiah also employed God‘s falling in love with His people for he was loyal in His love to His people. The people went after other lovers and made sacrifices to other gods. Jeremiah, nevertheless, felt that love was the very foundation stone for the idea of Covenant. God alone was Divine, Husband and Protector, and Israel was exclusively his. P a g e 9 | 10 PRELIMINARY EXAMINATION REVIEWER | THY 2 COLLEGE OF SCIENCE | MEDICAL BIOLOGY THEOLOGY II | THY 2 UNIT II: LESSON 2 | BIBLICAL UNDERSTANDING OF MARRIAGE IN THE NEW TESTAMENT Marriage in the Gospels • Like the Old Testament wherein marriage is typically used to illustrate the relationship of Yahweh to His people, so does the New Testament illustrate the union of Christ and the Church, finally elevating marriage to its eternal state while still fully defending its original intent. • It is often taught that Jesus is the fulfilment of the Old Covenant and if the covenant in the Old Testament includes marriage and mirrors the marriage of Yahweh with His chosen people, then marriage finds fulfilment in Jesus. In Christ, God brings back creation to its original unimpeded state. Christ in turn, fulfils marriage and transforms it in the intended image and plan of God • • John the Baptist compared his role to that of the best man whose role is to assist the bridegroom [Jesus] in his ministry. John the Baptist serves as the link of the Old Testament prophetic era to the New Testament‘s arrival of the Messiah. Therefore, ―in light of the OT where Israel is depicted as the bride of Yahweh,‘ the Baptist is suggesting that Jesus is Israel‘s awaited king and Messiah. John the Baptist‘s role comes into focus as the ―bridegroom‘s friend who assists him in the completion of the wedding The very first miracle that was performed by Jesus in John 2:1-11 where he changed water into wine at the wedding in Cana presents a depiction of God marrying humanity. The miracle that took place in the wedding is a ―crucial event in the story of the restoration of Israel because it is a dramatization of God uniting with humanity. • Jesus used the metaphor of marriage in the parable of the bridesmaids wherein the wise bridesmaids bring extra oil for their lamps to help them wait for the coming of the bridegroom. In another instance, Jesus insinuates the He is the bridegroom • The apostle Paul portrays marriage in the same light as the Gospels where he presents CHRISTIAN VISION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY | FPRELIMS Jesus as the bridegroom and humanity the bride. He teaches that like Christ, husbands have to share the same love and affection to their wives: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Submission and Leadership 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 For the married I have something to say, and this is not from me but from the Lord: a wife must not leave her husband or if she does she must either remain unmarried or else make it with her husband nor must husband send his wife away. 1 Corinthians 7: 1-2, 5 Yes, it is not good for man to touch a woman; but since sex is always a danger, let each man have his own wife and each woman her husband….do not refuse each other except by mutual consent, and then only for an agreed time, to leave yourselves free for prayer, then come together again in case Satan should take advantage of your weakness to tempt you. Marital Debt- Privilege, Right, Duty 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not own her own body but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule his own body but the wife does. Ephesians 5:21-33 Wives should regard their husbands as they regard the Lord, since as Christ is the head of the Church and saves the whole body, so is a husband the head of his wife. And as the Church submits to Christ, so should wives to their husbands, in everything. Husbands should love their wives just as Christ loved the Church and sacrificed himself for her to make her holy… P a g e 10 | 10