Manhood
BE A MAN………………………
ANUP KUDAKKASSERIL
……....Who stays focused on the goal
 Fear of death is the number one fear
 You are going to die
 Able to face death with no fear would be the greatest
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gift
Who made me?
God made me.
Why did God make me?
God made me to know Him, love Him, and serve
Him in this world, so that I can be happy with Him
in the next.
……....Who stays focused on the goal
Have I entered into a personal relationship with Him?
Have you ever thought about what eternity is?
What we do in this little time on earth determines
where our eternity will be
If today was my last day on earth, am I at peace with
everyone in my life? Mt 6:14-15
Have I multiplied the talents that God has given me?
Mt 25
Have I used them for His glory or my own glory?
Read Mathew 25: 31-46
………Who lives as a beloved Son
 Everything that happens to Jesus happens to us
 Mark 1:11: When Jesus was baptized; the sky opened
up and the Spirit descended upon Jesus; God the
Father spoke and said, “You are my beloved Son.”
 Stop making excuses
 “Call no man your father” Mt 23:19
………Who lives as a beloved Son
 Isaiah 43:4- “You are precious in My eyes, you are
honored, and I love you”
 God says “ I have called you by name; you are mine.”
 “ You are the apple of My eye” Zech 2:8
 Psalm 2:7 “I will tell of the decree of the Lord: He
said to me, “You are my son, today I have begotten
you.”
………Who lives as a beloved Son
 Intimacy- Into-me-see
 God is calling us into an intimacy with Him
 God’s spirit takes control of our prayer and we enter
into a relationship.
 The Spirit’s job is to pick us up and to draw us into a
relationship with the Trinity
……….Who repents
 “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at
hand; repent, and believe in the Gospel” Mark 1:15
 Repentance- “metanoia”- “to turn”
 We have to first start dealing with the sin in our lives
 2 Cor 11:14: Satan can appear as “ an angel of light”
 Lucifer = “light bearer”
……….Who repents
 Genesis 3:6- The woman saw that the tree was good
for food, and it was a delight to the eyes, and that
there is something pleasurable in it
Three components of sin- something good in it, some
thing desirable, and there is some thing pleasurable in
it.
……….Who repents
 The simplest definition of sin is disobedience to God
 God invites us to either love Him and obey Him or
choose to do things our way- choice is between death
and life
 “The wages of sin is death” Romans 6:23
 For us sin is not that big of a deal
 To God it is a very big deal. It cost Jesus His life, and
it will cost you your life
……….Who repents
 Jesus, the perfect man, prayed, “ Not as I will, but as
thou will” (Mt 26:39) , to give us an example of how
to live as a man!
 We should not come to God and follow Him for what
he is going to do for us or follow Him for the fear of
hell
 When you love God and decide you do not want to
hurt Him because you are in a relationship with
Him, then your love for God is what is keeping you
away from sin
……….Who repents
 To repent means to make a resolution that we are done
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with our sins
Once you’ve apologized to God, you have to decide to do
two things
First, you have to pray for strength
Second you have to get out of the way
Once you have found your core sins, find and memorize
the Scripture verses that will help you confront those sins
Heb 12:4, “ In your struggle against sin you have not
resisted to the point of shedding your blood.”
………….Who lives in the Holy Spirit
 The key to being a man of God is surrender to the
Holy Spirit
 John 3:5- Jesus answered, “Amen, amen, I say to
you, no one can enter the kingdom of God without
being born of water and Spirit.”
 There needs to be a B.C and A.D in some one’s life
………….Who lives in the Holy Spirit
 The greek word for martyr is witness
 Read and reflect on the book of Romans
 Romans 8:5- “For those who live according to the
flesh are concerned with the things of the flesh, but
those who live according to the spirit with the things
of the spirit.”
 Submission to the Holy Spirit is the secret of sanctity
 God also gives us the gifts and fruits of the Holy
Spirit
………….Who lives in the Holy Spirit
 Isaiah 11:1-3- But a shoot shall sprout from the
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stump of Jesse, and from his roots a bud shall
blossom. The spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him:
a spirit of wisdom and of understanding,
A spirit of counsel and of strength,
a spirit of knowledge and of fear of the LORD,
and his delight shall be the fear of the LORD.
………….Who lives in the Holy Spirit
 A man surrendered to God seeks God’s wisdom and
takes God’s direction. “ You lead me Spirit. Counsel
me, Spirit, so I can take the right step.” We then need
to listen and surrender.
 Hebrews 12: 5-6- “You have also forgotten the
exhortation addressed to you as sons: “My son, do
not disdain the discipline of the Lord or lose heart
when reproved by him; for whom the Lord loves, he
disciplines; he scourges every son he acknowledges.”
………….Who lives in the Holy Spirit
 Galatians 5:22-23- “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,
peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness,
gentleness, self-control.”
 The gifts are there as tools to help us to be men, to
help is to be the children of God.
