• Kunst entered the induction station shortly after
seven?
• His Wife was blond?
• His friend was Male?
• Kunst was refusing to report for induction?
• The sergeant’s name was Cortez?
• The refusal Process took less than three minutes?
• Kunst’s wife had a Ban-the-Bomb emblem
pinned to her dress?
• Kunst refused to sign the papers?
• Kunst entered the induction station shortly after
seven? [F]
• His Wife was blond? [?]
• His friend was Male? [?]
• Kunst was refusing to report for induction? [T]
• The sergeant’s name was Cortez? [?]
• The refusal Process took less than three minutes?
[T]
• Kunst’s wife had a Ban-the-Bomb emblem
pinned to her dress? [?]
• Kunst refused to sign the papers? [T]
Listening Totally
• “We don’t listen with just our ears, but also with our
eyes and sense of touch, with our minds, hearts, and
imaginations. Total listening is more than attending to
another person's words. It is also listening to the
meanings that are buried in the words and between the
words and in the silences in communication.”
– Gerald Egan, “Listening as empathic support” (1973)
MARK
• “My girlfriend amazes me. We’ll have a conversation,
and then later one of us will bring it up again. What I
remember is what we decided in the talk. She remembers
that too, but she also remembers all the details about
where we were and what was going on in background and
particular things one of us said in the conversation. I
never notice all that stuff, and I sure don’t remember it
later.”
•
ABBIE
“My boyfriend drives me crazy. He never listens, I mean
really listens, to what I’m saying. Yesterday I said to him
that I was having trouble with my parents about wanting me
to come to summer school. Before I could even explain
what the trouble was, he said, ‘Yeah, they get real tight
when you want them to pay for summer session. I’ve been
through that one. Just keep at them and they’ll come
around.’ Money wasn’t the reason.”
• Pseudolistening should be in the training manual
for flight attendants. I had that job for six years,
and you wouldn’t believe the kinds of things
passengers told me about--everything from love
affairs to family problems. At first I tried to
listen, because I wanted to be a good attendant.
After a year, though, I learned just to appear to
be listening.”
RENEE
GREG
• “I’ve been a salesman for a long time, and I know
when clients are really interested in when they’re not.
When someone answers a phone when I’m in his or her
office, I know he or she is not really focused on what
I’m saying. Taking calls or leaving the door open for
people to drop in communicates that they’re not
interested in me or the service I represent.”
• “I hate the term constructive criticism. Every time
my dad says it, what follows is a put-down. By now
I’ve learned not to go to him when I have problems
or when I’m worried about something in my life. He
always judges what I’m feeling and tells me what I
ought to feel and do. All that does is make me feel
worse than I did before..”
LOGAN
LISTEN
TO OTHERS
AS YOU
WOULD HAVE THEM
LISTEN TO YOU