Photos © Nubar Alexanian A national dialogue about personal values and civic ideals FACILITATOR’S MANUAL FOR HOUSES OF WORSHIP (Version 7.05) This I Believe Table of Contents Introduction…………………………………………………….…....…….3 Fact Sheet……………………………………………….…………..............5 House of Worship Facilitation Process…………………….………………6 Quotes from the This I Believe Series……...………………………….…..15 Quotes from the Original This I Believe Series……………………………16 Essay-Writing Tips……………………………………………....………...17 This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 2 NPR’s This I Believe House of Worship Facilitator’s Manual Introduction Through the initiative of the Cathedral Heritage Foundation, an inter-religious organization, a group of leaders from houses of worship in Louisville Kentucky gathered around a table to discuss ways to use This I Believe as a tool for dialogue in both intra- and interfaith settings. The group developed this Facilitator’s Manual to assist anyone interested in hosting a This I Believe Conversation within and/or among houses of worship. The manual offers several different approaches to choose from, depending upon one’s level of experience and comfort in facilitating groups, as well as the nature and makeup of the group itself. For example, some facilitators and participants might know each other well, while others will be meeting one another for the first time. Some facilitators may wish to follow a detailed, step-by-step process while others are content to work from a general onepage outline and fill in the details accordingly, based on the unique dynamics of the particular group they are working with. In response to this need for a variety of approaches to choose from, we have compiled the “best of the best” in dialogue processes, from a very general outline adopted from the Public Conversations Project to some detailed and tailored step-by-step processes that have been piloted by our core group and modified within a faith-based setting. This tailored House of Worship section is located on page 6 in packet. We do suggest that you include somewhere in your session a listening segment. You can listen to a number of essays in streaming audio on the project website by going to www.npr.org/thisibelieve. You will find that the very act of listening to these essays generates significant sharing and dialogue on its own, but you can facilitate the flow of the discussion by using some of the simple tools suggested in this manual. Some facilitators find that the process of discussing the essays, then relating them to and sharing one’s own beliefs is a sufficient goal in and of itself. Other groups choose to make submission of their own personal essays the ultimate goal for these groups. The important thing is to get people talking to one another about deeply held values in ways that are inclusive, respectful, and meaningful. Questions came up during the process of creating this manual that gave us pause, such as “What action results from sharing one’s core beliefs through essays?” and “Is there an expectation that these essays reflect the way we live out our beliefs?” It was suggested that the process of facilitating conversation around This I Believe essays might include discussion about ways we put our faith into practice. Participants commented on the empowering nature of the This I Believe dialogue process. As one member commented “There is a strong movement in modern suburban culture surrounding ‘meaning making.’ This I Believe is a way to demonstrate that those who don’t This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 3 identify strongly with a particular creed or theology also believe deeply in core values which bring meaning to their lives.” There were concerns as well. Would people feel free to express opinions and beliefs that may not be in complete agreement with established theological tenets? Can we differentiate between personal belief and church doctrine in the process? How should facilitators handle these questions? The group agreed that This I Believe essays are not intended to be a recitation of religious doctrine, but rather a description of how a few core beliefs play out in one’s life. Essays from the original and very successful 1950’s series also included descriptions of how the essayist came to hold those views and the reasons why they were so important to them at that time. Finally, the group talked about the likelihood that beliefs expressed in the essays might not be very diverse. However, the factor that makes each essay unique is the individual’s view of how he or she came to hold those beliefs and how they play out in his or her life. One member used the analogy of looking at the same landscape from different vantage points— each view has a slightly different perspective. Ultimately, we hope that understanding the subtle differences in perspective among those sharing the same faith is a stepping-stone towards exploring the wider differences among those of different religious or spiritual origins. This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 4 This I Believe Fact Sheet What It Is: This