Name _____________________________________________________________Class Hr.____________
Chapter 7 Notes
1.It is impossible to not _____________________________________.
2.Verbal communication expresses the ________________________ of the message, were as nonverbal
communication reflects more of the __________________________ part of the message.
3. For a message to be most effective, both verbal and nonverbal components should be in
_________________________________________.
4. What did Gottman (1994) find regarding nonverbal communication and contempt?
5. Compared with men’s nonverbal communication women do what?
6. _____________ send clearer, less neutral messages, and usually set the emotional tone of an
argument. ___________ tend to use emotional appeals more than ______________.
7. _______________________- the revelation of our own deeply personal information-before or soon
after marriage is related to relationship ____________________ later. It builds the bond of trust.
8. What is the honeymoon effect?
9. Couples that communicate poorly before marriage are more likely to what?
10. Too much ______________________________ can be damaging to a relationship.
11. What is the effect of cohabitation on marriage?
12. Satisfied couples are willing to accept ________________ but engage in it in ______________ ways.
13. Explain demand-withdraw communication.
14. The person making the demand is in a potentially vulnerable less powerful position than the person
withdrawing. ______________ tend to _______________ and ________________ tend to withdraw.
15. What is power?
16. How do women perceive their power?
17. What is the Relative love and need theory?
18. What is the principle of least interest?
19. What is the resource theory of power?
20. What does it fail to explain?
21. It is common and normal for couples to have disagreements or conflicts. It is not conflict itself that is
dangerous to intimate relationships, it is what?
22. What is self-silencing?
23. What are basic conflicts?
24. What are non-basic conflicts?
25. What type of marriage is most likely to experience conflict?
26. T or F
Couples that have cohabitated prior to marriage are less likely to divorce after marriage
than couples that did not cohabitate.
27. Anger can be handled by _____________ or _____________ or can escalate into violence.
28. Happily married couples summarize, paraphrase, validate, and clarify, while distressed couples use
confrontation, defensiveness and complaining. An example of clarifying is:
An example of paraphrasing:
An example of confrontation:
An example of defensiveness:
29. The learning theory suggests that what we observe in others determines what we think marriage
should be. 2 common sources of conflict in marriage are _________________ and household duties.
30. Money is a source of power in relationships. Couples may fight over money because of the power of
money, how it is allocated in the family, and money matters tend to be ___________________.
31. Dating relationships are a ________________ indicator of how money will be addressed in marriage.
Why?
32. T or F
Ending a relationship ends conflict.
33. What are the problems with conflict and children?
34. There are a number of ways to end conflict and resolve problems such as giving in or imposing your
will through power, coercion, manipulation or avoidance. However, there are more positive ways to
resolve conflict such as supporting your partner, assertion, reason or negotiation. Also, agreeing as a gift
or bargaining.
Bargaining is the process of making ___________________ in order to get what is best for the
_________________________.
35. What is the benefit of forgiveness?