OPENING PRAYER
Family Life Ministry
Q1 2012, Theme
FAMILY VALUES & QUALITY OF
RELATIONSHIPS
JANUARY
- THE COURAGEOUS FAMILY: IMPACT OF FAMILY VALUES ON THE QUALITY OF
RELATIONSHIPS
FEBRUARY
- SEMINAR RECAP: KEY LEARNING POINTS
- “BLESSING” A POWERFUL VALUE : THE IMPORTANCE & POWER OF PARENTAL
BLESSINGS
MARCH
- IMPROVING THE QUALITY OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS
RCCG The King’s Palace
Family Life Ministry
Focus of the Family
Tuesday, February 28 - 2012
-MARRIAGE SEMINAR RECAP: KEY LEARNING POINTS
- “BLESSING” A POWERFUL VALUE : THE IMPORTANCE & POWER OF
PARENTAL BLESSINGS
Marriage Seminar Recap
Session 1: 4 Foundational Laws of Marriage
• You may love each other but if you violate the
laws of marriage you set yourself up for failure
• You have 100% chance of success in marriage
if you do it God’s way!
• #1: Law of priority – leave & cleave
– sacrifice, time, energy, attitude
• #2: Law of pursuit
– Don’t take each other for granted
Marriage Seminar Recap
Session 1: 4 Foundational Laws of Marriage
• #3: Law of possession
– Share everything, avoid dominance & selfishness
– Don’t make major decisions independent of your
spouse’s inputs
• #4: Law of purity
– Be careful about everything you do…
– Take responsibility for your mistakes
Marriage Seminar Recap
Session 2:
• Don’t ride your emotions in the marriage
relationship
• Romance is speaking love in your spouse’s
language
Session 3:
• We need relationship with God (individually &
as a couple) for a healthy marriage
Marriage Seminar Recap
Session 3:
• The worst marriages are two masters in love
• The greatest marriages are two servants in love
• Foster “win-win” situations and environment
• Men’s need = honor & respect
– Wives, don’t be his mother; allow him to fail (make mistakes);
men “become” in an atmosphere of honor
• Women’s need = security
– Husbands, be a servant leader; communicate your commitment
to sacrifice; be sensitive you your wife’s needs; have open and
honest communication (events & feelings! – tell her what she
wants to know with a good attitude)
Marriage Seminar Recap
Session 4:
• Overcome generational negativity/issues
(perfectionism, pride, un-forgiveness, anger,
materialism, etc.)
• Recognize and deal with “inner vows”…Jesus is
not the Lord over your life in that area!
• Parenting is more caught than taught (regardless
of what we say to our children, the video is
constantly playing through our actions)
Marriage Seminar Recap
Session 4:
• In-Laws – Honor them, but maintain emotional
separation from them
• Children – Love them, but don’t let them come
between you and your spouse; don’t follow them
emotionally into their own marriage
Session 5/6:
• Deal with destructive behaviors = criticism, control &
dominance, emotional check-out, cruelty & abuse,
defensiveness
• Don't be friends with individuals that do not take their
marriage covenant serious
RCCG The King’s Palace
Family Life Ministry
Focus of the Family
Tuesday, February 28 - 2012
-MARRIAGE SEMINAR RECAP: KEY LEARNING POINTS
- “BLESSING” A POWERFUL VALUE : THE IMPORTANCE & POWER OF
PARENTAL BLESSINGS
Parents as Shepherds
• Theme for the month = The Lord is my
Shepherd!
• As a husband you are the shepherd (overseer)
in your home
• You need to understand the power of your
words as a rod to direct - Psalm 23:4
– Yea, though I walk through the valley of the
shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art
with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Epilogue – Value System
• What is value?
– Value denotes something's degree of
importance…(Wikipedia)
– Something’s relative worth, merit, or
importance (dictionary.com)
• A value system is a set of consistent
values and measures. (Wikipedia)
Epilogue – The Value of Blessing
• Blessing - positive pronouncement or
declaration over a person, situation, etc.
• Blessings is the opposite of cursing
(negative pronouncement / declaration)
• A blessing is not one until it is spoken…
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
• 1And it came to pass, that when Isaac was old, and his
eyes were dim, so that he could not see, he called Esau
his eldest son, and said unto him, My son: and he said
unto him, Behold, here am I.
