Secure and Insecure
Attachments
Research Results and Correlations
PPT Lecture on Research Results
Video Immersion Good will hunting
A WORD ABOUT GRAVE YARD TOUR
FINDING YOUR ATTACHMENT TYPE: INSECURE /
SECURE
If you score 11 or less attachment style = insecure
More than 21 attachment style = insecure
Average score from bereaved study participants was 17
Other subcategories scoring to follow
SCORING YOUR ANXIOUS / AMBIVALENT
SCORE
SUM THESE CATEGORIES
PARENTAL UNUSAL CLOSENESS
SI
PARENTAL OVERPROTECTIVENESS
CHILDHOOD TIMIDITY
DRESDEN VASE
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•
- 6, 4
SI - 17, 18, 19, 20
SII - 7, 10, 12, 15, 16, 24, 25
SII - 8, 14, 17,18, 19
10 MORE = INDICATES ANXIOUS AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT
SCORE = 7 WAS AVERAGE SCORE FOR BEREAVED PARTICIPANTS
SCORING AVOIDANT
ATTACHMENTS
SUM THESE CATEGORIES
PARENTS INTOLERANT OF CLOSENESS
CHILD INTOLERANT OF CLOSENESS
SI - 28
SII - 26
CHILDHOOD AGGRESSIVENESS / DISTRUST
SII 20, 26, 27, 28,
29, 30, 31
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•
SCORE OF 6 OR MORE INDICATES AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
SCORE 3.8 WAS AVERAGE SCORE FOR BEREAVED PARTICIPANTS
SCORING DISORGANIZED
ATTACHMENTS
SUM THESE CATEGORIES
FAMILY EXPERIENCE DANGER / PERSECUTION
SII - 4
PARENTAL REJECTION / VIOLENCE
SI - 10, 13, 25, 26, 27
PARENTAL DEPRESSION / PSYCH
SI - 7, 8, 9a, 9b, 12
CHILDHOOD UNHAPPINESS
SII - 9, 32, 33
COMPULSIVE CAREGIVING
SII - 11, 23
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SCORE OF 6 OR MORE INDICATES DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT
SCORE 4.5 WAS AVERAGE SCORE FOR BEREAVED PARTICIPANTS
SECURE
ATTACHMENTS
• The more reported security of attachment the
less severe distress reported AFTER
BEREAVEMENT
• Why?
Correlations
Low Secure Attachment
Low Marital
Disharmony Score
Low
Problematic
Coping Score
Low Overall Distress Score
secure
parenting
=
harmonious adult
relationships
Securely Attached will still seek and
Sometimes need treatment
• Securely attached are not free from distress, but more likely to
cope better and have lower levels of distress
• Those that sought help and who had low insecure scores
suffered from
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Obsessional symptoms, sleep disorders, symptoms of post-traumatic stress,
depression and anxiety
•
Causes of the latter symptoms: unexpected, untimely, or violent bereavements
•
Ultimately, it appeared secure attachments sometimes leave us unprepared for
traumatic events that occur over a lifetime.
Summary secure Attachments = Less
distress after bereavement
• Secure attached are:
1. More self-confident
2. Seek out support and help when needed
3. Have a reasonable sense of autonomy
4. Marriage is more harmonious and provide a buffer from distress
Group Task and Questions
Form Group’s of 5 / 6
Select Captain /
Spokesperson
Task
Group is watch movie and provide
evidence of attachment / grief details
related to movie and characters.
Be as analytical as possible
Video will be watched over 2 classes /
group who wins these immersions
(gaining most pts) will be given a prize
in last class.
Shows great distress during
separation
Anxious / Ambivalent
Clings and cries angrily upon
return
Distress continues after
reunion for much longer than
securely attached infants
Remember these are the folks who scored high on Parental Unusual
closeness and/or Overprotection along with Childhood timidity and/or high
‘Dresden Vase scores.
Results showed that participants who scored high on Anxious/ Ambivalence
bereaved for protracted periods of time and had difficulty with loneliness.
However, anxious/ambivalent attachment in childhood and long lasting
severe grief after bereavement could not be explained by the
anxious/ambivalent dependence on the lost person.
So what explains the persistence of grief for these folks?
Persistence of Grief?
Long lasting grief appeared to be entangled with anger and
resentment - freezing the ability to let go the deceased.
What else do folks think is going on here?
