Integrating Steps 3,4,5
Step 3
Made a decision to
turn our will and
our lives over the
care of our higher
power as we
understood our
higher power
Capacity for Step 3
Vary depending on particular histories
Trauma from childhood - ego strength / Reality
Damage to ego apparatus
Be flexible
Part of 12-step group / individual spiritual journey
Be teachable “beginner’s mind”
THinking higher than our low self esteem
Breaking Down Step 3
Willingness to surrender our Addict’s will
-
Our power of choice
-
our roles / identities
FROM AN OUTER GOD IN AN INNER AWARENESS
Not yet Ready
Integrating Step 3:
A buddhist Perspective
You are a buddha
not yet fully awake
Take refuge in the teaching
Aspects of Self: The Mind
Seeks Refuge
-May I speak to the controller? How are you Doing?
speak to the mInd that Seeks Refuge?
Who are you?
What are you Seeking?
How long have you been a seeker?
What would happen to the self if it weren’t for you?
Will you ever find what you’re looking for?
What happens if you do?
Sit for awhile as the minds seeks refuge
May i
Step 4
We made a searching and
fearless moral inventory of
ourselves
Get The PrincipalS
Writing down resentments / Guilt
Acts as a Confessional
Shadow work (getting in touch with our feelings)
taking responsibility (Getting Honest)
owning our shit
I want what they got
The fourth step isn’t just done once
Its a Continual Fidelity to awareness & Growth
No more con’s
“If our behavior continues to harm others,
Buddhist integration
A Zen Story
-Two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, traveling on pilgrimage, came to
a muddy river crossing. There they saw a lovely young woman
dressed in her kimono and finery, obviously not knowing how to cross
the river without ruining her clothes. Without further ado, Tanzan
graciously picked her up, held her close to him, and carried her across
the muddy river, placing her onto the dry ground. Then he and Ekido
continued on their way. Hours later they found themselves at a lodging
temple. And here Ekido could no longer restrain himself and gushed
forth his complaints: “Surely, it is against the rules, what you did back
there…. Touching a woman is simply not allowed…. How could you
have done that? … And to have such close contact with her! … This is
a violation of all monastic protocol…” Thus he went on with his
verbiage. Tanzan listened patiently to the accusations. Finally, during
a pause, he said, “Look, I set that girl down back at the crossing. Are
you still carrying her?”
The Pain Body
The Thief inside
Lama Yeshe said, “You must recognize
that your real enemy, the thief who
steals your happiness, is the inner thief,
the one inside your mind - the one you
have cherished since the beginningless
time.
meditate on THis...
“Your Greatest Enemy is your Greatest
benefactor”
To develop “the mind that recognizes wisdom” we practice awareness
with our partner, boss, commuters”
We change our thinking to “this person is my supreme teacher”
We admitted to
our Higher
Power, ourselves,
and
another human
being the
exact nature of
our
wrongs
Ultimately our Selfishness and Self centeredness
Making the 5th stick
According to littlejohn we need to do this step with
another addict
The listener should be one who knows what it feels
like to be an addict and has done his or her recovery
work
They should also have an understanding of
recovery beyond your own
Thus guiding you to higher level or keeping you
deadly honest
Making the 5th stick
According to littlejohn we need to do this step with
another addict
The listener should be one who knows what it feels
like to be an addict and has done his or her recovery
work
They should also have an understanding of
recovery beyond your own
Thus guiding you to higher level or keeping you
deadly honest
Self-Esteem
Don’t get lost in the..
“Its all about the self esteem
Trap”
Instead,It’s revealing to ourselves the
disease of the self
Principal of Step 5
-Get honest with your self -
Meditate on this... NonSelf
The true enemy is inside. The make of trouble,
the source of all our suffering, the destroyer
of our joy, and the destroyer of our virtue is
inside. It is EGO. I call it, “I”, the most
precious one.”
“I, the most precious one” does not serve any
purpose. It only makes tremendous,
unreasonable, impossible demands. Ego
wants to the best and has no consideration
for anyone else. Things work as long as “i,
the most precious one’s” wishes are being
fulfilled. But when they’re not, and Ego turns
on the self, it becomes self-hatred. That selfhatred will eventually burn the house down.