I Believe is a national media project that invites Americans from all walks of life to share brief essays describing the core values that guide their lives. National Public Radio is broadcasting these three-minute essays each Monday on their newsmagazines Morning Edition and All Things Considered. The essays also will be featured in a variety of other venues including print media, the Internet and community gatherings. The project is based on a popular 1950s radio series of the same name hosted by Edward R. Murrow. How It Works: Each week, NPR broadcasts a new This I Believe essay read by its author. At the conclusion of each segment, host and curator Jay Allison asks listeners to submit their own essays for inclusion in our on-line archives and possible future broadcast on NPR. The best essays received from listeners combined with essays commissioned from prominent Americans will air on Morning Edition and All Things Considered, and appear on NPR’s website at npr.org. That site includes text and audio features from the new series as well as striking portraits of the essayists made by noted photographer Nubar Alexanian. The website also offers visitors a chance to explore the 1950s essays with an extensive archive of text, audio and photographs from the original series. Goal: The goal of This I Believe is not to persuade Americans to agree on the same beliefs; the goal is to encourage Americans to begin the much more difficult task of developing respect for and reaching a deeper understanding of beliefs different from their own. Producers: Dan Gediman and Jay Allison, award-winning producers of documentaries and feature stories for public radio. Funders: The Farmers Insurance Group, the Corporation for Public Broadcasting, the Righteous Persons Foundation. Debut: April 2005 Contact: community@thisibelieve.org Website: www.npr.org/thisibelieve This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 5 NPR’s This I Believe House of Worship Process Revised 6/30/05 OVERVIEW Step 1—Welcome & Opening Prayer 5 minutes Step 2— Ice Breaker Activity: Talking About What’s Important 15 minutes Step 3—Description of This I Believe 10 minutes Step 4— Review Principles of Conversation 5 minutes Step 5—Writing About My Beliefs 15 minutes --session can be split here as participants take more time for writing portion--Step 6—Sharing My Beliefs With Others 25 minutes Step 7—Talking Together About Our Beliefs 15 minutes Step 8—Reflecting On the Process 10 minutes Step 9—Next Steps as a Group 10 minutes Step 10—Celebrating Our Beliefs 10 minutes Total Time: This I Believe HOW Manual 2 Hours www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 6 DESCRIPTION OF GROUP PROCESS Suggested timeframe: 2.0 hours (can be split into two sessions) Items needed Comfortable chairs in a circle Refreshments Materials for writing or drawing Computer with Internet access to listen to streaming audio of the essays Signs for Icebreaker Activity (see Step 2) Step 1—Welcome & Opening Prayer (5 minutes) Opening prayer to acknowledge sacred space Individuals take a moment to introduce themselves around the circle EXAMPLE: Say something like: “Let’s start by going around and saying your name and …” (Facilitator chooses one or two of the following) • something that led you to accept the invitation to join this dialogue. -or• something that you hope to experience or learn while you are here. -or• something that could happen in this conversation that would lead you to feel glad that you decided to participate. “Please say just a few sentences - not more than a minute or so. I’ll start, then we’ll go around.” (As the first speaker, you can model brevity with a two-sentence response.) Courtesy of the Public Conversations Project (www.publicconversations.org) Step 2— Ice Breaker Activity: Talking About What’s Important (15 minutes) (The following icebreaker activity is inspired by This I Believe curriculum used in the Jefferson County, Kentucky, Public Schools.) • • • • Ask participants to pair up, or hang signs around the room that say “Strongly Agree,” “Agree,” “Disagree,” and “Strongly Disagree.” Distribute or read out loud statements in the exercise titled “What Do You Think?” (found on page 14 of this document) Explain that the statements represent a few of the axioms that some people believe are true in their lives. If paired, ask participants to select one that they consider to be true and one that they do not, and talk about their choices with their partner. Participants can add statements to the list. Or, read them out loud and have participants stand beneath a sign for each. At the end of the exercise, ask participants to share the statements they would add to the list. Or have them discuss their observations based on the group activity with the signs. This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 7 Step 3— This I Believe Background (10 minutes) • Provide background information on This I Believe (See document entitled Introduction to NPR’s This I Believe on p. 13 and This I Believe Fact Sheet on p. 5) • Play a selection of original and/or current essays