Promoting Safe and Healthy
Relationships
Chapter 10-13, 19 & 20
Myth or Fact
About 1/3 of teens in grades 9-12 are
involved in at least one physical fight each
year
 Teens are more likely to be victims of
violence than adults are
 By age 13, the American child has watched
100,000 acts of violence on TV.
 Joining a gang is not effective protection
from violence.
 Homicide, or murder, is the leading cause of
death among teens.
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Myth or Fact
Use of ATOD’s is a contributing factor in
incidents of violent crime.
 Programs intended to treat violent behavior
are ineffective.
 Nearly half of all rapes and sexual assaults are
committed by acquaintances of the victim.
 Schools can promote effective ways to prevent
violence.
 Of the industrialized nation in the world, the
US had the highest rates of homicide and
firearms related deaths among adolescents
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Healthy Relationships
Relationship is a bond or connection you have
with other people
 All of your relationships can have effects on
your physical, social, spiritual and
mental/emotional health.
 Healthy relationships are based on shared
values and interests and mutual respect.
 A healthy relationship is one in which both
people benefit and feel comfortable
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Healthy Relationships
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Family Relationships
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Relationships
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It involved immediate and extended family. It
enhances all sides of your health triangle.
Is a significant relationship between two people
that is based on caring, trust, and consideration.
Roles of Family and Friends
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A role is apart you play in a relationship.
Build a Healthy Relationship
(Three C’s)
Communication- refers to your ways of
sending and receiving messages.
 Cooperation- working together for the good of
all.
 Compromise- is a problem-solving method that
involves each participation’s giving up
something to reach a solution that satisfied
everyone. (give and take)
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Characteristics of a Health
Relationships
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Mutual respect and consideration
Honestly
Dependability
Commitment
Effective Communication
Communication is critical to healthy
relationships.
 Communication Styles
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Passive Communication- involves the inability or
unwillingness to express thoughts and feelings.
 Aggressive Communication- often try to get their
ways through bullying and intimidation.
 Assertive Communication- involves expressing
thoughts and feelings clearly and directly but
without hurting others
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Techniques For Active Listening
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Reflective listening- rephrase or summarize what the
other person has said.
Clarifying- Questioning the speaker about how he/she
feels or asking questions to help you understand.
Encouraging- Encourage the speaker when you signal
that you are interested and involved. You can show
your interested by saying “I see” “Uh-huh” “I
understand”
Empathizing- You are able to imagine and understand
how someone else feels.
Eliminating Communication
Barriers
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Image and identity issues- a sense of who they are
and their place in the world. If someone is unsure of
his or her values, the uncertainty can complicate the
communication.
Unrealistic expectations- Avoid imposing unrealistic
expectations on your listener, this may cause the
individuals to become frustrated or defensive.
Lack of trust
Prejudice- unfair opinion or judgment of a particular
group of people.
Gender Stereotyping- is a type of prejudice that
involves having an a belief about people of a certain
gender.
The Mediation Process
Mediation- a process in which specialty
trained people help others resolve their
conflicts peacefully.
 Mediation session take place in a neutral
locations.
 Mediation is strictly confidential.
 Some schools offer peer mediation programs
for settling conflicts.
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Peer mediators, are students trained to help other
students find fair resolution to conflicts and
disagreements.
The Role of the Family
Family is a basic unit of society, provides a safe
and nurturing environment for it member.
 Extended Family- that is, your immediate
family and other relatives such as
grandparents, aunt, uncle, cousins.
 The importance of Family
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Meets physical and other basic needs
 Meets mental/emotional needs
 Meets social needs
 Develops a value system
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 Build
your Character
Strengthening Family Relationships
Demonstrate care and love
 Show support, especially during difficult
times
 Demonstrate trust
 Express commitment
 Be Responsible
 Spend time together
 Respect individuality
 Work together to solve problems
 Be sensitive to others’ needs
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Changes in Family Structure
Separation- is a decision between married
individuals to live apart from each other.
 Divorce- is a legal end to a marriage contract.
 Remarriage-becoming a blending family
 When there is children involved
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Custody- is a legal decision about who has the right
to make decisions affecting the children in a family
and who has the responsibility of physically caring
for them.
