Some local venues for contraception, advice and free condoms:
C-Card
Scheme
Six things your teenager might not know:
These days our teenagers are bombarded by sexual imagery on the TV,
films, adverts, the internet and magazines.
The Derbyshire C-Card Scheme is a confidential service that provides
free condoms, advice and support on sexual health to young people
aged 13 to 24.
It aims to reduce the number of under-18s getting pregnant and reduce
sexually transmitted infections
A young person will need to register with the scheme at a registration
point, which are venues like Connexions, colleges, youth clubs, health
centres or chemists. Once registered the young person can get condoms,
confidential advice and info from any venue that displays the C-Card logo.
Contact Connexions Derbyshire on 01246 201581 ext 281 to find your
nearest registration point.
Living with Teenagers – a parenting skills course
These free eight-week NHS courses help parents get the best from
their relationship with their teenage children. To find out about
courses in your area, call 01246 514977 or 01246 514978.
Useful
websites:
Gotateenager
www.gotateenager.org.uk
Sex: worth talking about
www.nhs.uk/worthtalkingabout
TooDoo
Info for young people who need
someone to talk to in Derbyshire
www.derbyshire.gov.uk/toodoo
Sexwise
0800 282930 confidential advice
service.
FPA
www.fpa.org.uk
Connexions Derbyshire
www.connexions-derbyshire.org
So it’s not surprising that they can act like they know it all, even from
their early teens. But often they don’t even know the basic facts about
sex.
So here are six key things you could make sure your teenager knows.
1. There are fifteen different types of contraception including the new
long-lasting implants, injections and patches for women.
2. Condoms are the only way to protect against sexually transmitted
infection (STI) but other contraceptives are better at preventing
pregnancy. So always use a reliable contraceptive and a condom.
3. A girl can get pregnant the first time and she can get pregnant
during her period. There are hundreds of other myths about sex that
your teenager might believe – including that everyone else is having sex
apart from them.
4. Emergency contraception (sometimes called the morning after pill)
can prevent pregnancy if taken up to 72 hours after sex.
An IUD (or coil) can prevent pregnancy if it’s inserted up to five days
after unprotected sex.
5. The age of consent is 16 for men and women. Most young people
don’t have sex until they are over 16. But under 16s can get confidential
contraception so long as the doctor or nurse believes they are mature
enough to understand the decisions involved.
Whitfield Community
Centre Drop-in
Ebenezer Street
Glossop
Monday 4pm–6pm
01457 852 114
Buxton for Youth
11a Market Street
Buxton
Tue-Fri 2.30pm-5.30pm
01298 796 43
Killamarsh Clinic
Parkside Shopping Centre
Killamarsh
Thu 6pm-8pm
0114 247 2634 /
01246 235 792
Talking Hedz
2a Moor Lane
Bolsover
01246 823 513
Unit 10 @
Connexions Centre
West Bars
Chesterfield
01246 201 581
Shirebrook Health Centre
54 Patchwork Row
Shirebrook
Wed 3.30pm-4.30pm
01623 742 420 /
01246 235 792
Bakewell Medical Centre
Butts Road
Bakewell
Mon 4pm-6pm
01629 816 631
Matlock Clinic
Lime Grove Walk
Matlock
DE4 3FD
01629 583 659
Boots the Chemist
7 Horse & Jockey Yard
St John Street
Ashbourne
DE6 1GH
Emergency contraception
and chlamydia screening
01335 342 039
Lloyds Pharmacy
Shawcroft Shopp ing Centre
Ashbourne
DE6 1GD
Emergency contraception
and chlamydia screening
01335 343 509
The Mews
7 Church Street
Ripley
DE5 3BU
Thu 3.30pm-5.30pm
01773 745 921
Belper Clinic
Babington Hospital
Derby Road
Belper
DE56 1WH
First and third Friday each
month 1.30pm-3.30pm
01773 820 093
Alfreton Primary Care
Centre
Church Street
Alfreton
DE55 7AH
01773 546 800
Ilkeston Connexions Centre
81 Bath Street
Ilkeston
DE7 8AP
Mon 4.30pm-6.30pm
0115 930 2636
Long Eaton Health Centre
Midland Street
Long Eaton
NG10 1NY
Friday 3.30pm-5.30pm
0115 415 0108
The Youth
Information Shop
West Street
Swadlincote
DE11 7JG
Mon 4pm-5pm
Thu 3pm-5pm
01283 217 666
SPACE
12 The Spot
Osmaston Road
Derby
DE1 2JA
Call for times.
01332 364 445
You can also get help or advice from
your GP or practice nurse.