from the project website, www.npr.org/thisibelieve • Talk about the anticipated impact of This I Believe on multiple levels: o Individuals—As essayists from 50 years ago acknowledged, writing a This I Believe essay can be a powerful personal experience. Participants often tell of acquiring new personal insights and motivation to stand up for what they believe to be right and true. o House of Worship—Bringing people together within their worship community to share their This I Believe essays can have the effect of developing deeper understanding or new insights among participants, and as a result building stronger connections between parishioners. o Communities—Conflicts about beliefs threaten to divide our communities. This was as true 50 years ago as it is today. Engaging others in respectful, insightful discussions about basic beliefs helps communities reach common ground, can bring about deeper trust, and ultimately create stronger communities. Step 4— Review Principles of Conversation (5 minutes) Review the "Principles for Conversation" below and seek confirmation or revision: • Acknowledge one another as equals • Try to stay curious about each other • Slow down so we have time to think and reflect • Expect it to be messy at times Reprinted with permission of the publisher. From “Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope for the Future,” copyright© 2002 by Wheatley, M., Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc., San Francisco, CA. All rights reserved. (http://www.bkconnection.com) ADDITIONAL SUGGESTIONS: Regarding the spirit of our speaking and listening, 1. We will speak for ourselves and from our own experience. 2. We will not criticize the views of other participants or attempt to persuade them. 3. We will listen with resilience, “hanging in” when what is said is hard to hear. Regarding the form of our speaking and listening, 1. We will participate within the time frames suggested by the facilitator. 2. We will not interrupt except to indicate that we cannot hear a speaker. This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 8 3. We will “pass” if we do not wish to speak. If suggestions are made and agreed to by all, write them on any posted list. “So is each of you prepared to follow these guidelines as best you can, and allow me to remind you if you forget?” Look for verbal and non-verbal responses. “OK, these will serve as our agreements.” “If at any point you feel that these agreements are not serving our purposes adequately, speak up and we’ll see if it makes sense to revise them.” Courtesy of Public Conversations Project (www.publicconversations.org) Step 5—Writing About My Beliefs (15 minutes) Read the Essay-Writing Tips and Invitation by Edward R. Murrow for a clear description of what a This I Believe essay is all about. For those who do not wish to submit an essay, allow them to craft a "story" about their beliefs. The story can be in many forms, such as: A picture A list of bullet points A series of statements A description of a moment that crystallized beliefs A description of a time when they have felt their beliefs were tested The intent is to allow the person to articulate and subsequently share with others three to four foundations of belief that he/she feels is operating in his/her life, and/or to begin the process of actually writing a TIB essay. SAMPLE PROMPT QUESTIONS 1. “As you strive to be a faithful person, who/what do you turn to for guidance and inspiration?” -or2. “During the course of your life history were there particularly formative or transformative times that relate to your choosing those sources of guidance and inspiration?” -or3. The essayists spoke about ways that their faith is expressed in action, in their professions, and in their personal lives. In what ways, large or small, is your faith or value system expressed in your life? Courtesy of Public Conversations Project (www.publicconversations.org) This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 9 ------Here the session may end and participants given the opportunity to work on their written essays and reconvene at a later date------- Step 6—Sharing My Beliefs With Others (25 minutes) Review Principles and Ground Rules if group is reconvening. Provide each person with the opportunity to share, (without discussion or comment) their "story" from Step 5. Restate selected prompt question if necessary to get the conversation going again. EXAMPLE: “We are now at the point in our time together when you can talk more freely. As we move into this less structured time, it’s important to remember why we are here: not to debate or persuade but to speak with sincerity, to listen with open heartedness and resilience, to reflect on our own views, and to seek understanding of other views. Optional: When you’d like to speak, please let me know by raising your hand.” Courtesy of Public Conversations Project (www.publicconversations.org) Step 7—Talking Together About Our Beliefs (15 minutes) After each has had a chance to share their story, individuals are invited to share patterns, surprises, insights, or questions