Habits : Automatic routines of behaviors that are repeated regularly without thinking
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
1.)Be Proactive: Take responsibility for your life
2.)Begin with the End in Mind: Define your missions and goals in life
3.)Put First things First: Prioritize, and do the most important first
4.)Think Win-Win: Have an anyone can win attitude
5.) Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Listen to people
6.)Synergy: Work together to achieve more
7.) Sharpen the Saw: Renew yourself regularly
Paradigm: Perceptions about the way things are
Paradigms of Life
Friend-Centered
Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Centered
School-Centered
Stuff-Centered
Parent-Centered
Principle-Centered
Honesty, Love, Respect,
Hard work, Responsibility,
Gratitude, Fairness
The Healthiest Center
The Personal Bank Account:
-How you feel about yourself
-The amount of trust and confidence you have in yourself
-You make deposits and withdrawals by the things you think, say, and do
PBA Deposits
PBA Withdrawals
Keep Promises to Yourself
Breaking personal promises
Do Random Acts of Service
Keep to Yourself
Tap into Your Talents
Beat yourself up
Be Gentle with Yourself
Be dishonest
Renew Yourself
Wear yourself out
Neglect your talents
The Relationship Bank Account
-The amount of trust and confidence you have in relationships
RBA Deposits
RBA Withdrawals
Keep promises
Do small acts of kindness
Be loyal
Listen
Say you’re sorry
Set clear expectations
Break Promises
Keep to Yourself
Gossip and break Confidences
Don’t Listen
Be Arrogant
Set False Expectations
Proactive:
Reactive:
Think before they act
Take responsibility for their choices
Make choices based on principles
Make their choices based on feelings,
moods, emotions
“I can choose my attitude”
“I choose to be mad”
“Who does he think he is anyways”
“Leave me alone”
Will use their pause button
Action
Space of Freedom to Choose
Response
Action – Response
Circle of No Control
Circle of Control
-Weather
-Accidents
-Birth Place
-Others’ Behaviors
-Parents
-Past Mistakes
-Partner’s Behavior
-Your Choices
-Your Mood
-What you eat
-Your Language
-TV Watching
-Exercise
-Attitude
The Four Human Tools
Self-Awareness: I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions
Imagination: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong
Conscious: I can envision new possibilities
Independent Will: I have the power to choose
Begin with the End in Mind: Define your mission and goals in life
Personal Mission Statement: A personal motto that states what you life is about
Inspirational
Review this to help make difficult decisions
S.M.A.R.T. Goals
Specific: Clear, not vague or confusing
Measurable: Can be evaluated for progress
Action-Oriented: Include a plan
Realistic: Possible, achievable
Timely: Include an appropriate target date
W.I.S.E.
Willpower: Decide what you want
Initiative: Act to achieve your dreams
Stamina: Keep working, even when it’s hard
Enthusiasm: Be energetic! Enjoy what you’re doing
Put First things First: Prioritize and manage your time
Important: Your first things, activities that contribute to your mission and your goals
Urgent: Pressing things, in-your-face things, activities that demand immediate attention
The Time Quadrant
URGENT
NOT URGENT
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The Procrastinator
The Prioritize
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The Yes-Man
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o Unimportant Phone Calls
o Interruptions
o Other People’s
Small Problems
o Peer Pressure
o
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o
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o
Exam Tomorrow
Friend Gets Injured
Late for Work
Project due Today
Car Breaks Down
Big Rocks
Identify your big rocks
Block out Time for your Big Rocks
Schedule Everything Else
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Planning, Goal Setting
Essay due in a Week
Exercise
Relationships
Relaxation
The Slacker
o Too much TV
o Endless phone calls
o Excessive Computer
Games
o Mall Marathons
o Time Wasters