• 2And he said, Behold now, I am old, I know not the day
of my death:
• 3Now therefore take, I pray thee, thy weapons, thy
quiver and thy bow, and go out to the field, and take
me some venison;
• 4And make me savoury meat, such as I love, and bring
it to me, that I may eat; that my soul may bless thee
before I die.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
• 5And Rebekah heard when Isaac spake to Esau
his son. And Esau went to the field to hunt for
venison, and to bring it.
• 6And Rebekah spake unto Jacob her son,
saying, Behold, I heard thy father speak unto
Esau thy brother, saying,
• 7Bring me venison, and make me savoury
meat, that I may eat, and bless thee before
the LORD before my death.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
• 8Now therefore, my son, obey my voice
according to that which I command thee.
• 9Go now to the flock, and fetch me from
thence two good kids of the goats; and I will
make them savoury meat for thy father, such
as he loveth:
• 10And thou shalt bring it to thy father, that he
may eat, and that he may bless thee before his
death.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
11And
Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Behold, Esau
my brother is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man:
• 12My father peradventure will feel me, and I shall seem
to him as a deceiver; and I shall bring a curse upon me,
and not a blessing.
• 13And his mother said unto him, Upon me be thy curse,
my son: only obey my voice, and go fetch me them.
• 14And he went, and fetched, and brought them to his
mother: and his mother made savoury meat, such as
his father loved.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
15And
Rebekah took goodly raiment of her eldest
son Esau, which were with her in the house, and
put them upon Jacob her younger son:
• 16And she put the skins of the kids of the goats
upon his hands, and upon the smooth of his neck:
• 17And she gave the savoury meat and the bread,
which she had prepared, into the hand of her son
Jacob.
• 18And he came unto his father, and said, My
father: and he said, Here am I; who art thou, my
son?
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
19And
Jacob said unto his father, I am Esau thy
first born; I have done according as thou badest
me: arise, I pray thee, sit and eat of my venison,
that thy soul may bless me.
• 20And Isaac said unto his son, How is it that thou
hast found it so quickly, my son? And he said,
Because the LORD thy God brought it to me.
• 21And Isaac said unto Jacob, Come near, I pray
thee, that I may feel thee, my son, whether thou
be my very son Esau or not.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
22And
Jacob went near unto Isaac his father; and he felt
him, and said, The voice is Jacob's voice, but the hands
are the hands of Esau.
• 23And he discerned him not, because his hands were
hairy, as his brother Esau's hands: so he blessed him.
• 24And he said, Art thou my very son Esau? And he said,
I am.
• 25And he said, Bring it near to me, and I will eat of my
son's venison, that my soul may bless thee. And he
brought it near to him, and he did eat: and he brought
him wine and he drank.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
26And
his father Isaac said unto him, Come near now,
and kiss me, my son.
• 27And he came near, and kissed him: and he smelled
the smell of his raiment, and blessed him, and said,
See, the smell of my son is as the smell of a field which
the LORD hath blessed:
• 28Therefore God give thee of the dew of heaven, and
the fatness of the earth, and plenty of corn and wine:
• 29Let people serve thee, and nations bow down to
thee: be lord over thy brethren, and let thy mother's
sons bow down to thee: cursed be every one that
curseth thee, and blessed be he that blesseth thee.
Where is the blessing there?
Review…
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
27And
he came near, and kissed him: and he smelled the smell of his
raiment, and blessed him, and said, See, the smell of my son is as the
smell of a field which the LORD hath blessed (DIVINE FAVOR – GOOD
AROMA WHEREVER YOU ARE / PEOPLE WILL LOVE YOUR PRESENCE)
• 28Therefore God give thee (PROVISION) of the dew of heaven
(CONTINOUS FRESHNESS EVEN WITHOUT RAIN), and the fatness of the
earth (NOT LEANESS = SCARCITY/FEW/BARELY GETTING BY), and plenty
of corn (ABUNDANCE OF FOOD) and wine (ABUNDANCE OF
ANOINTING/GRACE = WINNING WITHOUT SWEAT):
• 29Let people serve thee, and nations bow down to thee
(LEADERSHIP/ABOVE NOT BENEATH): be lord over thy brethren, and let
thy mother's sons bow down to thee: cursed be every one that curseth
thee (GOD’S VENGEANCE ON THOSE WISHING YOU EVIL/GOD FIGHTING
YOUR BATTLES), and blessed be he that blesseth thee (THOSE THAT
WELCOME AND APPRECIATE YOU WILL NOTICE THEY ARE
AUTOMATICALLY BLESSED).
