Talking to Dead People: My Confession
Matthew Paul Turner
No. I don’t talk to dead people.
And I don’t want to talk to dead people.
However, on Saturday afternoon, I did pay money to sit in the cheap seats and watch somebody else
“talk to dead people.” At least, that’s what Theresa Caputo believes, that crossed over spirits come to
her in hopes of reaching the loved ones they left behind on earth.
That’s my confession: On Saturday, I went see the Long Island Medium perform at Nashville’s
Schermerhorn Symphony Center. I know what you’re thinking. You did what? Why in the world would
a Christian be interested in seeing a medium? And you just got scammed.
And trust me, I thought all of those things, too.
In fact, when I first watched Theresa Caputo’s show–The Long Island Medium–on TLC, I honestly
expected to laugh or roll my eyes or I anticipated being utterly convinced that this New York middleaged-stuck-in-the-1980s woman was a complete fake. Others (here and here) have certainly come to
that conclusion.
I’d seen mediums “perform” on TV before–Sylvia Browne, James Van Praagh, and John Edward. And
honestly, I’ve never been convinced. Their tactics–often called “cold readings”–seem staged and/or
gimmicky. And the “whoever” they’re connecting to on the other side often seems uninformed or
vague.
However, after watching two or three episodes of Long Island Medium and watching Theresa contact
“Spirit”—whoever “Spirit” is—and then inform people of intricate details about their lives and the lives
of their dead loved ones, I was intrigued. In fact, on a couple of occasions I even teared up.
And while Theresa’s “connections” seem far more detailed than any medium I’ve seen on TV, it could
just be television, right? The “magic” could be found in the editing or the producing or the research
performed ahead of time. Though Theresa swears that all she knows about an individual when she
enters a session is the person’s first name, she could be lying. I mean, she could be Googling these
people for months ahead of time (she has a three-year waiting list) and have a list of things that Spirit
could say to them that would “prove” she’s in contact with someone or something from the other side.
And too, there are indeed practices that famous mediums engage in when put in front of a large
crowd, a technique that, if mastered, can create opportunities for the medium to convince a man or
woman that he/she is making “personal connections” with their dead loved one on the other side. But
I wanted to see Theresa Caputo’s “gift” for myself. And that’s why I went. Not because I’m convinced
she’s real. Or that she’s fake. But because I simply wanted to witness her “gift” in person without the
magic of television editing.
Here’s a little bit about what happened.
Eighteen hundred people were packed inside the auditorium, and they exploded into a thunderous
applause when the flamboyant Theresa walked out on stage. After a short introduction–which
included a giveaway, an explanation of her gifts, a disclaimer to skeptics, and a weird misplaced
honoring of all veterans in the room–Theresa (donning 6-inch glitter heels) carefully made her way
down into the audience.
“Who lost the son?” she said.
Of course, 40 hands shot up. But Theresa said “Spirit” was very specific. “It’s in this section,” she
said. Soon, somebody in that section was standing up and Theresa was giving them messages from
“Spirit.” Honestly, the first two “readings” were unimpressive. Though her subjects seemed convinced,
they were also emotionally involved. In truth, she offered them no information that I couldn’t have
given them about their dead family members.
Then, Theresa walked up the aisle. “Who lost the father-figure to throat cancer?” she asked.
“Somebody in this section lost a father or grandfather to throat cancer.”
A woman, already in tears, raised her hand. “That’s my grandfather,” she said. The woman was there
with her son and her mom (the dead man’s wife). At first, Theresa offered them information that
anybody could have offered, very generic sentiments that any person mourning a loved one would
have loved to hear. Then, Theresa said to the son, who was 10 or 12ish. “You sometimes see your
grandfather, don’t you?”
Tears formed in his eyes. Nodding, he said, “Yes ma’am.”
“Do you play baseball?” asked Theresa.
“Yes ma’am.”
Theresa then told the kid and his mom that their grandfather watched his baseball games sometimes.
“Did you just get a new glove? One that you’re having a hard time breaking in?” The kid and his
momma, both crying, nodded yes. “And you have a new bat, too?” The kid nodded. And Theresa
said, “Is it green?”
The kids grinned, “we call it the big green monster!”
Theresa offered all three members of the family details that were very convincing. In fact, one of the
details was so personal that the wife of the dead husband (the most skeptic of the bunch) said, “Oh
my God, you are for real.”
After that, Theresa offered a couple more vague readings. But then she walked up to a couple and
said, “Sadly, you lost a daughter.”
The woman nodded. The man, seemingly skeptical and not really wanting to be there, just sat and
listened.
Theresa described the event that took the girl’s life and with every detail, the woman nodded.
Moments later, Theresa asked, “Sir, did you build a bench in memory of your daughter? Is it in the
backyard?”
Tears began falling down both sides of his cheeks. “Yes ma’am. But it’s in the front yard.”
“Was your daughter a fan of yellow flowers? Did she love dandelions?”
Both the mom and the dad burst audibly into tears. In complete disbelief, the mom rolled up the
sleeve of her sweater to reveal a dandelion tattoo in memory of her daughter. Even Theresa seemed
a little surprised by this, quipping, “You can’t make this shit up, people.” And then Theresa asked the
couple “Who’s Daisy?”
Again, crying, the mom said, “That’s her dog who passed away two months after she did.”
Theresa offered other very detailed information about their daughter and assured them that she was
safe and with God.
During the two-hour experience, Theresa probably performed 10 lengthy readings, four of which were
very detailed, and to a degree, convincing. Those four families left that event very moved by their
experience and seemingly convinced that they had been in touch with their dead loved ones.
Is Theresa Caputo’s gifts real? I don’t know. Sometimes she seemed connected to something
otherworldly. But whatever it was, it seemed far too inconsistent to be “God” or heck, even “Satan.”
There was certainly some sort of gimmick involved. But unless these people were planted ahead of
time (and their very real emotions suggested they weren’t) the gimmick would seemingly only get her
so far. And like I said, at least 4 of the readings were detailed and specific enough that there could
have been more to it than just trickery. But I don’t know.
But anytime Theresa tried to explain Spirit, her words seemed more like psycho babble than anything
remotely true. She’s a practicing Catholic and though she speaks about God and the “other side” like
no Catholic I know, she at times also takes about her faith with very real sincerity.
But she also sincerely believes that she talks to dead people.
And I’m still not sure what to think about that.
What do you think? Are mediums real?