that surfaced as they listen to others. EXAMPLE: CONTRIBUTING TO A CONNECTED CONVERSATION Note a point of learning Have you heard something that stirred fresh thoughts or feelings? Pick up and weave a thread Has an interesting theme or idea emerged that you’d like to add to? Clarify differences Have you heard something you disagreed with? If so, first check to see if you understood it correctly. Then say what was unsettling to you about what you heard and why. Ask a question Is there something someone said that you’d like to understand better? If you ask a question, be sure it reflects genuine curiosity and is not a challenge in disguise. Courtesy of Public Conversations Project (www.publicconversations.org) This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 10 Step 8—Reflecting On the Process (10 minutes) The group takes time to look at the guidelines from Step 3 (Principles of Conversation) to evaluate the experience. EXAMPLE: “Our time here is coming to an end. Are there any parting words that you’d like to say to bring your participation to a close?” “You may want to simply comment on what the experience has been like for you. Or you may want to say…” (Facilitator chooses one of the following) one idea, feeling, commitment or promising question that you are taking with you. -or one thing you want to remember about this conversation. -or something about what came up for you here that you may want to share with a friend, family member, or co-worker, or take out into your life in some other way. Courtesy of Public Conversations Project (www.publicconversations.org) Step 9—Next Steps as a Group (10 minutes) The group briefly talks about whether it wishes to convene again for some additional conversation about beliefs and insights/questions arising from this sharing. Step 10—Celebrating Our Beliefs (10 minutes) Individuals are invited to develop their “stories” into an essay to be submitted to the This I Believe project. Details on submitting an essay can be found at web site: http://www.npr.org/thisibelieve/agree.html Other ways to celebrate and share personal essays might include: 1. Host a coffee during which participants are invited to share their essays with others in the community/congregation 2. Encourage participants to submit their essays to the community/congregation’s newsletter or newspaper 3. Display text of the essays in common areas of your house of worship 4. Encourage participants to submit their essays to their local public radio station and/or local newspaper for publication. (NOTE: To be considered for national broadcast, essayists must submit their work through the project website, www.npr.org/thisibelieve.) 5. Listen to NPR broadcasts as a group in the months ahead so that participants can connect with authentic audiences throughout the United States (and eventually the world) who are accepting the challenge to write about their philosophy of life This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 11 Intra-faith or Inter-Faith Setting This process can also between with members of houses of worship from different faiths. In this setting, the process will probably take an additional 30 minutes or so. More time will be needed in: Step 1 (Introductions) Step 5 (Sharing patterns, surprises, insights, questions) Step 7 (Clarify next Steps) This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 12 Introduction to NPR’s This I Believe From 1951-1955, Edward R. Murrow hosted This I Believe, a weekly radio program that reached 39 million listeners. On this broadcast, Americans from all walks of life read five-minute essays about their personal philosophy of life. They shared insights about individual values that shaped their daily actions. The radio series was a phenomenal success and spread throughout the world via radio, newspapers, and books. Fifty years later, National Public Radio and Dan Gediman, a Louisville radio producer, are again inviting Americans of all ages and all perspectives to examine their belief systems and then write a 350 – 500 word personal essay. In addition to radio broadcasts, Gediman and his team seek to bring people together in their communities—in houses of worship, libraries, classrooms, coffee houses, bookstores, and on the Internet—to begin talking about their beliefs. NPR’s This I Believe began airing nationally in April 2005. We hope to encourage members of our community/congregation to participate in the national dialogue, and to do so by first sitting down with each other and sharing their own beliefs. Anyone who wishes to can submit their essay via the project website, www.npr.org/thisibelieve, for review and possible broadcast on NPR. The This I Believe team isn’t looking for perfectly written, grammatically correct writing samples. Instead, they are looking for thoughtful words that genuinely reflect those core beliefs that guide your daily life. Hundreds of people responded to Murrow’s invitation 50 years ago, including former US presidents and diplomats, captains of industry and educational leaders, nurses, students, taxi drivers, actors and homemakers. Eleanor