OPENING PRAYER
Family Life Ministry
Q1 Theme
FAMILY VALUES & QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS
JANUARY
- THE COURAGEOUS FAMILY: IMPACT OF FAMILY VALUES ON THE
QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS
FEBRUARY
- SEMINAR RECAP: KEY LEARNING POINTS
- “BLESSING” A POWERFUL VALUE : THE IMPORTANCE & POWER OF
PARENTAL BLESSINGS
MARCH
- IMPROVING THE QUALITY OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS
Q2 Theme
Effective Family Finance Management
Focus on the Family
Topics: Improving the quality of our
Relationships
1 Peter 3:8-12
Text: 1 Peter 3:8-12 (KJV)
8Finally,
be ye all of one mind, having compassion one
of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
9Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but
contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto
called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
10For he that will love life, and see good days, let him
refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak
no guile:
11Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace,
and ensue it.
12For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and
his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the
Lord is against them that do evil.
What is Relationship
Relationship as defined in dictionary.com is a
connection, association or involvement.
Relationship is a connection between persons by
blood or marriage.
Relationship is an emotional or other connection
between people.
Relationship could also mean an affair.
What are the different types of
Relationships?
What are the Types of Relationships
• For ease, I’ll divide relationships into 4 categories
namely;
A Relationship between Christ and the church
B Relationship in the family
C Relationship between business partners
D Relationship between leaders and the people.
1 Jesus Christ and the Church 1Peter5:6-7,
Ephesians5:23
2 Husband and Wife 1Peter3:10 , Ephesians 5:33
3 Parent and Children 1timothy3:12 , Ephesians 6:1 ,
What are the Types of Relationships
1 Pastor and Congregation Exodus 32:7-14 ,
Deuteronomy 10:6 , 1Peter5:2-4 , 1Peter4:11
2 Siblings 1Peter3:8,9
3 Friends (David and Jonathan) 1 Samuel 18:3 ,
1Samuel23:16
4 Employer and Employee 1Peter3:15
5 Teacher and student Proverbs23:12(good news
version says pay attention to your teachers and
learn all you can)psalm25:12
6 Leaders and the people1Peter2:13-15
For tonight’s teaching, we shall be
focusing on the family Relationship.
What is a Family?
Dictionary.com defines family as:
A basic social unit consisting of parents and their children,
considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not:
It also defines family as all those persons considered as
descendants of a common progenitor.
Therefore family relationship can be defined as a basic social unit
consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group
whether dwelling together or not but having connections
between persons by blood or marriage.
Relationship can be classified into
two groups, namely:
Healthy and Unhealthy relationship.
What is an unhealthy relationship?
An unhealthy relationship is a relationship that is
sick…
•It is an unhappy relationship.
•It is a relationship that is not sound.
•It is a weak relationship.
•It is an abnormal relationship
not in a state of good or normal health; in
an unsound, weak, or morbid condition.
What are the causes of unhealthy
relationships?
What are the causes of unhealthy
relationships?
1 Never admitting wrong doing (Saul)
2 Taking the other person for granted
3 Not being responsive to the feelings of the
other person
4 Not spending time together
5 Always wanting to have your way
6 Always talking and not listening
7 Lack of trust
8 Lack of integrity
9 Lack of tolerance
10Pride
11Superiority complex
12Lack of Christ
What are the consequences of
unhealthy relationship?
What are the consequences of
unhealthy relationship?
1 Divorce
2 Bad behavior
3 Lack of communication
4 Repression of feelings and thoughts
5 Selfishness
6 Secrecy
7 Disobedience
8 Anger
9 Judgmental
10Hatred
11Abuse (verbal, emotional ,physical)
12Unanswered prayers 1 peter3:7
13Death
How do we improve our relationship?
How do we improve our relationship?
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2
3
4
5
6
7
8
Don’t be a mind reader
Say sorry
Don’t take the other person for granted
Be reasonable in the method of teaching (headship
is not making all the decisions)
Be responsive to the feelings of the other party
Spend time together (there is something more than
making a living, it is sharing lives)
Don’t be judgmental
Respect each other
How do we improve our relationship?
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10
11
12
Give gifts (not necessarily expensive)
Love each other (1peter 1:22b)
Talk and allow the other to talk also
Putting our knowledge into action (we like to learn
new ways but refuse to put what we have learnt
into action).
13 Live peaceably (it is the duty of a Christian not only
to embrace peace when offered, but to seek and
pursue it when it is denied).
14 Putting on the grace of God ( the longer we wear
the grace of God, the brighter and better God’s
grace is on our lives.
What is a Healthy Relationship?
What is a Healthy Relationship?
My definition of a healthy relationship is a
relationship that is one minded, compassionate,
tenderhearted, courteous, full of love, life, good
days, no evil, no deceit, a relationship that
doeth good, is peaceful it is an answer to
prayers.
Is this kind of relationship possible?
Yes…1Peter 3:8-12
How can we sustain a healthy
relationship?
How can we sustain a healthy
relationship?
1 Have respect for each other not fear
2 Talk about your goals, challenges, etc.
3 Discuss successes and failures easily
without fear or shame
4 Keep doing whatever works for your
home, don’t compare your home with
others
5 Pray together
Brethren, if we can adhere to 1 Peter 4:8 which
says; “And above all things have fervent love for
one another, for LOVE WILL COVER A MULTITUDE
OF SIN”
I believe the Lord is telling us today that there is
something more than making a living, it is
sharing lives.
In conclusion;
The reasons for sick (unhealthy) relationships can
NEVER be so great that we CAN NEVER have
stronger reasons to (have a healthy relationship)!
Audience Q&A
• What questions do you have about today’s
teaching?
Prayer & Closing
• If your relationships are healthy, pray that God
will continue to bless your relationships and
keep them improving on an ongoing basis
• If you can identify some relationships that you
are in that are unhealthy, pray that God will
restore good health to those relationships