1 We will be talking about: • Different related terms • Current statistics • How Erin’s Law applies to you • Your Personal Safety Rights, how they can be violated and • How you can keep your rights • We will offer you resources in and out of school as well 2 (The legislation also generally provides for some type of referral, counseling or safe way for children to report incidences of child sexual abuse and requires training for school personnel. Many states have also required task forces to further study the issue and provide statewide recommendations). These laws are most commonly known as Erin’s Laws, taking the name of the most active proponent of these laws, Erin Merryn, a victim of sexual abuse as a child and prominent activist in the effort to further prevent child sexual abuse. 3 Video is about 4 minutes long. Right click to open. 4 5 6 • Sexual Assault – Any unwanted sexual activity that involves any type of penetration/sexual intercourse by any body part of foreign object, through force or the threat of force. • Sexual abuse – Any unwanted sexual touching, either directly or through clothing, which does not include penetration/intercourse and is done through force or the threat of force. • Acquaintance Sexual Assault or Acquaintance Rape – Any forced unwanted sexual contact committed by someone who knows the victim. If someone has forced you to have sex against your will, that is rape even if you know the attacker. • Sexual Harassment – Unwanted sexual pressure that one 7 person inflicts upon another. (It can be male-to-male, femalefemale, male-female, or female-male). • Force or Threat of Force – When we think of force, we think of a weapon, or someone actually holding someone down. However, force also includes tone of voice, bribery, coercion, manipulation or trickery. … being tricked, manipulated, or forced to do something you really do not want to participate in. • Child Sexual Abuse- Can be perpetrated by an adult or a child who exerts power over another. Sexual activity can include touching and also non-touching (such as voyeurism/watching, exhibitionism/showing, pornography, or internet crimes). Consent – To consent is to agree to willingly participate or engage in sexual activity. >COMPLIANCE does NOT equal CONSENT……… there is actually a “No Means No” Law. > Compliance – A person may comply with something proposed to them, but that action may not necessarily be consensual. > Consent – Giving permission for something to happen • 7 8 9 MORE DETAILED EXPLANATION (TO SHARE WITH CLASS): 1. You Have the Right to Set Sexual Limits You may have different limits with different people and your limits may change. It’s a good idea to know what you want or do not want. Communicate those Limits - Get those limits across to the other person. 2. Trust Your Feelings If you feel that you are being pressured into unwanted sex, you are right. 3. Pay Attention to Behaviors or patterns of behavior that do not seem right: • Someone purposely sitting or standing too close. • Someone who power stares — looking through you or down at you. • Someone who blocks your way. • Someone speaking in a way or acting as if he or she knows you more intimately than is appropriate. 10 Someone who grabs or pushes you to get his or her way. • Someone who does not listen or disregards what you are saying, like “NO”. 4. Be Assertive • Say NO • Get angry when someone does something to you that you do not want. • Act immediately with some kind of negative response • Stand up for yourself —it’s OK to be rude to someone who is sexually pressuring you, even if it hurts their feelings. After all, they are not paying attention to your feelings. • 5. Be aware of your surroundings – Be very conscious about who is around you, staying with friends at social events and do not be alone when you are walking anywhere, especially at night. Do not get into a car without at least one friend with you and without knowing the driver. 10 * YOU CAN READ THESE DESCRIPTIONS IF YOU WANT TO, OR IF THEY HAVE QUESTIONS LATER, YOU CAN REFER BACK TO THESE: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Prolonged feelings of anxiety, stress, or fear can be a sign of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Self-Harm Some survivors of sexual assault may use self-harm to cope with difficult or painful feelings. Flashbacks It’s possible for memories of a past trauma to feel like they are taking place in the current moment. Isolation – Preferring to be alone, not interacting with others as much, can exhibit less eye contact and looking down 11 Sexually Transmitted Infections STIs can occur during any sex act, even if this contact was unwanted or forced. Depression Feelings of sadness and unhappiness that have a negative impact on your life could be a sign of depression. Substance Use There are a number of reasons that survivors report using substances like alcohol and drugs. 11 12 This power point can be found on the following LZHS web pages: Student Resources> Deans & Student Services and Counseling 13 14 15