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How Deep is Your Love?
4Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy,
it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it
keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always
protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
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POSITIVE
NEGATIVE
Love is patient
Love is kind
It does not envy
It doesn’t boast
Love rejoices with the truth
Love protects
Love always trusts
It is not proud
It is not rude
It is not self-seeking
Love always hopes
Love always perseveres
It is not easily angered
It keeps no record
It does not delight in evil
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Aspects of Anger
4Love
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Aspects of Anger
4Love
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Aspects of Anger
4Love
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keeps no record of wrongs.
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tempered” not quick-tempered, not
be blameless—not
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gain. Titus 1:7
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Aspects of Anger
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Aspects of Anger
4Love
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Aspects of Anger
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Aspects of Anger
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Aspects of Anger
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Effects of Anger
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
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Effects of Anger
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
33 The king was shaken. He went up to the room over the
gateway and wept. As he went, he said: "O my son
Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died
instead of you—O Absalom, my son, my son!"
2 Samuel 18:33
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Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
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Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
19The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual
immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and
witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish
ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness,
orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those
who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
How
Deep
is
Your
Love?
Galatians 5:19-21
Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
• Opens the door for Satanic oppression
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Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
• Opens the door for Satanic oppression
26"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down
while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a
foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27
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Effects of Anger
• Depression
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
• Anxiety
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
Bitterness
• Additions
Opens the(Drugs,
door for
Satanic oppression
Pornography,
Gambling,
etc.)
26"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down
Obsessive
Compulsive
Activities
while
you are still
angry, 27and
do not give the devil a
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to stop4:26-27
thinking about people you
foothold.
Ephesians
don’t like
Inability to stop worrying
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Deep
is
Your
Love?
Inability to control violent urges
Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
• Opens the door for Satanic oppression
• Can keep us from walking in the light &
loving others
How Deep is Your Love?
Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
• Opens the door for Satanic oppression
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the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does
not know where he is going, because the darkness has
How
Deep
is
Your
Love?
blinded him. 1 John 2:9-11
Effects of Anger
•
•
Creates distance, both emotional & physical
Opens the door for all kind of violence &
abuse
• Opens the door for Satanic oppression
• Can keep us from walking in the light &
loving others
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
Research the root reason for your anger
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Anger Management Principles
 I loved someone very much and that
• Research
the root reason for your anger
person died.
 I don’t like my job.
 I don’t have a job.
 I was passed over for a promotion at
work.
 My spouse criticizes me too much.
 My parents are not pleased with me.
 I have to work too much.
 My marriage failed (or is failing).
Deep
is Your
 My spouseHow
doesn’t
understand
me. Love?
Anger Management Principles
 My kids don’t listen to me.
• Research
the root
reason for your anger
I can’t have
my kids.
 One of my children is in trouble (drugs,
sex, etc.).
 I can’t forgive myself for a big mistake I
made.
 My dad (or mom) left me when I was
young.
 My parents always belittled me.
 I can’t forgive _____ _ for what he/she
did to me.How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
Research the root reason for your anger

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

My friends don’t care
My kids don’t respect me
I’m adopted
I was abused as a child
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Anger Management Principles
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
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Anger Management Principles
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
19My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be
quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
20for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life
that God desires. James 4:19
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Anger Management Principles
• Research
Proverbs
29:11 the root reason for your anger
11 A fool
gives
to his anger, but a wise
• Recover
the
lostfull
artvent
of listening
man keeps himself under control.
Proverbs 14:29;
29 A patient man has great understanding, but a
quick-tempered man displays folly.
Proverbs 15:18;
18 A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a
How
Deep is Your Love?
patient man calms
a quarrel
Anger Management Principles
• Research
Proverbs
29:11 the root reason for your anger
11 A fool
gives
to his anger, but a wise
• Recover
the
lostfull
artvent
of listening
man keeps himself under control.
Proverbs 14:29;
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your time will be spent listening.
18 A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a
How
Deep is Your Love?
patient man calms
a quarrel
Anger Management Principles
• Research
Proverbs
29:11 the root reason for your anger
11 A fool
gives
to his anger, but a wise
• Recover
the
lostfull
artvent
of listening
man keeps himself under control.
• Relax
and clear your mind.
Proverbs
14:29;
• Direct
your eyes
towards the but a
29 A patient
manand
has body
great understanding,
person speaking.
quick-tempered
man displays folly.
• Avoid formulating what you are going to say
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until15:18;
they have finished speaking.
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up dissension, but a
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as content.
How
Deep
patient man calms
a quarrel
is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
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Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
1A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word
stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
4Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring
them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4
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Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not
condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and
How
Deep is Your Love?
you will be forgiven.
Luke 6:37
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
“release fully, to unbind or to let go”
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not
condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and
How
Deep is Your Love?
you will be forgiven.
Luke 6:37
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you. Forgive – loose, set free”
43When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice,
"Lazarus, come out!" 44The dead man came out, his
hands and feet wrapped with strips of linen, and a cloth
HowsaidDeep
is"Take
Your
around his face. Jesus
to them,
off the
grave
Love?
clothes and let him go.“ John 11:44
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
 Write it down.
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
 Write it down.
 Do all you can to work it out.
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
 Write it down.
 Do all you can to work it out.
18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at
peace with everyone. Romans 12:18
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
injured you.
 Write it down.
 Do all you can to work it out.
 Give it up.
How Deep is Your Love?
Anger Management Principles
•
•
•
•
Research the root reason for your anger
Recover the lost art of listening
Resolve to speak softly
Resign yourself to forgiving the one who has
19Do
not takeyou.
revenge, my friends, but leave room for
injured
 Write
down.
God's
wrath,itfor
it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will
 Do all you
can 20On
to work
it out. "If your enemy is
repay,"says
the Lord.
the contrary:
 Give
it up.
hungry,
feed
him; if he is thirsty, give him something to
drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his
head."21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil
How
Deep
is
Your
Love?
with good. Romans 12:19-21
What about you?
•
•
Are your quick-tempered or easily provoked?
Who has hurt or disappointed you? Have you
forgiven them?
• Do you need to be a better listener? What
steps can you take?
• How comfortable are people to be around you?
Are you always yelling? Or, do you have a
kind and gentle spirit?
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How Deep
is
Your Love?