Correlations
Anxious/Ambivalent
Marital Disagreements
insecure
parenting
=
conflicted adult
relationships
Disagreements
with deceased
Chronic Grief
attach to / push away
Cling
Anxious / Ambivalence:
In light of bereavement
Summary
• People who experience anxious / ambivalent relationships in childhood and
people who make dependent attachments in adult life are both likely to suffer
severe and lasting grief and loneliness after bereavement.
• It appears that these persons do not see love as something that is given,
but is demanded - a la from parents.
• In adulthood then so-called love is lost (via death) and their fear and rage
complicates and magnifies grief
• They are caught in a web of needing to cling and holding back from
clinging = high anxiety. So when their loved one dies - who do they cling
to or go for support?
Parents intolerant of closeness / do
not mirror
Avoidant Attachments
IFT inhibit their tendency to cling
and cry
During the SST when (PCF) reappears (IFT) appears indifferent
and uncaring will even ignore / avoid
(PCF).
Avoidant attachments in childhood were highly correlated in adult life with difficulty
in showing affection and with high scores on emotional Inhibition/Distrust and
Aggression /Assertiveness
Avoidant attachments was also highly correlated with Marital Disagreements.
Avoidant attachments were also found to correlate with Disagreements with the
now deceased and that the bereaved person never cries - and the prediction of
delayed grief...
Interestingly, the avoidant attached person did say that they would like to cry
more.
Inability to
express grief
The Avoidant Griever
Five out of 10 participants
who said they never cry
received diagnosis as
having a psychosomatic
disorder.
However, psychosomatic
diagnosis was not a key
ingredient to the avoidant
griever.
Inability to grieve and
delayed grief, although
related to avoidant
attachments, appeared to
also be correlated with need
to control...
Avoidance and Need to Control
The bereaved delayed grief because:
•
They were holding grief in check because need to look after
a parent / child
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Lifelong neurosis
•
Past bouts with depression
•
Post-traumatic stress reactions
•
Alcoholism
•
Personality disorders
The Avoidant Griever
Ultimately, the findings confirm that children of parents who
discouraged the expression of attachment (hugging/cuddling,
sharing feelings) will find it difficult to acknowledge and
express both grief and affection.
This was found to persist in adult life, to increase the risk of
interpersonal conflicts and to inhibit the expression of grief.
Mapping the Avoider
Continuous lines indicate
significant correlations
Interrupted lines indicate
non-significant trends
Why Do Patterns of Childhood
Remain into Adulthood
A clinical insight:
We return to old conditioning under stress and in times of survival...
Avoidant attachments only make children independent of their parents, they
have not survived because of keeping away, but because they have found a
safe proximity and they are rewarded for it (are continued to be fed and
protected).
Thus, they will find people who perpetuate assumptive world, but upon death
this separateness is “forever” - thus what do I do and who do I turn to.
The PCF lacks in confidence with
respect to their ability to care for and
control their child and they may see their
child as more powerful than themselves.
(IFT’s) may cry during separation but
avoid the PCF upon return or they may
approach the PCF upon return then
freeze/fall, hit themselves, rock back
and forth, etc.
Disorganized Attachments
These are participants who scored high on Parental
Depression / Psychiatric Problems; Parental Violence;
Childhood Unhappiness; Compulsive Caregiving;
Family Persecution.
During childhood these folk often felt helpless /
hopelessness and may have become caregivers for
their parents / siblings.
Disorganized Findings and Patterns of
Behaviour
Findings revealed that disorganized type after
bereavement suffering from depression, anxiety, and
panic and use alcohol to self medicate.
There is also a tendency for these folk to feel extreme
guilt and report suicidal behaviour
Interestingly, findings did indicate the disorganized
type would seek help from a professional, but not turn
to family members for support.
Findings also revealed that the disorganized type
indeed has characteristics of the avoidant and
anxious/ambivalent type.
Disorganized Findings and Patterns of
Behaviour
Clinical Insight
Findings also reveal that the disorganized type
display a serious need to protect oneself and
distrust others. But, interestingly enough, the
disorganized type can trust enough in so much as
their trust leads to a confirmation of their
assumptive world - (refer to Mollie’s Story pg. 111)
Mapping the Disorganized
Continuous lines indicate
significant correlations
Interrupted lines indicate
non-significant trends
Influence of disorganized
attachments on
psychological problems is
not limited to the years of
childhood.