Foundation of Group Skills Facilitating, Opening, and Closing

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Foundation of Group Skills

Facilitating, Opening, and Closing

Leader as Observer-Participant

Leader as Observer

The Witnesser of patterns (filtered through theory)

How one member is having difficulty owning up to feelings and maybe intellectualizing

How one member is withdrawn, how another member is fearful, how another member is dominant, how another member avoids conflict, how another member rescues, how another member attacks the leader other members, complains (e.g., I have done all this stuff)

Thus as witness we step back and also squirm loose when a member or members try to hook you into a position (usually happens unconsciously)

Here you need to point this out, explore it, and help other group members disclose and discuss what they are witnessing

Leader as Participant

Leader as Participant

Participate in whatever activities the leader(s) implements

For instance, if you ask the group members to sense what so in so is feeling, or if you ask the group to disclose their reactions toward particular member - YOU AS THE

GROUP MEMBER ARE TO REVEAL YOU REACTIONS

WHEN DO YOU SHARE - DEPENDS ON WHAT IS

NEEDED, USUALLY YOU GO FIRST OR LAST, BUT

YOUR DISCLOSURE SHOULD INCLUDE EMPATHY,

UNDERSTANDING, SOME INSIGHT, MAYBE

SOMETHING THE GROUP IS MISSING, OR MAY

OFFER A CHALLENGE TO ONE MEMBER OR A FEW

MEMBERS

Facilitating Skills

Remember there are always exceptions to rules, guidelines, and the practice of applying counselling skills… But the important point is knowing when to apply the exception to the rule!

Power of Group - Member to Member

Communications

Member to member communication and promoting network of communication

Begins with simple acknowledgement

Starts with inviting talk - but also cutting off talk

“Thanks”, “alright”, “hear you”, and I am seeing Dawn reactions “Dawn what is coming up for you”?

Observing Group Reactions

Begin with making eye contact with group member who is speaking

Afterwards, you continuously scan the room watching and monitoring other group members reactions, verbal, non-verbal

Essentially waiting to draw that member in the conversation you want to teach members to do this as well

And time to time you also return your attention to the member who is talking - what do you notice about them?

Are they reacting to other group members reactions, what aren’t they say?

Using Nonverbal Cues to Invite

Sharing

Leaning forward and peering in

Head nods

Facial expression

Body shifts

Moving chair closer

Any others?

Allowing Time to Respond

Pacing - not to fast - avoid rapid fire or rattling cage approach

Intuitively feel if people the climate of response

Are quiet members waiting to speak or playing game if I wait long enough I won’t have to

Allow some tolerance for response

Help members to take responsibility for their responses and help them inquire into silent members

Avoid overwhelming one member who is working on a issue - may need to spin off and return (pg. 109 good example)

Block and Redirecting

Purpose: navigate members who indiscriminately share random material, dominate, always speak up first, negative talk, long-winded, or counterproductive sharing

Blocking

CHALLENGE FOR THERAPIST

Fear of hurting the other or being attacked in return

Guidelines in Blocking

1. Stop members from rambling too long - give some latitude but watch other group members (are they tuning out)

2. Do not use a critical voice

3. Explain why you are stopping them - ask them if they are aware and in the future ask them to be more specific, possibly request a feeling or help this type of group member to lead with a feeling

4. Make it subtle and if the future (consider that rambling may be a defines mechanism)

Implementing Redirecting

Shifting focus to another member

In shifting focus to other member - look for extreme reactions… - “Jim may I stop you for a moment I noticed Sharon…”

Prompt other group members to do the same

When Near the End of the Session

Being Aware Time

Blocking / redirecting away from deep issue exploration with time is not suffice

This makes certain that member will be heard

Also make note of whether this is a pattern of particular members

When Members Are Arguing

Attacking and Arguing are not productive to group

This is not to say that conflict is wanted or gritty interpersonal exchanges - but put downs and slighted arguments are not therapy (caveat here)

Get members to reflect back to each other what they heard the other say - you may even have members change roles or take other perspective

When Members are Rescuing

Imperative to stop rescuing - bring it to the members awareness

Ask the group if they too can see the member rescuing when appropriate explore the dynamics of rescuing

Remember rescuing is smoothing over feelings (a pattern born in childhood or during life at some point)

Most neophytes will not be able to discern rescuing from helping - especially the one rescuing or the member who is asking to be rescued

Drawing Out Quiet Members

Quiet members usually desire to participate but do not know the appropriate time to do so - some guidelines

1.

Sense when it’s appropriate - develop trust, dig a bit, learn what the resistance might be (there needs to be some readiness)

2.

Don’t draw out uncommitted members (may speak to them personally after group)

3.

This doesn’t mean we don’t pay attention nor does it mean we exclude them, we still make the invitation - remember though group leader don’t support unhealthy interpersonal patterns - at some point other measures may need to be taken

4.

Be clear that you notice there quietness and at least explore to see if their comfortable and what they are observing

Looping Back and Refocusing

When flow of group becomes lost in irrelevant topics group leaders need to take control before irrelevance takes everyone out of the moment

Group leaders bring attention to loss focus let’s get back to Mario’s predicament or Jan a few minutes ago you were talking about hurt feelings - can you explore that a bit more

Or by the idle chatter I am wondering if John’s issue is complete as least for today

Summarizing Themes

Before shifting focus, or going for break, or shifting to different members - group leader summarize themes and territory of where group has been

This helps to internalize learning, recognize and cement growth (know your process)

Also leaders want group members to summarize themes themselves - take control of their own process

When Group Members Cry

Crying often is an indicator that the topic is tapping into a deep reservoir of emotion

We don’t stop someone from crying - instead we help the client go into the emotion and get in touch with what is causing the tears

Do rush member, give them time to be in the emotion, let them know that they don’t need to feel guilty, silly, let them know feelings are important for the group to experience

After the emotion has passed - encouraged to talk about what tears are saying, put tears into words

Don’t pull out box of kleenex if it is going to distract member from exploring or it will stop the catharsis

Allow moment to be fully experienced, watch for members who are triggered often they need to explore this trigger… Member to member empathic response

Member to Member Empathic

Response

Watch for members who have been touched - get them to share how they are feeling, explore similarities, differences

They may have issues that need to be worked on because of it, thus finish with primary member (ask) “Jane is there anything else”.

Afterward explore this and then go back to Jane, does anyone else after need to process.

Its important that “Empathy” be then drawn from all members, watch and solicit others reactions

Addressing Group Members Instead of

Talking About Them

Use names when addressing individual member

When speaking about group don’t use them, or they, but you folks, us in the room

Pg. 116, “Some of you are nodding your heads. I wonder whether any of you would like to share your experiences”

Handling Silence

Early in group there maybe longer periods of silence - this is okay, roll with it, however, sometimes silence can be unproductive.

Unproductive silence - this may happen when group members are bored, confused, scared, or afraid to talk.

Summarize what has happened, if the group leader is responsible for the confusion apologize and get group members to respond to this, ask them what they see is happening, address tension - watch for inviting in-group transference that can destroy group if its about distorted fear.

Also ask members to report what silence is saying

Talk about how to combat boredom

Productive Silence

Group members are talking quietly about what is occurring

Silence after emotional catharsis

Getting in touch with the resonance or felt sense in the room

Exploring emotions in the body

Often leader may encourage getting in touch with inner silence and see what emotions arise

Staying in silence (depending on where in group / intuitively know where everyone is at) allow silence as long as necessary

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