And there are more local venues and contacts
listed at www.nhs.uk/worthtalkingabout
6. Chlamydia is the most common STI among young people. Girls and
boys can get chlamydia and it can lead to infertility. Often there are no
symptoms, but testing and treatment are simple.
This leaflet was written with the help of teenagers at Derbyshire County Council’s Fairfield
youth centre near Buxton and young mums at the Baby Spirit Group at the Peter Webster
Centre in Chesterfield. Special thanks to Lorraine Belli, Rachel Gregory, Mandy Plummer and
Danika Simpson.
Derbyshire Teenage Pregnancy Partnership is working to reduce the under-18 conception rate.
The partners are Derbyshire County Council, NHS Derbyshire County, Connexions Derbyshire
and NHS Tameside and Glossop.
This leaflet can be made available on tape, in large print, electronically or in Braille.
Please call 08456 058 058.
Talking to your teenager
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Tips for parents written by teenagers at Derbyshire County Council’s Fairfield youth centre
near Buxton and young mums at the Baby Spirit Group at the Peter Webster Centre in
Chesterfield.
• Remember what it was like when you were our age!
• Try to give us confidence in ourselves to resist pressure and to wait until we’re really ready to have sex
• Sitting us down for a ‘big talk’ might not be the best way – it’s embarrassing! Let it seem more natural – prompted by a TV programme
or a friend’s situation
Talking about sex and relationships with your teenagers will help
them to look after their sexual health as they grow into adults. It
won’t make them want to start having sex.
Here are three reasons to be open with your child:
Your teenager wants the facts from you
One in four teenagers say they feel confused, worried or scared about
sex and relationships. Most teens say they would like to talk to their
parents or carer more than anybody else.
Talking helps them to wait
Evidence shows that if you talk openly to your teen, they’ll feel less
pressure to have sex, which means they’re more likely to wait and less
likely to get pregnant or get a girl pregnant.
You can be the person they trust
Your teenager will be hearing half-truths from other kids and seeing sex
everywhere on the TV, in magazines and on the internet. This is a great
opportunity to be someone that they can go to for help and advice.
But it doesn’t mean that it’s always easy to talk about sex with your kids.
We hope this leaflet will give you some ideas and tips and help you to
find places locally that can offer more advice if you need it.
• You don’t have to talk about everything at once. Too much information! You’ll probably find that subjects like drugs or alcohol or sex will come up naturally – inspired by invitations to parties, friends’ experiences or magazine articles
• We might find it easier to talk to an aunt or grandparent. Don’t feel
hurt if we go to them for advice or info rather than you.
• Emphasise what a great life you can have if you choose to wait before having a baby – education, training, freedom, social life, holidays, job satisfaction, money, a nice home or car and freedom to make your own choices.
• Also mention the downside to being a teenage parent – unfinished education, difficulty getting work to fit around your child, living on a low income or benefits, never affording holidays or clothes, scrimping and saving, non-existent social life and being tied down
• Listen as well as talk. Don’t nag. Ask what we think about issues.
• Get your teenager to look at www.nhs.uk/worthtalkingabout
• Trust us and don’t expect us to tell you every last detail of our personal lives. Becoming more private about our life is part of us growing up.
• Just because your teenager’s mates say they’re having sex it doesn’t mean they are. It’s a fact that most young people wait until they’re over 16
• Don’t tease us if we have a boyfriend or girlfriend. It makes us more secretive.
• Even if your son or daughter’s mates are having sex, tell your teenager that doesn’t mean it’s right for him or her yet.
• Make sure we know about emergency contraception and where to get it from.
• There’s no evidence that educating young people about sex encourages them to have sex early. There is, though, evidence that it helps young people be more aware of the risks and how they can make safe choices in the future
• Find out where we can go for extra help and support about relationships and contraception.
• Your teenager needs to know that unprotected and early sex are more likely to happen when young people are under the influence of drink. If teens lose their virginity when drunk, they usually regret it
• Find out where we can get free condoms.
• Make sure you’re up to date on new sorts of contraception,
like long-lasting implants and injections
• Just because we want to find out about sex and contraception doesn’t mean we’re going to rush into anything
• Don’t be shy about talking about condoms. They protect against STIs and pregnancy
• Dads should talk to boys about their responsibilities around contraception and safe sex. Boys need to know from a male role model about how important it is to respect girls.
• Find out what they’re learning about sex and relationships at school, what they think about it and if there’s anything they don’t understand
• You could help your teenager come up with some answers if their peers, girlfriend or boyfriend say things like “everyone else is doing it” or “you’d do it if you loved me”
• Look at www.gotateenager.co.uk for more tips about helping your teenager and about helping you do your best as a parent
• If you want help on how to talk to your kids, you can get information and support free from Parentline on 0808 800 2222.