SELF-ESTEEM/SELF-CONTROL
GRADE 10 LESSON 29
Time Required: 30-45 minutes
Content Standards:
AA.S.7
Students will acquire the knowledge, attitudes and
interpersonal skills to help them understand and
respect self and others.
Indicators (Students will…):
AA.PSD.10.7.08 Implement skills necessary to exhibit and maintain a positive self-concept and effective
self-control.
GOAL: Students will understand how to develop feelings of competence in the
face of failure.
Activity Statements:
Using a real-life scenario, students will learn how to overcome anger accompanying failure and
develop a plan of action to demonstrate competence.
Materials:
1.
2.
3.
4.
Pen/Paper
Chalk/chalkboard
Handout 1 Using “I” messages
Handout 2 Using Positive Self-Talk
Procedures:
1. Write the following options on the board:
a. Give up and drop out of school;
b. Talk to her mother using “I” messages.
c. Use positive self-talk to avoid using the comparison between her and her brother
personally and do her best in school;
d. Try harder to be like her brother.
2. Tell students to listen as you read aloud the following scenario:
Linda’s mother criticized her for not getting good grades like her brother
John. Linda is angry with herself for not being smarter. Which of the obove
four options would be best for Linda?
SELF-ESTEEM/SELF-CONTROL
GRADE 10 LESSON 29
3. Divide the class into small groups of three to five students and ask them to select a
reporter for each group.
4. Ask each group to decide which option would be best for Linda to choose and tell why.
5. Write the following questions on the board and have each group brainstorm answers:
a. What else might Linda be feeling besides anger?
b. What can Linda say to herself to feel better about herself?
6. Help Linda construct an “I” message to use with her Mother.
7. Using Handout 2, ask students to identify bad messages she could give herself and
replace those with “positive” self messages.
8. Have each group discuss a personal situation in which they felt ‘put down’ and ask the
group construct an “I” message or positive “self-talk” message to maintain a healthy
self-esteem.
Discussion:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
What would you feel if this happened to you?
What would you do to overcome your negative feelings?
What are some “I” messages she could have used?
How can you respond to “positively” to criticism from others?
How should you respond to a comparison made between you and someone?
What are some positive messages (self-talk) you can use to motivate yourself?
Integrative Closing Statement:
When students are able to overcome the negative attitudes underlying their feelings of failure,
their emotional resilience dramatically increases, enabling them to better handle the pressures
of growing up. Sometimes we allow negative messages from others to get us down and we
tend to give up. This is self-defeating behavior. Practice using positive self messages to set
goals for future success.
Additional Resources:
http://topten.org/public/BA/BA184.html
Extension Activities: Practice using positive messages to self to overcome failure. Stay future
focused and set goals to overcome future failure.
No new activities this week.
Resource:
Adapted from: Chicago Public Schools (9-12) Advisor/Advisee Lessons
http://intranet.cps.k12.il.us/Lessons/Advisory/
Grade 10 Week 30