Roosevelt, Jackie Robinson, Albert Einstein, and Helen Keller were just a few of the many who provided their statements of belief. This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 13 NPR’s This I Believe House of Worship Process The following statements are just a few of the axioms people hold to be true in their lives. Do you agree or disagree with these statements? For those you agree with, how did you come to that position? For those you do not agree with, why? Please feel free to add other statements that sum up one or more of your most cherished beliefs. What Do You Think? Life’s fair. Words can hurt. What goes around comes around. How you act in a crisis shows who you really are. Love conquers all. An eye for an eye…. People learn from their mistakes. You can’t depend on anyone else; you can only depend on yourself. If you smile long enough you become happy. Miracles do happen. There is one special person for everyone. Money can’t buy happiness. Killing is wrong. Don’t what is right means obeying the law. Others provided by facilitator and/or participants: This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 14 This I Believe Quotes from the NPR series Give, give, give – what is the point of having experience, knowledge or talent if I don't give it away? Of having stories if I don't tell them to others? Of having wealth if I don't share it? I don't intend to be cremated with any of it! It is in giving that I connect with others, with the world and with the divine. –Novelist Isabel Allende There is such a thing as truth, but we often have a vested interest in ignoring it or outright denying it. Also, it's not just thinking something that makes it true. Truth is not relative. It's not subjective. It may be elusive or hidden. People may wish to disregard it. But there is such a thing as truth and the pursuit of truth. –Filmmaker Errol Morris I seem most instinctively to believe in the human value of creative writing, whether in the form of verse or fiction, as a mode of truth-telling, self-expression and homage to the twin miracles of creation and consciousness. –Writer John Updike This I believe: that it is intellectually easier to credit a divine intelligence than to submit dumbly to felicitous congeries about nature. –Commentator William F. Buckley, Jr. When I was young, an honest and moral life seemed like a straightforward goal. I now know that it's not always easy to see what should be done and even harder actually to do it. Nevertheless I'm grateful that I still have some time to keep trying to get it right, and to savor each remaining day in my life. –NPR Listener Elizabeth D. Earle I believe in the journey, not the arrival, in conversation, not monologues, in multiple questions rather than a single answer. I believe in the struggle to remake ourselves and each other in the spirit of eternal forgiveness, in the awareness that none of us knows for sure what happiness truly is, but each of us knows the imperative to keep searching. –Commentator and blogger Andrew Sullivan This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 15 This I Believe Quotes from the original series I came to believe in God because, over the many years, He time and time again made Himself manifest to me. To embrace the career of composer is tantamount to embracing a life of high adventure. There may be no atheists in foxholes, but there are none in the Green Room either, especially before the premiere of a difficult, intricate and, I hope always, courageous musical work. Also, one cannot long work in the composition of music without coming to realize that one doesn’t do it all by oneself. —Composer George Antheil I do not believe in predestination, for I think we are given minds for development – and the greatest gift ever given is that of freedom to decide and act. But there comes a time in every person’s life – and generally many times – when things become greater than he and when he must turn to Some One bigger. If one does not have Some One to turn to, one is lost and unhappy. —Ward Wheelock, co-creator of This I Believe I believe that I should behave with courageous dignity in the presence of fate and strive to be a worthy companion of the Beautiful, the Good and the True. But fate has its master in the faith of those who surmount it, and limitation has its limits for those who, though disillusioned, live greatly. True faith is not a fruit of security. It is the ability to blend mortal fragility with the inner strength of the Spirit. It does not shift with the changing shades of one's thought. —Helen Keller I feel no need for any other faith than my faith in human beings. Like Confucius of old, I am so absorbed in the wonder of earth and the life upon it that I cannot think of heaven and the angels. I have enough for this life. If there is no other life, then this one has been enough to make it worth being born. —Novelist Pearl S. Buck In all honesty, what I believe is neither inspirational nor evangelical. I cannot say that I am even a sound Christian, though the code of conduct to which I subscribe was preached more