Family Structure
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Marriage- is a long term commitment
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Successful Marriage- marital adjustment-how well a person
adjust to marriage and to his or her spouse.
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Good communication
Emotional maturity
Similar value and interests.
Resolving Conflicts-even the best marriages, conflict
occasionally. Some common issues include:
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Commitment is a promise or a pledge that a couple makes to each other.
Differences spending money
Conflicting loyalties involving family and friends
Lack of communication
Lack of intimacy
Jealous, infidelity, or lack of attention
Decisions about having children and arranging child care
Abusive tendencies or attitudes.
Teen marriage: Maturity makes a successful marriage, do teen
have that?
Family Violence
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Domestic Violence- any act of violence involving
family members. This is a criminal act that can be
prosecuted by law.
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Spousal Abuse is domestic violence at a spouse.
Child Abuse is domestic violence at a child.
Emotional abuse- is a pattern of behavior that attacks
the emotional development and sense of worth of an
individual.
Physical Abuse- is the intentional infliction of bodily
harm or injury on another person.
Sexual Abuse-involves any sexual contact that is
forced upon a person against his or her will.
Changing Family Violence
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Breaking the cycle the violence.
Avoiding the Violence
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Recognize
Resist
Report
Crisis Center- a facility that handles emergencies and
provides referrals to an individuals needing help.
Support Groups meeting in which individuals share
their problems and get advice from others facing
similar issues.
Family Counseling therapy to restore healthy
relationships in a family.
School Safety
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Violence- is the threatened or actual use of physical
force or power to harm another person or to damage
property.
Bullying- the act of seeking power or attention
through the psychological, emotion, or physical abuse
of another person.
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How does it start? How does it stop
Sexual Harassment- is a UNINVITED and unwelcome
sexual conduct directed at another person.
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Inappropriate jokes, words, gestures, or touching of a sexual
form sexual harassment.
Reducing the Risk of Violence
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Recognizing Warning Signs
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Has difficulty controlling anger, or disobeys school rules,
(more examples Figure 13.2. Pg. 337)
What can you do?
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What a school can do?
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Peer mediation
Rules of the school
Keeping the school a safe place
Why Violence Occur
A way to deal with conflicts. Some people use
violence as a means of dealing with conflicts.
In these cases, the victim may know his or her
assailant (a person who commits a violent act
against another)
 Need to control others
 Way of expressing anger
 Prejudice-unfair opinion or judgment of a
particular group of people
 Retaliation
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Influences of Violence
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Weapons Availability
The Media
ATOD’s
Mental and Emotional Issues
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Anger management
Types of Violence
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Assault and Homicide
assault is an unlawful attack on a person with the
intent to harm or kill.
 random violence is committed for no particular
reason.
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Sexual Violence
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Is any form of unwelcome sexual conduct directed
at an individual, including sexual harassment,
sexual assault, and rape.
Gang Related Violence
Types of Abuse
Abuse- is the physical, mental/emotional, or
sexual mistreatment of one person by another.
 Physical Abuse- is the intentional infliction of
bodily harm or injury on another person.
 Emotional Abuse
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Verbal abuse -using words ti mistreat or injure
another person. (name calling, insults)
 stalking- is the reported following, harassment, or
threatening of an individual to frighten or cause him
or her harm.
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Dating Violence
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Dating violence includes all forms of abuse.
Sometimes teen victims may accept abuse as part of a
relationship.
Signs indicating that an unhealthy dating relationship
may be headed toward abusive behavior:
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expressions of jealously
attempts to control a partner’s behavior
use of insults or put-downs to manipulate a partner
use of guilt to manipulate a partner
date rape occurs when one person in a dating
relationship forces the other person to participate in
sexual intercourse
Overcoming Abuse
It is important for people who have suffered
abuse or rape to remember that they are
victims and have not done anything wrong.
 If you know someone that was rape
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call law enforcement immediately
 seek medical attention
 Get into a support group or therapy.
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Fact or Myth
The egg from the mother determines a baby’s
gender
 Twins result when more than one sperm
fertilizes a single egg
 A fetus usually remains in the uterus for about
nine months
 If a pregnant female using uses ATOD’s these
substances can harm the fetus.
 A female should gain as much weight as
possible during pregnancy
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Questions or Comments?