…Be a man who is strong
 Holiness is wholeness
 1 Cor 6:19- “ Your body is a temple of the Holy
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Spirit.”
The biggest addiction is the sexual addiction
Job 31:1- “ I have made a covenant with my eyes;
how then could I look upon a virgin?”
3 things that are necessary to overcome lust
Good prayer life
Good friends
Have the heart of a servant
…Be a man who is strong
 Proverbs 27:17- “ Iron sharpens iron, and one man
sharpens another”.
 Look at your own beautiful face, then take out a
sheet of paper and simply write on the paper, “ I am
third.”
 Then tape that piece of paper onto your mirror. Then
before you go to bed each night, ask yourself, “Did I
commit one unselfish act today, one act of service?”
…..Who is loving
 Agape- love of God- total self-giving no matter how
you respond to it.
 I love you whether you like it or not, whether you
respond to it or not.
 Luke 10:27 “You shall love the Lord, your God, with
all your heart, with all your being, with all your
strength, and with all your mind, and your neighbor
as yourself.”
 On the day we die the God of love gives us what we
love the most.
…..Who is loving
 This love begins with our families and includes
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everyone God brings into our lives
We love God as much as the person we like the least:
Dorothy Day
Mt 5:44- “But I say to you, love your enemies, and
pray for those who persecute you.”
God loves the person we do not like, and He said that
person was worth dying for.
When we saying some one, “ I love you”, we are
really saying- “ I will give up my life for you.”
…..Who is loving
 Husbands are called to love God primarily through their
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wives
Do at least one unselfish act for her everyday
Write a letter to your wife and tell her that you love her
Write a letter to your children and tell them that you love
them and why
Make to decision to never let your wife or your kids go to
bed or walk out the door without telling them first that
you love them- life is just too short!
……….Be a man who is wise
 Grant me the gift of the Spirit and fill me with wisdom
 Phil 2:5- “ Have this mind among yourselves, which was
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in Christ Jesus.”
Jesus Christ didn’t want people looking at Him, even
though He was God.
Proverbs 9:10- “ The fear of the Lord is the beginning of
wisdom.”
Live to please Him
The only thing that should make us afraid is displeasing
our Father.
…..who lives as He was created
 St Athanasius of Alexandria- : God became man so
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that man might become God
St Augustine once asked, “ what are the three most
important virtues?”
Humility
Humility
Humility
Humility means “from the earth.”
…..who lives as He was created
 We are called to be spiritual leaders of our families
 ……Be a man of prayer
 ……Be a man of sacrifice
 …… in the bedroom
 Main purpose of sex if mutual love and procreation
 When a man gives his wife his sperms, he is saying to
her, “ I will give you my life. Inside of my sperm is all
that I am.” The woman opens herself up to the man
and is surrendering to him. As givers- men are selfsacrificing.
…..who lives as He was created
 Men are very sexual beings, and because of this, men
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need to reflect on our sexual lives.
If you want to have great sex with your wife, pray
with your wife before you have sex with her
“ Love can’t wait to give, lust can’t wait to get.”
Do you live a life of integrity?
Jesus was the ultimate man
………Who is Holy
 Holiness should be the number one goal in our life
 Hebrews 12:14 “Strive for peace with everyone, and for
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that holiness without which no one will see the Lord.”
True holiness is a by product of love
When we are madly in love with God and his people, then
we will be holy.
Holiness : set apart
Ephesians 1:4-6 “He chose us in Him before the
foundation of the world, that we would be holy and
blameless before Him.”
………Who is Holy
 When God’s will and our will becomes one.”
 We are holy but we need to grow in holiness
 “You and I should gladly say to God each day, “ I
want Your will done in my life today.” Then no
matter what happens to us during the day, each
night we should say, “ Thank you, Father, for
allowing Your will be done today.”
 The chief obstacle to holiness is pride
…..Who changes the world
 Before you can bring others to Jesus you have to
make sure you are truly His disciples.
 To be a disciple of Jesus means you have to learn
from Him every day
 John 1: 39 : Jesus says, “ Come and see.”
 What are some of the things that you are going to do
for the rest of your lives? Write them down and make
a list of things that you are going to do now for the
rest of your life!
…..Who changes the world
 For the next 6 months, spend time with the Gospels
 Don’t just read, but observe Jesus like the apostles
did. Make our goal to mimic the way Jesus lived. As
we are observing Jesus, start writing those qualities
down that He is calling us to have.
 “ If you love Me, then I want you to feed My sheep.”
 Feeding God’s sheep begins with our family, then
with our friends and co-workers.
…..Who changes the world
 Make a list of people in your life who do not know
Jesus Christ; then start praying for each one of them
everyday
 Love the people on the list. Love them so much that
you go out of our way to love them
 Tell them about Him- What Christ has done for you,
and invite them to a relationship with Him
References
 Be A Man! Fr. Larry Richards
 New American Bible