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
30And
it came to pass, as soon as Isaac had made an end of
blessing Jacob, and Jacob was yet scarce gone out from the
presence of Isaac his father, that Esau his brother came in
from his hunting.
• 33And Isaac trembled very exceedingly, and said, Who?
where is he that hath taken venison, and brought it me, and
I have eaten of all before thou camest, and have blessed
him? yea, and he shall be blessed.
• 34And when Esau heard the words of his father, he cried
with a great and exceeding bitter cry, and said unto his
father, Bless me, even me also, O my father.
• 35And he said, Thy brother came with subtilty, and hath
taken away thy blessing.
Text - Genesis 27:1-30, 33-35, 37-38, 41
•
37And
Isaac answered and said unto Esau, Behold, I
have made him thy lord, and all his brethren have I
given to him for servants; and with corn and wine
have I sustained him: and what shall I do now unto
thee, my son?
• 38And Esau said unto his father, Hast thou but one
blessing, my father? bless me, even me also, O my
father. And Esau lifted up his voice, and wept.
• 41And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing
wherewith his father blessed him: and Esau said in his
heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand;
then will I slay my brother Jacob.
Blessing?
1. What is a blessing?
2. What is the difference between a
blessing & a curse?
3. Why does blessing matter?
4. Why is it important from parent to
children?
Family Value - Blessing
Open Book Questions (epilogue):
• What is Blessing?
• What does it imply to develop a value system
that includes blessing your children?
Family Value - Blessing
• What is Blessing :
– Positive pronouncement or declaration over a
person, situation, etc.
– Blessings is the opposite of cursing (negative
pronouncement / declaration)
– A blessing is not one until it is spoken…
• Value System of Blessing Offspring:
– Consistently positive pronouncement over…
– Pronounce blessing on your children daily as they
step out of he house
Dictionary Definitions of Blessing
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•
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to bestow good of any kind upon…
the act of invoking divine protection or aid…
to protect or guard from evil…
approval; good wishes: her father gave his
blessing to the marriage
• the bestowal of a divine gift or favor…
Family Value - Blessing
1. What is a blessing?
2. What is the difference between a
blessing & a curse?
3. Why does blessing matter?
4. Why is it important from parent to
children?
Why is it important to bless your family?
• Proverbs 18:21 - Death and life are in the power of the
tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
– Death = Curse
– Life = Blessing
– They that love (understand and take advantage of its
value )
– shall eat (be blessed)
– with its fruit (produce/product)
• Proverbs 18:7 - A fool's mouth is his destruction, and
his lips are the snare of his soul. (KJV)
Why is it important to bless your
family?
Because there is creative power of in what we
say
• Genesis 1:3 And God said, Let there be light: and there
was light.
Genesis 1:9 And God said, Let the waters under the
heaven be gathered together unto one place, and let
the dry land appear: and it was so.
Genesis 1:11 And God said, Let the earth bring forth
grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding
fruit after his kind, whose seed is in itself, upon the
earth: and it was so.
Why is it important to bless your
family?
• There is creative power in what we say
• Because we are gods! Psalm 82:6 I have said, Ye
are gods; and all of you are children of the most
High
– The child of a goat is a goat; the child of a lion is a
lion; etc.)
• We as children of the most High have the same
creative power in our sayings
• Let us use it to our benefit (Love It!)
– Proverbs 18:21b…and they that love it shall eat the
fruit thereof.
Family Value - Blessing
1. What is a blessing?
2. What is the difference between a
blessing & a curse?
3. Why does blessing matter?
4. Why is it important from parent to
children?
Importance – from parent to child?
•
33And
Isaac trembled very exceedingly, and said, Who?
where is he that hath taken venison, and brought it me, and
I have eaten of all before thou camest, and have blessed
him? yea, and he shall be blessed.
• 37And Isaac answered and said unto Esau, Behold, I have
made him thy lord, and all his brethren have I given to him
for servants; and with corn and wine have I sustained him:
and what shall I do now unto thee, my son?
• God honors parental authority!
• Children (even we us adults who have parents), please
endeavor (do things) that provokes the heart of your
parents bless you continually!
Summary
• As parents we have an opportunity to shape or
influence the direction and destiny of our
children through bestowing of parental blessings
• We have the power through parental authority
and the power of the tongue
• Others might say the same thing over your
children and it will not “stick”, but when you say
it God honors your words!
• Value blessing your family members continually!
Audience Q&A
CLOSING PRAYER