RELATIONSHIPS OR RESPONSIBLE SEXUALITY Sex Vs. Gender Sex: Biological condition; male/female physical, clinical, hormonal differences Gender: Defined by society; socialization, cultural, stereotyping Explanations Eunuch: male deprived of testes; external genitals Hermaphrodite: both male and female reproductive organs Transsexual: sexual identity conflict Bi-sexual: expressions of sexuality with both sexes Transvestite: cross dresser Homosexual: expressions of sexuality with same sex partners Transgender: believes sex does not match body A Choice of Heroes: The Changing Face of American Manhood M. Gerzon (1982) “Unlike the old archetypes which were for men only, the emerging masculinities are not. They are in fact emerging humanities” page 262. Male Gender Roles Roles are changing Frontiersman Soldier Expert Breadwinner Lord/Master Healer Mediator Colleague Companion Nurturer Committed Relationships Marriage Cohabitation legal issues? Gay and Lesbian Partnerships Legal issues (amendment to Nevada Constitution- what does it mean?) Gay Marriage (amendment to the US Constitution – what does it mean?) Relationships FRIENDSHIP LOVE Acceptance Respect Assistance Confidence Understanding Spontaneity Mutual regard Trust Mutual respect Maturity Nurturing Exclusivity Sexual desire Giving willingly Being a champion Being an advocate Commitment Signs of Troubled Relationship Change in communication An increase in the number of unresolved conflicts A change in the amount and quality of time spent together Emotional or physical abuse Sexuality: Meanings??? Sexuality One of our characteristics Sensual How we project who we are Sexy How others label us Sexual Activity An action Growing Up Messages: In some societies women are isolated while they menstruate In some societies women are taboo, not to be looked at or spoken to during menses under threat of death. In the old testament it is written that women are unclean during menses. Feelings of shame and ignorance of our bodies. Good girls are to set sexual limits, deny their responses and hate their bodies. To Be or Not to Be? We are always sexual beings – that’s the characteristic of sexuality We are sensual when we choose to be We are sexually active when we want to be NORMALCY: Sexual Behaviors How do we know what behaviors or practices are normal? What or Whose criteria should we use? Who should regulate and enforce what is “good” and what is “bad”? SEXUAL EXPRESSION Range of human sexual expression is virtually infinite How you choose to meet your sexual needs today may be very different than two years from now. Autoerotic behaviors Celibacy Erotic touching/kissing Masturbation Oral-Genital stimulation Vaginal intercourse Behaviors are variant not deviant MAKING PERSONAL CHOICES Do you feel comfortable with yourself, your sexuality? Do you feel limited or bound by gender-role stereotyping? You are unique and do not have to measure up to anyone’s expectations.