eloquently by Jesus Christ than by any other. About God I simply do not know; I don’t think I can know. —Writer Wallace Stegner This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 16 This I Believe Essay-Writing Tips We invite you to contribute to this project by writing and submitting your own statement of personal belief. We understand how challenging this is – it requires such intimacy that no one else can do it for you. To guide you through this process, we offer these suggestions: Tell a story: Be specific. Take your belief out of the ether and ground it in the events of your life. Consider moments when belief was formed or tested or changed. Think of your own experience, work and family, and tell of the things you know that no one else does. Your story need not be heart-warming or gut-wrenching – it can even be funny – but it should be real. Make sure your story ties to the essence of your daily life philosophy and the shaping of your beliefs. Be brief: Your statement should be between 350 and 500 words. That’s about three minutes when read aloud at your natural pace. Name your belief: If you can’t name it in a sentence or two, your essay might not be about belief. Also, rather than writing a list, consider focusing on a core belief, because three minutes is a very short time. Be positive: Please avoid preaching or editorializing. Tell us what you do believe, not what you don’t believe. Avoid speaking in the editorial “we.” Make your essay about you; speak in the first person. Be personal: This is radio. Write in words and phrases that are comfortable for you to speak. We recommend you read your essay aloud to yourself several times, and each time edit it and simplify it until you find the words, tone and story that truly echo your belief and the way you speak. For this project, we are also guided by the original This I Believe series. Below, you will see the producers’ invitation to those who wrote essays in the 1950s. Their advice holds up well and we are abiding by it. Please consider it carefully in writing your piece. This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 17 In introducing the original series, host Edward R. Murrow said, "Never has the need for personal philosophies of this kind been so urgent." We would argue that the need is as great now as it was 50 years ago. We are eager for your contribution. The Original Invitation from 'This I Believe' This invites you to make a very great contribution: nothing less than a statement of your personal beliefs, of the values which rule your thought and action. Your essay should be about three minutes in length when read loud, written in a style as you yourself speak, and total no more than 500 words. We know this is a tough job. What we want is so intimate that no one can write it for you. You must write it yourself, in the language most natural to you. One faces an intensely personal moment when he draws up his will disposing of his belongings. Even more personal is the testament of his faith. It is this we ask you to write in your own words and then record in your own voice. You may even find that it takes a request like this for you to reveal some of your own beliefs to yourself. If you set them down they may become of untold meaning to others. We would like you to tell not only what you believe, but how you reached your beliefs, and if they have grown, what made them grow. This necessarily must be highly personal. That is what we anticipate and want. It may help you in formulating your credo if we tell you also what we do not want. We do not want a sermon, religious or lay; we do not want editorializing or sectarianism or 'finger-pointing.' We do not even want your views on the American way of life, or democracy or free enterprise. These are important but for another occasion. We want to know what you live by. And we want it terms of 'I,' not the editorial 'We.' Although this program is designed to express beliefs, it is not a religious program and is not concerned with any religious form whatever. Most of our guests express belief in a Supreme Being, and set forth the importance to them of that belief. However, that is your decision, since it is your belief which we solicit. But we do ask you to confine yourself to affirmatives: This means refraining from saying what you do not believe. Your beliefs may well have grown in clarity to you by a process of elimination and rejection, but for our part, we must avoid negative statements lest we become a medium for the criticism of beliefs, which is the very opposite of our purpose. We are sure the statement we ask from you can have wide and lasting influence. Never has the need for personal philosophies of this kind been so urgent. Your belief, simply and sincerely spoken, is sure to stimulate and help those who hear it. We are confident it will enrich them. May we have your contribution? Adapted from the invitation sent to essayists featured in the original 'This I Believe' series. Excerpted from 'This I Believe 2,' copyright © 1954 by Simon and Schuster. This I Believe HOW Manual www.npr.org/thisibelieve Page 18